Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Penis Chastity: Beginner’s Guide to Cock Locking

Welcome to my big beginner's guide to penis chastity and male chastity play! So, you want to try a chastity device? Or maybe your partner wants you to wear one? Perhaps you’re reading this as you want your partner to wear one for you. Whatever your reason is for being here, you’re doing the right thing!

Watching My Boyfriend Suck Another Man’s Cock

His mouth, with all its masculine bearded surround, enveloping the cock tip. My boyfriend's lips forming the O around the collar of his friend's dick, as if it were second nature. I moistened my own lips, as if in readiness. I could almost taste and feel every millimetre for myself, so familiar were the actions. I've sucked cock a thousand times and know the tricks. What I didn't know was that I'd been giving my boyfriend lessons.

BDSM Beginner’s Guide: How Curious Minds Can Explore Safe, Kinky Fun

The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.

Chastity Keyholding Services: Finding the Right Keyholder

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

Imaginative Sexual Role Play Ideas

The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner.

How To Get Free Sex Toys

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

Best Sexting Apps for 2025: Enjoy Hot Explicit Messages Now!

I decided to make a list of the top 10 sexting apps that actually work and have honest-to-god amazing cam models who know and appreciate the fine art of sexting. Let’s start with a rundown of the top 10 apps, and then I’ll cover some of the pros and cons of each site.

What Is Urethral Sounding? Guide to Penis Sounds

Once you're ready, lube up the sound (and the end of your penis) and slowly slide the tip in. Once in, keep hold of both the sound and your penis, then slowly allow gravity to pull the sound deeper. Once you're at the base of the penis, stop for a moment and slowly pull the sound out, ever so gently. This is approximately where the best sensations are to be found.

Chastity Release – Her Icy Response

Tilting his chin up so I could look into his embarrassed face properly, I relished the fight between humiliation, hate and the most intense arousal in his eyes. My other hand reached down and felt the weight of his chastity locked cock in my hands. He jumped as my cool hands came into contact with his hot straining balls under the metal device.
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Masturbation Diary: I Touch Myself

Welcome to my masturbation diary, where I share an erotic first-person story of self-pleasure. In this entry, I touch myself on a hot morning, exploring throbbing clit desire, aching wetness, and the irresistible build-up to orgasm. If you love intimate masturbation stories that feel raw, real, and dripping with sexual tension, this diary is written for you...

Slim Vibrators For Small Vaginas

By Cara Sutra: I must admit that when I look at vibrator features, size doesn't really register. I'm one of those women who assumes that vaginal vibrators are made in, well, vagina size. If they're tiddly then they might be more of a clit stim for me.

Summer Garden Party: Fountain of Relief

The fountain elicited a chorus of open-mouthed wails. The heat of the sun and humiliation hit my exposed clit and spread labia, slicking them with hungry need. My body kept forgetting it was in such secure bondage; each leg kept pointed upwards and outwards, unable to bend. How I wished I could arch my back completely, then curl into a ball and keep this feeling of humiliation-fuelled hot desire as my own private masturbatory tool.
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In Santa’s Lap: Santa Seduction Erotica for Christmas

Her heart thumped in her chest. She didn't have to wait much longer. Dizzy with excitement, she hungrily looked over at him again. The legendary older man in his trademark plush suit was still sat in his grand chair, undoubtedly tired from the afternoon crowds.

Anal Sex Toys Guide: Finding The Best Butt Plug For You

Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Guide to Prostate Massagers & P-Spot Toys

Although I spoke briefly about P-spot stimulation devices in my recent blog post, today I want to offer a deep delve into prostate toys. Welcome to my guide to prostate massagers, where I’ll outline what specifically makes a toy a prostate massager and the most effective P-spot toys available.
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Lesbian Sex Toys Guide

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.

Female Chastity and Orgasm Denial: Do Women Enjoy Locking Up Their Pleasure?

Female chastity is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart, and one I've been thinking and writing about for well over a decade. I've covered male chastity at length over the years, written extensively about chastity cage reviews and keyholding, and explored just about every angle of locking a partner up. But the question I keep coming back to, and one I get asked often, is this: what about us? Does female chastity really exist as a kink in its own right, and how can women genuinely enjoy orgasm denial?
Feel Me - That Time I Got Fingered in a Public Bar

Feel Me

I felt his middle finger move to slide deeper inside me, as I brought my glass up to my mouth - to gag the cry threatening to burst from me, as well as to quench my suddenly dry lips. It was all I could do to stop my hand trembling around my drink - a tremble I felt down my body through my knees down to my high-heeled, bare feet – as he worked me deeper still, finger curling to fuck my tight pussy as his thumb brushed teasingly over my electrified clit.

Spanking Toys Guide: Implements, Tools and Techniques

Does the mere thought of a raised Dominant hand, or a spanking toy whistling through the air, stir the tendrils of arousal? You might be wondering which spanking tools are best for effective corporal punishment. Welcome to my big spanking toys guide, in which you'll also find links to all our spanking toy reviews.

Watersports Kink: Curious About Piss Play and Golden Showers?

Does the mention of watersports conjure up innocent images of surfing and jet skis, or raise a knowing smirk? If you're here, I'm guessing it's the latter. For the non-vanilla version of watersports, "golden showers" and "piss play" are probably the more familiar terms, thanks to tabloid coverage of various celebrity and political scandals, and a healthy dose of internet porn.