Monster Sex Fantasies Kink: Tentacles, Werewolves and Erotic Fear Play
Monster sex fantasies are the result of a primal force within us. These taboo desires blur the line between desire and danger, where pleasure is laced with fear. What do you dream about pleasurably devouring you?
Vampire Fetish Guide: Biting, Blood and BDSM Power Exchange
Through the centuries, there have always been people with a vampire fetish, folk fascinated with these elegantly erotic predators. Vampires may be dark and deadly, but they’re also incredibly alluring and seductive, with a commanding presence, otherworldly creature vibes and tantalising immortality. Sharp fangs and pale skin are the finishing touches to the power theme which blends Domination, submission and blood.
The Real Monster Mash: Scary Strokers for Spooky Solo Sex
Ready to face your most frightening fuck fantasies this Halloween? Grab a comforting blanket and a bottle of thick ‘n slick lube because I’m diving into the most creepy creature penis toys around. Whether you’re hunting tentacle textures or dreaming of gliding past vampire fangs, this guide to scary strokers rounds up the most popular monster masturbators and fantasy sleeves for daring Halloween thrills and year-round chills.
Sexy Horror Movies That Will Get Your Pulse Racing
So many of us have a thing for sexy horror movies. Yeah, the jump scares are fun, but what about the electrifying undercurrent of eroticism? Blood-red lips, vulnerable victims, lustful monsters, screams that sound suspiciously like moans... Oh yeah. There’s a whole lot more to horror cinema than fancying a Hollywood fright night.
Kinky Halloween Costumes: Sexy Dress-Up Ideas for Dominants and Submissives
Kinky Halloween costumes help you make the most of this dark and daring time of year, offering kinksters a fun, easy way to celebrate all things deliciously deviant. You might be more familiar with regular ghost or zombie costumes during Samhain celebrations, but my alternative Halloween dress-up guide will help you find BDSM Halloween costume ideas instead.
Can I Put Ice in My Ass? Anal Play With Ice Cubes
Experimenting with hot and cold during sex & masturbation can help you discover new ways your body likes to be stimulated, and it’s so easy to do. It’s vital to stay safe in all your explorations though. Sliding ice over your erogenous zones is one thing. But using ice cubes for anal pleasure? I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s idly wondered, ‘Can I put ice in my ass?’
How to Have Sex With Yourself Beyond Masturbation
Recently I’ve been exploring imaginative ways to love myself, learning how to have sex with yourself in ways that feel deeper than masturbation. I don’t mean self-care acts like bubble baths and meditation; I mean the physical act of making love to myself. Usually, solo sex means one thing: a quick wank using my favourite sex toys and technique. A finger fumble or a quick buzz from a vibe, something secretive or rushed, with the goal of self-pleasure being orgasm and done. But there’s so much more to experience.
How BDSM Empowers Women to Reclaim Sexual Control and Desire
For women in particular, BDSM can be an affirming space where we explore power on our own terms, breaking out of the boxes society loves to shove us into and where we reclaim our control and desire. Today’s article is the second part of my women's sexuality series, where I explore how BDSM empowers women — and anyone who enjoys feminine expressions of consensual power and submission — no matter your gender or identity in the D/s scene.
Celebrating Women’s Sexuality: Overcoming Shame Through Pleasure
For centuries, women’s sexuality has been silenced, shamed, mocked and dismissed as irrelevant. The Cara Sutra sex blog is my way of being loud and proud about my sexual pleasure, while sharing my experience and advice for the enjoyment of my readers. Today I am specifically focusing on celebrating women’s sexuality, exploring how women of the modern world are fighting shame with pleasure and slowly turning the tide on long-standing myths and stigma.
Lad Culture: How Sexist Phrases About Women Are Still Thriving
Despite all the progress we’ve made in gender equality, sexist phrases about women are still alive and well in 2025 — often hiding in plain sight. You’ll hear them in pubs, group chats, podcasts,...
Lingerie Terms Guide: Understanding What Each Style Means
I keep hearing phrases such as chemise, camisole, teddy and merry widow in relation to lingerie types, but coming up with the correct definition of each one? Beyond me. Is it the same for you? Good news: you can stop worrying. Today, confusion no longer reigns. Today, by the end of this feature, we’ll all have a good understanding of the different lingerie styles. Welcome to my lingerie terms guide!
Feel Me
I felt his middle finger move to slide deeper inside me, as I brought my glass up to my mouth - to gag the cry threatening to burst from me, as well as to quench my suddenly dry lips. It was all I could do to stop my hand trembling around my drink - a tremble I felt down my body through my knees down to my high-heeled, bare feet – as he worked me deeper still, finger curling to fuck my tight pussy as his thumb brushed teasingly over my electrified clit.
Celebrating Women-Led Sex Toy Brands
The sexual wellness industry is undergoing a dynamic transformation, and women-led sex toy brands are at the forefront of this change. These trailblazing entrepreneurs are revolutionising the space with body-safe, inclusive, and innovative designs that prioritise real pleasure and empowerment.
Is It OK To Gift My Friend A Vibrator? Or Too Weird?
I declare my love of vibrators loud and proud for all to hear here at the Cara Sutra sex blog of course, but away from the web I find myself talking about them with open-minded, sex-positive friends, too. What about giving sex toys as gifts? Would a sex toy make a bold, empowering present, or an awkward, never-spoken-of-again mistake? In today’s feature, I’m exploring whether it’s OK to gift a friend a vibrator, or if it’s just too weird.
How to Write a Love Letter That Captures Your True Feelings
You don’t need to be Shakespeare or Keats; you just need to set aside a little time and thought, then do your best to express yourself on the paper. No-one will be grading it or judging it – your partner is sure to be moved by your best efforts. In today’s feature, I’ll be providing my 8 tips on how to write a love letter that captures your true feelings.
Allowing Sadness Without Guilt
On reflection, I felt a lot of pressure to conform to fake happiness when I was a child - a girl child, Gen X, raised by boomer parents in a small community on a...
New Year, Still You: A Gentle Guide to Sustainable Change
Gentle New Year resolutions are inspiring and genuinely beneficial, rather than dramatic or punishing. This guide is about choosing subtle, sustainable change that supports who you already are.
Perimenopause Update 2024: The Year I Fought Back & Changed My Life
2024 has been the year I fought back against the tricky beast of perimenopause, but the fight has taken a different form to my usual stubbornly defiant style of battle. I now understand why they call it the change; not just because of the physical changes imposed upon me, but because I have had to change how I live in the everyday, and the change has been both monumental and magnificent.
Temperature Play in the Bedroom: Blow Hot and Cold for Pleasure
As the darker nights of autumn and the frosty chill of winter sets in, staying cosy at home and enjoying the romance of candles or fairy lights is extremely appealing. Today I want to share my guide to temperature play in the bedroom, advice which will help you blow hot & cold during sex no matter what the weather is like outside your bedroom window.
How to Buy Comfortable Sexy Lingerie That Feels Sensational
With some shops offering lingerie sets in dress sizes (which may or may not resemble the actual size stated), and others opting for the vague ‘small, medium and large’ style sizing, buying lingerie that fits and flatters your body can feel like an impossible task. Welcome to my guide to buying comfortable sexy lingerie...
