Bondage Hogties Guide: How and Why to Hogtie Safely
The favourite bondage hogtie piece I have in my own collection is the Shots Media Ouch! Wrist and Legcuffs Restraints, which isn't readily available in the UK any more but you can take a look at my review here.
There are definitely other, good quality bondage hogties you can purchase to give you the session you desire, however.
Sex and Disability: Intimacy, Desire, and Pleasure When Bodies Have Limits
This piece was written by a previous version of me, one who had higher libido, non-progressive deafness, and who didn’t yet know what it was like to live with chronic illness. It was before I moved into perimenopause, before I suddenly developed M.E. What follows is my early exploration into sex and disability, motivated by kindness and curiosity and a desire to create a place which resonates with anyone affected. I now count myself among that number.
Anal Sex Toys Guide: Finding The Best Butt Plug For You
Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?
Sex and Religion Kink: Why Religious Taboo and Perversion Turns Us On
Plenty of kinky people, particularly those who grew up inside religious frameworks that treated their bodies as suspect, find enormous erotic charge in the symbols, roles and taboos those systems taught them to revere. Corrupt the incorruptible, defile the sacred, turn the confessional into a scene: this is well-worn territory. It's also territory that gets more attention twice a year, around Easter and Christmas, when the calendar itself pushes religious imagery into the foreground and the transgression of using it sexually feels a bit sharper than usual.
No Limits’ Slaves in BDSM: Do Zero Limits Submissives Exist?
If you're drawn to the "no limits" fantasy in yourself, ask what specifically you're trying to get out of it. Sometimes the answer is that you want to feel deeply submissive and don't yet have the vocabulary for it, which is a solvable problem. Sometimes the answer is that you want to stop having to make decisions, which is a different problem and one no scene will fix. Sometimes it's that you want the drama of being seen as extreme, which is worth interrogating on its own before you put it in front of another person.
Dommes and Blowjobs: Why Some Dominant Women Love To Suck Cock
If he starts thanking you profusely, or bucking his hips, or in any way behaving as though he's been handed a treat, that's your cue to stop, reframe, and possibly punish. The point Zak makes about withdrawing your lips seconds before he comes is the sharp end of this. Edging as a Dominant act works because the sub cannot request it, cannot control it, and cannot predict when the next chance arrives, if it arrives at all.
Total Power Exchange in BDSM: What TPE Really Means
In this guide to Total Power Exchange in BDSM, I explore what TPE really means beyond the fantasy image. From my own perspective as a Domme, it’s about more than scenes or sessions - it’s the reality of living in a relationship where control, obedience, and power are fully surrendered.
Sploshing: Exploring the Wet and Messy Fetish
Sploshing. Say sploshing to most people on the street and they won’t know what you’re on about (they'll also give you a wide berth for randomly talking in their face). Sploshing in puddles? Get your wellies on and go for a run through the muddy woods after a good downpour? Erm, nope.
Electrosex Guide: How Beginners Can Use E-Stim Toys
Can electric and sex ever really unite to deliver pleasure, not pain? Are there any risks - and how on earth can you play with electric safely? Read on to discover the low-down in my electrosex guide, and find out how beginners can start using e-stim toys.
What Is Urethral Sounding? Guide to Penis Sounds
Once you're ready, lube up the sound (and the end of your penis) and slowly slide the tip in. Once in, keep hold of both the sound and your penis, then slowly allow gravity to pull the sound deeper. Once you're at the base of the penis, stop for a moment and slowly pull the sound out, ever so gently. This is approximately where the best sensations are to be found.
Hot Kissing Tips: How To Be A Fantastic Kisser
Kissing tips: Kissing is often a forgotten or at least neglected area of our love lives. Whether you’re in a relationship or a sassy single with a satisfying sex life, kissing adds a uniquely passionate element to sex and lovemaking.
Is Pubic Hair Sexy?
Why have we even got pubic hair in the first place? It’s a sign that we’ve been through puberty and reached adulthood, true; but for those who choose to remove any trace of pubic hair from their body it can be an endless source of frustration...
Penis Chastity: Beginner’s Guide to Cock Locking
Welcome to my big beginner's guide to penis chastity and male chastity play! So, you want to try a chastity device? Or maybe your partner wants you to wear one? Perhaps you’re reading this as you want your partner to wear one for you. Whatever your reason is for being here, you’re doing the right thing!
What Are Dental Dams? Where & Why Would You Use Them?
Dental dams aren’t overly expensive and they can be bought discreetly online. In addition, they’re slightly larger than condom packets but still flat, so you could keep a couple in your wallet or handbag when you go out.
How To Clean Sex Toys Safely: A Complete Hygiene Guide
Learning how to clean sex toys properly is one of the easiest ways to protect your sexual health, prevent irritation, and make sure every beloved toy you own stays safe to use, completely fresh...
Rapeplay Fantasies: Understanding Consensual Non-Consent Kink
It’s come to my attention recently that certain folks are against people having their fantasies and acting them out, consensually, with their adult partner(s). Rape fantasy, to be specific. Now, I’ve taken this a little bit personally, as rape fantasy is a very important part of my sex life - a very enjoyable part of my fantasy and real life.
BDSM Wax Play Guide: How to Enjoy Candle Dripping Safely
BDSM wax play is an immersive form of sensory play. It's also one of my favourite ways to explore the intricate balance between physical sensuality and psychological intrigue that makes kink popular. Using wax play candles in BDSM incites anticipation and all-encompassing arousal, evoking physical sensation, emotional trust, and mesmerising aesthetics all at once. The agonisingly slow drip of warm wax is about so much more than the flicker of heat as it splashes on to soft, receptive skin.
Fucking Yourself With High Heels: Kink and Safety
Dear Cara, I have quite a worrying obsession with my girlfriend's shoes. She doesn't know, but every time she's out and I'm left in the house I have to fuck myself in the ass...
Can I Stop Being Kinky? Can You Ever Leave BDSM?
I honestly believe it's naive to think you can just switch off your kinkiness for all time. You may be leaving BDSM when it comes to the community, you can get rid of your implements and finish any D/s relationships, but being a kinkster is simply too much a part of a person's character. It's up to you if you decide to act on those kinky impulses in your life or not.
