Cara Sutra

Sex machines usually have an expensive price tag attached. Anything suspiciously cheap likely poses serious risks. That's why I'm delighted to introduce you to Thumpr, the solution to your sex machine dreams. Thumpr are that elusive blend of quality machines you can trust, at prices you can afford.

A warning to all who venture beyond this point and who dare to look upon the extremely dark fantasies of a besotted, tormented, but ultimately kept safe and consensual slave. You're about to read tales of grim slave ownership. A person hunted, conquered, dehumanised, stripped of everything he is or was, physically and psychologically, and broken then reshaped as property, chattel; a used and abused slave. These are the thoughts that tease his imagination and therefore his body, parts of his anatomy which will never be fully sated and are destined to circle in deliciously cruel, unending torment.

I have been writing about my own self-pleasure, as a sex blogger, as well as building an educational resource about masturbation, for over seventeen years. In this comprehensive topic hub I have gathered together all my sex education articles and opinion pieces about masturbation so you can easily find the answers you're looking for.

I first discovered clit suction sex toys eleven years ago, when I reviewed the very first Womanizer. Since then, I've had the intense pleasure of experiencing a wide variety of clitoral suction toys, in my pursuit of finding the very best recommendations for my readers. As well as trying to achieve the most powerful clit suction orgasm I can ever experience, of course. All these experiences have shaped this ultimate guide to clit suction toys, your one-stop resource to what these toys are, how the technology works, which ones are worth your money and which ones to avoid.

Did you feel safe when you were a child? Can you remember the first time you were properly scared? I ask with genuine curiosity, because for as long as I can remember, even through childhood, I lived under an ominous cloud of fear.

The purpose of this topic hub is to bring together all my orgasm related articles and guides on one handy page. From here, you can navigate straight to the information you're after: the different types of orgasm you may experience, widespread orgasm myths that sex blogs like mine seek to eradicate, anatomy education to help you achieve the highest levels of pleasure you can, and practical ways people can more reliably bring themselves or their partner to orgasm.

I've never squirted. But I have experienced squirting. Confused? Don't worry, I'll explain fully later on. First, let's actually talk about what squirting is, because it's rarely explained properly. The conversation gets stuck somewhere between porn myths, locker-room boasting and well-meaning but ultimately empty wellness articles promising "unlock your G-spot in five steps." None of that's actually helpful if you're sitting there wondering what the hell is going on with your body, or your partner's, or why there's a wet patch on the sheets (or, why you can't achieve one).

This piece is the introduction to a sub-category of my Life Unscripted series of personal reflections here at CaraSutra, a category I’m calling The Midlife Rebellion: Ageing, Body & Womanhood. In the immortal and only slightly edited words of Bon Jovi, “It’s my midlife”. But whose rebellion is it? Mine or my body’s? Or is it both? Let’s find out together. Welcome to my midlife rebellion.

This toy has proven that I can have the best of both worlds. The powerful buzz of GAIA gets me off, and the vibrator is like a hugely upgraded version of a bullet vibrator. Now for the tricky part: which colour will you choose?

There’s an app for everything these days, so why shouldn’t that include BDSM? While researching the best BDSM apps for couples, it became clear that ‘best’ really depends on what you want from the app. Read on for my top picks of apps for partners in a kink relationship, to support your unique power exchange dynamic.

Do vibrators desensitise you? I hear this worry about sex toys quite regularly from readers; that using vibrating toys leads to desensitisation of the body and reliance on them, so that you're unable to orgasm without using a vibrator. Is there any truth to this fear, or is it yet another sex toy myth? That's the heart of today's feature, where I'll answer this question with calm, clear facts backed up by medical research and scientific evidence.

If you’ve been looking for a BDSM app for couples that actually helps you explore kink, communicate clearly, and navigate consent without awkward guesswork, this one promises a lot. After testing its features, from play planning and kink quizzes to habit tracking and partner matching, here’s what BeMoreKinky really offers, and whether it’s worth using in a real BDSM relationship.

Chastity in BDSM is about so much more than wearing a locked chastity device. It’s about power and control, vulnerability and surrender, consensual denial of pleasure and highly erotic discipline. From male chastity cages and keyholding to orgasm denial and release rituals, this hub is your handy resource for exploring my guides, reflections and real life experiences with chastity play.

Parenting is different for everyone, but what most parents agree on is that it isn't easy. The practical and emotional challenges shift through the years as you raise a child from newborn needs to independent adulthood and, one day, watch them fly the nest. That’s how it usually goes, anyway. But when you're raising neurodivergent children, all the usual expectations have to be let go.

This hub brings together my writing on kinks, fetishes, taboo fantasies, and the emotional mechanics behind arousal. If you've ever wondered why something turns you on, why people find certain fetishes alluring, why a fetish can feel so intense, or why fantasy doesn't always match up in real life, start here.

BDSM foundations cover safety, consent, communication, and risk awareness, so that you can explore kink with confidence, clarity, and genuine care for everyone involved. Speaking as an experienced Domme of twenty years, I created this hub because BDSM is not just what you do, it's how you do it. Technique matters, but the basics matter more.

Dominance in BDSM is not just about control. It involves power exchange, consent, confidence and understanding the emotional and psychological layers behind authority. This hub brings together my guides on FemDom, bedroom dominance, lifestyle power dynamics and practical Dom techniques.

This article is your comprehensive BDSM aftercare guide. It's easy to understand, practical and useful. It's also realistic, because it's important to know how aftercare actually works in real relationships, casual kink play, D/s events, and long-term dynamics.

What follows is the hardest post I've ever written here on my blog. It's a confession of all the things I never said at the time, because I was ashamed and embarrassed. I was afraid of being seen as less. Less of a person, less of a woman, less of a sex blogger. I have changed. It's time to reveal and to heal.

Real sex is often hot, sweaty, squelchy, messy. Once the lusty passion is quenched, you're left breathless, exhausted... and needing a wash. Today I want to talk about the part you don’t often see discussed in sex advice articles: cleaning up after sex. There are loads of ways to turn post-sex clean-up into intimate reconnection, making this practical aspect romantic and an additional way for you to demonstrate your care for each other.