Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy advice to help you choose safely, use confidently, and enjoy the toys that suit your body and pleasure best.

Welcome to my Sex Toy Advice hub. This is where I share practical, real-life guidance on choosing, using, and caring for sex toys in ways that feel safe, comfortable and genuinely enjoyable. Whether you’re brand new to toys or exploring something more advanced, you’ll find clear, judgement-free information to help you make confident decisions.

Sex toys can enhance solo pleasure, partner intimacy, exploration, and body confidence. But with so many options, materials and features available, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. This section helps you understand what really matters, so you can choose what actually works for your body rather than guessing or wasting money.

If you want broader relationship or bedroom guidance, visit my Sex Advice hub. For practical techniques and everyday improvements, explore Sex Tips. For wider reflections on pleasure, desire and identity, browse Sexuality Articles.

Start Here Essentials

If you’re not sure where to begin, these are the guides I’d start with first, especially if you’re buying your first toy or want the basics done properly.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Toy Advice

This category gathers guides and articles covering how to choose toys, use them safely, and get the most pleasure from them, including:

  • How to choose the right toy for your body, preferences and experience level, including help for your first sex toy
  • Understanding materials, safety and hygiene, including how to use vibrators safely and glass toy safety
  • Cleaning, storage and care, including discreet toy storage options
  • Guides to specific toy types, including vibrators, anal toys, prostate massagers and strokers
  • Partner play, long-distance connection and app-controlled toys
  • Budget-friendly options and finding quality toys at different price points
  • Kink-aware and advanced toys, explored with safety and consent in mind

Where To Start

Not sure what you need yet? Start with what matches your situation right now.

My Approach

I don’t treat sex toys like gimmicks or quick fixes. I treat them as tools for pleasure, exploration, comfort and connection. The right toy should suit your body, your boundaries and your preferences, not trends or marketing hype.

I focus on realistic guidance you can actually use, including safety, comfort, accessibility and long-term enjoyment. Real life matters here. Budget, energy levels, privacy, disability, confidence and experience all shape what works best. This space makes room for all of that, without pressure to perform or upgrade constantly.

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Sexy Christmas Gifts: Festive Toys & Luxury Presents for Couples

Sexy Christmas gifts are the perfect way to add romance and pleasure to the holidays. In this guide I share festive-themed toys and luxury presents couples can buy and enjoy together, all from trusted...

Christmas Themed Sex Toys: Candy Cane Dildos, Santa Vibrators & Festive Fun

Christmas sex toys are the cheekiest way to add festive sparkle to your pleasure. In this guide I round up my favourite novelty designs for the season, from candy cane dildos to Santa vibrators and more.

Sex Toy Storage Options: How To Store Adult Toys Discreetly

I know how easy it is to get hooked on adding exciting new sex toys to your collection regularly. Before you know it, your bedside drawer is too small to store all those wonderful vibrators & dildos. What other sex toy storage options are available? What’s the best way to store adult toys discreetly?

Cheap Sexy Gifts for Christmas and Halloween: Edible Underwear & Candy Love Rings

Enjoy my guide to edible underwear and candy love rings - plus other bedroom treats which you can exchange with your partner at any time of year as cheap sexy gifts. They are especially ideal as small romantic Christmas gifts though; sexy stocking fillers for an intimate festive moment. Or you could treat them for a hot Halloween, Valentine's Day or their birthday!

Travel-Friendly Sex Toys Guide

My travel-friendly sex toys guide will help you choose vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and more which you can slip into your suitcase - then somewhere even better once you reach your destination. In this travelling with sex toys advice guide you’ll discover the top features you should look for in a travel-friendly vibrator, how to get your sex toys through the airport without embarrassment, and where to get these discreet but effective toys even if you have a tight budget.

What Is a Violet Wand? History, Safety and Kinky Uses

Have you ever heard of violet wands? What is a violet wand? How does it work? Are they safe? Why do they have that name? And how come violet rays are both notorious and popular?
Experiment: I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months

I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months – And...

Are you wondering if silicone lubes can damage your silicone toys? If so, that doesn't surprise me. This rumour/myth remains prevalent in online sex toy shop product descriptions and various sexual health guides. What happens when silicone lube is used with silicone sex toys? Does silicone lube erode the silicone material? I wanted to prove once and for all what exactly does happen when silicone lubricant is used with a silicone sex toy – and not only used with, but left to soak for quite some time. So here it is! My experiment, where I left a silicone sex toy in silicone lube for 3 months…

Tips For Spring Cleaning Your Sex Life

In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable but ultimately monotonous sex with each other. That’s why I wanted to share my top tips for spring cleaning your sex life. While everything else is getting a spring clean, don’t neglect your personal and shared sexual pleasure!

How To Organise Your Sex Toy Collection

How many sex toys have you got? Where do you store them? Do you just have a couple of vibrators in the bedside drawer, or masses of dildos shoved under the bed? No matter...

My Favourite Sex Toys: Bedside Drawer ‘Handy Grab’ Collection [Updated]

This is the small selection of sex toys that I just love so much that they’ve made it to permanent residence in my bedside drawer, rather than being rated too mediocre or for some other reason relegated to being put back in the box and into storage in the loft or garage. Today I’d like to share details of my favourite sex toys right now: what exactly is in my current bedside drawer handy grab collection?

Valentine’s Day Gifts: Romantic and Sexy Ideas for Couples and Self-Love

Valentine's Day is the annual day when lovers celebrate their passion. What are your Valentine plans this year? It's traditional to gift your special someone something romantic and thoughtful, and maybe make some plans along the same lines. Couples usually buy each other a card, a gift and spend time together on the day celebrating the magic of their ongoing relationship. What should you buy them this year?

Heat Up Your Sex Life In Winter With These Warming Sex Toys

I've already shared my thoughts on surprising ways the cold season can improve your sex life; today I'm sharing my recommendations for warming sex toys & other pleasure products to heat up your sex life in winter.

Masturbation in a Sex-Positive World (3 Trends)

If you’re reading this, you’re most likely a sex-positive person. But shall we talk about Masturbation Positivity? Despite an ongoing shift in sex culture and education, the self-pleasure taboo remains. Let’s break it! 

How To Enjoy Pain Free Anal Sex & Ditch the Anal Desensitiser

What are your thoughts on, and experiences of, anal sex? The most common concern surrounding using anal sex toys & other anal sexual play is relieving discomfort due to this area’s renowned tightness and sensitivity. In this guide I will reveal how you can enjoy pain free anal sex -and why it’s relevant and important to ditch the anal desensitiser.

Dressing Up Your Sex Doll To Make Her More Attractive

Are you a fan of sex dolls? If you’re one of the thousands of sex doll lovers around the world, then you’ll understand just how important clothes are when it comes to styling your love companion. It can be tempting for new love owners to think it’s all about the sex – so why would the clothing matter?
Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Worrying that using butt plugs or other anal sex toys will make you gay seems to be a fear peculiar to cishet men. Today I’m addressing this issue and giving my definitive answer to the regularly asked question, “will using anal sex toys make me gay?”

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Vacation

Whatever else you’ve got on your packing checklist, today I’m going to help you sex up your suitcase. I'll also show that no matter what sort of holiday you’re looking forward to, intimate solo or shared erotic pleasure should be a priority. Welcome to my guide to packing for a sexy vacation!

Realistic Sex Dolls Guide: Let’s Stop Sex Doll Stigma

How do you feel about sex dolls? Have you/would you ever use them? How do you feel about people who enjoy using sex dolls? Welcome to my realistic sex dolls guide, where I’ll be exploring the features of these oft-maligned sex toys, and revealing where to get the best quality luxury adult dolls for your intimate pleasure & companionship needs.

Easter Sex Toys: Bunny Vibrators & Egg-Inspired Pleasure Picks

Easter sex toys are a fun but also surprisingly effective way to give your bank holiday bedroom plans a seasonal twist. From bunny vibrators and fluffy tail plugs to egg-inspired toys, cheeky chocolate pairings and even a thrillingly kinky carrot dildo, this feature showcases my top Easter-themed pleasure picks for saucy thrills this Spring. 

Vaginismus: How To Ease Vaginal Tightness

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina spasm and painfully tighten during penetration. This tightening is involuntary; the person suffering with vaginismus has no control over it and is unable to make it stop.