Cara Sutra

During your explorations of the BDSM world, you may have come across the terms safewords and traffic lights. What are BDSM safe words, and what do traffic lights have to do with the exciting world of power exchange, kink and fetish?  

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.

Dating can feel like wandering blindly through a minefield, trying to avoid hidden pitfalls as well as common errors. When you experience that elusive, intense connection with someone, nerves can threaten to overwhelm and could even seriously dent your chances of forging a fully-fledged relationship. Today I'd like to share with you my top 10 seduction tips that really work.

ETO stands for Erotic Trade Only, a journalistic business with a passion for reporting neutrally on the various happenings in the adult industry. This independent company, founded and based in the UK, is extremely popular in the adult trade and it's easy to see why. Their harmonious team works extremely hard to deliver helpful advice and marketing opportunities to adult businesses. The erotictradeonly.com website and accompanying printed magazine provides support and advertising for various online services and websites, sex-related e-commerce, bricks and mortar retailers, product distributors/wholesalers and event organisers.

The chastity fetish is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart. I've written plenty about male chastity over the years, as well as a guide to chastity devices and several chastity cage reviews. What about women? Does female chastity exist? And how can women enjoy orgasm denial?

As a proud kinkster and huge fan of the chastity fetish in particular, it gives me great pleasure to share details of an official annual celebration of this highly erotic kink. International Male Chastity Day (also known as International Chastity Day) is celebrated on the 15th February* each year.

Welcome to my Valentine's Day sexy gift guide! Valentine's is traditionally the time of year when lovers show each other the depth of their loving feelings by way of a card, a gift, spending time together doing something special and being generally loved-up. What do you buy the one you love for Valentine's Day this year? Have a look through this feature which showcases the best and most romantic gift ideas for some sensationally seductive inspiration.

Have you ever wondered why we kiss? What's the history behind kissing? There's quite a lot of history behind the human activity of kissing, as it happens. As well as the romantic and passionate elements of smooching, the scientific side of kissing is fascinating. There's even a word for these kissing facts: the science of kissing is called philematology.

Body piercings, tattoos, or both? Whether you love being pierced or prefer getting inked, body modifications can still be controversial in some circles. Pretty stuffy circles, in my opinion. I'm focusing on the hotness of body piercings today, but I'm all for people celebrating their uniqueness and displaying their creativity through the many various forms of body art.

Happy New Year 2020! It's that time of the year where I – and countless other people round the globe – think about what we want to achieve over the next 12 months. I've traditionally blogged my New Year's Resolutions, which in recent times have evolved into New Year's hopes and goals.

So many of the emails I’ve received over the years have been from men looking for BDSM advice. Many men really want to find a Dominant woman to help them realise their kinky fantasies, or encourage their partner to become a Mistress –or alternatively, a female submissive. Did you know that there is an easy way to find a Dominant partner? Read on and I’ll let you in on the secret.  

Compatibility in BDSM relationships is important and should be taken into consideration from the outset. But just how do you go about finding that all too often elusive, but fantastic, kinky match? It can be tricky to find your perfect BDSM partner -and that's an understatement. 

What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.

Spanking is an erotic act between consenting kinksters and lovers. Do you prefer yours OTK (over the knee), strapped face-down to a bench, during sex or in some other fashion? Does the mere thought of a raised Dominant hand, or a spanking toy whistling through the air, stir the tendrils of arousal? You might be wondering which spanking tools are best for effective corporal punishment. Welcome to my big guide to spanking toys, in which you'll also find links to all our spanking toy reviews.

Despite Fifty Shades of Grey helping to spotlight the joys of BDSM in the mainstream in recent years, plenty of people have been enjoying the physical, psychological and emotional liberation that the power exchange in D/s role-play offers. Due to the recent sharp rise in mainstream interest, I wanted to share my bondage top tips and advice in this beginner's guide to bondage today. Welcome to my complete bondage 101!

The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.

Happy New Year 2020! Are you ready for another year of sexual wellness and invigorating kinky mischief? Then you’ll love my sex toy giveaway, designed to get you off to a flying start. One lucky Cara Sutra sex blog reader will win this sex toy bundle which is worth, in total, over £150*. In the spirit of fresh starts, I’ve hand-picked some items which I hope will present opportunities for the winner to try something new this year, as well as some more traditional sexy gift faves. Let’s take a look at what you could win, plus how to enter my Happy New Year 2020 giveaway.

As we say goodbye to another year, I'd like to take the opportunity -as I have for the past few years now- to look back on everything that's happened. I've had a lot to ponder over for my 2019 reflections, as it's been another busy year.

Social media, dating apps and chat sites are undoubtedly effective ways to meet new people. Connecting with the person of your dreams, then discovering they lives miles away –or on the other side of the world- can bring about another set of challenges for your budding relationship, however. Can long-distance relationships ever really work?

I'd like to talk a little more about why we love sexy corporal punishment here today, and how it really hits our spot. Perhaps this intimate revelation will prompt more people out there to accept spanking and similar as being just as 'acceptable' as 'regular' sex antics, instead of mentally filing such habits as perverted, deviant and downright weird.