Sex Advice

Sex advice that’s practical, pleasure-focused and grounded in real life.

Welcome to my Sex Advice hub. This is where I keep my most useful guidance on intimacy, confidence, communication, boundaries and desire, alongside kink-aware advice that’s consent-forward and emotionally safe. If you’re here because you want better sex, less confusion, more connection, or simply a clearer understanding of what you like, you’re in the right place.

A lot of sex advice online is either painfully vague or wildly unrealistic. I write about sex as it actually happens in real bodies and real relationships, with real-life factors like stress, hormones, disability, ageing, parenting, trauma history and fluctuating libido in the mix. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s more ease, more confidence, and more pleasure on your terms.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Advice Posts

This category pulls together articles and guides across a wide range of sex and relationship topics, including:

  • Intimacy and connection in long-term relationships, plus practical relationship advice
  • Sex tips that focus on comfort, pleasure and confidence, not performance, including my main sex tips archive
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and confidence building via my masturbation guides
  • Real-world guidance on exploring toys, sensation and variety in my sex toy advice posts and sex toy guides, including practical deep dives like my G-spot toys guide
  • Kink-aware discussions, from curiosity to confident play, in my kinky sex advice section
  • Consent-forward BDSM information and emotional safety in my BDSM advice archive
  • Chastity-focused guidance for those who are exploring control, anticipation and power dynamics in my chastity advice posts

Why Read My Sex Advice

I’ve been writing about sex, relationships and pleasure for years, and I keep my approach grounded and human. I’m not here to sell you a perfect version of sexuality. I’m here to help you make sense of what you want, what you feel, and what actually works in your life. You’ll see a mix of practical tips, honest reflections, and the kind of nuance that gets lost when people pretend sex is simple.

If you prefer your learning with a side of storytelling, you might also like my sexy stories and kinky sexy stories, where desire and intimacy get explored in a more imaginative way.

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How To Cool Down Hot Summer Sex

If only there was a way to still enjoy sizzling sex and masturbation during a heatwave, without melting into a distinctly unsexy, sticky mess. In this feature I’ll be revealing how to cool down hot summer sex with some tried & tested techniques, so you can still enjoy intense intimacy whatever the weather.
Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Worrying that using butt plugs or other anal sex toys will make you gay seems to be a fear peculiar to cishet men. Today I’m addressing this issue and giving my definitive answer to the regularly asked question, “will using anal sex toys make me gay?”

YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink Explained

There should be no shame or judgement when it comes to safe sexual & kinky activities alone or between consenting adults. However, YKINMK regularly proves itself a relevant and important philosophy.

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Vacation

Whatever else you’ve got on your packing checklist, today I’m going to help you sex up your suitcase. I'll also show that no matter what sort of holiday you’re looking forward to, intimate solo or shared erotic pleasure should be a priority. Welcome to my guide to packing for a sexy vacation!

Realistic Sex Dolls Guide: Let’s Stop Sex Doll Stigma

How do you feel about sex dolls? Have you/would you ever use them? How do you feel about people who enjoy using sex dolls? Welcome to my realistic sex dolls guide, where I’ll be exploring the features of these oft-maligned sex toys, and revealing where to get the best quality luxury adult dolls for your intimate pleasure & companionship needs.

Sniffing Dirty Panties: Exploring the Worn Knickers Kink

The scent of a warm, fresh, eagerly aroused pussy is intrinsically sexy. It’s therefore no great surprise that this scent, which can linger on worn underwear, is always in great demand. If you are turned on by sniffing dirty panties, rest assured that you’re not alone. The worn knickers kink is quite common, and I have some personal experience with it too.

Autofellatio: How To Suck Your Own Cock

I’m lucky enough to have photographic evidence of someone performing autofellatio. A reader got in touch via email and we discussed the subject, and they were happy for me to publish this photo of them sucking their own cock. In fact, they were positively enthusiastic about the idea.

Using All Five Senses During Sex

Ever wondered how your senses might be connected to your sexuality? How can greater awareness of this connection lead to an enhanced enjoyment of erotic intimacy? In this comprehensive exploration by Jon Pressick from sexinwords.ca, you can look forward to finding out about using all five senses during sex. Sight, sound, taste, touch and scent*. Let's get started!

Easter Sex Toys: Bunny Vibrators & Egg-Inspired Pleasure Picks

Easter sex toys are a fun but also surprisingly effective way to give your bank holiday bedroom plans a seasonal twist. From bunny vibrators and fluffy tail plugs to egg-inspired toys, cheeky chocolate pairings and even a thrillingly kinky carrot dildo, this feature showcases my top Easter-themed pleasure picks for saucy thrills this Spring. 
Ceramic Easter bunny couple kissing beside pastel eggs on a blue background

Sexy Easter Ideas for Couples: Be At It Like Bunnies All Weekend

Looking for sexy Easter ideas for couples? You’re in the right place. Enjoy this seasonal feature which helps you inject saucy springtime fun that goes far beyond chocolate eggs and Sunday lunch. Easter weekend is the perfect excuse to slow down and connect with your partner, exploring new, exciting ways to enhance your shared intimacy and get playful together. 

Seven Deadly Sex Sins

What follows is an examination of the Seven Deadly Sins - or rather, the Seven Deadly Sex Sins - by Jon Pressick from sexinwords.ca. So, what are the 7 deadly sins? They are Lust, Gluttony, Sloth, Greed, Envy, Wrath & Pride (and this is the order they're written about, below). Over to you, Jon!

What Does BDSM Stand For? Acronym, Meaning & Kinky Origins

Curious about BDSM? This guide explains what BDSM stands for, breaks down the acronym, explores its origins, and looks at the BDSM triskelion symbol recognised worldwide.

Benefits Of A Regular Sex Life In Middle-Age

When I was younger, I thought sex was strictly reserved for the young. People in their 40s, 50s, 60s and older having sex? Talk to the hand! Time marches on for all of us though, and as I approach my mid-40s myself I have to admit that I was totally wrong. Not only do I still have a strong libido and active love life, there are various unexpected benefits to a regular sex life in middle-age as well.

Safe Sex Guide: Healthy Hook-Ups Every Time

After the severe social restrictions of the last couple of years, many people will be enjoying some tentative freedoms with regards meeting people in-person again. Dating is back! The term 'dating' is a bit vague - it could mean searching for a long-term partner or hooking up for some no-strings sex. How can you ensure healthy hook-ups and enjoy safe sex, though?
Edging In Masturbation How To Edge And Why You Should Try

What Is Edging In Masturbation? How To ‘Edge’ & Why You Should Try It

Experimenting with new bedroom techniques, positions and sensations is a great way to ensure your sex life remains healthy and varied. It's easy to discount masturbation as not really part of your 'sex life', but don't make that mistake - exploring new solo sexual ventures keeps things fresh and exciting. You're worth it!

Vaginismus: How To Ease Vaginal Tightness

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina spasm and painfully tighten during penetration. This tightening is involuntary; the person suffering with vaginismus has no control over it and is unable to make it stop.

Using Ice Cubes In Sex And Masturbation

I really struggle with the heat in summer. It's annoying being far too hot all the time –not to mention the resulting dent in my libido. That said, I've been using ice cubes during sex & masturbation for years, which is certainly a big help during a heatwave. Let me share some of my icy sexual pleasure tips with you here today.

Countries Where Sex Toys Are Banned

If you're a sex toy fan it's important that you do your research about the countries where sex toys are banned. Find out whether you can take your vibrators on vacation without legal repercussions or embarrassment while going through security.

How To Measure Your Penis For Best Cock Ring Fit

A cock ring might be worn for the wearer’s pleasure only, or to provide stimulation to both partners during sex. Because a love ring is worn around a sensitive part of the body, it’s imperative that you get the right size. Today I’ll explain how to measure your penis for best cock ring fit.

App-Controlled Sex Toys Guide

Every industry is striving to provide customers with the latest technological advancements in their products, and the sex toy industry is no different. That's right, there are smartphone app controlled sex toys! Read on to find out more about these app-controlled vibrators and internet enabled vibrators.