Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Valentine’s Day Gifts: Romantic and Sexy Ideas for Couples and Self-Love

Valentine's Day is the annual day when lovers celebrate their passion. What are your Valentine plans this year? It's traditional to gift your special someone something romantic and thoughtful, and maybe make some plans along the same lines. Couples usually buy each other a card, a gift and spend time together on the day celebrating the magic of their ongoing relationship. What should you buy them this year?

Heat Up Your Sex Life In Winter With These Warming Sex Toys

I've already shared my thoughts on surprising ways the cold season can improve your sex life; today I'm sharing my recommendations for warming sex toys & other pleasure products to heat up your sex life in winter.

Masturbation in a Sex-Positive World (3 Trends)

If you’re reading this, you’re most likely a sex-positive person. But shall we talk about Masturbation Positivity? Despite an ongoing shift in sex culture and education, the self-pleasure taboo remains. Let’s break it! 

BDSM Identities Guide: Dominant, Submissive or Switch?

Some people have a firm BDSM identity, others find that over time, the way they want to 'play' in D/s is fluid, just like some people have fluid sexualities. This guide comes to you from the unique perspective of a woman in midlife, a Domme. I'm now in midlife, in my mid-forties, but over the past couple of decades I have at various times identified as Dominant to most, submissive to some, a 50/50 switch, and now I am in an era of being completely Dominant; but I still enjoy my husband and I's sexual roleplay with bondage cuffs at times. 

How To Enjoy Pain Free Anal Sex & Ditch the Anal Desensitiser

What are your thoughts on, and experiences of, anal sex? The most common concern surrounding using anal sex toys & other anal sexual play is relieving discomfort due to this area’s renowned tightness and sensitivity. In this guide I will reveal how you can enjoy pain free anal sex -and why it’s relevant and important to ditch the anal desensitiser.

What Is Movember? Is It Still A Thing?

You don’t hear as much about Movember as you used to, so I thought I’d research whether this project was still happening. Let’s take a look at what Movember is, why things seem to have quietened down on the Movember-activism front, and what you can do to support its original causes.
Massage For Intimacy Not Just As A Prelude To Sex

Massage For Intimacy, Not Just As A Prelude To Sex

Erotic massage is a fantastic way to shake up foreplay and can be a new way to arouse each other before sex – but today I want to talk about massage for intimacy, not just as a prelude to sex.
How To Give A Sexy Webcam Show

How To Give A Sexy Webcam Show

I know how easy it is to feel apprehensive about anything involving cameras, never mind during intensely vulnerable moments of shared intimacy. In this feature I share my top tips & advice on how to give a sexy webcam show where you will seduce your partner with confidence, creativity & sensuality.

How To Check Your Breasts Properly

Learning how to check your breasts properly could be a lifesaving skill. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month - but checking your breasts regularly should be a priority all through the year.

BDSM Collars: Symbolism, Types and Collaring Ceremonies

BDSM collars are an extremely important visual symbol of submission and ownership. Although bondage collars are also worn simply as a kinky accessory in a play scene, there are plenty of kinksters for whom wearing a BDSM collar signifies a deeper commitment between Dom and sub, Owner and slave, Top and bottom. Some may even take part in collaring ceremonies, a celebratory event which publicly or privately marks the commitment between Dom and sub in a similar way to the vanilla wedding rituals of marriage.

Dressing Up Your Sex Doll To Make Her More Attractive

Are you a fan of sex dolls? If you’re one of the thousands of sex doll lovers around the world, then you’ll understand just how important clothes are when it comes to styling your love companion. It can be tempting for new love owners to think it’s all about the sex – so why would the clothing matter?

The Best Products For Sexual Relief In A Heatwave

Sex and related intimacy is obviously a very close quarters and usually quite frenetic activity. Even if both the bedroom and your bodies start off as cool as physically possible in the hot weather, you’ll soon become hot, sticky and sweaty once desire is allowed to run rampant and you’re both lost in carnal pleasures.

How To Cool Down Hot Summer Sex

If only there was a way to still enjoy sizzling sex and masturbation during a heatwave, without melting into a distinctly unsexy, sticky mess. In this feature I’ll be revealing how to cool down hot summer sex with some tried & tested techniques, so you can still enjoy intense intimacy whatever the weather.
Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Worrying that using butt plugs or other anal sex toys will make you gay seems to be a fear peculiar to cishet men. Today I’m addressing this issue and giving my definitive answer to the regularly asked question, “will using anal sex toys make me gay?”

YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink Explained

There should be no shame or judgement when it comes to safe sexual & kinky activities alone or between consenting adults. However, YKINMK regularly proves itself a relevant and important philosophy.

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Vacation

Whatever else you’ve got on your packing checklist, today I’m going to help you sex up your suitcase. I'll also show that no matter what sort of holiday you’re looking forward to, intimate solo or shared erotic pleasure should be a priority. Welcome to my guide to packing for a sexy vacation!

Realistic Sex Dolls Guide: Let’s Stop Sex Doll Stigma

How do you feel about sex dolls? Have you/would you ever use them? How do you feel about people who enjoy using sex dolls? Welcome to my realistic sex dolls guide, where I’ll be exploring the features of these oft-maligned sex toys, and revealing where to get the best quality luxury adult dolls for your intimate pleasure & companionship needs.

Inside The Worn Knickers Kink (From A Domme Who Sold Her Own)

The scent of a warm, fresh, eagerly aroused pussy is intrinsically sexy. It’s therefore no great surprise that this scent, which can linger on worn underwear, is always in great demand. If you are turned on by sniffing dirty panties, rest assured that you’re not alone. The worn knickers kink is quite common, and I have some personal experience with it too.

Autofellatio: How To Suck Your Own Cock

I’m lucky enough to have photographic evidence of someone performing autofellatio. A reader got in touch via email and we discussed the subject, and they were happy for me to publish this photo of them sucking their own cock. In fact, they were positively enthusiastic about the idea.

Using All Five Senses During Sex

Ever wondered how your senses might be connected to your sexuality? How can greater awareness of this connection lead to an enhanced enjoyment of erotic intimacy? In this comprehensive exploration by Jon Pressick from sexinwords.ca, you can look forward to finding out about using all five senses during sex. Sight, sound, taste, touch and scent*. Let's get started!