Yearly Archives: 2016

When you’ve been having sex for a while -and especially with the same sexual partner- you’ll likely find a sex position that really works for you. You’ll enjoy having sex in that particular way because it pushes your buttons. And that’s ok, until someone comes along and tells you you’ve got to ‘spice it up’ and ‘try these new positions today’. If you really want to try something new, why not consider sex locations rather than sex positions?

What are BDSM limits? And, in a BDSM relationship, is pushing limits OK? Or should both partners just find out what makes them tick and keep right on doing those things without moving the goalposts?

By Cara Sutra: There’s something about a bouncing, bobbing erect penis which can be so fucking hot. But what is it about hard cock? What makes an erection sexy?

By Cara Sutra: I’ve had some fantastic shower sex in the past. I’ve also had some pretty naff shower sex, and some shower sex which has been, quite frankly, dangerous. I’ve been thinking about shower sex recently because we’ve just moved into a sparkly new house, and have a couple of showers… one in the en-suite, and one over-bath in the family bathroom. Along with nostalgic memories of shower fun I’ve been thinking something else, too.

By Cara Sutra: For people who feel uncomfortable about or even scared of sucking cock, the pressure to perform in this specific way can be difficult to swallow. Do you have a fear of giving him a blow job?

How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.

He looked up at me from where he knelt on the kitchen floor, a solitary tear running down his defeated face. That just made my cunt even wetter in beautifully cruel empathy. Finally, he’d completed the distasteful task. His expert tongue protruded, but not out of rudeness or as a plea for pussy. On the tip was a small, very shiny key.

Tilting his chin up so I could look into his embarrassed face properly, I relished the fight between humiliation, hate and the most intense arousal in his eyes. My other hand reached down and felt the weight of his chastity locked cock in my hands. He jumped as my cool hands came into contact with his hot straining balls under the metal device.

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

By Cara Sutra: Most people have an opinion on age gap relationships, whether they are resolutely black and white about what's an acceptable age gap in a romantic relationship or they believe age differences just don't matter. What do you think about people of different ages being in a relationship?

Both his hands are in my hair now and I’m being bounced off his cock. He’s using the very deepest part of my throat as his personal wank sleeve – a fuck toy in which to dump his cum. It’s not long until I feel that final stiffening of his large cock deep in my mouth, and he’s holding my head still as he grunts his hot ejaculation past my fucked-raw tonsils deep into my throat.

I don't have a kink for pretending to be a dog. I'm not even a 'dog person'. However, the national furore surrounding people who want to be a human puppy this week really made my hackles rise. The cause of the outrage? TV shows giving an insight into the puppy play scene and/or fetish, including a Channel 4 documentary entitled The Secret Life Of The Human Pups.

By Cara Sutra: His cock is lubed from my frothed saliva combined with whatever of his first spunk I failed to take and keep down my throat. My punishment for this failure is him spitting on my now well-versed knot, pushing that slick cock tip hard at my hole and forcing it inside brutally.

By Cara Sutra: Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if you were completely submissive to me. My mind tends to stray towards a sexual kinky fantasy - a Domme's fantasy. They're not talked about much, right? Usually all eyes are on the submissive - the submissive male, in the majority of FemDom - but what does a Domme dream about?

The favourite bondage hogtie piece I have in my own collection is the Shots Media Ouch! Wrist and Legcuffs Restraints, which isn't readily available in the UK any more but you can take a look at my review here. There are definitely other, good quality bondage hogties you can purchase to give you the session you desire, however.

By Cara Sutra: I can’t orgasm through oral sex. Or at least, I don’t orgasm through oral sex. Not yet. And believe me, I’ve practiced – a lot. I have a very patient, loving partner, and several female sexual partners over the years, and nope. An orgasm through oral sex just doesn’t happen for me.

I am disabled. I know. I don’t look disabled, right? In some comparatively small ways, my disability affects my sex life and masturbation. I have a severe high frequency hearing loss, making me deaf but not Deaf. The problems caused by my deafness in life are small and fairly easy to overcome or circumvent, therefore I don’t really class myself as disabled.

Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Would you or the man in your life like to experience orgasms that are twice as intense? Or maybe even four times stronger? If your answer is YES, then you should know that prostate massage is the gateway to an entirely new level of erotic pleasure.

Of course, it’s Easter, which is the Christian festival most associated with ‘fertility rituals’ and symbols that are not really that Christian at all – though there is still no agreement, let alone any proof, as to which specific ancient pagan feast inspired the annual celebration of eggs, bunnies, flowers and binging on chocolate. I wish you all joy and delight in the springtime, whether your bunnies are battery-powered or the sort that moan with joy when you wrap them up in rope, and if you want to mark the occasion by eating a Creme Egg off your favourite playmate’s naughty bits then go right ahead.