Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Tips For Spring Cleaning Your Sex Life

In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable but ultimately monotonous sex with each other. That’s why I wanted to share my top tips for spring cleaning your sex life. While everything else is getting a spring clean, don’t neglect your personal and shared sexual pleasure!

How To Organise Your Sex Toy Collection

How many sex toys have you got? Where do you store them? Do you just have a couple of vibrators in the bedside drawer, or masses of dildos shoved under the bed? No matter...

What Happens At A Smear Test? My Cervical Screening Exam

It can be easy to 'stick your head in the sand' when it comes to those 3-yearly cervical smear tests. I know, because I’ve been there and done it myself. The reminder letter arrives... I open it, groan, and shove it into a drawer and try to forget about it. Eventually I force myself to put my big girl pants on and march myself down to the doctor’s surgery, before taking them off again for the nurse.

Hello Perimenopause

I haven't 'reached' perimenopause so much as it's hunted me down and attacked me. That’s how it feels, anyway.

Why International Women’s Day Still Matters

What is International Women’s Day all about? Is it really still needed? In my IWD info hub I’m going to explain how this important day of commemoration and activism started, why it’s important & why you should care, and how you can do your part to mark this day and directly support vulnerable and under-privileged women and girls.

A Chastity Slave’s Real-Life Lock-Up Diary

Are you curious about how it feels to be locked in a chastity cage but you’re too scared or unable to slide the lock home on a device of your own? Perhaps you are locked, teased, but denied in a locked chastity device and want to hear others’ similar experiences for companionship or further torment? These diary entries from my locked-up chastity slave are for you.

25 Conversation Starters For Your First Date

Whether you’re going on an exciting first date or arranging an evening out with your long-term partner, finding common ground or enough to talk about which isn't mundane or inappropriate can be a challenge.  In this feature I will provide a handy list of 25 conversation starters for your first date -which you could also use to get to know your long-term partner better if you’re already in a relationship.

Valentine’s Day Lingerie: Sexy Styles to Gift or Wear

Sexy lingerie has long been a popular romantic gift for occasions like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays, and Christmas. But buying lingerie for someone else can feel surprisingly daunting. Will it fit properly? Will it feel comfortable as well as look good? And most importantly, will they actually enjoy wearing it?

Valentine’s Day Gifts: Romantic and Sexy Ideas for Couples and Self-Love

Valentine's Day is the annual day when lovers celebrate their passion. What are your Valentine plans this year? It's traditional to gift your special someone something romantic and thoughtful, and maybe make some plans along the same lines. Couples usually buy each other a card, a gift and spend time together on the day celebrating the magic of their ongoing relationship. What should you buy them this year?

Heat Up Your Sex Life In Winter With These Warming Sex Toys

I've already shared my thoughts on surprising ways the cold season can improve your sex life; today I'm sharing my recommendations for warming sex toys & other pleasure products to heat up your sex life in winter.

Masturbation in a Sex-Positive World (3 Trends)

If you’re reading this, you’re most likely a sex-positive person. But shall we talk about Masturbation Positivity? Despite an ongoing shift in sex culture and education, the self-pleasure taboo remains. Let’s break it! 

BDSM Identities Guide: Dominant, Submissive or Switch?

Some people have a firm BDSM identity, others find that over time, the way they want to 'play' in D/s is fluid, just like some people have fluid sexualities. This guide comes to you from the unique perspective of a woman in midlife, a Domme. I'm now in midlife, in my mid-forties, but over the past couple of decades I have at various times identified as Dominant to most, submissive to some, a 50/50 switch, and now I am in an era of being completely Dominant; but I still enjoy my husband and I's sexual roleplay with bondage cuffs at times. 

How To Enjoy Pain Free Anal Sex & Ditch the Anal Desensitiser

What are your thoughts on, and experiences of, anal sex? The most common concern surrounding using anal sex toys & other anal sexual play is relieving discomfort due to this area’s renowned tightness and sensitivity. In this guide I will reveal how you can enjoy pain free anal sex -and why it’s relevant and important to ditch the anal desensitiser.

What Is Movember? Is It Still A Thing?

You don’t hear as much about Movember as you used to, so I thought I’d research whether this project was still happening. Let’s take a look at what Movember is, why things seem to have quietened down on the Movember-activism front, and what you can do to support its original causes.
Massage For Intimacy Not Just As A Prelude To Sex

Massage For Intimacy, Not Just As A Prelude To Sex

Erotic massage is a fantastic way to shake up foreplay and can be a new way to arouse each other before sex – but today I want to talk about massage for intimacy, not just as a prelude to sex.
How To Give A Sexy Webcam Show

How To Give A Sexy Webcam Show

I know how easy it is to feel apprehensive about anything involving cameras, never mind during intensely vulnerable moments of shared intimacy. In this feature I share my top tips & advice on how to give a sexy webcam show where you will seduce your partner with confidence, creativity & sensuality.

How To Check Your Breasts Properly

Learning how to check your breasts properly could be a lifesaving skill. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month - but checking your breasts regularly should be a priority all through the year.

BDSM Collars: Symbolism, Types and Collaring Ceremonies

BDSM collars are an extremely important visual symbol of submission and ownership. Although bondage collars are also worn simply as a kinky accessory in a play scene, there are plenty of kinksters for whom wearing a BDSM collar signifies a deeper commitment between Dom and sub, Owner and slave, Top and bottom. Some may even take part in collaring ceremonies, a celebratory event which publicly or privately marks the commitment between Dom and sub in a similar way to the vanilla wedding rituals of marriage.

Dressing Up Your Sex Doll To Make Her More Attractive

Are you a fan of sex dolls? If you’re one of the thousands of sex doll lovers around the world, then you’ll understand just how important clothes are when it comes to styling your love companion. It can be tempting for new love owners to think it’s all about the sex – so why would the clothing matter?

The Best Products For Sexual Relief In A Heatwave

Sex and related intimacy is obviously a very close quarters and usually quite frenetic activity. Even if both the bedroom and your bodies start off as cool as physically possible in the hot weather, you’ll soon become hot, sticky and sweaty once desire is allowed to run rampant and you’re both lost in carnal pleasures.