Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

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Big Guide To Lesbian Sex Toys: What Are The Best Sex Toys For Lesbians?

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.

Does Female Chastity Exist? How Can Women Enjoy Orgasm Denial?

The chastity fetish is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart. I've written plenty about male chastity over the years, as well as a guide to chastity devices and several chastity cage reviews. What about women? Does female chastity exist? And how can women enjoy orgasm denial?

Ultimate Valentine’s Day Sexy Gift Guide | Most Romantic Valentine’s Gifts

Welcome to my Valentine's Day sexy gift guide! Valentine's is traditionally the time of year when lovers show each other the depth of their loving feelings by way of a card, a gift, spending time together doing something special and being generally loved-up. What do you buy the one you love for Valentine's Day this year? Have a look through this feature which showcases the best and most romantic gift ideas for some sensationally seductive inspiration.

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.

Big Guide To Spanking Toys, & Our Spanking Toy Reviews

Spanking is an erotic act between consenting kinksters and lovers. Do you prefer yours OTK (over the knee), strapped face-down to a bench, during sex or in some other fashion? Does the mere thought of a raised Dominant hand, or a spanking toy whistling through the air, stir the tendrils of arousal? You might be wondering which spanking tools are best for effective corporal punishment. Welcome to my big guide to spanking toys, in which you'll also find links to all our spanking toy reviews.

Introduction to E-Stim & the Electrastim Electro Sex Toys Range

You may or may or may not have heard the term e-stim or electrosex before. It's something that can inspire all sorts of emotions, from curiosity to nervous apprehension. It involves using specialised equipment to stimulate our genitals using electricity. It is a gender-free masturbatory activity that is fun on your own or with a partner.

Big Guide To Strap-On Dildos, & Our Pegging Dildo Reviews

You may remember my last 'big guide' - the Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses I published last month. Obviously you'll need a fantastic dildo to attach to your new strap-on harness, so here's the follow-up feature: my big guide to strap-on dildos!

Can’t Achieve Vaginal Orgasms?

I recently received an email from a gentleman requesting some sex advice. This isn't unusual in itself, but this email was so multi-faceted that I promised the correspondent a full analysis with my opinions here on the blog. The main issue? His wife can't achieve vaginal orgasms. Having heard similar worries and complaints both from women and their partners in the past, I wanted to write about my thoughts on this issue at length.

Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses, & Our Strap On Set Reviews

Strap-on sex (sometimes known as pegging) is enjoyed by many adults and within various types of relationship; for example, lesbian/bisexual sex, in BDSM as part of FemDom, or to help a penis-owner pleasure their partner in different ways. There are many types of harness available to help you achieve your sexual pleasure aims – welcome to my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses.

Big Guide To Penis Chastity Devices, & Our Chastity Cage Reviews

Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!

Big Guide To Sex Machines And Fucking Machines

Time to talk about the big boys... What do you know about sex machines and fucking machines? If you're a sex toy fan or love watching porn (or both, why not), you've probably heard of the Sybian. I reviewed the Sybian sex machine myself a few years ago. That's not the only sex machine around though...

Brand Focus: A Closer Look At Loving Joy Sex Toys

Loving Joy sex toys have clearly invested a lot of time, research and funds into their brand over the last few years. Building on those early days where profit relied majorly on the sale of traditional rabbit vibrators, Loving Joy have been forging a brand which offers customers a much greater choice when it comes to intimate pleasure products. Not only a fantastic range of items, but sex toys which are effective, reliable, and surprisingly affordable too.

Big Guide To Jiggle Balls, Love Eggs, Kegel Trainers & Ben Wa Balls 

Whether you call them jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers or Ben Wa balls, it all amounts to pretty much the same thing. Rounded products you insert into the vagina for pleasure, health benefits, or both. Are you a jiggle ball fan? Have you considered buying a love egg but don’t know which one’s right for you? Welcome to my big guide to jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers & Ben Wa balls!

Big Guide To Bullet Vibrators, & Our Bullet Vibrator Reviews

I’ve written previously about why I love bullet vibrators so much. They regularly appear in my top 3 favourite sex toys, which constantly evolves due to ongoing advances in pleasure tech. There are so many bullet vibrators to choose from – how can you be sure the one you’re buying from an online sex shop is going to be orgasmically effective? Welcome to my big guide to bullet vibrators! I’ll also be referencing the many bullet vibrator reviews here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

The Lowdown On Penis Head Pumps

In your search for the perfect penis pump, you have probably come across a penis head pump and wondered what the hell it was for. Well, these pumps actually have a lot of benefits and they can be a lot of fun to use too. They will give you increased stamina, a larger penis, a more sensitive head and they might just make you orgasm in the process too. Want to know more? Yeah, you do!

Who Uses Penis Extensions And Why? (Also Known As Cock Sheaths Or Hollow Strap...

Unlike some people tend to think, penis extenders are not only for those that are insecure about their penis size. This type of product can actually be used in all sorts of different ways and are created to enhance your sexual experience with your partner, no matter the size of your penis.

Male Sex Toys: How To Pick Out The Perfect One!

If you’re a male shopping for yourself, or perhaps looking for your male partner, you most likely want to find the perfect male sex toy! Now this might sound simple, but believe me, this is no easy task. You have hundreds of different male sex toys and manufacturers. What type will work best on him? What kind of male toys are there? What will deliver the most powerful orgasm? These are all frequent questions when looking for the top male sex toys, so let me break it down for you.

Sex Toy Spotlight: REV1000 Rotating Penis Masturbator

With the world of men’s sex toys constantly adding both upgrades on bestselling classics and innovative new styles, I wanted to spotlight one of the market’s most underrated members. The REV1000 Rotating Penis Masturbator is manufactured by Loving Joy and sold at various online sex shops –but what makes this stroker stand out from the rest?

Sex Toy Materials Guide: Porous v Non-Porous, Phthalates & More

Sex toy shopping can seem extremely confusing once you realise just how many different styles and variations there are. Then you find out they're made from various materials, too. How are you supposed to know which material is the best? Are there any you should specifically look for? And, more importantly, which ones should you actively avoid? My sex toy materials guide is here to provide a few handy tips and pointers when it comes to finding a comfortable and body-safe sex toy you can thoroughly enjoy.

Unusual Romantic Gifts For Your Partner – Or Yourself!

When it comes to buying romantic gifts for your partner, you might find yourself treading those same, well-worn internet shopping paths of flowers, chocolate, and their preferred form of bubbles. Although a surprise gift containing any of these is always pleasant, sometimes it doesn't really convey the right level of romance –or raunchiness- as a gift to your lover. Why not shop for a memorable present which will truly impress -with unusual romantic gifts instead of the old predictables?