By Giles English: For a chastity fetishist like me, there’s something darkly enticing about a hands-free, penis-free orgasm. It’s an added bonus – as the Nexus Revo 2 Prostate Massager just taught me – that there’s also something deeply sensual about it.
Last night, Xena really laid into me, 45 lashes arriving in two batches. Whenever she struck, it made me whimper and lurch away (futilely, given I was chained up). As she approached to deliver the second batch, I actually felt afraid enough to begin to shake. That’s a delicious loss of control.
I love the idea of a cock free, hands free orgasm, not least because I’m 'stuck' in chastity at the moment. It’s been more than 100 days since I’ve had an orgasm, and I have at least 20 more to wait, so I was overjoyed that my wife gave me permission to try the prostate massager as long as my chastity device stayed on.
In the ideal kinky world, everybody talks before and after doing power exchange: “Communicate, communicate, communicate.” It’s the standard expectation in the BDSM community, where refusing to talk about kink is a red flag. And yes, communicating about kink feels like a no-brainer. How else will you both make sure that everything is safe and consensual?
We wanted something that hurt enough to get the flinch reaction each and every time. Corporal punishment needed to feel like punishment – that’s how our Female Led Relationship works and how I like it (because submissive and masochist, you either get it or you don’t).
By Giles English: I’m sitting here typing this with a surgical nylon Custom Chastity Ghost Chastity Cage locked around my man-parts. It’s been there continuously for 10 days. I’ve worn it more or less every night for months. I haven’t had an orgasm for 4 weeks and have no prospect of one for at least another 2 weeks. And it feels… great.
How do you get your partner to dominate you? Unless your kink is likely to trigger some past trauma in your partner, just ask. Seriously! That's not bad advice because if you don't ask, you will never, ever get. (It does help if you ask right, but we'll get to that.)
By Giles English I'm typing this wearing a male chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm… And Xena’s in charge.
A hands-free vibrating butt plug is a great idea! It squares the circle of anal - once it's inserted, you can wipe up, wash your hands, and remain clean... until it's time to take it out, of course. For a man in a chastity device, it's also an intriguing prospect. For solo pleasure... well once it's in, what can you do? Writhe around sensually playing with other erogenous zones. What an amazing thought!