Total Power Exchange in BDSM: What TPE Really Means
In this guide to Total Power Exchange in BDSM, I explore what TPE really means beyond the fantasy image. From my own perspective as a Domme, it’s about more than scenes or sessions - it’s the reality of living in a relationship where control, obedience, and power are fully surrendered.
Sploshing: Exploring the Wet and Messy Fetish
Sploshing. Say sploshing to most people on the street and they won’t know what you’re on about (they'll also give you a wide berth for randomly talking in their face). Sploshing in puddles? Get your wellies on and go for a run through the muddy woods after a good downpour? Erm, nope.
Electrosex Guide: How Beginners Can Use E-Stim Toys
Can electric and sex ever really unite to deliver pleasure, not pain? Are there any risks - and how on earth can you play with electric safely? Read on to discover the low-down in my electrosex guide, and find out how beginners can start using e-stim toys.
What Is Urethral Sounding? Guide to Penis Sounds
Once you're ready, lube up the sound (and the end of your penis) and slowly slide the tip in. Once in, keep hold of both the sound and your penis, then slowly allow gravity to pull the sound deeper. Once you're at the base of the penis, stop for a moment and slowly pull the sound out, ever so gently. This is approximately where the best sensations are to be found.
The Time I Made Him Make Me Safe Out
It hurts SO much. Is this all I can take? Would someone else be able to take more? Am I being a wuss? I want him to be proud of me. It hurts. Fuck, that hurts so much. Ok I am going to say red. Any minute now…
Penis Chastity: Beginner’s Guide to Cock Locking
Welcome to my big beginner's guide to penis chastity and male chastity play! So, you want to try a chastity device? Or maybe your partner wants you to wear one? Perhaps you’re reading this as you want your partner to wear one for you. Whatever your reason is for being here, you’re doing the right thing!
What Are Dental Dams? Where & Why Would You Use Them?
Dental dams aren’t overly expensive and they can be bought discreetly online. In addition, they’re slightly larger than condom packets but still flat, so you could keep a couple in your wallet or handbag when you go out.
Rapeplay Fantasies: Understanding Consensual Non-Consent Kink
It’s come to my attention recently that certain folks are against people having their fantasies and acting them out, consensually, with their adult partner(s). Rape fantasy, to be specific. Now, I’ve taken this a little bit personally, as rape fantasy is a very important part of my sex life - a very enjoyable part of my fantasy and real life.
BDSM Wax Play Guide: How to Enjoy Candle Dripping Safely
BDSM wax play is an immersive form of sensory play. It's also one of my favourite ways to explore the intricate balance between physical sensuality and psychological intrigue that makes kink popular. Using wax play candles in BDSM incites anticipation and all-encompassing arousal, evoking physical sensation, emotional trust, and mesmerising aesthetics all at once. The agonisingly slow drip of warm wax is about so much more than the flicker of heat as it splashes on to soft, receptive skin.
Fucking Yourself With High Heels: Kink and Safety
Dear Cara, I have quite a worrying obsession with my girlfriend's shoes. She doesn't know, but every time she's out and I'm left in the house I have to fuck myself in the ass...
Can I Stop Being Kinky? Can You Ever Leave BDSM?
I honestly believe it's naive to think you can just switch off your kinkiness for all time. You may be leaving BDSM when it comes to the community, you can get rid of your implements and finish any D/s relationships, but being a kinkster is simply too much a part of a person's character. It's up to you if you decide to act on those kinky impulses in your life or not.
