Advice

If you’re looking for help on sex related issues then you’re in the right place. The advice area here at the Cara Sutra sex blog covers all aspects of sex and sexuality, hoping to help readers explore new routes to pleasure and open up avenues of stimulation and fulfilment you may not have previously thought of. Sex tips and articles are always popular with my readers, because as fun as sex is, who wouldn’t want to try and make it even more satisfying?

Advice provided through these down-to-earth and honest articles aren’t only about the main 'act', however. There’s plenty of expertise provided by guest authors as well as myself on the subject of relationships and dating.

For those who wish to dabble in the alluringly dark world of kink and BDSM, there are BDSM articles covering varied kinky interests from spanking tips and bondage, to taboo fetishes and total power exchange. My specialism is FemDom, but the advice features cover plenty of other aspects of the D/s scene as well.

Perhaps you’d simply like to explore how best to achieve climax by yourself? Masturbation doesn’t have to be a guilty secret, but you don’t have to ask your best mates how to go about it or discuss your solo sex life with a stranger, either. My advice articles cover masturbatory techniques, as well as specific sex toy advice and sex toy guides for those who would like a helping hand reaching that explosive, full-body climax. I hope you enjoy all the advice articles here on the blog.

Water-Based Lubes 101: Your Complete Guide

Water-based lubes are sexual lubricants with a formulation that has water as its main or 'base' ingredient. There may be various other components to the formulation, but water is the main one. As well as a descriptor of the main ingredient of these lubricants, the label 'water-based' helps to quickly and easily differentiate them from the various other types of lubes: silicone, oil-based, hybrid etc.

Sexual Lubricants 101: Your Complete Guide To Sex Lubes

LUBE. What is it? Who uses it? What are the different types? What is it used for? How and why is it used? Welcome to my big guide to sex lubes!

Handy List of BDSM Fetishes and Kinks: UberKinky Periodic Table of Kink

For those who would like a handy list of BDSM fetishes and kinks, I believe I've found a fantastic resource. The UberKinky Periodic Table of Kink provides an easy to understand, visual representation of the majority of the recognised BDSM activities.

Vibrators for Newbies: Vibrating Sex Toys for Complete Beginners

Vibrating sex toys are extremely popular, and the good news is that if you're actively looking to start or build on your own sex toy collection, you'll likely recognise a few types already. Traditional rabbit vibrators, for a start. Classic cylindrical vibrators with a twist base. Maybe you've heard about sports massagers becoming better-known for their orgasmic benefits – the famous magic wand vibrator. Today I want to introduce you to some fantastic options when it comes to vibrators for newbies.

Doxy Massager 101: Complete Guide To Doxy Wands, Vibrators & Sex Toys 

Doxy sex toys are some of my favourite self-pleasure tools. My love affair with Doxy Wands started back in 2013, when the very first, original Doxy Wand Vibrator was launched. Since then, the official collection has grown to include other styles of Doxy vibrators and pleasure toys. I wanted to collate all the information about the various products in the range together in one big information post; a complete guide to Doxy Wands. Welcome to my Doxy Massager 101!

Sexually Transmitted Infections Directory & STIs / STDs Symptoms List

There's just no way to discuss sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and make it sound sexy, but adult sex education is undoubtedly a necessity. If even the thought of having an STI makes you feel ill, then it's best to be in possession of all the facts so you can make sure you're sexually cleaner than a t-shirt at the end of a laundry detergent ad.

What Do SSC And RACK Mean In BDSM?

BDSM kinksters have hugely varied kinky interests, fetishes, and types of power exchange relationships. It's unsurprising, then, that there are also various schools of thought and approaches to how the consensual power exchange in D/s relationships is enjoyed. Two of the biggest consensual play templates in BDSM are SSC and RACK. What do these acronyms stand for, what are the main differences, and which one do you feel most comfortable with?

Everything XBIZ: Magazines, Websites, Shows & Awards Info

XBIZ is a USA-based major source of adult industry news, founded in 1998 by Alec Helmy, an adult industry veteran. The XBIZ team report the latest developments in all parts of the industry, including product technology, manufacture and retail, porn star news & adult movie releases, websites & services, and avenues of sex education.

Sexual Foreplay 101: Your Guide To Sexy Arousal Tips & Ideas

Brilliant sexual foreplay can mean the difference between a stagnant, monotonous sex life and keeping the spice and magic of a relationship alive. Are you stuck for ideas for fantastic before sex arousal and supremely arousing foreplay? Welcome to my comprehensive guide to lovers' arousal techniques: my sexual foreplay 101.

Safe Words And Traffic Lights: How To Say Stop In BDSM

During your explorations of the BDSM world, you may have come across the terms safewords and traffic lights. What are BDSM safe words, and what do traffic lights have to do with the exciting world of power exchange, kink and fetish?  
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Big Guide To Lesbian Sex Toys: What Are The Best Sex Toys For Lesbians?

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.

10 Seduction Tips That Really Work

Dating can feel like wandering blindly through a minefield, trying to avoid hidden pitfalls as well as common errors. When you experience that elusive, intense connection with someone, nerves can threaten to overwhelm and could even seriously dent your chances of forging a fully-fledged relationship. Today I'd like to share with you my top 10 seduction tips that really work.

Everything Erotic Trade Only: ETO Magazine, Show & Awards Info

ETO stands for Erotic Trade Only, a journalistic business with a passion for reporting neutrally on the various happenings in the adult industry. This independent company, founded and based in the UK, is extremely popular in the adult trade and it's easy to see why. Their harmonious team works extremely hard to deliver helpful advice and marketing opportunities to adult businesses. The erotictradeonly.com website and accompanying printed magazine provides support and advertising for various online services and websites, sex-related e-commerce, bricks and mortar retailers, product distributors/wholesalers and event organisers.

Does Female Chastity Exist? How Can Women Enjoy Orgasm Denial?

The chastity fetish is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart. I've written plenty about male chastity over the years, as well as a guide to chastity devices and several chastity cage reviews. What about women? Does female chastity exist? And how can women enjoy orgasm denial?

International Male Chastity Day | International Chastity Day Info

As a proud kinkster and huge fan of the chastity fetish in particular, it gives me great pleasure to share details of an official annual celebration of this highly erotic kink. International Male Chastity Day (also known as International Chastity Day) is celebrated on the 15th February* each year.

Ultimate Valentine’s Day Sexy Gift Guide | Most Romantic Valentine’s Gifts

Welcome to my Valentine's Day sexy gift guide! Valentine's is traditionally the time of year when lovers show each other the depth of their loving feelings by way of a card, a gift, spending time together doing something special and being generally loved-up. What do you buy the one you love for Valentine's Day this year? Have a look through this feature which showcases the best and most romantic gift ideas for some sensationally seductive inspiration.
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The Hotness Of Body Piercings

Body piercings, tattoos, or both? Whether you love being pierced or prefer getting inked, body modifications can still be controversial in some circles. Pretty stuffy circles, in my opinion. I'm focusing on the hotness of body piercings today, but I'm all for people celebrating their uniqueness and displaying their creativity through the many various forms of body art.

How To Find A Dominant Partner

So many of the emails I’ve received over the years have been from men looking for BDSM advice. Many men really want to find a Dominant woman to help them realise their kinky fantasies, or encourage their partner to become a Mistress –or alternatively, a female submissive. Did you know that there is an easy way to find a Dominant partner? Read on and I’ll let you in on the secret.  

How To Find Your Perfect BDSM Partner

Compatibility in BDSM relationships is important and should be taken into consideration from the outset. But just how do you go about finding that all too often elusive, but fantastic, kinky match? It can be tricky to find your perfect BDSM partner -and that's an understatement. 

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.