Sex Advice

Sex advice that’s practical, pleasure-focused and grounded in real life.

Welcome to my Sex Advice hub. This is where I keep my most useful guidance on intimacy, confidence, communication, boundaries and desire, alongside kink-aware advice that’s consent-forward and emotionally safe. If you’re here because you want better sex, less confusion, more connection, or simply a clearer understanding of what you like, you’re in the right place.

A lot of sex advice online is either painfully vague or wildly unrealistic. I write about sex as it actually happens in real bodies and real relationships, with real-life factors like stress, hormones, disability, ageing, parenting, trauma history and fluctuating libido in the mix. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s more ease, more confidence, and more pleasure on your terms.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Advice Posts

This category pulls together articles and guides across a wide range of sex and relationship topics, including:

  • Intimacy and connection in long-term relationships, plus practical relationship advice
  • Sex tips that focus on comfort, pleasure and confidence, not performance, including my main sex tips archive
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and confidence building via my masturbation guides
  • Real-world guidance on exploring toys, sensation and variety in my sex toy advice posts and sex toy guides, including practical deep dives like my G-spot toys guide
  • Kink-aware discussions, from curiosity to confident play, in my kinky sex advice section
  • Consent-forward BDSM information and emotional safety in my BDSM advice archive
  • Chastity-focused guidance for those who are exploring control, anticipation and power dynamics in my chastity advice posts

Why Read My Sex Advice

I’ve been writing about sex, relationships and pleasure for years, and I keep my approach grounded and human. I’m not here to sell you a perfect version of sexuality. I’m here to help you make sense of what you want, what you feel, and what actually works in your life. You’ll see a mix of practical tips, honest reflections, and the kind of nuance that gets lost when people pretend sex is simple.

If you prefer your learning with a side of storytelling, you might also like my sexy stories and kinky sexy stories, where desire and intimacy get explored in a more imaginative way.

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Prostate Milking Guide: P-Spot Pleasure and Health Benefits

Would you like to experience unforgettable, full-body orgasms? Do you have a prostate? In case you didn't know, there's a powerful connection between the two, and as a Domme who's spent a lot of time exploring exactly this with submissive men over the years, I can tell you it's a connection well worth getting acquainted with.

Velvet Thruster Thrusting Dildos Prime Silicone Tops Collection

The Velvet Thruster Thrusting Dildo is ingeniously modular, meaning you can buy the base toy and choose which of the silicone attachments/toppers you’d like to use with it. There’s a wide variety of silicone tops to choose from, and the generous team sent me the whole collection to try out. Welcome to my Velvet Thruster Thrusting Dildos Prime Silicone Tops Collection showcase!

Lovehoney Sex Toy Advent Calendars 2024 (12 & 24 Day Options Available)

Are you ready for the sexiest Christmas countdown ever? Lovehoney have launched their brand-new sex toy advent calendars for 2024, and I’m excited to share all the exquisitely erotic details with you! The star of the show this year is the Lovehoney 24-Day Womanizer Sex Toy Advent Calendar 2024.

Adult Halloween Party Games: Spooky Game Ideas for Grown-Ups

For all those planning a Halloween party for their adult friends, I thought I’d ‘treat’ you to some of my favourite adult Halloween party games. These games are perfect for those who are a little older, but can be adapted for younger children to play too. Enjoy!
Sexy Halloween Ideas for Couples

How To Have A Sexy Halloween: Flirty Ideas for Couples, Solo & At Home

Sexing up seasonal events is just so much fun! Halloween is no exception thanks to the wicked fun and seductive costumes this time of year traditionally offers. Do you need some saucy Samhain inspiration? Then you’re in luck… read on to discover how to have a sexy Halloween – whether you're single or part of a couple.

Sexy Halloween Costumes Guide: Flirty & Outrageous October Outfits

Welcome to my Sexiest Halloween Costumes Guide! If you're struggling to decide between witchy, vampy or seductively feline dressing-up outfits for this spooky time of year, my saucy Halloween outfits 101 is here to help. Below you'll discover a showcase of some breathtakingly sexy Halloween costume ideas, at great prices & with discreet delivery from your favourite online adult retailers.

Halloween Sex Toys & Spooky Pleasure Guide: The Best Kinky Treats for October

Halloween sex toys are the perfect excuse for spooky pleasure. In this updated guide I round up glow-in-the-dark treats, monster dildos, app-control thrills, BDSM and e-stim ideas, plus hands-free machines for a deliciously wicked night in.

How To Write Erotic Fiction & Sexy Stories

I love to encourage people to write. It’s a wonderful creative release and there’s a great sense of achievement when you’ve got a piece of fiction in front of you that you’re proud of. It’s all the better if that story is sexy. I’m an erotica author; I’ve got to say that. Writing erotic fiction with great sex scenes is not as easy as you might think, so I’m here to give you some pointers to help you avoid the pit holes and find your way to writing something orgasmically good.

The Best Erotic Authors: My Top 5 Sexy Story Writers

There doesn’t seem to be an end to the amount of erotic fiction novels, short stories and flash fiction being published across various platforms. Perhaps it will help you if I share some of my favourites? This feature introduces my top 5 sexy story writers - in my opinion the best erotic authors around - as well as their bestselling erotica books and where to buy them.

8 Reasons Why You Should Read Erotic Books

What about the saucy sizzle of erotica? Should you take them seriously as a literary option? Also, can erotic books improve your sex life? Absolutely. Read on to discover 8 reasons why you should read erotic books.

Bisexual Visibility Month: Combatting Bisexuality Myths & Bi Erasure

Last Updated: September 2025 - As a bisexual and pansexual woman, it’s important to me to add my voice to the global choir of fellow bisexual people to say loud and clear that we exist, that bisexuality is its own real and valid sexuality, and to dispel various persistent myths about bisexuality and bisexual people.

Cannibal Kink: Erotic Vore and Devouring Fantasies

For some, the idea of cannibalism arouses and excites the sexual part of their psyche. Why do some people have a cannibal kink? In this feature, I explore the heart of sexy cannibalism and take a look at what motivates an erotic fascination with the taboo practice of devouring human flesh.

My Positive Mirena Coil Insertion Story: How It Felt & Life With An IUD

So here it is: my Mirena Coil insertion experience, plus what happens afterwards. As with all things, your mileage may vary – but as I often find it helpful to read ‘real person’ experiences online, I wanted to share my Mirena story. I hope it enlightens you about this particular intrauterine device, how it’s inserted, what to expect, potential side effects; and that it helps you decide whether the Mirena is the right choice for you.

My Nexplanon Implant Experiences: The Subdermal Contraceptive

What is the Nexplanon implant? How does it work? Does it hurt to get it inserted? How long does it last? Does it protect against STIs? Today I’m sharing my answers to all these questions, plus my personal experiences getting the Nexplanon subdermal contraceptive inserted...

Do Aphrodisiacs Work? List of Aphrodisiac Foods to Boost Libido

My thoughts turned to foods that are aphrodisiacs; what to look out for on the restaurant menus so I can make the most of these supposed boosts to my sex drive. Do aphrodisiacs work? Read on as I delve into the world of foods to enhance your sex life, plus a handy list of aphrodisiac foods to boost libido.

Gay Sex Toys Guide: Adult Toys for Gay Lovers & Lesbian Couples

Love is love, and it deserves to be fully celebrated in all its forms. Read on to discover my gay sex toys guide, where I’ll be showcasing adult toys ideal for gay couples, to enhance your intimate and passionate private time together.

What is LGBTQIA+ Pride? Why Do We Still Need Pride Month?

Happy LGBTQIA+ Pride Month! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️  How wonderful it is to see people coming together to celebrate love and diversity in all its beautiful forms. Each year, the month of June is an opportunity to focus on the importance of acceptance, unity, and support for all individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Penis Masturbators Guide: Cock Strokers That’ll Blow Your… Mind

Do you opt for a lubed up ‘hand solo’ or have you got a favourite penis stroker toy? If you’re here because you’re wondering if you can improve on what you’ve got, and enjoy spectacular orgasms by travelling a different route to usual, you’re in luck. Today I’m talking about cock strokers that’ll blow your mind, in a penis masturbators guide offering you the best toys whatever your budget.

The Wet Patch After Sex: Sleep In It or Deal With It?

What do you use to clean up after sex? Whether it's PiV sex (penis in vagina) or other types of sexual pleasure, the wet patch isn’t often talked about in sex advice columns, sexy stories or other erotic media. Bodily fluids, lube and other liquids are part and parcel of sexy fun, however – so finding a neat solution for post-sex clean-up is a great idea.

Dirty Talk: The Expert Guide to Talking Filth During Sex

How do you do great dirty talk? If you're feeling tongue-tied in the bad way during sex chat, you're in the right place. Today I'm sharing a long read; an expert guide to talking filth during sex. And I mean sex whether that's in person or long distance, via phone sex, video messaging or even good old text chats.