How to Be Dominant in the Bedroom: 12 Kinky Sex Tips
How can you exude confidence, assertiveness, and that irresistible Dominant streak? What are some handy ways to tap into consensual cruelty and punish your eager partner? And how do you overcome shyness and nervous giggles? In today’s article I’m sharing my 12 tips on how to be Dominant in the bedroom.
Selling Your Used Panties: A Beginner’s Guide
Welcome to the intriguing world of panty selling – a unique side hustle that's not only financially rewarding but also a journey of self-discovery. Selling used panties comes with many perks: it's an avenue to boost confidence, embrace sensuality, connect with a community of like-minded individuals, and have fun along the way.
5 Kinky Uses for Christmas Tinsel
Looking for Christmas tinsel kink ideas? In this guide I share five fun and safe ways to use tinsel for festive foreplay and kinky couples’ playtime, turning seasonal sparkle into erotic fun.
What Is Fisting? Safe Guide to Fisting Your Partner
Heard of fisting? This sexual activity isn’t talked about much in the mainstream, but plenty of partners enjoy fisting. You can fist someone vaginally or anally. Because of the shape and size of our hands, even as a closed fist, fisting can seem like a terrifying prospect - something only done by fetishists into sadism and masochism. Today I’m going to thrust into this intriguing and often mysterious activity with both hands...
Ruined Orgasms: Why Some People Love The Sensation Of A Wrecked Climax
For those who enjoy BDSM, power exchange, orgasm control, or erotic teasing, ruined orgasms can become an intensely erotic and psychologically fulfilling form of play that blends denial, submission, vulnerability, and pleasure into deeply impacting experiences. In this guide, I will explain further about what ruined orgasms are, why some people find the idea or reality of them arousing, how they differ from edging and chastity in BDSM, and how those attracted to this practice can experiment with wrecked climax play safely and consensually.
Why I Love Locking Men in Chastity Cages: A FemDom View
As the locked chastity continues, I enjoy every renewed realisation that they’re unable to have an erection or an orgasm. Of course, being a cruel and evil Bitch, I heighten the sub/slave’s torment with frequent teasing, whether by words, images or demanding that they perform in various perverted ways for me in person.
What Is a Violet Wand? History, Safety and Kinky Uses
Have you ever heard of violet wands? What is a violet wand? How does it work? Are they safe? Why do they have that name? And how come violet rays are both notorious and popular?
Virgo Style Male Chastity: An Alternative Way to Live Chaste
Regardless of the deep stuff, the erotic benefits to the kinky chaste man are undeniably obvious. If you are in a chastity cage, any sexual activity is an exquisite tease, and the knowledge that this will be ongoing pings your masochism. It can also be pretty mind-blowing wearing a chastity cage day-to-day, knowing it’s not coming off for the bedroom...
Female Led Relationships: What Living in an FLR Is Really Like
I'm typing this wearing a penis chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh… and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm.
Tips For Spring Cleaning Your Sex Life
In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable but ultimately monotonous sex with each other. That’s why I wanted to share my top tips for spring cleaning your sex life. While everything else is getting a spring clean, don’t neglect your personal and shared sexual pleasure!
Slave Diary: Real-Life Experience of Chastity Lock-Up
Are you curious about how it feels to be locked in a chastity cage but you’re too scared or unable to slide the lock home on a device of your own? Perhaps you are locked, teased, but denied in a locked chastity device and want to hear others’ similar experiences for companionship or further torment? These diary entries from my locked-up chastity slave are for you.
BDSM Identities Guide: Dominant, Submissive or Switch?
Some people have a firm BDSM identity, others find that over time, the way they want to 'play' in D/s is fluid, just like some people have fluid sexualities. This guide comes to you from the unique perspective of a woman in midlife, a Domme. I'm now in midlife, in my mid-forties, but over the past couple of decades I have at various times identified as Dominant to most, submissive to some, a 50/50 switch, and now I am in an era of being completely Dominant; but I still enjoy my husband and I's sexual roleplay with bondage cuffs at times.
BDSM Collars: Symbolism, Types and Collaring Ceremonies
BDSM collars are an extremely important visual symbol of submission and ownership. Although bondage collars are also worn simply as a kinky accessory in a play scene, there are plenty of kinksters for whom wearing a BDSM collar signifies a deeper commitment between Dom and sub, Owner and slave, Top and bottom. Some may even take part in collaring ceremonies, a celebratory event which publicly or privately marks the commitment between Dom and sub in a similar way to the vanilla wedding rituals of marriage.
YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink Explained
There should be no shame or judgement when it comes to safe sexual & kinky activities alone or between consenting adults. However, YKINMK regularly proves itself a relevant and important philosophy.
Inside The Worn Knickers Kink (From A Domme Who Sold Her Own)
The scent of a warm, fresh, eagerly aroused pussy is intrinsically sexy. It’s therefore no great surprise that this scent, which can linger on worn underwear, is always in great demand. If you are turned on by sniffing dirty panties, rest assured that you’re not alone. The worn knickers kink is quite common, and I have some personal experience with it too.
What Does BDSM Stand For? Acronym, Meaning & Kinky Origins
Curious about BDSM? This guide explains what BDSM stands for, breaks down the acronym, explores its origins, and looks at the BDSM triskelion symbol recognised worldwide.
BDSM Gear Guide: Essentials for Every Kinkster
I've written several 'sexy product' guides here at the Cara Sutra sex blog, advice guides for sex toys, lubes, and specific kinky sex accessories too. Today I'd like to present my big guide to BDSM toys / BDSM gear, where I will help you navigate the enormous and diverse world of kinky toys and tools used to enhance power exchange sessions.
Foot Fetish: Why Feet Turn People On
What do you know about foot fetishism? Maybe you've heard rumours of people who fetishize feet, or perhaps you have a foot fetish yourself. Or the concept of having a fetish for feet might be something new to you entirely! In today's BDSM guide, foot fetish 101, I'd like to explore both what this fetish is all about and gain some understanding into the reasons behind foot fetishism.
Mile High Club: How to Have Sex on an Aeroplane
The Mile High Club is a source of endless fascination and speculation. How do people join this exclusive 'club'? More to the point, how do you join the mile-high club and get away with it? Does it even really exist, or are these airborne amorous adventures the stuff of myth and legend?
The Periodic Table of Kink: Explore the Fetish Poster
The Periodic Table of Kink turns a huge world of BDSM ideas into a clear visual poster. Below I explain what it is, how it is organised, smart ways to use it for exploration and education, and where to buy it.
