Cara Sutra

Today, I want to share what my submissive does each day, in his real life. But I’m not talking about his employment, or hobbies; these are the specific FemDom slave rituals that he has been motivated to do every single day. They are actions and behaviours which heighten his feelings of submission and devotion to me. I hope you find this post intriguing, arousing, shockingly filthy and perverted. Be prepared for explicit descriptions of submissive depravity, all negotiated and carried out within the safety framework of our SSC BDSM relationship.

GITM Playbook kindly sent me their Cupcake Vibrator to try out, knowing I have a soft spot for clit stimulation. How tasty was that flickering silicone tongue? Was one taste enough, or did I go back for more? Once I’d had my fill, did this sex toy leave plenty of intimate icing on the cake?

This sub-category of Life Unscripted is entitled Fatigue & Fire: Learning to Live with Chronic Illness. Mostly I’ll be writing about balancing my ongoing work, and the challenge of running my own business, with having to live with M.E., ageing as a woman, plus other health issues. This post is my official introduction to this sub-series.

Brand reps, PR agencies, link-building middlemen, content marketing companies, demands to publish press releases and "opportunities" which smell an awful lot like a ton of work for no pay. I'm talking tyre kickers, lowballers and camels. If you don't know what these phrases mean, read on. Here are the 7 most common negotiation tactics used against bloggers.

I love my We-Vibe Wand 2; regularly, loudly when I can, discreetly when needs must. It's everything I want in a wand vibrator: powerful, discreet, versatile, rechargeable and cordless, fully waterproof, made with body-safe materials, and thoughtfully shaped with real human anatomy in mind.

I have a complicated past, with life experiences spanning childhood trauma, abusive relationships and more, all of it part of what makes me, me. Today I am going to talk about parenting as a survivor. How has my turbulent, traumatic past affected how I parent my children? Am I really the cycle-breaker I like to believe I am?

I was craving his touch. His fingers on me, holding me, gripping me, stroking me, teasing me. And in me, dipping in and out of my silky wet intimate space, using the natural lubrication to tease my hard, pulsating clit and back down to thrust inside, more this time, two fingers, three. Opening up that tight space, readying me for even more of him. His mouth on mine, and his teeth on my neck, and down to my cleavage, my primed and alert nipples, and back for another taste of my hot and hungry mouth.

Sex machines usually have an expensive price tag attached. Anything suspiciously cheap likely poses serious risks. That's why I'm delighted to introduce you to Thumpr, the solution to your sex machine dreams. Thumpr are that elusive blend of quality machines you can trust, at prices you can afford.

A warning to all who venture beyond this point and who dare to look upon the extremely dark fantasies of a besotted, tormented, but ultimately kept safe and consensual slave. You're about to read tales of grim slave ownership. A person hunted, conquered, dehumanised, stripped of everything he is or was, physically and psychologically, and broken then reshaped as property, chattel; a used and abused slave. These are the thoughts that tease his imagination and therefore his body, parts of his anatomy which will never be fully sated and are destined to circle in deliciously cruel, unending torment.

I have been writing about my own self-pleasure, as a sex blogger, as well as building an educational resource about masturbation, for over seventeen years. In this comprehensive topic hub I have gathered together all my sex education articles and opinion pieces about masturbation so you can easily find the answers you're looking for.

I first discovered clit suction sex toys eleven years ago, when I reviewed the very first Womanizer. Since then, I've had the intense pleasure of experiencing a wide variety of clitoral suction toys, in my pursuit of finding the very best recommendations for my readers. As well as trying to achieve the most powerful clit suction orgasm I can ever experience, of course. All these experiences have shaped this ultimate guide to clit suction toys, your one-stop resource to what these toys are, how the technology works, which ones are worth your money and which ones to avoid.

Did you feel safe when you were a child? Can you remember the first time you were properly scared? I ask with genuine curiosity, because for as long as I can remember, even through childhood, I lived under an ominous cloud of fear.

The purpose of this topic hub is to bring together all my orgasm related articles and guides on one handy page. From here, you can navigate straight to the information you're after: the different types of orgasm you may experience, widespread orgasm myths that sex blogs like mine seek to eradicate, anatomy education to help you achieve the highest levels of pleasure you can, and practical ways people can more reliably bring themselves or their partner to orgasm.

I've never squirted. But I have experienced squirting. Confused? Don't worry, I'll explain fully later on. First, let's actually talk about what squirting is, because it's rarely explained properly. The conversation gets stuck somewhere between porn myths, locker-room boasting and well-meaning but ultimately empty wellness articles promising "unlock your G-spot in five steps." None of that's actually helpful if you're sitting there wondering what the hell is going on with your body, or your partner's, or why there's a wet patch on the sheets (or, why you can't achieve one).

This piece is the introduction to a sub-category of my Life Unscripted series of personal reflections here at CaraSutra, a category I’m calling The Midlife Rebellion: Ageing, Body & Womanhood. In the immortal and only slightly edited words of Bon Jovi, “It’s my midlife”. But whose rebellion is it? Mine or my body’s? Or is it both? Let’s find out together. Welcome to my midlife rebellion.

This toy has proven that I can have the best of both worlds. The powerful buzz of GAIA gets me off, and the vibrator is like a hugely upgraded version of a bullet vibrator. Now for the tricky part: which colour will you choose?

There’s an app for everything these days, so why shouldn’t that include BDSM? While researching the best BDSM apps for couples, it became clear that ‘best’ really depends on what you want from the app. Read on for my top picks of apps for partners in a kink relationship, to support your unique power exchange dynamic.

Do vibrators desensitise you? I hear this worry about sex toys quite regularly from readers; that using vibrating toys leads to desensitisation of the body and reliance on them, so that you're unable to orgasm without using a vibrator. Is there any truth to this fear, or is it yet another sex toy myth? That's the heart of today's feature, where I'll answer this question with calm, clear facts backed up by medical research and scientific evidence.

If you’ve been looking for a BDSM app for couples that actually helps you explore kink, communicate clearly, and navigate consent without awkward guesswork, this one promises a lot. After testing its features, from play planning and kink quizzes to habit tracking and partner matching, here’s what BeMoreKinky really offers, and whether it’s worth using in a real BDSM relationship.

Chastity in BDSM is about so much more than wearing a locked chastity device. It’s about power and control, vulnerability and surrender, consensual denial of pleasure and highly erotic discipline. From male chastity cages and keyholding to orgasm denial and release rituals, this hub is your handy resource for exploring my guides, reflections and real life experiences with chastity play.