Sex Advice

Sex advice that’s practical, pleasure-focused and grounded in real life.

Welcome to my Sex Advice hub. This is where I keep my most useful guidance on intimacy, confidence, communication, boundaries and desire, alongside kink-aware advice that’s consent-forward and emotionally safe. If you’re here because you want better sex, less confusion, more connection, or simply a clearer understanding of what you like, you’re in the right place.

A lot of sex advice online is either painfully vague or wildly unrealistic. I write about sex as it actually happens in real bodies and real relationships, with real-life factors like stress, hormones, disability, ageing, parenting, trauma history and fluctuating libido in the mix. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s more ease, more confidence, and more pleasure on your terms.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Advice Posts

This category pulls together articles and guides across a wide range of sex and relationship topics, including:

  • Intimacy and connection in long-term relationships, plus practical relationship advice
  • Sex tips that focus on comfort, pleasure and confidence, not performance, including my main sex tips archive
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and confidence building via my masturbation guides
  • Real-world guidance on exploring toys, sensation and variety in my sex toy advice posts and sex toy guides, including practical deep dives like my G-spot toys guide
  • Kink-aware discussions, from curiosity to confident play, in my kinky sex advice section
  • Consent-forward BDSM information and emotional safety in my BDSM advice archive
  • Chastity-focused guidance for those who are exploring control, anticipation and power dynamics in my chastity advice posts

Why Read My Sex Advice

I’ve been writing about sex, relationships and pleasure for years, and I keep my approach grounded and human. I’m not here to sell you a perfect version of sexuality. I’m here to help you make sense of what you want, what you feel, and what actually works in your life. You’ll see a mix of practical tips, honest reflections, and the kind of nuance that gets lost when people pretend sex is simple.

If you prefer your learning with a side of storytelling, you might also like my sexy stories and kinky sexy stories, where desire and intimacy get explored in a more imaginative way.

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Halloween Sex Toys & Spooky Pleasure Guide: The Best Kinky Treats for October

Halloween sex toys are the perfect excuse for spooky pleasure. In this updated guide I round up glow-in-the-dark treats, monster dildos, app-control thrills, BDSM and e-stim ideas, plus hands-free machines for a deliciously wicked night in.

How To Write Erotic Fiction & Sexy Stories

I love to encourage people to write. It’s a wonderful creative release and there’s a great sense of achievement when you’ve got a piece of fiction in front of you that you’re proud of. It’s all the better if that story is sexy. I’m an erotica author; I’ve got to say that. Writing erotic fiction with great sex scenes is not as easy as you might think, so I’m here to give you some pointers to help you avoid the pit holes and find your way to writing something orgasmically good.

The Best Erotic Authors: My Top 5 Sexy Story Writers

There doesn’t seem to be an end to the amount of erotic fiction novels, short stories and flash fiction being published across various platforms. Perhaps it will help you if I share some of my favourites? This feature introduces my top 5 sexy story writers - in my opinion the best erotic authors around - as well as their bestselling erotica books and where to buy them.

8 Reasons Why You Should Read Erotic Books

What about the saucy sizzle of erotica? Should you take them seriously as a literary option? Also, can erotic books improve your sex life? Absolutely. Read on to discover 8 reasons why you should read erotic books.

Bisexual Visibility Month: Combatting Bisexuality Myths & Bi Erasure

Last Updated: September 2025 - As a bisexual and pansexual woman, it’s important to me to add my voice to the global choir of fellow bisexual people to say loud and clear that we exist, that bisexuality is its own real and valid sexuality, and to dispel various persistent myths about bisexuality and bisexual people.

Cannibal Kink: Erotic Vore and Devouring Fantasies

For some, the idea of cannibalism arouses and excites the sexual part of their psyche. Why do some people have a cannibal kink? In this feature, I explore the heart of sexy cannibalism and take a look at what motivates an erotic fascination with the taboo practice of devouring human flesh.

My Positive Mirena Coil Insertion Story: How It Felt & Life With An IUD

So here it is: my Mirena Coil insertion experience, plus what happens afterwards. As with all things, your mileage may vary – but as I often find it helpful to read ‘real person’ experiences online, I wanted to share my Mirena story. I hope it enlightens you about this particular intrauterine device, how it’s inserted, what to expect, potential side effects; and that it helps you decide whether the Mirena is the right choice for you.

My Nexplanon Implant Experiences: The Subdermal Contraceptive

What is the Nexplanon implant? How does it work? Does it hurt to get it inserted? How long does it last? Does it protect against STIs? Today I’m sharing my answers to all these questions, plus my personal experiences getting the Nexplanon subdermal contraceptive inserted...

Do Aphrodisiacs Work? List of Aphrodisiac Foods to Boost Libido

My thoughts turned to foods that are aphrodisiacs; what to look out for on the restaurant menus so I can make the most of these supposed boosts to my sex drive. Do aphrodisiacs work? Read on as I delve into the world of foods to enhance your sex life, plus a handy list of aphrodisiac foods to boost libido.

Gay Sex Toys Guide: Adult Toys for Gay Lovers & Lesbian Couples

Love is love, and it deserves to be fully celebrated in all its forms. Read on to discover my gay sex toys guide, where I’ll be showcasing adult toys ideal for gay couples, to enhance your intimate and passionate private time together.

What is LGBTQIA+ Pride? Why Do We Still Need Pride Month?

Happy LGBTQIA+ Pride Month! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️  How wonderful it is to see people coming together to celebrate love and diversity in all its beautiful forms. Each year, the month of June is an opportunity to focus on the importance of acceptance, unity, and support for all individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Penis Masturbators Guide: Cock Strokers That’ll Blow Your… Mind

Do you opt for a lubed up ‘hand solo’ or have you got a favourite penis stroker toy? If you’re here because you’re wondering if you can improve on what you’ve got, and enjoy spectacular orgasms by travelling a different route to usual, you’re in luck. Today I’m talking about cock strokers that’ll blow your mind, in a penis masturbators guide offering you the best toys whatever your budget.

The Wet Patch After Sex: Sleep In It or Deal With It?

What do you use to clean up after sex? Whether it's PiV sex (penis in vagina) or other types of sexual pleasure, the wet patch isn’t often talked about in sex advice columns, sexy stories or other erotic media. Bodily fluids, lube and other liquids are part and parcel of sexy fun, however – so finding a neat solution for post-sex clean-up is a great idea.

Dirty Talk: The Expert Guide to Talking Filth During Sex

How do you do great dirty talk? If you're feeling tongue-tied in the bad way during sex chat, you're in the right place. Today I'm sharing a long read; an expert guide to talking filth during sex. And I mean sex whether that's in person or long distance, via phone sex, video messaging or even good old text chats.

G-Spot Toys Guide: How to Choose the Best Vibrators and Dildos for Targeted Pleasure

In the world of sexuality and intimate pleasure, there is a lot of talk about the G-spot. This may raise several questions for you, such as what is the G-spot? Why is it called that? Does it really exist? Where is the G-spot and how can you stimulate it effectively? What are the best G-stim vibrators & dildos to use? Welcome to my G-Spot Toys guide!

How to Be Dominant Outside the Bedroom: 12 Lifestyle BDSM Tips

What if you and your partner would like a more 'everyday' style of Dom and sub relationship? A consensual power exchange which isn’t limited to kinky play sessions in the bedroom, but enhances every part of your life together? In today’s article I will explore lifestyle BDSM from the Dom’s point of view, revealing how to be Dominant outside the bedroom.

How to Be Dominant in the Bedroom: 12 Kinky Sex Tips

How can you exude confidence, assertiveness, and that irresistible Dominant streak? What are some handy ways to tap into consensual cruelty and punish your eager partner? And how do you overcome shyness and nervous giggles? In today’s article I’m sharing my 12 tips on how to be Dominant in the bedroom.

Bathmate Penis Pumps Guide: Hydro, HydroMax & HydroXtreme

Bathmate is undoubtedly the name when it comes to trusted and reliable penis pumps. Their pumps and phallic enhancement products are the result of constant research and development tweaks, alongside real user feedback. Bathmate penis pumps are hydrotherapy-based, hence the ‘bath’ part of the brand name. How do they work – and do they actually work?

Penis Pumps Guide: How To Get A Bigger Cock & Stronger Erections

Welcome to my penis pumps guide! If you’re wondering how to get a bigger cock and enjoy stronger erections, you’re in the right place. In this article I will be explaining what a penis pump is, how to use them safely, if they really work and how to choose the best penis pump for you.

10 Cheap Romantic Ideas: Romance on a Budget

Even when funds are limited, there are free or low-cost ways to create magical and memorable experiences with your beloved partner. True love isn’t dependent on how much is in the bank, or the price tag on a gift. Romance is what you make it; the effort and thought you put into a shared experience. If you’re wondering how to be romantic when money is tight, I’m here to help.