Sex Tips

Practical sex tips you can actually use in real life, for more pleasure, better intimacy and less second-guessing.

Welcome to my Sex Tips hub. This is where I keep practical, real-life advice for improving sex, deepening connection, and feeling more confident in your body and desires. Some tips are tiny and immediate. Others quietly change how you experience sex over time. Either way, this isn’t performance-based “do it perfectly” content. It’s sex-positive guidance for real people, real bodies and real relationships. No performance required. This category focuses on practical, everyday tips rather than deep guides or broader sexuality discussions. This archive brings together years of practical tips, experiments and real-life learning about what actually improves sex.

If you want broader guidance beyond tips, head to my main Sex Advice hub. If you’re in a more reflective mood and want wider sexuality topics, you might prefer Sexuality Articles. For right now, this page is all about practical improvements you can try, keep, tweak, or ditch as you learn what works for you.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Tips

This category gathers tips and guides across pleasure, confidence and connection, including:

  • Everyday bedroom tips that make sex feel better, not just look better
  • Pleasure-focused ideas for foreplay, arousal and getting out of autopilot
  • Communication tips that make consent, boundaries and desire easier to talk about
  • Solo sex tips for confidence, exploration and learning what you like, with routes into masturbation guides
  • Tips for couples and long-term relationships, with routes into relationship advice
  • Toy-friendly tips and ways to use toys as part of exploration, with routes into sex toy advice and sex toy guides, including practical help like my G-spot toys guide
  • Kink-aware tips when you want to explore something new safely, with routes into kinky sex advice

Where To Start

Not sure what you need yet? Start anywhere that feels relevant.

  • Want better sex fast? Look for posts with simple, practical steps you can try tonight, and keep the ones that genuinely work for you
  • Feeling a bit disconnected? Start with intimacy and communication tips, then explore my relationship advice archive
  • Trying to boost pleasure? Begin with arousal and foreplay tips, then explore solo confidence via my masturbation guides
  • Curious about toys? Start with my sex toy advice posts, then browse sex toy guides
  • Want something a bit kinkier? Explore consent-forward routes into kinky sex advice

My Approach

I write sex tips from lived experience, curiosity, and a deep dislike of shame. I’m not here to tell you what you “should” want. I’m here to offer options, perspective and practical ideas, so you can build a sex life that feels good to you, not one you’re performing for anyone else. If your reality includes stress, illness, disability, trauma history, ageing, hormones, parenting, or shifting desire, you’re not alone. This space makes room for all of that.

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How To Cool Down Hot Summer Sex

If only there was a way to still enjoy sizzling sex and masturbation during a heatwave, without melting into a distinctly unsexy, sticky mess. In this feature I’ll be revealing how to cool down hot summer sex with some tried & tested techniques, so you can still enjoy intense intimacy whatever the weather.

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Vacation

Whatever else you’ve got on your packing checklist, today I’m going to help you sex up your suitcase. I'll also show that no matter what sort of holiday you’re looking forward to, intimate solo or shared erotic pleasure should be a priority. Welcome to my guide to packing for a sexy vacation!

Autofellatio: How To Suck Your Own Cock

I’m lucky enough to have photographic evidence of someone performing autofellatio. A reader got in touch via email and we discussed the subject, and they were happy for me to publish this photo of them sucking their own cock. In fact, they were positively enthusiastic about the idea.

Using All Five Senses During Sex

Ever wondered how your senses might be connected to your sexuality? How can greater awareness of this connection lead to an enhanced enjoyment of erotic intimacy? In this comprehensive exploration by Jon Pressick from sexinwords.ca, you can look forward to finding out about using all five senses during sex. Sight, sound, taste, touch and scent*. Let's get started!
Ceramic Easter bunny couple kissing beside pastel eggs on a blue background

Sexy Easter Ideas for Couples: Be At It Like Bunnies All Weekend

Looking for sexy Easter ideas for couples? You’re in the right place. Enjoy this seasonal feature which helps you inject saucy springtime fun that goes far beyond chocolate eggs and Sunday lunch. Easter weekend is the perfect excuse to slow down and connect with your partner, exploring new, exciting ways to enhance your shared intimacy and get playful together. 

Seven Deadly Sex Sins

What follows is an examination of the Seven Deadly Sins - or rather, the Seven Deadly Sex Sins - by Jon Pressick from sexinwords.ca. So, what are the 7 deadly sins? They are Lust, Gluttony, Sloth, Greed, Envy, Wrath & Pride (and this is the order they're written about, below). Over to you, Jon!

Benefits Of A Regular Sex Life In Middle-Age

When I was younger, I thought sex was strictly reserved for the young. People in their 40s, 50s, 60s and older having sex? Talk to the hand! Time marches on for all of us though, and as I approach my mid-40s myself I have to admit that I was totally wrong. Not only do I still have a strong libido and active love life, there are various unexpected benefits to a regular sex life in middle-age as well.

Safe Sex Guide: Healthy Hook-Ups Every Time

After the severe social restrictions of the last couple of years, many people will be enjoying some tentative freedoms with regards meeting people in-person again. Dating is back! The term 'dating' is a bit vague - it could mean searching for a long-term partner or hooking up for some no-strings sex. How can you ensure healthy hook-ups and enjoy safe sex, though?
Edging In Masturbation How To Edge And Why You Should Try

What Is Edging In Masturbation? How To ‘Edge’ & Why You Should Try It

Experimenting with new bedroom techniques, positions and sensations is a great way to ensure your sex life remains healthy and varied. It's easy to discount masturbation as not really part of your 'sex life', but don't make that mistake - exploring new solo sexual ventures keeps things fresh and exciting. You're worth it!

Vaginismus: How To Ease Vaginal Tightness

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina spasm and painfully tighten during penetration. This tightening is involuntary; the person suffering with vaginismus has no control over it and is unable to make it stop.

Using Ice Cubes In Sex And Masturbation

I really struggle with the heat in summer. It's annoying being far too hot all the time –not to mention the resulting dent in my libido. That said, I've been using ice cubes during sex & masturbation for years, which is certainly a big help during a heatwave. Let me share some of my icy sexual pleasure tips with you here today.

Countries Where Sex Toys Are Banned

If you're a sex toy fan it's important that you do your research about the countries where sex toys are banned. Find out whether you can take your vibrators on vacation without legal repercussions or embarrassment while going through security.

How To Measure Your Penis For Best Cock Ring Fit

A cock ring might be worn for the wearer’s pleasure only, or to provide stimulation to both partners during sex. Because a love ring is worn around a sensitive part of the body, it’s imperative that you get the right size. Today I’ll explain how to measure your penis for best cock ring fit.

Is Too Much Masturbation Dangerous? Can You Wank Too Much?

There are lots of myths and misinformation about masturbating, so I’m here to set the record straight. Can you masturbate too much? Is excessive wanking dangerous? Long story short: although masturbation is definitely a private pleasure, it’s also nothing to feel guilty about and it doesn't cause any harm.

Coconut Oil Sexual Lubricant Guide

Coconut oil is one of those things I've heard plenty about, but I'm still not exactly sure what I can and can't use it for, why I should consider using it and where I should put it. Should I cook with it? Slather it through my hair? Funnel it into the car? Create a tropical-scented slip 'n slide in the garden? Why should I choose it over other oils? What's a good price? What benefits can I expect? And, of course, are coconut oil lubes effective & safe for sex & masturbation?

Pelvic Floor Exercises: How To Do Them & Why You Should

Your pelvic floor is the muscle responsible for those delicious clenches you feel during orgasm. Regular Kegel exercises help to tone the vagina and enable you to keep a better grip of your partner during PiV (penis in vagina) sex. As you climax, a more toned vagina will clench harder which intensifies sensation for both partners.

Anal Lubes Guide

I promised to write about each of the main sub-categories of sex lube in greater detail, and today we're looking at butt-specific lubricants for all your anal pleasure needs. Welcome to my anal lubes 101: your complete guide!

Flavoured Lubes Guide (& Other Special Effect Lube)

Today, I'd like to discuss an extremely fun type of lube in more detail – sex lubricants which offer sensational intimate effects, plus lubes with mouth-watering flavours. Welcome to my special effects & flavoured lubes 101: your complete guide!

Hybrid Lubes Guide

In my recent overview article relating to the huge and diverse world of sexual lubricants, I talked about sex lubes in general, why they're fantastic, what not to use and briefly covered the various types. In this feature, I'd like to introduce one of those types in greater detail. Hybrid sex lubricants are relatively new to the sex lube scene -and are therefore at risk of being misunderstood and sadly avoided. Let's correct that today. Welcome to my hybrid lubes 101: your complete guide!

Oil-Based Lubes Guide

In my recent big guide to sexual lubricants, I looked at the huge and diverse world of lube. There are various types, each with their own pros and cons and recommended usage. Today, I'd like to take a closer look at oil lubricants in particular. What sort of oil can you expect to find in these lubes? What can you use oil lubes for – and what should you avoid? Welcome to my oil-based lubes 101: your complete guide!