Last Updated on 11 November, 2026 by Cara Sutra
Festive foreplay ideas are the perfect way to reconnect with your partner at Christmastime. Between family plans and the mince pies, it’s easy to lose the spark. Use these ten ideas to turn the season of giving into the season of pleasure.
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10 Festive Foreplay Ideas For Couples
Here are my ten festive foreplay ideas to spice up your love life this holiday season. Start soft and playful, then build toward bolder scenes. Follow your shared curiosity, communicate, and keep consent and comfort at the centre of your play.
1) Kink Up A Brisk Walk Outdoors
A brisk winter walk reinvigorates the senses and sets up beautiful anticipation. Wear nipple clamps or teasing crotchless knickers under your outfit, and let your partner know. Or try public-play-friendly toys with app control so they can tease you before you head home for the main event.
Try this: Discreet app-controlled toys from Lovense, or award-winning wearables from We-Vibe (United States | United Kingdom & Europe).
You’ll also find great options at Lovehoney (United States | United Kingdom).
2) Invite Them To Unwrap The Best Present: You
Before you dive under the covers, set up a slow unwrapping. Choose a Santa-cute lingerie set or trim a favourite with a little tinsel. A short burlesque or playful striptease builds delicious anticipation.
Shop lingerie: Lovehoney (United States | United Kingdom).
3) Give Your Partner Erotic Pre-Christmas Gifts
You don’t need to wait for Christmas morning. Surprise them with something new to change up your shared pleasure. Create a mini scavenger hunt that leads to a different style of toy you can enjoy together.
Try this: the brand-new We-Vibe Shared Touch, a double-sided grinding vibrator built for shared use, so you both feel it at once (United States | United Kingdom & Europe). Or unwrap a full month of surprises with sexy advent calendars.
4) Read Your Partner A Raunchy Bedtime Story
Many of us get turned on in the mind first. Erotic fiction is a fast track to arousal, and reading to each other is deeply intimate. Choose flash-fiction anthologies or a few short scenes that match your mood.
Explore my sexy stories here on the blog, then curl up with your favourites for shared out-loud thrills.
5) Enjoy Christmas-Themed Role Play
You don’t need an Oscar to role play, you just need a sense of fun. Try Father Christmas and a very naughty elf, or Mrs Claus who has urgent needs. Layer in bondage or discipline if that suits you both. Keep it consensual, giggly, and hot.
Costume help: browse festive lingerie and role-play looks at Lovehoney (United States | United Kingdom). New to it? My imaginative role play ideas have plenty to borrow.
6) ‘Gift-Wrap’ Your Partner In Kinky Bondage
Flip the unwrapping. Use Santa-red rope or a festive restraint kit, add a sparkling diamanté butt plug, thread a little tinsel through nipple clamps, and admire your living Christmas present. Agree signals, keep safety shears handy, and enjoy the power exchange.
Bondage picks: rope, cuffs and clamps at Lovehoney (United States | United Kingdom), giftable restraint kits and vegan collars from Liebe Seele, or a sparkly festive plug from Juliet Toys. For the how-to, see my festive bondage guide.
7) Play A Sexy Christmas Adult Game
A sexy board game removes pressure and sparks ideas quickly. They’re designed to encourage communication, exploration, and laughter that often leads to more.
Game ideas: the 12 Sex Games of Christmas at Sextoys.co.uk (United Kingdom) | Babeland (United States), or the Oh! Fantastic Foreplay board game at Lovehoney (United States | United Kingdom).
8) Use Tinsel As A Sexy Bedroom Accessory
Tinsel is a surprisingly good sensual tool. Trail it like a feather tickler, brush across nipples and thighs, blindfold then tease, and let the glittering strands spark shivery goosebumps.
Want to take it further? My guide to 5 kinky uses for Christmas tinsel has more.
9) Enjoy Christmas-Themed Sex Toys During Foreplay
Yes, there are Christmas-themed sex toys, and they’re adorable. Using festive vibrators, dildos and plugs keeps the mood light, playful and very turned on.
See my full guide to Christmas-themed sex toys.
Favourites include candy cane glass, a reindeer bullet and a Christmas tree glass plug.
Browse the festive range at Juliet Toys (worldwide, 15% off with code CARA).
10) Light A Festive-Scent Candle And Give Each Other A Massage
Soft candle-light and a favourite seasonal scent help you switch off from the world so you can switch on to each other. Lay a towel down, warm some oil in your hands, and take turns giving slow, attentive massages that blend into teasing and play.
Stock up: massage oils and candles at SheVibe, plus romance sets at Lovehoney (United States | United Kingdom).
Cara’s Couples’ Christmas Toolkit
- Sexy Christmas Gift Guide
- Christmas Lingerie Gift Guide
- Christmas-Themed Sex Toys Guide
- 12 Days Of Festive Romance
- Sexual Foreplay Guide
Build on these festive foreplay ideas using your own creativity. It’s not about how much you spend, it’s about carving out time together, being present, and letting desire unfold. Wishing you both an exciting, sexy and joyful Christmas season, and a fully satisfied New Year.
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