Being Kink Compatible In BDSM Relationships
You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand, insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong? It's time to talk about kink compatibility in BDSM relationships.
Strap-On Dildos Guide
You may remember my last 'big guide' - the Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses I published last month. Obviously you'll need a fantastic dildo to attach to your new strap-on harness, so here's the follow-up feature: my big guide to strap-on dildos!
The Humiliation Kink: Humiliating Objectification Fantasies
Guilty is the wrong word; I don't feel guilty about any of my pleasures, as P!nk famously said. I feel weird, and wired, and demanding. I have a high-maintenance imagination. Most notably, I have a private love/hate relationship with humiliating objectification –as a kink and as a popular foundation for my most extreme fantasies.
Unable To Have A Vaginal Orgasm
I recently received an email from a gentleman requesting some sex advice. This isn't unusual in itself, but this email was so multi-faceted that I promised the correspondent a full analysis with my opinions here on the blog. The main issue? His wife can't achieve vaginal orgasms. Having heard similar worries and complaints both from women and their partners in the past, I wanted to write about my thoughts on this issue at length.
How I Dominate My Slaves: Domme Point Of View
How people perceive my domination, and the reality of it, is something which has fascinated me for some time. You would be amazed at some of the comments directed my way over the years simply for the ways in which I choose to enjoy my natural dominance, as well as how my actively consenting submissives enjoy it, too. Some of these comments are borne from ignorance, some from jealousy, some from malice, and others simply because the person spoke without properly thinking it all through.
Strap-On Harnesses Guide
Strap-on sex (sometimes known as pegging) is enjoyed by many adults and within various types of relationship; for example, lesbian/bisexual sex, in BDSM as part of FemDom, or to help a penis-owner pleasure their partner in different ways. There are many types of harness available to help you achieve your sexual pleasure aims – welcome to my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses.
Penis Chastity Devices Guide
Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!
Forced Orgasms: What Are They & Why Do People Enjoy Them?
I love the freedom to touch myself whenever I want –and I make the most of that freedom, as you can see by the thousands of sex toy reviews and erotic articles here on the blog. Chastity is definitely not for me, when I'm the one locked up I mean. How about the flip side of chastity: forced orgasms? There's still the element of external control -but rather than orgasm denial, I would be (consensually, of course) forced to orgasm over and over.
Sex Machines & Fucking Machines Guide
Time to talk about the big boys... What do you know about sex machines and fucking machines? If you're a sex toy fan or love watching porn (or both, why not), you've probably heard of the Sybian. I reviewed the Sybian sex machine myself a few years ago. That's not the only sex machine around though...
Kinky Watersports: Golden Showers & Piss Play Guide
Does mention of watersports conjure up innocent images of surfing and jet skis -or raise a knowing smirk? For the non-vanilla activity, "golden showers" is probably a more familiar term to most thanks to tabloid coverage of various celebrity/political scandals, as well as good old internet porn.
Adult Baby Diaper Lovers (ABDL): Kinky Grown-Up Babies Fetish
Cards on the table: this is not my kink. Is it yours? As someone with an interest in another area of ageplay, I imagine that the adult baby fetish is viewed as extremely niche and is often misunderstood. Perhaps feared a little –even within the BDSM sphere.
Jiggle Balls Guide (Love Eggs, Kegel Trainers & Ben Wa Balls)
Whether you call them jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers or Ben Wa balls, it all amounts to pretty much the same thing. Rounded products you insert into the vagina for pleasure, health benefits, or both. Are you a jiggle ball fan? Have you considered buying a love egg but don’t know which one’s right for you? Welcome to my big guide to jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers & Ben Wa balls!
Bullet Vibrators Guide
I’ve written previously about why I love bullet vibrators so much. They regularly appear in my top 3 favourite sex toys, which constantly evolves due to ongoing advances in pleasure tech. There are so many bullet vibrators to choose from – how can you be sure the one you’re buying from an online sex shop is going to be orgasmically effective? Welcome to my bullet vibrators guide! I’ll also be referencing the many bullet vibrator reviews here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.
Imaginative Sexual Role Play Ideas
The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner.
Sex Toy Materials Guide: Porous v Non-Porous, Phthalates & More
Sex toy shopping can seem extremely confusing once you realise just how many different styles and variations there are. Then you find out they're made from various materials, too. How are you supposed to know which material is the best? Are there any you should specifically look for? And, more importantly, which ones should you actively avoid? My sex toy materials guide is here to provide a few handy tips and pointers when it comes to finding a comfortable and body-safe sex toy you can thoroughly enjoy.
Complete Sensory Deprivation Kink: A Guide
Ever heard of sensory deprivation? If you have, chances are you’re either up on your psychology* or you’re into bondage. Or both, of course. Sensory deprivation is an enormous turn-on for many in the BDSM scene, but what is it that makes this particular practice so sexy?
Are Breasts Sexual Organs? Should Female Breasts Be Sexualised?
There was an argument put forward some time ago, by a strong voice on Twitter –someone I’d not heard of before- that breasts are not sexual. They were speaking of typically women’s breasts, and were rather stridently arguing their case –with plenty of others retweeting and replying in agreement.
Do Women Find Older Men Sexy? Why?
Younger men are really not my thing. I’ve never been in a relationship with a guy younger than me; it wasn’t a conscious choice, just the way things have worked out. There’s never been a rejection of a guy, in a sex or relationship sense, just because he’s a bit younger than me. But when I’ve come to think about it, older men hold a particular and definite allure for me.
The Most Powerful Vibrators You Can Buy
Happy National Orgasm Day 2018! It's difficult to believe it's been a year already since the last National Orgasm Day – the year has just flown. In the past I've written about the sounds of an orgasm, the importance (or not) of simultaneous orgasms, about not being able to orgasm through oral sex and about having orgasms while I'm asleep. As many of my orgasms are helped along a little bit (OK, a lot) by sex toys, today I want to discuss some of my favourites. The toys which are, for me, the best powerful vibrators for extra strong orgasms.
My Favourite Sex Positions
Are there some sex positions you find yourself 'coming' back to time after time? My partner and I definitely have our favourite sex positions, and in the past I’ve worried that we might be getting stuck in a rut. A rut that, admittedly, feels so good. But then when I went through the sex positions we enjoy on a regular basis, it turns out we enjoy more variety than I’d feared.
