Clit Suction Toys Guide: How I Learned to Love Them and Which Ones To...
I first discovered clit suction sex toys eleven years ago, when I reviewed the very first Womanizer. Since then, I've had the intense pleasure of experiencing a wide variety of clitoral suction toys, in my pursuit of finding the very best recommendations for my readers. As well as trying to achieve the most powerful clit suction orgasm I can ever experience, of course. All these experiences have shaped this ultimate guide to clit suction toys, your one-stop resource to what these toys are, how the technology works, which ones are worth your money and which ones to avoid.
Learning Safety After a Lifetime of Survival
Did you feel safe when you were a child? Can you remember the first time you were properly scared? I ask with genuine curiosity, because for as long as I can remember, even through childhood, I lived under an ominous cloud of fear.
Orgasm Education: Myth-Busting and Sexual Climax Facts
The purpose of this topic hub is to bring together all my orgasm related articles and guides on one handy page. From here, you can navigate straight to the information you're after: the different types of orgasm you may experience, widespread orgasm myths that sex blogs like mine seek to eradicate, anatomy education to help you achieve the highest levels of pleasure you can, and practical ways people can more reliably bring themselves or their partner to orgasm.
What Is Squirting? The Tell-All Guide (From Someone Who’s Never Done It)
I've never squirted. But I have experienced squirting. Confused? Don't worry, I'll explain fully later on. First, let's actually talk about what squirting is, because it's rarely explained properly. The conversation gets stuck somewhere between porn myths, locker-room boasting and well-meaning but ultimately empty wellness articles promising "unlock your G-spot in five steps." None of that's actually helpful if you're sitting there wondering what the hell is going on with your body, or your partner's, or why there's a wet patch on the sheets (or, why you can't achieve one).
Welcome To My Midlife Rebellion
This piece is the introduction to a sub-category of my Life Unscripted series of personal reflections here at CaraSutra, a category I’m calling The Midlife Rebellion: Ageing, Body & Womanhood. In the immortal and only slightly edited words of Bon Jovi, “It’s my midlife”. But whose rebellion is it? Mine or my body’s? Or is it both? Let’s find out together. Welcome to my midlife rebellion.
Husband Hated Sex Toys—Until This Magic Wand Vibrator Changed Us
Available exclusively through WomanGift at www.womangift.com, the Womangift GAIA Magic Vibrating Wand is designed specifically for women who want powerful, versatile pleasure without complexity. Marketed as the ultimate adult sex toy for women and couples, this wand-style vibrator delivers the intensity of a classic magic wand with modern upgrades.
Best BDSM Apps for Couples: Find the Right App for Your Dynamic
There’s an app for everything these days, so why shouldn’t that include BDSM? While researching the best BDSM apps for couples, it became clear that ‘best’ really depends on what you want from the app. Read on for my top picks of apps for partners in a kink relationship, to support your unique power exchange dynamic.
Do Vibrators Desensitise You? The Truth About Sensitivity and “Addiction”
Do vibrators desensitise you? I hear this worry about sex toys quite regularly from readers; that using vibrating toys leads to desensitisation of the body and reliance on them, so that you're unable to orgasm without using a vibrator. Is there any truth to this fear, or is it yet another sex toy myth? That's the heart of today's feature, where I'll answer this question with calm, clear facts backed up by medical research and scientific evidence.
BeMoreKinky App Review: A BDSM App for Couples
If you’ve been looking for a BDSM app for couples that actually helps you explore kink, communicate clearly, and navigate consent without awkward guesswork, this one promises a lot. After testing its features, from play planning and kink quizzes to habit tracking and partner matching, here’s what BeMoreKinky really offers, and whether it’s worth using in a real BDSM relationship.
Chastity in BDSM: Cages, Keyholding, Orgasm Denial and Power Exchange
Chastity in BDSM is about so much more than wearing a locked chastity device. It’s about power and control, vulnerability and surrender, consensual denial of pleasure and highly erotic discipline. From male chastity cages and keyholding to orgasm denial and release rituals, this hub is your handy resource for exploring my guides, reflections and real life experiences with chastity play.
Parenting in a Neurodivergent Household: A Mother’s Reflection
Parenting is different for everyone, but what most parents agree on is that it isn't easy. The practical and emotional challenges shift through the years as you raise a child from newborn needs to independent adulthood and, one day, watch them fly the nest. That’s how it usually goes, anyway. But when you're raising neurodivergent children, all the usual expectations have to be let go.
Fetish Psychology: Why Kinks Turn Us On and What They Mean
This hub brings together my writing on kinks, fetishes, taboo fantasies, and the emotional mechanics behind arousal. If you've ever wondered why something turns you on, why people find certain fetishes alluring, why a fetish can feel so intense, or why fantasy doesn't always match up in real life, start here.
BDSM Foundations: Safety, Consent, Communication and Risk Awareness
BDSM foundations cover safety, consent, communication, and risk awareness, so that you can explore kink with confidence, clarity, and genuine care for everyone involved.
Speaking as an experienced Domme of twenty years, I created this hub because BDSM is not just what you do, it's how you do it. Technique matters, but the basics matter more.
Dominance in BDSM: FemDom Power Dynamics, D/s Relationships and Control
Dominance in BDSM is not just about control. It involves power exchange, consent, confidence and understanding the emotional and psychological layers behind authority. This hub brings together my guides on FemDom, bedroom dominance, lifestyle power dynamics and practical Dom techniques.
BDSM Aftercare Guide: Emotional Drop, Recovery and Staying Connected After Play
This article is your comprehensive BDSM aftercare guide. It's easy to understand, practical and useful. It's also realistic, because it's important to know how aftercare actually works in real relationships, casual kink play, D/s events, and long-term dynamics.
Beyond the Sex Blogger Label: Revealing the Rest of Me
What follows is the hardest post I've ever written here on my blog. It's a confession of all the things I never said at the time, because I was ashamed and embarrassed. I was afraid of being seen as less. Less of a person, less of a woman, less of a sex blogger. I have changed. It's time to reveal and to heal.
Turning Post-Sex Clean-Up Into Intimate Reconnection
Real sex is often hot, sweaty, squelchy, messy. Once the lusty passion is quenched, you're left breathless, exhausted... and needing a wash. Today I want to talk about the part you don’t often see discussed in sex advice articles: cleaning up after sex. There are loads of ways to turn post-sex clean-up into intimate reconnection, making this practical aspect romantic and an additional way for you to demonstrate your care for each other.
Aftercare After Sex: How to Reconnect, Recover and Deepen Intimacy
Sexual aftercare has taught me that the intimacy doesn’t end when the physical pleasure does. It is carried through in how we look after each other once our bodies physically separate and the lusty arousal fades. The mutual care that comes after the eroticism is where the true strength of our relationship resides.
From FitBit to Visible: Learning to Live with M.E.
It truly is devastating. Life looked a certain way, before; bright, active, hopeful. Now, life is darker, restricted, depressing. I’ve gone from running a busy life juggling motherhood, my relationship, my sex life, my hormones in perimenopause, my fulltime self-employment and my exercise and fitness goals, to a needle-scratch moment of life where the record was changed without warning or consent to an ominously slower pace. Of course I’m upset. Wouldn’t you be?
Trusting That I’m Loved When I Struggle to Love Myself
Postponing love until some day which never actually comes is learnt self-cruelty. I’m rejecting self-cruelty and embracing self-kindness. How will I go about fully believing in his love for me? I don’t have all the answers, but I know I have to do the work dismantling my old belief systems.
