Using Ice Cubes In Sex And Masturbation

Using Ice Cubes In Sex And Masturbation

Every year summer rolls around and I melt into a hot, sweaty mess. Here in the UK, most houses aren’t fitted with air con as standard – we focus more on installing central heating ready for the cold winters. While this keeps me snug as a bug during the icy months, I really struggle with the heat in summer. It’s annoying being far too hot all the time –not to mention the resulting dent in my libido. That said, I’ve been using ice cubes in sex and masturbation for years, which is certainly a big help during a heatwave. Let me share some of my icy sexual pleasure tips with you here today.

Do The Safety Splash

If you’ve ever seen comedy sketches where someone gets their tongue stuck to a frozen lamppost – or if you’ve ever had your lip stuck to a fresh-from-the-freezer ice lolly (popsicle) – you’d hope this one would be obvious. Briefly rinse ice cubes or other frozen sex accessories under a splash of running water just before use.

This advice may seem obvious, but we can all get swept up in the heat of the moment. Don’t let your intimate session become a source of discomfort and embarrassment just because you forgot the number one ‘icy pleasure’ rule.

Can You Handle The Heat Cold

Using an ice cube on naked skin and especially on and in your intimate areas is an extreme sensation. It’s not for everyone; it comes down to both personal preference and what you (or they) can tolerate.

See how it feels elsewhere on your body first, and at a time when you can think properly, ie. not mid sexy session. Run a rinsed ice cube over the inside of your arm, or the inside of your thigh… how is that feeling? Good?

Hopefully this will ease any apprehension about experimenting with ice in the bedroom.

How To Use Ice Cubes To ‘Heat Up’ Pleasure Sessions

Let’s talk icy technique. How can you use ice cubes to enhance sex & masturbation?

Simply take an ice cube in your fingers and glide it slowly over either your own body or your partner’s. Tease with the ice cube, enjoying the sensation as it travels up from the navel to around the breasts, over the nipples, then back down over the pelvic mound and vulva. When the time is right, allow it to dip a bit further down, between labia and over the clit, if you/they can stand it. Or over the penis shaft and around the testicles, down to the perineum.

I’ve slipped an ice cube inside myself before using a dildo along with a clit stim toy and it’s unspeakably thrilling. I love it.

Another way to incorporate ice in your cool sensual playtimes is to pop a cube into your mouth before giving oral sex.

However you decide to experiment with ice during couple’s sex play, make sure you go slowly and take note of your partner’s responses. It might be a good idea to set a safeword before you begin so it will be immediately clear if it all gets too much and they need to stop.

Freezable Sex Toys & Accessories

Can you buy sex toys and products specifically for chilly temperature play? There used to be a mini vibe from Shots Toys called the Touché Ice bullet vibrator, and I absolutely loved it. Sadly, this was discontinued a few years ago. Never fear, you can still enjoy that icy sex toy sensation with items you may already have in your sex toy stash.

Silicone dildos can be placed in the freezer for a couple of hours to get them suitably icy cold. Remember to give it a ‘safety splash’ immediately before using intimately.

Similarly, glass dildos can be put in the freezer to thoroughly cool them. Borosilicate glass (Pyrex), which is used to make good quality glass dildos, is freezer & body safe. Click to read more about the safety of glass dildos. Again, you will need to ‘safety splash’ the dildo or at least leave it out for a little while to make sure you avoid a painful ice-latch or freezer burn to your delicate places.

Don’t forget the lube! While this is just good general sex advice, don’t forget that lubricant makes an excellent chilled-down enhancer for those balmy summer nights. Water-based lubricant can freeze very quickly, so I’d advise setting a timer if you choose this route.
I prefer to pop lubes into the fridge to just get them colder than usual, without the worry that they’ll freeze solid.

Flavoured lubricants are brilliant straight from the fridge. Chill then drizzle, to enjoy a cool, sweet treat direct from your partner’s intimate zones.

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DIY Sex Toys Using The Freezer

In my making sex toys at home feature I talked about the possibility of a homemade sex toy using your freezer: filling a condom with water or lubricant, tying it off then placing in the freezer until you have a frozen solid sex insertable.

Since I wrote that article, I’ve discovered ‘bottle ice cube’ trays, which I think are absolutely fantastic for icy sex adventures (buy yours from Amazon.com or Amazon.co.uk). Sure, you end up with a smaller frozen toy, and one not contained in a condom when it starts to melt. But for those who may be intimated by the size of the frozen phallus created by condoms, or for those who need to keep their icy adventures more discreet, they’re ideal.
Tip: Buy the cylindrical rather than cuboid styles!

Freeze water or the lubricant of your choice in the silicone bottle ice cube tray, then pop out, quick-rinse and use as desired. The slender frozen cylinders can be used on or inside the body –personal ‘chill-tolerance level’ dependent, of course.

Popsicles & Vaginas

You might be tempted to use ice lollies (popsicles) for sexy chills in the bedroom –and for vaginal insertion in particular. Believe me, I know how tempting some of those popsicle shapes are… imagining them sliding inside, when horniness and heatwave are battling it out in my mind.

Unfortunately, you need to be extremely careful when using ice lollies for vaginal insertion due to their sugar content. Although I’ve never personally had a problem after using products containing sugar or glycerine in my vagina, some people who use sugar-containing items & glycerine-containing lubes in their vagina suffer strong negative reactions.

Sugars can irritate the delicate pH balance in the vagina, leading to anything from minor irritation to a severe rash and complications like bacterial vaginosis (thrush) or cystitis/UTIs.

Instead, why not find a vagina-friendly lubricant (flavoured would be ideal) and freeze into ‘ice lollies’ using a DIY popsicle maker set*?

*find here in the US or the UK

Save Your Sheets

While you’re tempering the summer sizzle with ice cubes, super-chilled dildos or a drizzle of iced lube, you might have a few concerns about your mattress and sheets. Never fear! There are some amazing items to help you continue the cool, melty/messy play without any worries whatsoever.

For just a little bit of icy foolin’ around, you might like to pop one of the Cumpanion sex towels beneath you. I have one of these myself and they’re so handy. I even used it on our wedding night, and I can’t think of a stronger product recommendation than that!

If you’re planning on a spectacularly wet and wild adventure, perhaps the Sheets of San Francisco might be more your thing. These 100% fluid-proof sheets (yep, I’ve checked!) come in various mattress sizes -and you can even get full duvet sets, as well as standard or fitted sheets.

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