Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Santa Sutra & the Rebellious Rein-Girl - Christmas Erotica by Cara Sutra

Santa Sutra & the Rebellious Rein-Girl: FemDom Christmas Pet Play Erotica

Upon hearing her vain exclamation to the other three rein-girls over dinner that they weren’t even needed anyway, that she could do the job all by herself and probably even better at that, they’d at first looked surprised then strangely smug. How was she to know Santa Sutra would choose that exact moment to re-enter the feeding shed from behind her?

Festive Foreplay Ideas: Gift Yourselves A More Exciting Sex Life This Christmas

Festive foreplay ideas are the perfect way to reconnect with your partner at Christmastime. Between family plans and the mince pies, it is easy to lose the spark. Use these ten ideas to turn...

The Best Christmas Gift Of All: Romantic Festive Erotica

This romantic Christmas sex story by guest author Belle Bisous blends sensuality and playfulness as blindfolds, cuffs and festive anticipation lead to the best Christmas gift of all.

12 Days of Festive Romance: Romantic Christmas Ideas for Couples

Romantic Christmas ideas for couples do not need to be complicated. If it is just the two of you this year, or you are carving out some precious alone time, here are twelve festive ways to reconnect, play and make Christmas deliciously sexy.

Christmas Lingerie Gifts: Sexy & Festive Sets to Give or Get

Christmas lingerie gifts are a flirty, festive way to spoil your partner or drop a very helpful hint. In this guide I share sexy and seasonal sets, luxe robes and cute costumes from trusted retailers I personally use.

Sexy Christmas Gifts: Festive Toys & Luxury Presents for Couples

Sexy Christmas gifts are the perfect way to add romance and pleasure to the holidays. In this guide I share festive-themed toys and luxury presents couples can buy and enjoy together, all from trusted...

Christmas Themed Sex Toys: Candy Cane Dildos, Santa Vibrators & Festive Fun

Christmas sex toys are the cheekiest way to add festive sparkle to your pleasure. In this guide I round up my favourite novelty designs for the season, from candy cane dildos to Santa vibrators and more.

Edible Underwear & Candy Love Rings: My Rude Novelty Treats Review

Edible underwear, candy and gummy love rings, glow-in-the-dark toys and more - I bought the lot and actually tested them, so you can see which cheap novelty treats are worth it and which are just a giggle. Perfect if you are after a rude gift for a hen or stag do, a cheeky secret Santa, or a bit of budget bedroom fun with your partner.

What Is Fisting? Safe Guide to Fisting Your Partner

Heard of fisting? This sexual activity isn’t talked about much in the mainstream, but plenty of partners enjoy fisting. You can fist someone vaginally or anally. Because of the shape and size of our hands, even as a closed fist, fisting can seem like a terrifying prospect - something only done by fetishists into sadism and masochism. Today I’m going to thrust into this intriguing and often mysterious activity with both hands...

Ruined Orgasms: Why Some People Love The Sensation Of A Wrecked Climax

For those who enjoy BDSM, power exchange, orgasm control, or erotic teasing, ruined orgasms can become an intensely erotic  and psychologically fulfilling form of play that blends denial, submission, vulnerability, and pleasure into deeply impacting experiences. In this guide, I will explain further about what ruined orgasms are, why some people find the idea or reality of them arousing, how they differ from edging and chastity in BDSM, and how those attracted to this practice can experiment with wrecked climax play safely and consensually.

Why I Love Locking Men in Chastity Cages: A FemDom View

Am I just an out-and-out, despicably cruel, evil bitch? Well, yes.  But also, chastity as part of enjoyable power exchange in BDSM is a consensual, globally popular activity.

Travel-Friendly Sex Toys Guide

My travel-friendly sex toys guide will help you choose vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and more which you can slip into your suitcase - then somewhere even better once you reach your destination. In this travelling with sex toys advice guide you’ll discover the top features you should look for in a travel-friendly vibrator, how to get your sex toys through the airport without embarrassment, and where to get these discreet but effective toys even if you have a tight budget.
Virgo Style Male Chastity Explained: Alternative Keyholder Chastity

Virgo Style Male Chastity: An Alternative Way to Live Chaste

Regardless of the deep stuff, the erotic benefits to the kinky chaste man are undeniably obvious. If you are in a chastity cage, any sexual activity is an exquisite tease, and the knowledge that this will be ongoing pings your masochism. It can also be pretty mind-blowing wearing a chastity cage day-to-day, knowing it’s not coming off for the bedroom...

Female Led Relationships: What Living in an FLR Is Really Like

I'm typing this wearing a penis chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh… and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm.

Tips For Spring Cleaning Your Sex Life

In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable but ultimately monotonous sex with each other. That’s why I wanted to share my top tips for spring cleaning your sex life. While everything else is getting a spring clean, don’t neglect your personal and shared sexual pleasure!

How To Organise Your Sex Toy Collection

How many sex toys have you got? Where do you store them? Do you just have a couple of vibrators in the bedside drawer, or masses of dildos shoved under the bed? No matter...

Why International Women’s Day Still Matters

What is International Women’s Day all about? Is it really still needed? In my IWD info hub I’m going to explain how this important day of commemoration and activism started, why it’s important & why you should care, and how you can do your part to mark this day and directly support vulnerable and under-privileged women and girls.

A Chastity Slave’s Real-Life Lock-Up Diary

Are you curious about how it feels to be locked in a chastity cage but you’re too scared or unable to slide the lock home on a device of your own? Perhaps you are locked, teased, but denied in a locked chastity device and want to hear others’ similar experiences for companionship or further torment? These diary entries from my locked-up chastity slave are for you.

25 Conversation Starters For Your First Date

Whether you’re going on an exciting first date or arranging an evening out with your long-term partner, finding common ground or enough to talk about which isn't mundane or inappropriate can be a challenge.  In this feature I will provide a handy list of 25 conversation starters for your first date -which you could also use to get to know your long-term partner better if you’re already in a relationship.

Valentine’s Day Lingerie: Sexy Styles to Gift or Wear

Sexy lingerie has long been a popular romantic gift for occasions like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays, and Christmas. But buying lingerie for someone else can feel surprisingly daunting. Will it fit properly? Will it feel comfortable as well as look good? And most importantly, will they actually enjoy wearing it?