Last Updated on 24 July, 2026 by Cara Sutra
As we discovered in my recent guide to cooling down hot summer sex, many of us are hornier in warm, sunny weather -but this can result in sticky, sweaty and distinctly unsexy issues in the bedroom. In that feature I explained the scientific reasons behind a higher libido in the summer heat as well as some tried and tested techniques for cooling yourself and your partner down before, during and after sex. Today, I’d like to expand upon this topic – giving advice on the best products for sexual relief in a heatwave.
How To Keep Your Bedroom As Cool As Possible
It’s important to try and lower the temperature in your chosen sex location long before you’re enjoying cool, sensual playtimes in whichever room you choose. For most people in sexually active relationships, the bedroom is the usual choice for couple’s intimacy and sex as it’s a safe, private, adult-only haven.
If your homelife doesn’t allow you to free roam naked around your house, fucking on the kitchen counter or dashing to and from the main bathroom mid-sexual frenzy, the bedroom becomes the erotic boudoir for sex and adult fun. How can you keep this room as cool as possible so you can ease the frustrations of your libido during a heatwave?
Invest in a good quality room fan – we like the oscillating tower fans with a timer function (shop at Amazon.com & Amazon.co.uk) – and consider having a ceiling fan professionally and securely installed above the bed.- Keep the curtains closed during the day, to keep the room as cool as possible against the strong summer sunlight.
- Consider investing in heat blocking reflective window film (shop Amazon.com & Amazon.co.uk). We have this on most of our windows.
- Keep electronics such as TVs, stereos and suchlike to a minimum in the bedroom, or at least turned off during intense heatwaves to reduce their effect on the room temperature.
Cooling Yourself Down Before or After Sex
Now you’ve prepared your bedroom as best you can, cooling the air temperature by opening the windows (if there is some outside breeze), keeping the curtains closed against the sun and using a tower and/or ceiling fan, it’s time to turn attention to yourself and your partner.
It makes sense to ensure you and your partner are both as physically cooled down as possible – in body temperature, if not sexual desire! – before engaging in what is an extremely physical as well as close contact activity. When you’re both as cool and fresh as possible, you will be able to enjoy the dizzy heights of shared passion despite the heatwave, leading to fully satisfying relief on all counts.
Keep yourself hydrated during hot weather. Drink water rather than alcohol or caffeine, which have dehydrating effects.- Make use of gel filled ice packs from the freezer to keep yourself as cool as possible.
- Store some wet wipes in the fridge for pleasantly cool wipes during or after sex. Store them upside down so that the top one is the wettest.
- I have found that Original Source Mint & Tea Tree Shower Gel has fantastic skin cooling properties while using it in the shower, and giving a cool menthol sensation to the skin after you get out of the shower too. Strongly recommend adding a couple of bottles to your next shop – find at Amazon.com & Amazon.co.uk, as well as other retailers.
Products To Cool Down Sex In A Heatwave
As I’ve mentioned, sex and related intimacy is obviously a very close quarters and usually quite frenetic activity. Even if both the bedroom and your bodies start off as cool as physically possible in the hot weather, you’ll soon become hot, sticky and sweaty once desire is allowed to run rampant and you’re both lost in carnal pleasures.
What can really help is selecting some products you can use together during sex which, by their nature, are intensely cooling. What sort of products can help provide sexual relief in a heatwave? Here are my top recommendations:
There are cooling effect sex lubes you can use which will give you and your partner the sensation of cooler skin during use. Teasing by lightly blowing over the lubricated areas will further increase the cool sensation.- Switch out your usual silicone dildo and opt for one of the many beautiful glass dildos available instead. Good quality glass sex toys are completely safe to use, and you can cool them before use in the fridge (not the freezer) or a bowl of cold water for welcome chills with your thrills.
- Slide into an invitingly cold sensual opening by storing your penis masturbator (non-electronic types only) and favourite lube in the fridge before use. If the heat and horniness gets unbearable, add a splash of pre-cooled lube to the stroker then slip into goosebump-inducing slippery pleasure.
- Consider investing in a mini fridge specifically to store your summer sex essentials in. These are readily available at Amazon.com & Amazon.co.uk, as well as other homeware stores.
Enjoy A Splashtastic Sexy Shower Together
Despite all the great advice above, it’s extremely unlikely that you’ll both lay back after a fantastic sex session together and both feel comfortably dry, cool and fresh as a daisy. There’s really very little you can do to avoid being a sweaty, sticky mess after a gloriously passionate shared erotic adventure.
Instead of simply relying on your bedroom fan to bring you both back to an agreeable body temperature after the exertions, why not rinse off together under a cool shower?
In fact, you might want to head straight for the shower in the first place, if you’re able to get to and from your bathroom discreetly, depending on who shares your home. Grab your choice of waterproof sex toys for an exciting buzz – and don’t forget to take a discreet container or your usual sex toy storage bag to take them back to the bedroom afterwards.
With or without the waterproof vibrators, you and your partner can enjoy a cooled down aquatic pleasure session – erotic massage, sex or mutual masturbation – which leads straight into practical clean-up afterwards for a fresh night of sleepy relief.
I hope I’ve provided some helpful additions for your summer sex shopping list, so you can enjoy the coolest playtimes possible whatever the weather. For more great tips on cooled down sex, check out my guide to using ice cubes in sex and masturbation.
Happy heatwave frolics everyone!
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