Dirty Talk 101: An Expert Guide to Talking Filth During Sex

by Cameryn Moore

How do you do great dirty talk? If you’re feeling tongue-tied in the bad way during sex chat, you’re in the right place. Today I’m sharing a long read; an expert guide to talking filth during sex. And I mean sex whether that’s in person or long distance, via phone sex, video messaging or even good old text chats. Time to introduce our dirty talking expert, Cameryn Moore

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Struggling to Get Started? Ask Some Questions

Utilising “Yes, And…” Improvisation

Improv Games to Fire Up the Imagination

Tips for Quiet People

How To Not Sound Cheesy

Using Your Words in Role Play

Extreme Chat: Name-Calling, Humiliation & More

Long Distance Lovers: When Filthy Chat Is The Sex

Struggling to Get Started? Ask Some Questions

When they find out I’m a phone sex operator, a lot of people tell me they struggle with dirty talk: “I never know what to say.” Here’s the thing: dirty conversations are a lot like regular conversations, in that if you don’t know what to say, ask a question. You can get lots of useful information about your partner and what they want, if you ask questions in the right way.

This is especially important if what you’re doing involves something new, a new piece of equipment or a new role play. Because you can’t be sure of how your sex is working, and how to fine-tune it, until you’re in the middle of it, when you really don’t want to have to disrupt the flow and ask for clarification. “So, is that prostate stimulator working the way that the lady in the shop said it would?” No. Not sexy.

We phone sex operators have to be discovering stuff about our clients on the fly, all the time. How do I do it without interrupting the scene every 10 seconds? Well, honestly, I keep good records, and my dispatcher gives me decent information before the calls. But sometimes regulars want something different, or I get new customers. So I have to start at the beginning and ask the right questions, ones that:

  • gather new information;
  • clarify the effect of any activity that has or is currently happening;
  • suggest preferences; and/or
  • establish dominance (if that’s what they’re looking for)

Gathering information. I’m not talking about your standard private eye/moll-in-trouble scene, or a good cop/bad cop threesome, where grilling someone is part of the action. You will often need to get details, and you can get them without being intrusive. “What are you looking at, when I walk into the room?” I can make this question sound sexy as hell, but really, I’m just trying to find out whether my client is a tit man, an ass man, a leg man, or what. If you’re in a phone sex encounter and you haven’t specified what you’re wearing, this could also be a moment for the person to mention a piece of attire that they’d like you to be wearing.

Clarifying effect. “Do you like it when I do that?” Whatever “it” is, this is both a useful and sexy-sounding question. (Compare this to “you like it when I do that, don’t you?” where you already know or can tell that your partner does like it, you just want them to say it. See setting dominance, below.) Yes/no questions may be easier for your partner to focus on in the middle of the frenzy, but of course you can also ask open-ended questions like “how does that feel?”

Establishing preferences. As an example, the question of whether or not my pussy is shaved occasionally comes up with my phone-sex clients, and they approach it in one of two ways, depending on how they’d like my answer to be. “Is your pussy shaved?” almost certainly expresses an oblique hope that my pussy is shaved. Contrast that with “your pussy isn’t shaved, is it?”; the asker clearly doesn’t want the pussy to be shaved. If you want to get your preferences across in a more subtle way during sexy play, this is one way to do it.

Setting dominance. This type of sexy questioning includes most of the rhetorical questions (see “you like it when I do that, don’t you?” above). Any information gained is useful, but mostly rhetorical questions are about setting the tone of the scene by the tone of the question. If you really want to crack down, insist on an answer, or ask them to answer the question in full.

The point is, dirty talk—if no one is paying you for it—shouldn’t be about generating entire experiences and monologues by yourself. It’s about creating that sexy dialogue—all the questions and answers—together.

Utilising “Yes, And…” Improvisation in Dirty Talk

You’ve probably seen improvisers on TV, creating whole hilarious scenes on the spot, based on suggestions from the audience. They don’t look like they’re making anything up, right? That’s because they practice. Since good role-play and dirty talk are almost entirely improvisation, you too can practice, using principles from improvisation as guidelines. I suggest starting with: “yes, and.”

In improvisation, saying “yes, and” means if that your improvisation partner “makes you an offer” that is, puts a suggestion or a proposal out there for use in the scene you accept that proposal, you say “yes,” AND you do something to further the scene, either expanding on their suggestion with description/action OR by adding something on to push it forward from a narrative point of view.

Saying “yes” is the first step. Now, of course you say “no” during sex if your partner pushes a button that you didn’t know you had, or if you’re just not up for it tonight. But assuming that you’ve already discussed your basic likes/dislikes, and hard limits, and parameters of the role play… try saying “yes”. In both sex and improvisation, you have to have faith that your play partners are not deliberately out to trip you up or squick you out. If you don’t have this trust, then you probably shouldn’t be playing with them. If you do have this trust, then listen to what they’re leading with, and say “yes.”

AND. That’s the next part. Just saying “yes” doesn’t really get you anywhere. Again, this is true in both sex and improvisation. If you just say “yes” and don’t add anything after, that shifts the burden of the scene onto your partner; they have to come up with something else, otherwise you’re both just sitting there smiling and nodding at each other, an almost-sexy standstill.

Following the principle of “Yes, AND” is a surefire way to improve your improvisation/dirty-talk game and send your sex life places you may not have even known existed, but you have to practice:

Next time you hear yourself saying “oh, God, fuck yes”, you know, just random expletives or nonspecific words of encouragement, EXPLAIN YOURSELF. Try to articulate what you like about whatever it is that your partner is doing. Give them at least a few words to work with. If you can retain your powers of description even when all around you are losing theirs, you are gonna sound like a sex deity, no matter what you say.

When you find yourself spending a little extra time on one of your partner’s body parts -neck or nipple or pink bits – say what is keeping you there! “Your fingers taste like the maple syrup we just had on the pancakes” or “I can feel your pulse with my lips” or “I love it when your cock jumps like that.”

If your partner suggests a position, either verbally or with body language, go there, see how that feels, and then at some point, elaborate on that, again, either verbally or just by moving. “What happens if I put my leg there?” or just, you know, put your leg there, if it’s not too awkward or disruptive. Worst case? Doesn’t work, you laugh and mop up the spilled glass of water, and go back to whatever was working.

If your partner “makes an offer” with a role or character -“I want you to be my boss” – don’t just say “okay.” Add on something about being a boss, either as character/dynamic development – “you can’t keep your eyes off of those tight pin-striped skirts I wear, can you?” – or as story development, e.g. “why haven’t you been getting the reports in on time?”

The main thing here? Don’t say “no” during improvisation, unless it’s an actual hard limit or something physically dangerous that maybe you need some training in. Say “yes, AND.” Try to take the tack that everything is fair game, within the range of things that you and your partner have talked about. It may get silly or awkward; you may feel like a fool. But if you treat it like what it is —PLAY— you’ll at least have fun, and you may also run across something that you might otherwise have never found. I think it’s worth the risk.

Improv Games to Fire Up the Imagination

One of the reasons why there are so many articles about sex and how to do it right is that we’re deathly afraid of doing it wrong, of looking like we don’t know what we’re doing.

This is almost understandable when we are interacting with someone new, but I’ve noticed it even when the discussion is about long-term partners, too. However long we’ve been with someone, however much we trust someone, we are afraid of making a mistake, of looking like a fool.

Dirty Talk 101 - Expert Guide to Talking Filth in Sex Tips and TricksAnd I’m here to tell you: fear of being foolish is the death of fun in a relationship. If you can’t just go for it, in sex or in anything, then your sex life is on the fast track to a funeral, and the part of you that wants to play—everyone has this part—that is dead, too. Rather than, or in addition to, more structured sexual experimentation—a la “7 Sex Positions Every Woman Must Try”—I encourage you to try bringing plain ol’ nonsexual play back into your life. I firmly believe that 90 percent of really good sex happens in your head, which means your brain and imagination need to stay exercised!

Basic improv games or techniques are a great start. You can play most of them anywhere, because they aren’t particularly obvious to passers-by. This helps keep the focus on the game, not the “getting there”. In the workshop I teach, Intimacy Improv, the games that I facilitate don’t usually involve sex at all; they’re just ways to get people acting and speaking without over-thinking.

Here are a few ideas to start you off:

GUESS WHAT? I used to have a habit of prefacing good news with this question. One of my lovers started taking advantage of an actually pointless question to launch a barrage of utterly ridiculous guesses. “An asteroid is hitting the earth tomorrow!” “You’re making cookies.” “You’ve sprouted extra toes.” Nowadays if I use that question with him, he knows it’s an invitation to play the “guess what?” game, and he uses it on me too, sometimes. (See also “Good news!” or “you’ll never believe what just happened…”)

DRESS-UP BOX. I don’t mean lingerie or that polyester “sexy cop” outfit. Those are pre-packaged options with a limited number of outcomes, which, go on, do up that interrogation scene. But try filling up a box with some tatty scarves and silly hats and a vest and maybe a muumuu and see what comes out of that. Take turns putting on different items and showing your partner. The audience’s task is to compliment the outfit in some way, and then continue the conversation about how it looks, or what it makes you think of, or what you could do now.

THREE-WORD STORY. This is a written game, where each partner takes turns putting down three words of a story. The learning here is to take whatever options your partner comes up with and just go with it. You may find yourself wanting to control the narrative, but with only three words at a time, you won’t really have the opportunity.

ADJECTIVE. Pick up any item and take turns coming up with words that you associate with it. Hand it back and forth and try to get a rhythm going. The first person to hesitate overlong (you can set your own time limit, say, three seconds) or to repeat a word loses. Put in some “penalties” or “rewards,” sexy or no.

I’m sure you know other games, too, things played on road trips when you were a kid, or making up back stories for passers-by when you’re people-watching. Bring them all out; spend some time rummaging through your virtual game box.  What you find in there is fun on its own, and the more you play, the more easily you can access that play in sex and dirty talk, too.

Dirty Talk Tips for Quiet People

Folks tell me all the time: “I don’t know how to talk dirty.” Not, “I’d like to learn to do it better,” but, “I don’t know how to do it at all.” Or they say it about their partner: “They’re just so quiet. How do I get them to talk a little?” So this month, I want to look at starting from scratch with dirty talk.

First of all, if your lover is the quiet one, make sure you’re actually asking them for more, and not just wishing for it. Especially if you’ve been going along for a while with radio silence on the other end, you will probably need to speak up about shifting the status quo!

Dirty Talk 101 - Expert Guide to Talking Filth in Sex Tips and TricksPositive reinforcement is the way to go here. You can give it to them in a conversation outside of sex, or lay it on them in the middle, right after they make some positive noise in response to what’s happening. The old standard for giving personal feedback in most environments–“when you do X, I (feel) Y”—is standard for a reason: it provides you with a structure and still allows you to give utterly unique and specific feedback. For example: “when you [make that noise], I get so excited.” A statement like that makes your point quickly, without a lot of explanation, and is sexy talk by itself! (Bonus points if you can deliver it with your partner’s juices still glistening on your face.)

You should at least have a few sounds to respond to, because truly, most people make at least some kind of noise during sex, if only gasping, or a hiss between the teeth, or a little grunt or moan every now and then if you hit the right spot. If you are the quiet one, do your partner a favor and turn up the volume. If your partner is the quiet one, then pay extra attention. Once you’ve got detectable pleasure noises, you are on your way. Treat those noises like the statements that they are, and continue the conversation with yes/no questions, something like, “You liked that, didn’t you?” or “Do you want more of that?” If they just nod their head, you can ask them to “SAY IT,” tapping into a fun power dynamic and being sexily encouraging, all at the same time.

The best way to help someone “quiet” talk dirty is to keep the steps gradual, in a gentle progression that starts with their current range, rather than expecting them to hit phone-sex-operator level in a week. What might that progression look like?

If right now you’re just making noises, try to put words on it, as described above. “Yes” is a very sexy word, and there are so many ways to say it!

Got the yes down? Excellent! Now, when you hear yourself saying “oh, God, fuck yes”, you know, random expletives or nonspecific words of encouragement, try to make a sentence. Give them at least a few words to work with. “Yes, I love that!” Look at that, you just added a verb!

If you want to move beyond the present into the future—whether possible or not—state your case as “I want to…” No need to go into an elaborately staged fantasy. Just tell your partner what you want to do.

When you get to the point where full statements and maybe even storylines are happening, make space for meta conversations. If there’s something specific you want your partner to say, some word or phrase that you really love, or conversely if there’s something you don’t want them to say, under any circumstances (e.g. “cock” not “dick”, or “you can call me slut, but not bitch”), this is info to hash out beforehand, if you can.

Finally, remember that everyone’s dirty-talk development is different, so don’t be in too much of a rush to get there. Take it slow, explore in easy steps, and let the filth unfold naturally!

How To Keep Dirty Talk from Sounding Cheesy

“I want to learn how to talk dirty, but I don’t want it to sound cheesy, you know what I mean?”

I think I know what people mean, but for my own information-gathering purposes, I have started playing dumb with that question. No, I don’t know what you mean. One person’s “cheesy” is another person’s intensely felt shudder as their partner nails exactly the emotional dynamic that is playing out right there in the moment. Like so much of sex, perspective is everything. The people asking this question usually clarify, “like bad porno.” What ­are the qualities of cheesy dirty talk? What is “bad porno” talk/noise?

I posted this as a Facebook status—because I am lucky to have a good FB network that includes a lot of thoughtful perverts—and started getting a little more clarity around it. As many of my friends pointed out, sometimes you’re going for that laugh-inducing moment.  But based on that thread, and my own experience, I feel pretty solid in these tips for keeping your sex talk out of Cheeseville.

Don’t get fancy with names for body parts.

Unless they are an actual inside joke that you and your lover share, best to leave the “beef curtains” or the “pork-swords” and “ham wallets” out of it. This is funny, because the only bit of written training material I got when I started doing paid phone sex, pretty much consisted of lists: 50 words for penis, and 50 words for vagina/vulva. NONE of them have I ever used. Speaking of names for our pink bits…

Check with your partner about terminology!

People have strong preferences. Some people love the word “cunt”, other people will slap your face if you use “the c-word”. Some people can’t bear hearing vulgar body-part nouns at all, so then you really have to get creative. Point is, this is a quick two- or three-part question that you can easily incorporate into your pre-sex conversations that you are hopefully having.

Pay attention to your partner.

You will learn pretty quickly if your partner is a “make love to me” person or more a “pound my fucking ass, you bastard”. If you go to them with something entirely else and other, that’s going to rub them the wrong way. It takes active listening to get this kind of awareness about what your partner responds to, but dammit, you should be listening anyway!

Pay attention to what is happening.

“Oooh” and “yeah” and “unh” are fine and appropriate, only if they match up with what is actually going on. If you let out some “ooohs” when your partner is adjusting position (just as an extreme example), they are going to feel as if they’re suddenly trapped in a badly dubbed film.

Use your own voice, both words AND tone.

You may be tempted to try lines or phrases that you’ve heard in porn or read in erotica, but it’s going to feel out of character and lacking conviction, and it may freak your partner right the fuck out. For the same reasons, if you find yourself thinking that you need to growl or coo—not that you want to, but thinking, strategically, that this would be a good time to do it—you’re over-thinking it and maybe don’t.

I know that “be yourself” is one of the hardest pieces of advice to hear. But trust me: when you listen carefully, find your own voice, and speak from that, everything you say—from how you answer the phone to how you tell your lover you need them—gets better.

Using Your Words in Role Play

I’ve already laid out a few ways and reasons for you to sound like yourself when you’re having sex. Now I’m going to share with you some ways to sound like someone else, in a short discussion of the vocal aspects of role-play.

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Role-playing involves taking on a character or a power dynamic that you and your partner don’t normally do. It’s improvised acting. It’s sexual theatre! So go ahead and get the costumes and the set pieces and the props all laid out, but if your role-play involves talking in any way, here are some important considerations:

Find your motivation. This is almost a joke phrase among actors, only because we use it so much. It’s really important, in terms of creating a powerful scene, so definitely talk about it with your partner(s): what is it that intrigues you about this scene? Do you want someone else to take charge? Do you want to feel trapped or constrained? Do you want to be humiliated? Do you want to be sexual in a more brazen way than you would normally allow yourself? Do you just want to wear that pretty-princess dress? All are legitimate reasons that will help you set up your scene.

Figure out logistics. Once you’ve identified what it is that attracts you about the particular scene or roles, then think about how you and your partner(s) might build that into your playtime, and what are reasonable ways of getting to that. Maybe it’s not important to either of you whether or not the scene makes sense, but if it is, then you need to consider it. Otherwise you will have that moment in the middle of the scene, when one of you stops and says, “Wait, pirates aren’t like that,” or “but how did suddenly 20 guys show up here?” In paid phone sex, I have to deal with logical disconnect or continuity issues all the time. In the service of fantasy, I have learned to stifle my giggles and just go for it, but you may not want to do that.

Decide how the scene is going to start. That stuttering moment at the beginning of a scene is a common occurrence in phone sex role-play, because my client and I don’t have time to set the scene. They may just outline a simple thing for me—“you’re my mom”—and I have to decide what’s going to happen and how to begin. It’s not my favourite part of role-play calls, to be honest. I’m not psychic, and when there are many ways I can take the caller’s (limited) direction, there are many ways it could go wrong. However, it did teach me the value of my next point…

Make your first line confident. If you and your partner have more skill in playing and games, and you want to try just springing a scene on them, do it and don’t look back. That doesn’t mean that you have to be the dominant one in the scene. Just be clear about your role, and give the other person an obvious jumping-off point. For example, “I’m sorry I’m late with this report, ma’am” or “Yarrr, wench, and ye were lookin’ mighty fine swabbin’ the deck this morning!”

Be choosy if you change your voice. You may be tempted to load up on an accent and pitch your voice higher or lower, and slow it down, and make it gravelly. Unless you are a trained actor, you will have a hard time maintaining vocal changes over any sustained amount of time—I mean even finishing two sentences, never mind a half-hour scene—and the more your play-acting voice differs from your own voice, the harder it will be. My advice? Pick one quality and try that one out. Most people are not going to be sticklers for 100% authenticity. You just want one thing to suggest that you are playing someone different from your normal self.

The main thing is, don’t get hung up on whether you’re doing the voices “right”. Talk is only one of the toys that you and your lover(s) get to use in role-play. If you’re getting turned on and having fun—or at least busting a gut laughing—then you’re doing the voices right.

Extreme Dirty Talk: Name-Calling, Humiliation & More

Sticks and stones may break my bones,

But names will never hurt me.

That little rhyme has been thoroughly debunked, by the way; psychologists agree that verbal abuse can cause serious harm to the psyche. But what if you like it? What if name-calling is one of the things that get you or your partner hard and/or wet? Go for it, but be careful.

I want to start with a disclaimer: I don’t understand name-calling and humiliation play very well, but it definitely was a useful addition to my dirty-talk toolbox. In paid phone sex, I have ended up cussing people out a LOT to get them off. When you want to humiliate someone—more importantly, if they want you to—name-calling can be extremely effective.

Dirty Talk 101 - Expert Guide to Talking Filth in Sex Tips and TricksCalling someone greedy, for example, and making them beg desperately for getting fucked, this is a classic domination combo. The same derogatory names that really hurt on the playground—“fattie”, “sissy”, “faggot”, racial slurs—can be put to good use in humiliation scenes. Even calling a person’s junk something that normally squicks them out—“cunt” instead of “pussy”—can flip your partner into a different and sizzling-hot headspace.

Or they could slap you and stomp out of your life crying, if you just dropped it on them like a total asshole, so don’t do that. In non-paid dirty-talk situations, I consider name-calling or hurtful topics roughly equivalent to rough sex or BDSM; that is, I would only use them with prior discussion and consent, and have a safe word in place, so that the target(s) of these words can stop that particular play at any point, or if the person using those words overloads.

Let’s look a little more closely at some options here:

Slut/tramp/whore: These words are often used to sexually shame women out in the real world. In fantasyland, you can use them very effectively as part of a humiliation scene, or you can put a positive spin on them, as praiseworthy characteristics. It’s all in the delivery.

Messy/sloppy: Here the implication is that you can’t control your desires and how your body responds to them. These words lead nicely to things like “clean off my fingers” or “if you get any come on my boots, I will make you lick it up.” Can be used for shaming as well.

Cunt/bitch: These vicious names go a long way toward enhancing a scene. If you are doing a ravishment or rape fantasy, one of these words hissed into the ear can really nail it home.

Slurs: handle with care. I have done phone sex scenes with everything from “cocksucker” to the n-word; that is, the caller wanted me to call them those things. The callers get off, so clearly it is a thing.

Anything describing your body or parts of your body in a negative way: again, primarily used for humiliation play, or other scenes with a strongly unbalanced power dynamic.

IN ALL CASES, the person on the receiving end of these names should be the one who initiates their use. You should never call someone names for erotic purposes unless they asked you to, and you fucking STOP when they use the safe word to stop or slow the scene

Finally, I feel like this should be obvious, but maybe not: even consensually, don’t shout any of these at your partner if you are living in a thin-willed apartment building and/or you have roomies who aren’t aware of your sexual proclivities. As with some kinds of physical BDSM, extreme dirty talk can wind up sounding like an abusive relationship. Use your inside voice, or keep it to text.

For sure, extreme dirty talk is like playing with fire, but some people like that.

Long Distance Lovers: When Dirty Talk Is The Sex

A lot of the advice out there about dirty talk treats it as a sort of accessory to “real sex”. It’s like putting a feather boa on: it’s all fun and tickly and exotic for maybe ten minutes, but at some point you’re gonna wanna tear it off because it’s getting in the way of the good stuff, e.g. skin on skin action, with grunting and groaning and that’s when things get really real. Dirty talk is treated more like foreplay for physical sex, easily dropped when you’ve gotten to the juicy bits.

But what about when the juicy bits are just not on the calendar for weeks or months? What if you are in a long-term, long-distance situation—whether you are choosing it or it’s been forced on you—and your talk time is pretty much your sex? How can you keep your sex life hot when voice or video is all you’ve got?

Dirty Talk 101 - Expert Guide to Talking Filth in Sex Tips and Tricks

That is challenging. I say this as someone who has been in and out of various long-distance relationships for going on 10 years now, and who is currently counting down the months until I relocate to the same continent as my primary partner. For several years, he and I have been playing around with all different ways of dirty talk, in some very trying technical and domestic situations. It’s not what we want. But it means that I have a lot of thoughts about how to make that dirty talk come as alive and “real” as possible.

As it turns out, quality dirty talk for long-distance relationships is as much about how you use the technology as it is about what you actually say:

Choose quality over immediacy. If you have a shitty internet connection for whatever reason, Skype is a bad choice. If either of you have terrible cell phone reception, don’t call, or at least don’t call and expect to go deep with your sexy time. The dropped calls and spotty internet are going to take all the intimacy out of your conversation, making it an exercise in “what did you say?” “What?” “WHAT” Or you’ll spill out some sizzling-hot shit, drowning in your own arousal, and you’ll open your eyes and look up at the screen and realize that your partner’s image has frozen, and they probably missed the last 20 seconds at least. Skip the irritation and record a quality audio or video file and email that. You’ll be dealing with delayed gratification, but that’s not always a bad thing.

Layer the media exchange. If you decide to go with emailed sound files, but you still want an interactive component, have your lover video themselves (or record audio) responding to your audio file. It is as if you are watching them watch or listen to porno that has you as the star. Very gratifying, very hot. Advanced round: while you’re watching their video with sound on—you might be surprised by how your partner starts talking to the recording as if they are talking to you!—see if you can synch up your original audio recording to their video, so that you’re witnessing both sides of this recorded “conversation.” (Tip: Listen for the sound-bleed from their headphones.)

Multi-task more. Another way to combine aspects of both media, especially if you have crap bandwidth but decent cell-phone reception, is to have your lover video themselves jacking off while you are talking with them on the phone. Whoever is operating both phone and video will have a lot of buttons to push and keep track of, but you get both the live experience and then a video memory to cherish.

Aim for authenticity. When sending audio recordings, it’s tempting to write it all out in advance and just read it out loud, like erotica. This is fine, but I encourage you to experiment with recording in situ, in the place or state of mind that you are trying to make real through your voice. One night I was exhausted, but I could not stop thinking about those moments in the middle of the night, when my lover and I bumped against each other, and where that sometimes led. I could have written out some notes in the morning and recorded a proper piece of erotica, but I was feeling it right then, so I just fumbled around on the nightstand for my phone, and started recording a murmured night-fuck story. The sound file was probably 50% longer than it needed to be, because I was talking so sleepy and slow, but on the other hand, I was very much in the moment.

Obviously, all of this advice still works for phone sex between non-remote lovers. But I wanted to give a special shout-out to my “forced” long-distance lovers out there. I feel you, I know your pain, and trust me, it can get better. Go forth and be filthy.

– Cameryn Moore

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About the author

Cameryn Moore is an award-winning playwright/performer, sex activist and educator, sidewalk pornographer, and a long-time phone sex operator. Her work in theatre, literature, and activism/advocacy is both a challenge and invitation to adventurous audiences everywhere.

Cameryn Moore is the writer and performer of four solo shows: Phone Whore, slut (r)evolution, for | play, and The Pretty One (and other things that need to be said). To date, she has toured these shows to nearly 50 cities around the world. She is the creator and host of Smut Slam, a storytelling open mic, and Smut Slam Cabaret, both featuring real-life, first-person sex stories.

When not performing, Cameryn sets up her world-famous traveling Smut Stand, providing bespoke typewritten erotica on the spot to happy drunks and discerning passersby. She currently winters in Montreal, which is exactly as stupid as it sounds.




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Cameryn Moore is an award-winning playwright/performer, sex activist and educator, sidewalk pornographer, and a long-time phone sex operator. Her work in theatre, literature, and activism/advocacy is both a challenge and invitation to adventurous audiences everywhere. She is the writer and performer of four solo shows: Phone Whore, slut (r)evolution, for | play, and The Pretty One (and other things that need to be said). To date, she has toured these shows to nearly 50 cities around the world. She is the creator and host of Smut Slam, a storytelling open mic, and Smut Slam Cabaret, both featuring real-life, first-person sex stories. When not performing, Cameryn sets up her world-famous traveling Smut Stand, providing bespoke typewritten erotica on the spot to happy drunks and discerning passersby. She currently winters in Montreal, which is exactly as stupid as it sounds.


  1. i tell my wife over and over how tight she is when making love and i am in her as i say that i tell her over and over too bad i can not put a baby in her

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