Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

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Of The Santa Persuasion - Christmas Erotica

Of The Santa Persuasion: Kinky Santa Ageplay Erotica

‘Twas the night before Christmas and all through the house, not a creature was stirring… Who was she kidding. She’d be stirring all night. She just wished it was for better reasons. Fuck, she could really do with an explosive orgasm or two right about now. Sadly, the only finger movements this evening were the back-and-forth motions of her pen over lined paper.

The Naughtivity: Christmas Group Sex Erotica

He was coming for me, so I lay down, wide legged, finding his hair with both hands at the exact same time his mouth found my clitoris. Two minutes. That’s all it took for him to make me come so hard I squirted in his face.
In Santa's Lap - Christmas Erotica

In Santa’s Lap: Santa Seduction Erotica for Christmas

Her heart thumped in her chest. She didn't have to wait much longer. Dizzy with excitement, she hungrily looked over at him again. The legendary older man in his trademark plush suit was still sat in his grand chair, undoubtedly tired from the afternoon crowds.
Slave Santa and his Cruel Mistress - Christmas Erotica

Slave Santa & His Cruel Mistress: FemDom Christmas Chastity Erotica

Her icy blast hit him with more bitter force than the harshest winter sleigh ride, turning his cheeks an even deeper shade of red. As she continued her angry tirade against him for his latest fuck-up, his body responded as usual to her cutting jibes. Why did Mistress' cruel taunts elicit such warm tingles in his nether regions? Why did the humiliation of being shouted at in front of all his elves never fail to make him stiffer than steel?
Santa Sutra & the Rebellious Rein-Girl - Christmas Erotica by Cara Sutra

Santa Sutra & the Rebellious Rein-Girl: FemDom Christmas Pet Play Erotica

Upon hearing her vain exclamation to the other three rein-girls over dinner that they weren’t even needed anyway, that she could do the job all by herself and probably even better at that, they’d at first looked surprised then strangely smug. How was she to know Santa Sutra would choose that exact moment to re-enter the feeding shed from behind her?

Festive Foreplay Ideas: Gift Yourselves A More Exciting Sex Life This Christmas

Festive foreplay ideas are the perfect way to reconnect with your partner at Christmastime. Between family plans and the mince pies, it is easy to lose the spark. Use these ten ideas to turn...

The Best Christmas Gift Of All: Romantic Festive Erotica

This romantic Christmas sex story by guest author Belle Bisous blends sensuality and playfulness as blindfolds, cuffs and festive anticipation lead to the best Christmas gift of all.

12 Days of Festive Romance: Romantic Christmas Ideas for Couples

Romantic Christmas ideas for couples do not need to be complicated. If it is just the two of you this year, or you are carving out some precious alone time, here are twelve festive ways to reconnect, play and make Christmas deliciously sexy.

Christmas Lingerie Gifts: Sexy & Festive Sets to Give or Get

Christmas lingerie gifts are a flirty, festive way to spoil your partner or drop a very helpful hint. In this guide I share sexy and seasonal sets, luxe robes and cute costumes from trusted retailers I personally use.

Sexy Christmas Gifts: Festive Toys & Luxury Presents for Couples

Sexy Christmas gifts are the perfect way to add romance and pleasure to the holidays. In this guide I share festive-themed toys and luxury presents couples can buy and enjoy together, all from trusted...

Christmas Themed Sex Toys: Candy Cane Dildos, Santa Vibrators & Festive Fun

Christmas sex toys are the cheekiest way to add festive sparkle to your pleasure. In this guide I round up my favourite novelty designs for the season, from candy cane dildos to Santa vibrators and more.

Cheap Sexy Gifts for Christmas and Halloween: Edible Underwear & Candy Love Rings

Enjoy my guide to edible underwear and candy love rings - plus other bedroom treats which you can exchange with your partner at any time of year as cheap sexy gifts. They are especially ideal as small romantic Christmas gifts though; sexy stocking fillers for an intimate festive moment. Or you could treat them for a hot Halloween, Valentine's Day or their birthday!

What Is Fisting? Safe Guide to Fisting Your Partner

Heard of fisting? This sexual activity isn’t talked about much in the mainstream, but plenty of partners enjoy fisting. You can fist someone vaginally or anally. Because of the shape and size of our hands, even as a closed fist, fisting can seem like a terrifying prospect - something only done by fetishists into sadism and masochism. Today I’m going to thrust into this intriguing and often mysterious activity with both hands...

Ruined Orgasms: Why Some People Love The Sensation Of A Wrecked Climax

For those who enjoy BDSM, power exchange, orgasm control, or erotic teasing, ruined orgasms can become an intensely erotic  and psychologically fulfilling form of play that blends denial, submission, vulnerability, and pleasure into deeply impacting experiences. In this guide, I will explain further about what ruined orgasms are, why some people find the idea or reality of them arousing, how they differ from edging and chastity in BDSM, and how those attracted to this practice can experiment with wrecked climax play safely and consensually.

Why I Love Locking Men in Chastity Cages: A FemDom View

As the locked chastity continues, I enjoy every renewed realisation that they’re unable to have an erection or an orgasm. Of course, being a cruel and evil Bitch, I heighten the sub/slave’s torment with frequent teasing, whether by words, images or demanding that they perform in various perverted ways for me in person.

Travel-Friendly Sex Toys Guide

My travel-friendly sex toys guide will help you choose vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and more which you can slip into your suitcase - then somewhere even better once you reach your destination. In this travelling with sex toys advice guide you’ll discover the top features you should look for in a travel-friendly vibrator, how to get your sex toys through the airport without embarrassment, and where to get these discreet but effective toys even if you have a tight budget.

Could Labiaplasty Fix Your Sex Life? Personal Experience of Vulva Surgery

What is labiaplasty? Labiaplasty is a form of vulva surgery by vaginoplasty surgeons which changes the size, shape and look of the labia majora and/or labia minora. This may be done for increased physical comfort, self-confidence or sexual enhancement reasons.
Virgo Style Male Chastity Explained: Alternative Keyholder Chastity

Virgo Style Male Chastity: An Alternative Way to Live Chaste

Regardless of the deep stuff, the erotic benefits to the kinky chaste man are undeniably obvious. If you are in a chastity cage, any sexual activity is an exquisite tease, and the knowledge that this will be ongoing pings your masochism. It can also be pretty mind-blowing wearing a chastity cage day-to-day, knowing it’s not coming off for the bedroom...

The Folded Deckchair Sex Position (& Why We Love It)

Have you ever heard of the Folded Deckchair sex position? I was surprised to find out that one of my husband and I’s favourite sex positions had a name. To be honest, it shouldn’t have surprised me that much as the Internet is full of sexual position listicles with such titles as "69 Sex Positions You Never Knew Existed!" and "100 New Sex Positions You Need To Try Right NOW!".

Female Led Relationships: What Living in an FLR Is Really Like

I'm typing this wearing a penis chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh… and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm.