Sex Advice

Sex advice that’s practical, pleasure-focused and grounded in real life.

Welcome to my Sex Advice hub. This is where I keep my most useful guidance on intimacy, confidence, communication, boundaries and desire, alongside kink-aware advice that’s consent-forward and emotionally safe. If you’re here because you want better sex, less confusion, more connection, or simply a clearer understanding of what you like, you’re in the right place.

A lot of sex advice online is either painfully vague or wildly unrealistic. I write about sex as it actually happens in real bodies and real relationships, with real-life factors like stress, hormones, disability, ageing, parenting, trauma history and fluctuating libido in the mix. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s more ease, more confidence, and more pleasure on your terms.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Advice Posts

This category pulls together articles and guides across a wide range of sex and relationship topics, including:

  • Intimacy and connection in long-term relationships, plus practical relationship advice
  • Sex tips that focus on comfort, pleasure and confidence, not performance, including my main sex tips archive
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and confidence building via my masturbation guides
  • Real-world guidance on exploring toys, sensation and variety in my sex toy advice posts and sex toy guides, including practical deep dives like my G-spot toys guide
  • Kink-aware discussions, from curiosity to confident play, in my kinky sex advice section
  • Consent-forward BDSM information and emotional safety in my BDSM advice archive
  • Chastity-focused guidance for those who are exploring control, anticipation and power dynamics in my chastity advice posts

Why Read My Sex Advice

I’ve been writing about sex, relationships and pleasure for years, and I keep my approach grounded and human. I’m not here to sell you a perfect version of sexuality. I’m here to help you make sense of what you want, what you feel, and what actually works in your life. You’ll see a mix of practical tips, honest reflections, and the kind of nuance that gets lost when people pretend sex is simple.

If you prefer your learning with a side of storytelling, you might also like my sexy stories and kinky sexy stories, where desire and intimacy get explored in a more imaginative way.

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Selling Your Used Panties Is Easier Than You Think

Selling Your Used Panties: A Beginner’s Guide

Welcome to the intriguing world of panty selling – a unique side hustle that's not only financially rewarding but also a journey of self-discovery. Selling used panties comes with many perks: it's an avenue to boost confidence, embrace sensuality, connect with a community of like-minded individuals, and have fun along the way.

5 Kinky Uses for Christmas Tinsel

Looking for Christmas tinsel kink ideas? In this guide I share five fun and safe ways to use tinsel for festive foreplay and kinky couples’ playtime, turning seasonal sparkle into erotic fun.

Festive Foreplay Ideas: Gift Yourselves A More Exciting Sex Life This Christmas

Festive foreplay ideas are the perfect way to reconnect with your partner at Christmastime. Between family plans and the mince pies, it is easy to lose the spark. Use these ten ideas to turn...

12 Days of Festive Romance: Romantic Christmas Ideas for Couples

Romantic Christmas ideas for couples do not need to be complicated. If it is just the two of you this year, or you are carving out some precious alone time, here are twelve festive ways to reconnect, play and make Christmas deliciously sexy.

Christmas Lingerie Gifts: Sexy & Festive Sets to Give or Get

Christmas lingerie gifts are a flirty, festive way to spoil your partner or drop a very helpful hint. In this guide I share sexy and seasonal sets, luxe robes and cute costumes from trusted retailers I personally use.

Sexy Christmas Gifts: Festive Toys & Luxury Presents for Couples

Sexy Christmas gifts are the perfect way to add romance and pleasure to the holidays. In this guide I share festive-themed toys and luxury presents couples can buy and enjoy together, all from trusted...

Christmas Themed Sex Toys: Candy Cane Dildos, Santa Vibrators & Festive Fun

Christmas sex toys are the cheekiest way to add festive sparkle to your pleasure. In this guide I round up my favourite novelty designs for the season, from candy cane dildos to Santa vibrators and more.

Sex Toy Storage Options: How To Store Adult Toys Discreetly

I know how easy it is to get hooked on adding exciting new sex toys to your collection regularly. Before you know it, your bedside drawer is too small to store all those wonderful vibrators & dildos. What other sex toy storage options are available? What’s the best way to store adult toys discreetly?

Cheap Sexy Gifts for Christmas and Halloween: Edible Underwear & Candy Love Rings

Enjoy my guide to edible underwear and candy love rings - plus other bedroom treats which you can exchange with your partner at any time of year as cheap sexy gifts. They are especially ideal as small romantic Christmas gifts though; sexy stocking fillers for an intimate festive moment. Or you could treat them for a hot Halloween, Valentine's Day or their birthday!

What Is Fisting? Safe Guide to Fisting Your Partner

Heard of fisting? This sexual activity isn’t talked about much in the mainstream, but plenty of partners enjoy fisting. You can fist someone vaginally or anally. Because of the shape and size of our hands, even as a closed fist, fisting can seem like a terrifying prospect - something only done by fetishists into sadism and masochism. Today I’m going to thrust into this intriguing and often mysterious activity with both hands...

Ruined Orgasms: How to Do Them and Why People Enjoy Them

While orgasms are not the goal of sex with a partner, they’re often a highlight. Then there are all the orgasms enjoyed by people during solo pleasure sessions – masturbation. Why then, do some people pursue and enjoy a ruined orgasm? What are ruined orgasms? How do you ruin an orgasm, and why on earth would you want to?

Why I Love Locking Men in Chastity Cages: A FemDom View

As the locked chastity continues, I enjoy every renewed realisation that they’re unable to have an erection or an orgasm. Of course, being a cruel and evil Bitch, I heighten the sub/slave’s torment with frequent teasing, whether by words, images or demanding that they perform in various perverted ways for me in person.

Travel-Friendly Sex Toys Guide

My travel-friendly sex toys guide will help you choose vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and more which you can slip into your suitcase - then somewhere even better once you reach your destination. In this travelling with sex toys advice guide you’ll discover the top features you should look for in a travel-friendly vibrator, how to get your sex toys through the airport without embarrassment, and where to get these discreet but effective toys even if you have a tight budget.

What Is a Violet Wand? History, Safety and Kinky Uses

Have you ever heard of violet wands? What is a violet wand? How does it work? Are they safe? Why do they have that name? And how come violet rays are both notorious and popular?

Could Labiaplasty Fix Your Sex Life? Personal Experience of Vulva Surgery

What is labiaplasty? Labiaplasty is a form of vulva surgery by vaginoplasty surgeons which changes the size, shape and look of the labia majora and/or labia minora. This may be done for increased physical comfort, self-confidence or sexual enhancement reasons.
Experiment: I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months

I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months – And...

Are you wondering if silicone lubes can damage your silicone toys? If so, that doesn't surprise me. This rumour/myth remains prevalent in online sex toy shop product descriptions and various sexual health guides. What happens when silicone lube is used with silicone sex toys? Does silicone lube erode the silicone material? I wanted to prove once and for all what exactly does happen when silicone lubricant is used with a silicone sex toy – and not only used with, but left to soak for quite some time. So here it is! My experiment, where I left a silicone sex toy in silicone lube for 3 months…
Virgo Style Male Chastity Explained: Alternative Keyholder Chastity

Virgo Style Male Chastity: An Alternative Way to Live Chaste

Regardless of the deep stuff, the erotic benefits to the kinky chaste man are undeniably obvious. If you are in a chastity cage, any sexual activity is an exquisite tease, and the knowledge that this will be ongoing pings your masochism. It can also be pretty mind-blowing wearing a chastity cage day-to-day, knowing it’s not coming off for the bedroom...

The Folded Deckchair Sex Position (& Why We Love It)

Have you ever heard of the Folded Deckchair sex position? I was surprised to find out that one of my husband and I’s favourite sex positions had a name. To be honest, it shouldn’t have surprised me that much as the Internet is full of sexual position listicles with such titles as "69 Sex Positions You Never Knew Existed!" and "100 New Sex Positions You Need To Try Right NOW!".

Female Led Relationships: What Living in an FLR Is Really Like

I'm typing this wearing a penis chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh… and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm.

Tips For Spring Cleaning Your Sex Life

In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable but ultimately monotonous sex with each other. That’s why I wanted to share my top tips for spring cleaning your sex life. While everything else is getting a spring clean, don’t neglect your personal and shared sexual pleasure!