Kinky Sex Advice

Kinky sex advice for safe, informed exploration, stronger consent, and pleasure that feels good in real life.

Welcome to my Kinky Sex Advice hub. This is where I keep my most practical guidance on exploring kink with confidence, care, and clear consent. Expect beginner friendly safety basics, realistic communication help, and deeper dives into power dynamics, play styles, gear, and specific kinks. Everything here is written for real people, real bodies, and real relationships.

For broader bedroom guidance, head to Sex Advice. For everyday techniques and quick wins, browse Sex Tips. For deeper reflections on desire, identity and sexuality, explore Sexuality Articles. For toy related kink gear, you might also like Sex Toy Advice and my Sex Toy Guides hub.

Jump straight to the section that fits where you are right now.

Start Here

New to kink, or returning after a long gap? Start with these. They cover consent, boundaries and safer frameworks, so the fun parts feel clearer and more relaxed.



Kink Basics

These are the grounding posts that help everything else make sense, especially when labels or expectations get muddy.



Types of Kink and Play

Hands on ideas, plus the safety context that stops curiosity turning into stress. Pick what suits your vibe and build slowly.



Power Dynamics and Relationships

Power exchange is not just “who does what”. It is trust, boundaries, compatibility, and staying connected when life is busy or messy.



The non negotiables. Clear limits, active consent, and tools for stopping or adjusting without shame or drama.



Fetishes and Interests

A grab bag of kink curiosities, explained with context and reality checks, without pretending every fantasy has to look the same in real life.



Where To Start

Not sure what you need? Pick the line that matches your current situation and start there.



My Approach

I write about kink with a strong bias towards consent, safety, and emotional reality. There is no single correct way to be kinky, and there is no gold star for intensity. Kink can be playful, gentle, intimate, awkward, and still deeply satisfying. The aim is to explore in a way that feels aligned, safe, and genuinely enjoyable for the people involved.

Real world factors matter here too. Stress, confidence, trauma history, disability, sensory needs, privacy, relationship dynamics, and experience levels can all shape what works. This space makes room for that, without judgement or pressure.

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Scroll down to explore the latest posts in this category, and use the quick links above to jump to consent basics, play ideas, power dynamics, gear, or specific kinks.

Bound To Serve As A Sex Slave

After several months' training, both mental and physical, her slave was able to handle one of her ferocious whippings simply through tears, gritted teeth and with only a few sweary slip-ups. He'd learnt that lesson fast, she thought, her smile widening even further. An extra 5 minutes lashing for every curse he spat in her direction soon had him holding his tongue.

What Is FemDom? Exploring Female Domination in BDSM

What is FemDom? Some would say it's the Marmite of the BDSM scene. Is it the BDSM outsider? Female Domination usually elicits a response firmly on one end of the scale or the other: yes please! or ...um, no thanks.

Dacryphilia: Why Tears and Crying Can Be Sexy

As the barrier crashes down within him, crumbling to reveal his true self, tears then finally begin to form. I see the subtlest glint and can't help wetting my own lips with my tongue in anticipation –in between my incessant tirade, the code to unlock his complete submissive self.  

Coming Full Circle

The spotlight centred on my naked, kneeling body is bright enough to just reveal the dark forms stood in a circle surrounding me. I feel the men's presence, rather than see them; I'm seeing the scene through my mind's eye in any case, with my eyes squeezed tightly closed, blocking out reality, even while it commands my full sensory attention. 

The Wedding: What’s Yours Is Mine

The whispers of those seated at the back were muffled by the whoops surrounding the drawn-out kiss of joy at the altar, until a natural settling revealed the click-clack of my heels on the stone. A wave of anxious whispers and angry mutters accompanied my approach to the still lost-in-each-other bride and groom, which turned to gasps of shock as I undid and threw off the hideous overcoat without breaking stride. 

What’s the Difference Between Kink and Fetish?

With increasing awareness of and interest in BDSM, much of the related jargon and terms have made their way into common parlance. Two such words are 'kink' and 'fetish'. They're often used interchangeably, but as they are two different words it's natural to wonder what the actual meanings are.

Submission in BDSM: Why It’s Not a Sign of Weakness

How do you feel about submission in BDSM? You could be fooled into believing it's a sign of weakness, but there is actually a great deal of strength in surrender. Read on to find out how submission in consensual kinky terms is extremely empowering as well as intensely arousing. 

London Fuck Doll: Fucked, Denied, Satisfied

I moaned aloud as he took me by the shoulders and drove the full length of his cock deep into my achingly hungry pussy. My slippery, soft labia were spread apart as they massaged his welcome penetration. My head turned to the side, flat on the bed as he pinned it there with his heavy hand in my hair, he rammed his cock into me repeatedly, frenziedly. This wasn't love-making. This was primitive, carnal rutting.

No Going Back

He was helpless. There was no going back.

Just An Hour

It was just an hour from when I got her message to when I arrived. Just an hour. Now, looking back, it seems almost impossible that there was just an hour of intermission between my old life to my new reality.

Chastity Keyholding Services: Finding the Right Keyholder

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

Watching My Boyfriend Suck Another Man’s Cock

His mouth, with all its masculine bearded surround, enveloping the cock tip. My boyfriend's lips forming the O around the collar of his friend's dick, as if it were second nature. I moistened my own lips, as if in readiness. I could almost taste and feel every millimetre for myself, so familiar were the actions. I've sucked cock a thousand times and know the tricks. What I didn't know was that I'd been giving my boyfriend lessons.

What Are Limits in BDSM? Setting Boundaries in Kink

What are BDSM limits? And, in a BDSM relationship, is pushing limits OK? Or should both partners just find out what makes them tick and keep right on doing those things without moving the goalposts?

Chastity Release – Unlocking & Orgasm

He looked up at me from where he knelt on the kitchen floor, a solitary tear running down his defeated face. That just made my cunt even wetter in beautifully cruel empathy. Finally, he’d completed the distasteful task. His expert tongue protruded, but not out of rudeness or as a plea for pussy. On the tip was a small, very shiny key.

Chastity Release – Her Icy Response

Tilting his chin up so I could look into his embarrassed face properly, I relished the fight between humiliation, hate and the most intense arousal in his eyes. My other hand reached down and felt the weight of his chastity locked cock in my hands. He jumped as my cool hands came into contact with his hot straining balls under the metal device.

Puppy Play Kink: What Is Human Pup Play and Why It Matters

I don't have a kink for pretending to be a dog. I'm not even a 'dog person'. However, the national furore surrounding people who want to be a human puppy this week really made my hackles rise. The cause of the outrage? TV shows giving an insight into the puppy play scene and/or fetish, including a Channel 4 documentary entitled The Secret Life Of The Human Pups.

What Do Dommes Fantasise About? Female Dominant Desires

Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if you were completely submissive to me. My mind tends to stray towards a sexual kinky fantasy - a Domme's fantasy. They're not talked about much, right? Usually all eyes are on the submissive - the submissive male, in the majority of FemDom - but what does a Domme dream about?

Bondage Hogties Guide: How and Why to Hogtie Safely

The favourite bondage hogtie piece I have in my own collection is the Shots Media Ouch! Wrist and Legcuffs Restraints, which isn't readily available in the UK any more but you can take a look at my review here. There are definitely other, good quality bondage hogties you can purchase to give you the session you desire, however.

Sex and Religion: Exploring Erotic Religious Symbolism

Of course, it’s Easter, which is the Christian festival most associated with ‘fertility rituals’ and symbols that are not really that Christian at all – though there is still no agreement, let alone any proof, as to which specific ancient pagan feast inspired the annual celebration of eggs, bunnies, flowers and binging on chocolate. I wish you all joy and delight in the springtime, whether your bunnies are battery-powered or the sort that moan with joy when you wrap them up in rope, and if you want to mark the occasion by eating a Creme Egg off your favourite playmate’s naughty bits then go right ahead.

No Limits Slaves in BDSM: What It Means and Risks Involved

Are there any true no limits slaves in BDSM? Do zero limits submissives exist? We can't even blame 50 Shades of Grey for the idea of 'absolute submission', because it's been around for at least 30 years. And, while Anastasia Steele might be a vacant fumbletrumpet who appears to have reached adulthood without even knowing what an email is, she does dump Creepy Christian more than once and even answers back from time to time.