50 Kinky Tasks to Give Your sub: Domination Inspiration For Dommes

Last Updated on 27 May, 2026 by Cara Sutra

Setting tasks for your sub and enjoying him face the challenge of carrying them out to your complete satisfaction is one of the many joys of being a Domme. Issuing an order which he hurries to obey reiterates the whole delicious Dominance and submission dynamic of FemDom. Despite outward appearances, the Dominant woman and faithful male slave scenario isn’t all about the woman relaxing leisurely whilst the male submissive runs about fulfilling an endless list of commands. Constantly coming up with new ideas for tasks to set your sub or slave is an ongoing challenge in itself, and can be exhausting. If you feel like you’re out of ideas, low on energy and lacking inspiration, this handy list of 50 tasks to set your sub is exactly what you need.

This FemDom resource is a compilation of fifty task ideas covering a range of themes. It includes commands which can be completed by your submissive or slave either in-person, or through an online D/s relationship. There are rituals and habits for him to adhere to and become conditioned by, writing tasks to exercise his imagination and to entertain you, chores to help make your life better in practical, directly useful ways. Some of the tasks in this extensive list help cement the Domme/sub bond, underscoring the Domination and submission element of your relationship, with sexual control, humiliation, protocol directives, firm corrective actions to guide and wonderfully harsh punishments if he ever strays from the path.

As with everything BDSM, what works for me may not work for you. All D/s dynamics are unique to the people involved, so please take this list of tasks as kinky inspiration which you can adapt to suit.

Quick notes before we start:

Everything here assumes active, ongoing consent between you and your sub. Talk through your mutual limits before you play (yes, Dominants have limits too), and have a safeword or traffic light system in place that you both agree to and use when necessary.
If you’re new to all this, my BDSM beginner’s guide has all the information you need to get started safely.

I also want to address the gendered language used in this guide. I have assumed “she” and “Domme” for the Dominant and “he” for the submissive, but I’m aware your particular dynamic may use other gender identities. The world is a beautifully diverse place, with cis people, trans people, non binary people (and probably many more I’m not yet aware of but I’m happy to be educated about), all walking this life together.

Daily Rituals and Habit-Based Tasks

Daily rituals are an effective conditioning device. Having him develop habits of your choosing will mould him into the submissive you want and deserve. The tasks in this section look deceptively easy, and that’s deliberate. Daily tasks which are easy to do consistently become important rituals for your submissive. Regular, pertinent reminders of their service and devotion to you.

You should be their first thought when they open their eyes in the morning, and their last thought before falling into contented submissive sleep at night. Your take on these tasks will ensure that’s the case.

1. Daily journal entry. Hand-written or typed, addressed to you, detailing how he served you that day and what he was thinking about while he did it. Read it when you feel like it. Critique when warranted. Sometimes don’t acknowledge it at all and let him stew.
2. Morning mantra recording. He records himself saying something appropriate ten times on waking. “I exist to serve my Mistress” is the classic. Make him write his own if you want it to sting more, then make him say yours over the top of his.
3. Morning check-in message. A polite “Good morning, Mistress. Thank You for allowing me to serve” sent before he’s allowed to do anything else. Not after coffee. Not after the loo. Before.
4. Bedtime permission. He has to ask before he sleeps. You decide whether he gets it on time, or whether tonight’s the night he stays up a bit longer thinking about why he wasn’t allowed.
5. Three daily gratitudes. He lists three reasons he’s lucky to serve you. No repeats within the week. Watch him squirm by Thursday.
6. Worn token of submission. A chastity device, a collar, a discreet ring. Something against his skin he can feel every time he moves, every time he sits down, every time he forgets for half a second who he is.
7. Five minutes of kneeling. No phone, no distractions, nothing to do but kneel on a hard floor (or a kneeling bench if you want him in formal position) and think about his place. Boring on purpose. The point isn’t to entertain him.

Creative and Writing-Based Tasks

Writing tasks are an ingenious way to force your sub to spend time thinking deeply about the nature of their submission, and the intricacies of their service to you. You get to possess their mind during the task, hone their writing and communication skills, and enjoy the entertainment and arousal that their completed task brings… when you eventually read it at your leisure.

When you decide to read and enjoy the fruits of their writing labour, you decide just how well they fulfilled the task for you. How is their handwriting, if you made them write it out by hand? Are there any spelling mistakes? Any D/s protocol errors (upper casing the y in ‘You’ and ‘Your’ for the Dominant, lower case ‘i’ personal pronoun for the submissive, for example), if that’s one of your things? Did they complete the task comprehensively, taking care and time? Or was it clearly rushed and over with as soon as possible, which is an insult to you? Did you genuinely enjoy their work?

These creative tasks are easy on you and challenging for them, which is the right way around. They’re easy to verify, help reinforce his submissive role and you can mark his work as cruelly as you desire.

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   Write his own degradation fantasy. He submits it to you for critique. You mark it up like a teacher with a red pen. Hand it back. Watch him read your notes.

9. “Why I know I’m submissive” essay. Minimum word count of your choosing. Honesty rewarded, deflection punished, and you’ll spot the deflection within two paragraphs.
10. Love letter to your boots or your lingerie. Not to you. To the objects. He needs to know exactly where he ranks in your wardrobe.
11. Slave CV. A working document listing his weaknesses, the humiliations that work on him, the practical ways he can serve. Keep it on file. Update annually. Refer to it when he forgets what he is.
12. Transcribe an audio instruction by hand. Word for word, no shortcuts. Painfully slow, which is exactly the point.
13. “Items I should be denied” shopping list. He writes what he wants. You decide whether he gets any of it. Probably he doesn’t.
14. Design an advertisement for himself. As a used object or product. Tagline, features, target market. He has to sell himself, despite the fact you’re the only buyer. Unless you want to work in some slave auction roleplay, of course.
15. Weekly research task. One historical Domme, Femdom figure or Goddess per week. Written report submitted on a set day. He learns something. You get to test him on it later.

Service Tasks (Domestic and Practical)

I love giving my slaves domestic chores when the opportunity arises, they directly make my life easier and more enjoyable therefore completing these tasks is fulfilling for both of us. He gets the satisfaction of being in my presence whilst actively serving me, unless I choose to go out shopping with his money while he stays behind to clean my home of course, and I get a clean and organised home, or a servant waiting on me hand and foot, or a useful piece of human furniture.

It’s easy to see why service tasks are often the most popular Domme commands among devoted submissives.

16. Deep clean the bathroom. Photographic proof of every surface. Re-do anything that isn’t to standard. Tell him exactly which corner he missed.
17. Iron your laundry in his cage. Nothing on him but a locked chastity device and a small apron. Heat plus exposure equals very attentive ironing. If you don’t trust him to iron your smalls safely, demand that he handwashes a week’s worth of your worn underwear instead, then hangs them carefully to dry.
18. Prepare and present your drinks. Kneeling. With a thank-you for being allowed to serve them. Send him back if the temperature’s wrong.
19. Grocery shop in chastity. Or with painted fingernails. Or both, if you’re feeling particularly mean. His choice of which is more nerve-wracking, your choice of whether he gets a choice at all.
20. Footstool duty. While you read, while you scroll, while you take a long phone call. He holds the position. You don’t acknowledge him until you’re done.
21. Run your bath and lay out your clothes. Then he kneels in the corner and waits until you’re finished, watching you and not allowed to touch.
22. Organise your wardrobe, makeup or favourite vibrators. Your preferred system, his careful execution, and a clear understanding that the toys he’s handling are not for him.

Humiliation Tasks

Consensual humiliation is another of my favourite Domme/sub sports. The key is understanding that BDSM humiliation isn’t about enacting full capacity cruelty upon someone to vent personal frustrations, it’s about scratching a mutual kinky itch in a safe and consensual way.

These humiliating tasks for submissives force him to face the realities of his ego and of his status in your world. A world where the woman is in charge, and he exists to serve, to amuse, to arouse. Done right, the memory of obeying these tasks (or some tailored twist inspired by them) will fuel his hottest submissive memories for years to come. And I’m sure you’ll delight in their recollection too, as I do of my submissives’ past humiliations.

After your sub has obediently walked through the fire of humiliation for you, make sure you provide appropriate aftercare. These sorts of tasks render a submissive more sensitive and vulnerable than many other types. It’s important to not only respect boundaries and set a safing out method for the tasks, but also provide reassurance of your attentive and stable Dominance and ownership of them afterwards.

23. Uncomfortable or embarrassing underwear under his normal clothes. All day. Photographic proof in the morning, again at night, and every time he thinks about taking them off he knows you’ll know. I have fond memories of ordering a slave to wear a red bra underneath his shirt during his office job.
24. Eats or drinks from a dog bowl. Water is the gentle version. Food he doesn’t like is the harder one. On the floor, no hands, the whole performance.
25. Slave pose practice in the mirror. He critiques his own form aloud. You critique his critique. He doesn’t stop until you say so.
26. One hundred lines. “I exist for Her. I am the property of Mistress.” Hand-written. Any errors mean starting again from the top.
27. Submit a degrading photo with caption. He chooses the position and writes his own caption. You decide whether it was embarrassing enough or whether he needs to try harder.
28. Subtle public humiliation. A butt plug in while he runs errands. Painted toenails inside his work shoes, or even pink painted fingernails to go grocery shopping. Something he will remain aware of, and something he has to manage all day.
29. Beg for something he doesn’t want. Then deny him anyway. The begging is the whole point.
30. Read explicit erotica aloud. Recorded, sent to you, no shortcuts. Bonus points if you pick something that mirrors his own situation right back at him and he has to read it knowing you chose it for that reason.

Sexual Control and Chastity Tasks

I insist on taking full control of my submissives’ and slaves’ sexual pleasure. When they can masturbate, when they can orgasm. Chastity is the cornerstone of my consensual control over them.

Chastity-led Femdom opens up the potential for plenty of tasks you can set your sub. These tasks move chastity from simply wearing a locked cage and avoidance of physical sexual pleasure into an actively bonding, not to mention deeply arousing, element of your D/s dynamic.

The following chastity tasks will reiterate to him that his orgasms and ability to experience sexual pleasure aren’t his anymore, they’re yours. Any pleasure experienced is with your explicit permission. Whether he’s able to earn an orgasm, or even the chance to experience edging with a frustrating lack of orgasm at the end, is completely up to you.

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    Daily cage inspection photo. Same time, same angle, same lighting. No creative flourishes. The point isn’t the photo, it’s that the first thing he does every morning is think about his locked cock and you.

32. Tease session ending in ruined orgasm or denial. Text, voice or video, whichever he hates most. You can usually tell which by which one he asks for least often.
33. Masturbation journal. Every touch, every beg, every denial logged. Submitted weekly. Review it before you decide what comes next, or doesn’t.
34. Earned stroking time. One non-sexual obedience task per minute. He’ll work out very quickly which chores he prefers, and you’ll work out very quickly how desperate he is.
35. Full edging routine, no release. Video proof, no shortcuts, your timings down to the second. He stops when you say stop. Remote-controlled Lovense toys are perfect for this if you want hands-on (or rather, hands-off) control from anywhere.
36. Orgasm ban until a number of tasks are complete. The number is yours. You don’t have to tell him what it is. Half the cruelty is in the not knowing.
37. Name his cock something degrading. Whatever you pick is what it’s called from now on. He uses the name in writing and out loud, including when he’s begging you about it.
38. Set chastity period with countdown calendar. He updates it daily. Miss a day, the counter resets to zero. He’ll never miss twice. Step up to an inverted cage if the standard one isn’t making the point hard enough anymore.

Obedience Training and Protocol Tasks

Your submissive should be extremely obedient anyway, as part of their ongoing devotion and service to you. That said, a little extra training and conditioning will make sure they’re always perfectly aligned with your desires.

Obedience training and protocol tasks is the way to go. Once there are clear rules about how you wish to be addressed, how he should enter a room, how to sit, kneel and stand, your preferences with regards eye contact or any other behavioural aspects, every single interaction with you, his Owner, becomes a reminder of the power exchange dynamic. You get a polite, well trained, and fully obedient slave, and he gets to serve a happy Domme. Win-win.

39. Memorise the slave manual. Your rules, his recall, on command, accurately. Test him at random.
40. Position training. Named postures with required precision. Hold each for a set time. Critique the failures out loud while he holds the next one. A kneeling bench makes formal positions easier to enforce and more visually satisfying.
41. Restricted vocabulary. “Yes Mistress” and “No Mistress” only during assigned hours. Anything else is a slip, and every slip earns him a tally mark.
42. Stand or kneel on your entry. No exceptions, no warnings. He notices you, he reacts correctly, or he gets it wrong and finds out what happens then.
43. No speaking unless spoken to. Twenty-four hours. Tests his self-control more than you’d think, and tells you a lot about how often he speaks just to fill space. If he can’t manage it, a gag will help him remember.
44. Service-only speech for an evening. Anything outside the role is forbidden. He has to think before he opens his mouth, which is a useful habit for him to develop anyway.
45. Restricted clothing at home. A uniform you’ve chosen, nakedness, or whatever signals “in service” to both of you the moment he puts it on.

Punishment and Correction Tasks

There are punishments and there are what I call “funishments”. Sometimes you may feel it necessary to actually punish your submissive, for instance if they deliberately disobey you, they’re rude to you, or an embarrassment. These punishments are very different from the ones that spring to mind when you hear, “ooh, please punish me Mistress!”, usually from a sub with an eager, straining cock that’s throbbing at the thought of an over-the-knee spanking, or being bound face down to a bondage bench and abused with your largest strap-on.

Your submissive should work hard to avoid displeasing you, which means actual punishments should be few and far between. Even punishments dished out due to disobedience or rudeness can evoke arousal in submissives, which is understandable as they are a stark reminder of the power exchange dynamic. The point is, he learns that transgressions have consequences; consequences he would rather avoid. Fewer punishments may also mean more funishments, at your whim of course. In this way, your submissive is conditioned to want to obey and please you always.

46. Five-hundred word apology letter. Hand-written, no typing, no shortcuts. Specific about the breach and the lesson, not vague generalities. Vague gets it sent back.
47. Corner time with posture requirement. Photo every fifteen minutes. Any slouch resets the clock to zero.
48. Extra chores or extended denial. Match the punishment to the failure. Mess up a task, do three more, all to a higher standard than the first.
49. One hundred lines, no errors. “I must obey my Mistress.” Any mistake means starting from the top. Honest mistake or deliberate, doesn’t matter to the pen.
50. Self-spanking ritual with proof. Number of strikes, implement, position, all specified by you. Video evidence, aftercare instructions included, no negotiating on the count. Pick his implement from a proper impact play range if he doesn’t have one to hand.

Online vs In-Person: Adapting the List

The tasks for submissives mentioned in this post can be made to work for both in-person and online D/s dynamics. Depending on your type of Domme/sub relationship, you may need to adapt them to suit.

For online-only D/s, task completion to your standards needs to be verifiable. Photo proof, video evidence, written submissions, screenshots with timestamps. Daily check-ins matter far more than they would in person because they’re how you connect, and how you keep that connection active and strong. Masturbation control and chastity work especially well because they don’t need you to be in the room. You can lock him in a cage, have him send you the key (or use plastic numbered tags), and still have him on the leash.

For in-person Femdom, physical service tasks come into their own. Use the space. Make him kneel at your feet while you read, be your footstool while you watch TV, fetch your drinks when you click your fingers. Position training and high protocol are far easier to maintain when you’re in the same room with him, can feel the energy between you, and he’s on high alert to every command you utter.

Choosing the Right Task for the sub in Front of You

You may have a clear idea of what you want from your submissive, how you want them to act and the tasks you want them to complete for you, but this must be balanced according to your sub’s boundaries, experience, and submission style. The power exchange must be fully, actively consensual at all times, which is the result of negotiation rather than dictatorship, regardless of how the roleplay may make your interactions appear.

It’s important to give the right tasks to your particular submissive, tailoring them accordingly, rather than barking out this list of 50 tasks for your sub exactly as written. Some flexibility and adaptation will likely be required. There are a few factors to consider to avoid genuine conflict, boundary breaches or upset on either side.

His experience level. A brand new sub doesn’t need a hundred-line punishment task on day one. Build him up. Daily rituals first, then writing tasks, then service, then humiliation once he’s earned it and you’ve got a clear sense of what actually works on him.

The dynamic you actually want. If you’re not into degradation, don’t force yourself to assign humiliation tasks just because they’re on a list. The point is your enjoyment. He’s there to serve what you want, not perform what he’s read about in someone else’s Fetlife post.

His response patterns. Pay attention to which tasks he completes eagerly, which he drags his heels on, and which he resists outright. The resistance ones are often the most informative. They tell you where his ego still is. Whether you push there or back off is your call, but you should know.

The energy you’ve got. Setting tasks is work. Reviewing photo proof, critiquing essays, holding him to standards, all of it takes time and attention. Don’t over-commit. A small number of tasks reliably enforced will train him faster than a long list you can’t keep on top of.

Tasks to Avoid (and Why)

I realise this has been a long examination of what sort of tasks a Domme can set her submissive. You may be wondering about tasks to avoid, which roads aren’t worth travelling down, and anything which could lead to physical or psychological damage.

Doing everything with genuine care and compassion for your submissive will avoid many of the potential dangers. I firmly believe that FemDom is rooted in empathy; if we didn’t care, we wouldn’t Dominate those who seek us out and are a good mutual fit. The following is a brief list of guidance when it comes to specific things I advise you to avoid.

Anything involving people who haven’t consented. Public humiliation that drags strangers in as participants rather than oblivious extras. Tasks that involve sending photos or messages to anyone who hasn’t agreed to be in your dynamic. Family, colleagues, exes, off limits without their explicit consent.

Tasks that breach hard limits, whether his or yours. Even if a hard limit feels arbitrary on a given day, it’s a limit because someone said so. Don’t test it via a task.

Anything that risks his health, his job or his living situation. Long-term chastity with no medical breaks, food restrictions, anything that affects his ability to work or pay his rent. There’s nothing Dominant about owning a sub who’s lost his job because you set him a task he couldn’t complete safely.

Tasks set in actual anger. If you’re properly angry rather than playing at it, wait. Believe me, I know it’s difficult. Punishment tasks work as discipline, not as venting. The two feel completely different to both of you and the second kind erodes trust faster than you can rebuild it. In any case, this is about control, and what you say or command in anger is likely not a reflection of control at all.

Things you can’t or won’t follow up on. A task you don’t check is a task that didn’t happen. If you set it, enforce it. If you can’t enforce it, don’t set it in the first place. Not enforcing your rules or checking up on the tasks you set just communicates to your submissive that you don’t genuinely care, that you aren’t fully invested in this D/s dynamic.

FAQ

What’s a good first task to set a new sub?

The morning check-in message is the perfect place to start. It’s a low-risk task, easy for him to remember and easy for you to verify. More importantly, it conditions him to think of you the moment he wakes up. Once he’s reliable on that, you can start layering on the rest.

How often should I set tasks for my sub?

That depends on the dynamic you’ve built and the time you have to invest in it. A handful of daily rituals, combined with one larger task per week, is sustainable for most Dommes without becoming a second job. Daily essays and elaborate weekly humiliations sound delicious in theory, until you’re sitting on a stack of photo proof and unread submissions because you haven’t had a moment to enjoy them.

Can these tasks work in a long-distance Femdom dynamic?

Absolutely, and several of them are tailor-made for it. Writing tasks, daily check-ins, chastity protocols, photo and video proof. Long-distance D/s actually relies more heavily on regular task-setting than in-person dynamics do, because the tasks are the structure keeping the connection alive between sessions.

What should I do if he refuses to complete a task?

It depends entirely on why he’s refusing. If it’s a hard limit he didn’t flag during negotiation, that’s a conversation to have out of role, not a punishment opportunity. If it’s resistance for the sake of it, or because he wants to test you, that’s exactly what punishment tasks are designed for. Knowing the difference is one of the real skills of being a Domme.

How do I know if a task is going too far?

If you’re asking the question, slow down and check in with him out of role. Ask plainly, listen properly to the answer, and adjust accordingly. A sub who can’t tell you when something is too much is a sub you can’t play safely with in the first place. Building that ability in him is part of your job as his Domme, and it’s worth doing deliberately.

Should tasks for subs always be sexual?

Not at all, and some of the most powerful tasks aren’t overtly sexual in nature. Daily kneeling, journal entries, position training, none of these are explicitly sexual but all of them reinforce the D/s dynamic in deeply effective ways. The overtly sexual tasks land much harder when the rest of the framework is already solid around them.

A Domme’s Final Thoughts

Setting tasks for your sub isn’t about how creative or elaborate you can be. It’s about consistency, follow-through, and choosing tasks that fit the dynamic you actually have. Pick three or four from this list that suit you, enforce them properly, and you’ll get far more from them than you would from a wild combination of all 50 that gets abandoned after a fortnight. Add more once the basics are running on their own, and he no longer needs reminding.

If you’d like more from the Domme side of things, I’ve written about the powerful methods I use to maintain control over a sub, why I love locking men in chastity cages, and how I Dominate my slaves, from my own perspective. They pair beautifully with this list if you’re exploring your Dominant nature in more depth.

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