Festive Foreplay Ideas: Gift Yourselves A More Exciting Sex Life This Christmas

Festive Foreplay Ideas: Gift Yourselves A More Exciting Sex Life This Christmas

Christmas should be a time of joy and celebration, but all too often it’s a time when we’re overwhelmed with family obligation instead. It can leave you wondering where to find a little magical Christmas joy for yourself and your partner. Elsewhere on the blog you can find tips on how to sex up your Christmas, but today I want to focus on an oft-forgotten area of a couple’s sex life – foreplay. Sex is so much better once you’re both properly in the mood, and with the 10 festive foreplay ideas I’m sharing here today you can gift yourselves a more exciting sex life this Christmas and through the years to come.

Here are my 10 festive foreplay ideas to spice up your love life this holiday season:

Kink up a brisk walk outdoors

A brisk walk in the crisp winter air reinvigorates all the senses and is a welcome pause during a hectic time of year. Why not combine fresh air with a libido-enhancing exercise? Turn a walk with your partner into steamy and erotic playtime. Wear nipple clamps and teasing crotchless knickers underneath your outfit, and make sure your partner knows about it. Or use one of the many public-play-friendly sex toys available to hand over control to your partner, so they can tease you and share in the growing arousal before you return home and are finally able to enjoy complete satisfaction.

The Lovense sex toys are always a popular choice when it comes to discreet erotic public play (shop: lovehoney.com / lovehoney.co.uk), and We-Vibe offer a variety of award-winning sex toys, such as the Ditto+ anal plug & the Moxie+ Panty Vibe which are smartphone app controlled (shop: lovehoney.com / lovehoney.co.uk).

Invite them to unwrap the best present – you

Before you dive under the covers together, invite your partner to do a little festive gift unwrapping. There are many saucy Santa lingerie sets available, or you could simply trim your favourite lingerie set with tinsel. Research a little burlesque or perform a hot strip tease for them before letting them slowly peel away the lace and ribbon to enjoy their sweet holiday gift.

Give your partner erotic pre-Christmas gifts

Giving gifts is a big part of Christmas, so why not make that a big part of your sexual adventures at this time of year too? You don’t have to wait until Christmas morning, give them the surprise of something totally new and erotic to spice up the season. You could arrange a personalised scavenger hunt leading to a completely different style of sex toy for you both to enjoy, if you are lucky enough to have the house to yourselves. Perhaps they’ve always wanted to try a penis masturbator, and you’d love to watch… Or splash out on the latest brilliant sex toy styles to change up how you discover orgasmic bliss together.

The Bondara Grinder sex toy (buy yours here) is a fantastic, versatile sex toy to enjoy in a variety of ways together through Christmas and beyond. Sexy advent calendars provide you both with a shared sexy gift experience during December, giving you a daily dose of erotic fun to discover.

Read your partner a raunchy bedtime story

Many people need to be mentally turned on before their body follows suit, and sizzling erotica is a fast track to getting in the sexual zone. Research the hottest erotic fiction – flash fiction anthologies are fantastic for this – and set time aside before bed to read passages out loud to each other. There are also plenty of raunchy sex blogs with festive fuckery stories to help get you both in the mood.

Click to find all the sexy stories here on the blog.

Enjoy kinky Christmas-themed role play

You don’t have to be worthy of an Oscar to partake in bedroom role play, you just need to relax and enjoy. Make the most of the festive theme to act out a little Father Christmas/naughty elf role play – or perhaps Mrs Claus needs a good seeing-to and distracts Santa away from his other Christmas duties?

Sexy Christmas role play can be as kinky and involved as you’re comfortable with. There could be fantastical beast elements, age play elements, bondage, corporal punishment… the only limit is your own imagination. Include Christmas-themed sex toys to make it even more immersive – more on those in a little while!

‘Gift wrap’ your partner – in kinky bondage

We’ve talked about unwrapping your partner as a gift, but what about wrapping them up? If you’re both open to a little (or a lot of) kink, then indulge in the pleasure of bondage this Christmastime.

Use Santa-red rope to create a bondage harness, or if your Shibari skills aren’t quite there yet then just use a festive red bondage restraint kit. Finish with a sparkling diamanté butt plug and some tinsel threaded through the nipple clamps and voila! You’ve gift-wrapped your very own kinky Christmas gift. Will you open straight away, or enjoy the wait and shared anticipation?

Play a sexy Christmas adult game

If you can find time to be just a couple this Christmas, no children or relatives or houseguests around, why not enjoy playing a sexy adult game together? It’s a fun and relaxed way of getting ‘in the mood’ without any pressure, and these adult games are often designed to help you find out more about each other’s sexual interests and fantasies.

Ditch the Scrabble and Monopoly this Christmas and get your hands on one of the many sexy adult games available instead. There are some fantastic options to choose from including the internationally renowned Monogamy, the raunchy Lovehoney Oh! Fantastic Foreplay Board Game (shop: lovehoney.com / lovehoney.co.uk), as well as festive-themed adult card games like Santa Says from Bondara.

Use tinsel as a sexy bedroom accessory

We love a bit of tinsel sparkling on the tree at Christmas, but did you know that tinsel can also be used as a sensual accessory to spice up your love life during the holiday season? Use a piece of tinsel as if it were a feather tickler over their naked body to tease, arouse and delight.

How else could you incorporate tinsel in your love life this Christmas? Let your imagination run wild… I’ll also be sharing a feature later this month on 5 kinky uses for Christmas tinsel, so watch out for that.

Enjoy Christmas-themed sex toys during foreplay arousal

Yes, there are Christmas-themed sex toys – and they’re so incredibly cute! Using festively themed vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and more in your masturbation and shared intimacy moments is sure to keep you full of festive cheer and your libido sky-high.

I have written a separate feature about Christmas-themed sex toys so you can find them all there – my favourites are:

• Candy Cane Glass Dildo
• Get Sleighed Reindeer Bullet Vibrator
• Christmas Tree Glass Butt Plug

Discover the whole range in my related feature then buy your favourites to spice up your sexy merry-making this December!

Light a festive-scent candle & give each other an erotic massage

I just love the ambience and evocative scents of scented candles. My absolute favourite at Christmastime is ‘Christmas Eve’ by Yankee Candle, but there are loads to choose from. Whatever your favourite from the sugared plum, cinnamon, mulled wine or festive spices on offer, light a candle in the boudoir this holiday season to help you both get into a relaxed mood before lovemaking.

The combination of soft, warm candle-light and the aromatic scent will arouse your senses and allow you both to fully focus on each other during your precious quality couple’s time. Have some luxurious massage oils on hand, pop down a large towel and spoil each other with a delicious relaxing-then-erotic massage by flickering, festive candlelight.

As always, I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this feature plus discovered some useful tips for sexing up your Christmas together this year. Build on the 10 festive foreplay ideas featured above, using your unique creativity and passion for your partner to sensually delight them through the holiday season. Remember that it isn’t about how much you can spend on accessories, it’s about setting aside time in your busy schedules to stop, take yourselves away from the rest of the world for a little while, and focus on precious intimate time together.

Prioritise romance, being present in each and every adult-only moment you can find, and recall what attracted you to your partner in the first place. Then you’ll discover a magical, romantic, grown-up side of Christmas you may have never before experienced.

Wishing you all an exciting, sexy and joyful Christmas-time, and a completely fulfilled New Year.

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