Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy advice to help you choose safely, use confidently, and enjoy the toys that suit your body and pleasure best.

Welcome to my Sex Toy Advice hub. This is where I share practical, real-life guidance on choosing, using, and caring for sex toys in ways that feel safe, comfortable and genuinely enjoyable. Whether you’re brand new to toys or exploring something more advanced, you’ll find clear, judgement-free information to help you make confident decisions.

Sex toys can enhance solo pleasure, partner intimacy, exploration, and body confidence. But with so many options, materials and features available, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. This section helps you understand what really matters, so you can choose what actually works for your body rather than guessing or wasting money.

If you want broader relationship or bedroom guidance, visit my Sex Advice hub. For practical techniques and everyday improvements, explore Sex Tips. For wider reflections on pleasure, desire and identity, browse Sexuality Articles.

Start Here Essentials

If you’re not sure where to begin, these are the guides I’d start with first, especially if you’re buying your first toy or want the basics done properly.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Toy Advice

This category gathers guides and articles covering how to choose toys, use them safely, and get the most pleasure from them, including:

  • How to choose the right toy for your body, preferences and experience level, including help for your first sex toy
  • Understanding materials, safety and hygiene, including how to use vibrators safely and glass toy safety
  • Cleaning, storage and care, including discreet toy storage options
  • Guides to specific toy types, including vibrators, anal toys, prostate massagers and strokers
  • Partner play, long-distance connection and app-controlled toys
  • Budget-friendly options and finding quality toys at different price points
  • Kink-aware and advanced toys, explored with safety and consent in mind

Where To Start

Not sure what you need yet? Start with what matches your situation right now.

My Approach

I don’t treat sex toys like gimmicks or quick fixes. I treat them as tools for pleasure, exploration, comfort and connection. The right toy should suit your body, your boundaries and your preferences, not trends or marketing hype.

I focus on realistic guidance you can actually use, including safety, comfort, accessibility and long-term enjoyment. Real life matters here. Budget, energy levels, privacy, disability, confidence and experience all shape what works best. This space makes room for all of that, without pressure to perform or upgrade constantly.

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Scroll down to explore the latest sex toy advice, expert guides, and practical help for choosing toys that truly work for your body, comfort and pleasure.

Easter Sex Toys: Bunny Vibrators & Egg-Inspired Pleasure Picks

Easter sex toys are a fun but also surprisingly effective way to give your bank holiday bedroom plans a seasonal twist. From bunny vibrators and fluffy tail plugs to egg-inspired toys, cheeky chocolate pairings and even a thrillingly kinky carrot dildo, this feature showcases my top Easter-themed pleasure picks for saucy thrills this Spring. 

Vaginismus: How To Ease Vaginal Tightness

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina spasm and painfully tighten during penetration. This tightening is involuntary; the person suffering with vaginismus has no control over it and is unable to make it stop.

Using Ice Cubes In Sex And Masturbation

I really struggle with the heat in summer. It's annoying being far too hot all the time –not to mention the resulting dent in my libido. That said, I've been using ice cubes during sex & masturbation for years, which is certainly a big help during a heatwave. Let me share some of my icy sexual pleasure tips with you here today.

Countries Where Sex Toys Are Banned

If you're a sex toy fan it's important that you do your research about the countries where sex toys are banned. Find out whether you can take your vibrators on vacation without legal repercussions or embarrassment while going through security.

How To Measure Your Penis For Best Cock Ring Fit

A cock ring might be worn for the wearer’s pleasure only, or to provide stimulation to both partners during sex. Because a love ring is worn around a sensitive part of the body, it’s imperative that you get the right size. Today I’ll explain how to measure your penis for best cock ring fit.

App-Controlled Sex Toys Guide

Every industry is striving to provide customers with the latest technological advancements in their products, and the sex toy industry is no different. That's right, there are smartphone app controlled sex toys! Read on to find out more about these app-controlled vibrators and internet enabled vibrators.

How To Recycle Your Old Sex Toys & Dispose Of Broken Vibrators

Ready to declutter and unburden yourself from any belongings which don't spark joy? For 'belongings' read sex toys, and for 'joy' read orgasms. Today I want to discuss how to recycle your old sex toys, and the correct way to dispose of broken vibrators.

Is Too Much Masturbation Dangerous? Can You Wank Too Much?

There are lots of myths and misinformation about masturbating, so I’m here to set the record straight. Can you masturbate too much? Is excessive wanking dangerous? Long story short: although masturbation is definitely a private pleasure, it’s also nothing to feel guilty about and it doesn't cause any harm.

Coconut Oil Sexual Lubricant Guide

Coconut oil is one of those things I've heard plenty about, but I'm still not exactly sure what I can and can't use it for, why I should consider using it and where I should put it. Should I cook with it? Slather it through my hair? Funnel it into the car? Create a tropical-scented slip 'n slide in the garden? Why should I choose it over other oils? What's a good price? What benefits can I expect? And, of course, are coconut oil lubes effective & safe for sex & masturbation?

Rabbit Vibrators Guide

What are rabbit vibes? How do you use a rabbit vibrator? You might be intimately familiar with this type of vibrating sex toy, or perhaps you're new to bunny-based self-love. Here in my rabbit vibrators guide you'll find out all about these consistently popular sex toys –as well as my absolute favourite buzzing bunnies.

BDSM Gear Guide: Essentials for Every Kinkster

I've written several 'sexy product' guides here at the Cara Sutra sex blog, advice guides for sex toys, lubes, and specific kinky sex accessories too. Today I'd like to present my big guide to BDSM toys / BDSM gear, where I will help you navigate the enormous and diverse world of kinky toys and tools used to enhance power exchange sessions.

Anal Lubes Guide

I promised to write about each of the main sub-categories of sex lube in greater detail, and today we're looking at butt-specific lubricants for all your anal pleasure needs. Welcome to my anal lubes 101: your complete guide!

Flavoured Lubes Guide (& Other Special Effect Lube)

Today, I'd like to discuss an extremely fun type of lube in more detail – sex lubricants which offer sensational intimate effects, plus lubes with mouth-watering flavours. Welcome to my special effects & flavoured lubes 101: your complete guide!

Hybrid Lubes Guide

In my recent overview article relating to the huge and diverse world of sexual lubricants, I talked about sex lubes in general, why they're fantastic, what not to use and briefly covered the various types. In this feature, I'd like to introduce one of those types in greater detail. Hybrid sex lubricants are relatively new to the sex lube scene -and are therefore at risk of being misunderstood and sadly avoided. Let's correct that today. Welcome to my hybrid lubes 101: your complete guide!

Oil-Based Lubes Guide

In my recent big guide to sexual lubricants, I looked at the huge and diverse world of lube. There are various types, each with their own pros and cons and recommended usage. Today, I'd like to take a closer look at oil lubricants in particular. What sort of oil can you expect to find in these lubes? What can you use oil lubes for – and what should you avoid? Welcome to my oil-based lubes 101: your complete guide!

Silicone Lubes Guide

Recently, I wrote about the various types of sex lubes in my recent big guide to sexual lubricants. Today, I'd like to delve a little deeper into one of those types in particular, silicone lubricants. Why would you choose a lube which is silicone based? What can you use them for – and what are the pros and cons? Welcome to my silicone lubes 101: your complete guide!

Water-Based Lubes Guide

Water-based lubes are sexual lubricants with a formulation that has water as its main or 'base' ingredient. There may be various other components to the formulation, but water is the main one. As well as a descriptor of the main ingredient of these lubricants, the label 'water-based' helps to quickly and easily differentiate them from the various other types of lubes: silicone, oil-based, hybrid etc.

Complete Guide To Sex Lubes

LUBE. What is it? Who uses it? What are the different types? What is it used for? How and why is it used? Welcome to my big guide to sex lubes!

Sexual Foreplay Guide: Hot Pre-Sex Arousal Tips & Ideas

Brilliant sexual foreplay can mean the difference between a stagnant, monotonous sex life and keeping the spice and magic of a relationship alive. Are you stuck for ideas for fantastic before sex arousal and supremely arousing foreplay? Welcome to my comprehensive guide to lovers' arousal techniques: my sexual foreplay 101.
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Lesbian Sex Toys Guide

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.