Sex Tips

Practical sex tips you can actually use in real life, for more pleasure, better intimacy and less second-guessing.

Welcome to my Sex Tips hub. This is where I keep practical, real-life advice for improving sex, deepening connection, and feeling more confident in your body and desires. Some tips are tiny and immediate. Others quietly change how you experience sex over time. Either way, this isn’t performance-based “do it perfectly” content. It’s sex-positive guidance for real people, real bodies and real relationships. No performance required. This category focuses on practical, everyday tips rather than deep guides or broader sexuality discussions. This archive brings together years of practical tips, experiments and real-life learning about what actually improves sex.

If you want broader guidance beyond tips, head to my main Sex Advice hub. If you’re in a more reflective mood and want wider sexuality topics, you might prefer Sexuality Articles. For right now, this page is all about practical improvements you can try, keep, tweak, or ditch as you learn what works for you.

What You’ll Find In My Sex Tips

This category gathers tips and guides across pleasure, confidence and connection, including:

  • Everyday bedroom tips that make sex feel better, not just look better
  • Pleasure-focused ideas for foreplay, arousal and getting out of autopilot
  • Communication tips that make consent, boundaries and desire easier to talk about
  • Solo sex tips for confidence, exploration and learning what you like, with routes into masturbation guides
  • Tips for couples and long-term relationships, with routes into relationship advice
  • Toy-friendly tips and ways to use toys as part of exploration, with routes into sex toy advice and sex toy guides, including practical help like my G-spot toys guide
  • Kink-aware tips when you want to explore something new safely, with routes into kinky sex advice

Where To Start

Not sure what you need yet? Start anywhere that feels relevant.

  • Want better sex fast? Look for posts with simple, practical steps you can try tonight, and keep the ones that genuinely work for you
  • Feeling a bit disconnected? Start with intimacy and communication tips, then explore my relationship advice archive
  • Trying to boost pleasure? Begin with arousal and foreplay tips, then explore solo confidence via my masturbation guides
  • Curious about toys? Start with my sex toy advice posts, then browse sex toy guides
  • Want something a bit kinkier? Explore consent-forward routes into kinky sex advice

My Approach

I write sex tips from lived experience, curiosity, and a deep dislike of shame. I’m not here to tell you what you “should” want. I’m here to offer options, perspective and practical ideas, so you can build a sex life that feels good to you, not one you’re performing for anyone else. If your reality includes stress, illness, disability, trauma history, ageing, hormones, parenting, or shifting desire, you’re not alone. This space makes room for all of that.

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How To Have A Sexy Halloween: Flirty Ideas for Couples, Solo & At Home

Sexing up seasonal events is just so much fun! Halloween is no exception thanks to the wicked fun and seductive costumes this time of year traditionally offers. Do you need some saucy Samhain inspiration? Then you’re in luck… read on to discover how to have a sexy Halloween – whether you're single or part of a couple.

8 Reasons Why You Should Read Erotic Books

What about the saucy sizzle of erotica? Should you take them seriously as a literary option? Also, can erotic books improve your sex life? Absolutely. Read on to discover 8 reasons why you should read erotic books.

Gay Sex Toys Guide: Adult Toys for Gay Lovers & Lesbian Couples

Love is love, and it deserves to be fully celebrated in all its forms. Read on to discover my gay sex toys guide, where I’ll be showcasing adult toys ideal for gay couples, to enhance your intimate and passionate private time together.

The Wet Patch After Sex: Sleep In It or Deal With It?

What do you use to clean up after sex? Whether it's PiV sex (penis in vagina) or other types of sexual pleasure, the wet patch isn’t often talked about in sex advice columns, sexy stories or other erotic media. Bodily fluids, lube and other liquids are part and parcel of sexy fun, however – so finding a neat solution for post-sex clean-up is a great idea.

Dirty Talk: The Expert Guide to Talking Filth During Sex

How do you do great dirty talk? If you're feeling tongue-tied in the bad way during sex chat, you're in the right place. Today I'm sharing a long read; an expert guide to talking filth during sex. And I mean sex whether that's in person or long distance, via phone sex, video messaging or even good old text chats.

How to Be Dominant Outside the Bedroom: 12 Lifestyle BDSM Tips

What if you and your partner would like a more 'everyday' style of Dom and sub relationship? A consensual power exchange which isn’t limited to kinky play sessions in the bedroom, but enhances every part of your life together? In today’s article I will explore lifestyle BDSM from the Dom’s point of view, revealing how to be Dominant outside the bedroom.

How to Be Dominant in the Bedroom: 12 Kinky Sex Tips

How can you exude confidence, assertiveness, and that irresistible Dominant streak? What are some handy ways to tap into consensual cruelty and punish your eager partner? And how do you overcome shyness and nervous giggles? In today’s article I’m sharing my 12 tips on how to be Dominant in the bedroom.

Bathmate Penis Pumps Guide: Hydro, HydroMax & HydroXtreme

Bathmate is undoubtedly the name when it comes to trusted and reliable penis pumps. Their pumps and phallic enhancement products are the result of constant research and development tweaks, alongside real user feedback. Bathmate penis pumps are hydrotherapy-based, hence the ‘bath’ part of the brand name. How do they work – and do they actually work?

5 Kinky Uses for Christmas Tinsel

Looking for Christmas tinsel kink ideas? In this guide I share five fun and safe ways to use tinsel for festive foreplay and kinky couples’ playtime, turning seasonal sparkle into erotic fun.

Festive Foreplay Ideas: Gift Yourselves A More Exciting Sex Life This Christmas

Festive foreplay ideas are the perfect way to reconnect with your partner at Christmastime. Between family plans and the mince pies, it is easy to lose the spark. Use these ten ideas to turn...

12 Days of Festive Romance: Romantic Christmas Ideas for Couples

Romantic Christmas ideas for couples do not need to be complicated. If it is just the two of you this year, or you are carving out some precious alone time, here are twelve festive ways to reconnect, play and make Christmas deliciously sexy.

What Is Fisting? Safe Guide to Fisting Your Partner

Heard of fisting? This sexual activity isn’t talked about much in the mainstream, but plenty of partners enjoy fisting. You can fist someone vaginally or anally. Because of the shape and size of our hands, even as a closed fist, fisting can seem like a terrifying prospect - something only done by fetishists into sadism and masochism. Today I’m going to thrust into this intriguing and often mysterious activity with both hands...

Ruined Orgasms: How to Do Them and Why People Enjoy Them

While orgasms are not the goal of sex with a partner, they’re often a highlight. Then there are all the orgasms enjoyed by people during solo pleasure sessions – masturbation. Why then, do some people pursue and enjoy a ruined orgasm? What are ruined orgasms? How do you ruin an orgasm, and why on earth would you want to?

Could Labiaplasty Fix Your Sex Life? Personal Experience of Vulva Surgery

What is labiaplasty? Labiaplasty is a form of vulva surgery by vaginoplasty surgeons which changes the size, shape and look of the labia majora and/or labia minora. This may be done for increased physical comfort, self-confidence or sexual enhancement reasons.

The Folded Deckchair Sex Position (& Why We Love It)

Have you ever heard of the Folded Deckchair sex position? I was surprised to find out that one of my husband and I’s favourite sex positions had a name. To be honest, it shouldn’t have surprised me that much as the Internet is full of sexual position listicles with such titles as "69 Sex Positions You Never Knew Existed!" and "100 New Sex Positions You Need To Try Right NOW!".

Tips For Spring Cleaning Your Sex Life

In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable but ultimately monotonous sex with each other. That’s why I wanted to share my top tips for spring cleaning your sex life. While everything else is getting a spring clean, don’t neglect your personal and shared sexual pleasure!

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It can be easy to 'stick your head in the sand' when it comes to those 3-yearly cervical smear tests. I know, because I’ve been there and done it myself. The reminder letter arrives... I open it, groan, and shove it into a drawer and try to forget about it. Eventually I force myself to put my big girl pants on and march myself down to the doctor’s surgery, before taking them off again for the nurse.

Masturbation in a Sex-Positive World (3 Trends)

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How To Give A Sexy Webcam Show

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The Best Products For Sexual Relief In A Heatwave

Sex and related intimacy is obviously a very close quarters and usually quite frenetic activity. Even if both the bedroom and your bodies start off as cool as physically possible in the hot weather, you’ll soon become hot, sticky and sweaty once desire is allowed to run rampant and you’re both lost in carnal pleasures.