BDSM Foundations: Safety, Consent, Communication and Risk Awareness
BDSM foundations cover safety, consent, communication, and risk awareness, so that you can explore kink with confidence, clarity, and genuine care for everyone involved.
Speaking as an experienced Domme of twenty years, I created this hub because BDSM is not just what you do, it's how you do it. Technique matters, but the basics matter more.
Dominance in BDSM: FemDom Power Dynamics, D/s Relationships and Control
Dominance in BDSM is not just about control. It involves power exchange, consent, confidence and understanding the emotional and psychological layers behind authority. This hub brings together my guides on FemDom, bedroom dominance, lifestyle power dynamics and practical Dom techniques.
BDSM Aftercare Guide: Emotional Drop, Recovery and Staying Connected After Play
This article is your comprehensive BDSM aftercare guide. It's easy to understand, practical and useful. It's also realistic, because it's important to know how aftercare actually works in real relationships, casual kink play, D/s events, and long-term dynamics.
Beyond the Sex Blogger Label: Revealing the Rest of Me
What follows is the hardest post I've ever written here on my blog. It's a confession of all the things I never said at the time, because I was ashamed and embarrassed. I was afraid of being seen as less. Less of a person, less of a woman, less of a sex blogger. I have changed. It's time to reveal and to heal.
Turning Post-Sex Clean-Up Into Intimate Reconnection
Real sex is often hot, sweaty, squelchy, messy. Once the lusty passion is quenched, you're left breathless, exhausted... and needing a wash. Today I want to talk about the part you don’t often see discussed in sex advice articles: cleaning up after sex. There are loads of ways to turn post-sex clean-up into intimate reconnection, making this practical aspect romantic and an additional way for you to demonstrate your care for each other.
Aftercare After Sex: How to Reconnect, Recover and Deepen Intimacy
Sexual aftercare has taught me that the intimacy doesn’t end when the physical pleasure does. It is carried through in how we look after each other once our bodies physically separate and the lusty arousal fades. The mutual care that comes after the eroticism is where the true strength of our relationship resides.
From FitBit to Visible: Learning to Live with M.E.
It truly is devastating. Life looked a certain way, before; bright, active, hopeful. Now, life is darker, restricted, depressing. I’ve gone from running a busy life juggling motherhood, my relationship, my sex life, my hormones in perimenopause, my fulltime self-employment and my exercise and fitness goals, to a needle-scratch moment of life where the record was changed without warning or consent to an ominously slower pace. Of course I’m upset. Wouldn’t you be?
Trusting That I’m Loved When I Struggle to Love Myself
Postponing love until some day which never actually comes is learnt self-cruelty. I’m rejecting self-cruelty and embracing self-kindness. How will I go about fully believing in his love for me? I don’t have all the answers, but I know I have to do the work dismantling my old belief systems.
Writing With a Spine
I may not have a spine on the bookshelf, but I've got one in my body. And I'm freshly committed to writing with a backbone. Wherever my writing is published.
Living with Low Libido: Where I Am Right Now
If you’re expecting an advice post, or a triumphant “problem solved!” write-up, you’re going to be disappointed. I’m right in the middle of this frustrating situation, and right now, there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve taken all my own advice about increasing your sex drive, followed all the usual sex tips. Nothing is working.
Why I Love Winter: A Slower Rhythm, Darkness, and the Permission to Rest
I enjoy winter as a natural pause, a time for clarity and introspective focus. This transitional period is a great annual opportunity to properly consider what I’d like to work on, what my plans are and how I’ll move forwards into literal and metaphorical spring.
Winter lets my feelings exist exactly as they are, and that authenticity is perfectly aligned with my core values.
Why I’m Writing a Survivor’s Journal
It’s important to me to tell my own story in my own words, rather than continuing to be psychologically affected by other people’s versions of my lived reality. Fighting against past gaslighting which echoes around my psyche is a daily battle. I’m no longer willing to minimise, distract from or ignore my experiences for my own or other people’s comfort. It’s my life, no-one else’s.
How I’m Protecting My Energy In 2026
Since developing M.E. last year and learning how to navigate life with chronic illness on top of perimenopause and being deaf, my energy is a precious and carefully guarded resource. In 2026, protecting my energy isn’t a soundbite for trendy mindful culture. It’s mandatory, non-negotiable; the only way I will manage, survive and heal. This year, I am being intentional about what I give my time, attention and body to, and just as intentional about what I’ll no longer engage with.
New Year Weight Loss Plans? Why I’m Choosing Nourishment Over Diets This January
New year weight loss plans are everywhere you turn in January, berating you for the pleasurable excess you enjoyed in December. Every year, as the wheel turns and we move from party to punishment season, I feel the same harsh judgement about eating habits and body image, and hear the cutting voice of my inner critic, shaped over a lifetime by family, media, and cultural pressure. Happy new year: your body is once again up for review.
2025 Reflections: A Change Of Pace
The past 12 months have crawled by in a blink. That’s how this year has felt to me, in many ways; my personal pace downshifting a couple of gears while life rushes on around me with the same frenzied impatience as always. Every December I like to look back over the year and share some personal insights, what’s been going on behind the scenes, as it were. Most of my blog has been focused on adult toy reviews and sex advice, but today I’m carving out a little space for my 2025 reflections.
Is It OK To Share Sex Toys? Safety, Hygiene & Pleasure Tips
As well as couples passing toys between each other during foreplay and sex, sharing kink equipment in the BDSM scene happens frequently too. Today I’m answering the question lurking behind this common practice: Is it OK to share sex toys? Yes, it can be. You need to handle hygiene, consent and materials properly.
The Rise and Impact of Interactive Sex Toys Worldwide
Long-distance relationships thrive because of interactive sex toys. Remote control helps couples maintain intimacy through live sextoy sessions. Partners can hand over control to each other in real time or synchronize their toys for extra connection. Speaking of synchronization, this is the technology that creates mind-blowing multisensory experiences.
How to Increase Your Sex Drive: Gentle, Real Ways to Reignite Desire
The common problem of low libido is usually your nervous system begging for rest, softness and space rather than stimulation. Today’s guide offers tips to increase your sex drive, exploring real ways to boost desire and get your sex life back on track.
Why Needing Lube Isn’t a Sign You’re Broken
Sexual lubricant should be used with enthusiasm and pride; it’s a pleasure tool which makes pretty much every kind of sex activity feel better. It adds glide to the ride, transforms sticky moments into erotic slipperiness. Needing lube isn’t a sign you’re broken - it means that you prioritise comfort and sensuality in your sex life.
Last-Minute Christmas Sex Toy Gifts: Rechargeable Doxy Wand, Lush 4, The Rose Toy
Read on for my top choices for last-minute Christmas sex toy gifts with fast delivery. In this festive sex toy roundup, I’m sharing my 3 best sex toy gift ideas that you can buy close to Christmas which will seriously impress: the Rechargeable Doxy Wand, the Lush 4 and The Rose Toy.
