By Ruffled Sheets: You want me to stick that, a long metal spike, in... where? That's what most people think when they're told about sounding. Or, to be more descriptive, urethral sounding, the act of stimulating the inside of the urethra with long, thin implements. It may 'sound' scary (sorry), but it really isn't. In fact, it's a lot of fun and immensely pleasurable.
Discover the best Halloween themed sex toys and scary but sexy adult costumes in this round-up guide: Think Halloween is just for kids and goths? Think again! Everyone can find something to enjoy at Halloween, and I don’t just mean a bucket of candies and toffee apples. Sink your teeth into something juicy and fun after bedtime… a sexy treat for yourself or shared with a lucky partner.
Once you have established which people are the leaders in the sex toy reviews and sex toy shopping fields, you may wish to send a couple of polite (not demanding) emails asking for any help and advice that the person or company can spare time for. Example questions you may ask another reviewer are, “Which companies do you recommend approaching for a newbie toy reviewer?” and “What are your top tips for writing great sex toy reviews?” Questions you may like to approach sex toy companies with, to their customer care email or similar, are “Do you have any community schemes in place for sex toy reviewers?” and “Are there any products you are seeking honest, well written reviews for at the moment?” Avoid begging for free sex toys or making demands for high priced products; this screams ‘greedy’ and ‘newbie’ and may well dissuade the company from working with you right from the start.
I'm proud to introduce my first outing on the fabulous LELO blog: Don't Judge a Sex Toy by its Price Tag. As well as giving you a Jessie J earworm for the rest of the day, you'll learn what it is about some sex toys that make them a lasting part of your go-to collection, other than simply a high price on the label. Don't pay for brand names, fancy packaging or marketing spiel - pay for a sex toy which you'll actually use.
3 Sickie stand in at the office. If you are technical in the slightest I am sure you could fashion some kind of remotely controlled inflation/deflation device. 4 Travel by public transport and sick of people taking the seat right next to you when there's plenty of others? Never again want to be within intimate distance of the great unwashed? No problem. Take your inflatable friend with you and you have a constant public transport companion who reeks with the delicate, arousing and attractive scent of, erm, vinyl.
I know you all wonder about the dark side of my sex toy collection and for once I don't mean bondage restraints. The ones that sadly, didn't get (chucked) away. The toys which have brought me to tears of frustration. The toys which have made me grip the sheets harder as I bite back the venom which threatens to tumble forth as I search for the right button. The toys which have made me scream - in agony.
By Cara Sutra: When you feel the urge for physical satisfaction, it's easy to reach for your vibrator or Fleshlight and stimulate yourself to the quick climax your body needs. Sex toys don't replace sex, though. People usually yearn for something more than self love, which is why skin to skin bonding starts on day one and carries on into the warmth and tenderness of hugs and cuddles.
The huge Fantasy by Cara Sutra Sinful Sunday bondage prize haul: A Fantasy by Cara Sutra beginner’s bondage kit in your choice of black or red Fantasy by Cara Sutra bondage tape, red Lady Finger Vibrator (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Set of Vibratone Jiggle Balls (kindly donated by La Boudoir Boutique) Cherry Vanilla (-giggle-) scented Yankee Candle 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra stickers 2x Fantasy by Cara Sutra button badges An extremely limited edition Fantasy by Cara Sutra coaster
Oh, did I feel smug on Monday morning. No, not the award - which I was still in shock about - but the lack of hangover! With a smiley face and a clear head I reflected on this day a year before, when I had been so ill from the afterparty that I hadn’t been able to get up from bed until checkout time. In fact if I’d had my way I wouldn’t have left the bed for about 4 days, that’s how ruined I was. I’d sworn not to do that again, and despite worrying that a hangover was somehow inevitable with the ETO Show Awards, I’d avoided the usual after party punishment.
The ETO Awards are always a spectacle to attend and behold, and the ETO Awards 2014 dinner, presentation and dancing was no different. In fact, it was even bigger, crazier, happier and hotter than last year. You can read the full list of winners on the ETO Magazine website here. No matter whether you’re nominated for a coveted ETO award or simply attending and soaking up the much needed annual celebration of our wonderful industry, everyone agrees that it’s an exciting and fun night. I’d headed back from day one of the show at 4pm, earlier than the closing time, to get ready and try to relax a little before the night got into full swing. I took my time getting ready, soaking up every moment of this special night away from the desk and anticipating so much fun and excitement.
I woke surprisingly early on Sunday morning, the first day of the ETO Show 2014. The doors didn’t open to the public until 10.30am, but Julian was going to be at the stand at 8am in order to make sure everything was perfect. I arrived about 8.45am, leaving my partner Sable in bed and minnie getting ready. Walking around the corner from the hotel to the NEC expo hall I mentally prepared for the day ahead. I felt excited but not nervous - this was the ETO Show after all and it feels like family being with all the familiar faces and great contacts in the industry that I talk to regularly.
It’s my second day back in the office after the amazing 10th anniversary year of the ETO Show, the UK’s biggest and best adult industry expo run in association with the widely read industry publication ETO Magazine. My head is still spinning from the entire weekend and my legs are sore from walking around and having to be vertical for so long instead of merely transporting me between desk, coffee station, and bed. Writing up this post event report is almost too mammoth a task to imagine. The ETO Show 2014 encompasses so much news that I have actually split the report into four parts to make it a little easier to digest.
We all know about ropes and floggers and cuffs – they feature not just in porn but in most erotica, in sex tips and magazines and That Book. But while it might be easy to ask your partner if you can handcuff them because you've seen this one tip in Cosmo, it could be a hell of a lot harder to explain the thrill of an actual power exchange. Of you giving yourself over to them, or them to you, to be led and moulded and treated and punished and all the things I personally love about being at the collar end of that strip of leather. You might not like that kind of thing, of course. But judging by how even a couple of my vanilla friends were keen to put it on, and be playfully led from sofa to garden, back to the sofa and straight onto my lap, it's certainly intriguing to many. And not just in a giggly 'oh we've had too much wine and sex toys are funny' way, in an 'ooh, I think I could get to like this but I'm not sure I'd admit it when sober' way.
The first 10 bloggers to come meet me (whether at my stand or at any time during the event) and give me their blogging/sex toy reviewing business card, will get a free goody bag that I've put together myself. The goody bags are a mix of information, general adult industry merchandise, sexy freebies and other gifts and goodies I've put together. You'll effectively be raiding my sexy drawers and getting some gorgeous freebies in the process. I'll be chucking more things into each as the show draws closer. Coming to ETO and hoping to get some freebies and samples? Here's an easy way to guarantee it.
By Cara Sutra: What are dental dams and how do you use them? That's exactly why I wanted to write this dental dams beginner's guide. Dental dams are an adult and sex product that is quite often misunderstood. They are also under represented and not often talked about, even in sex blogging and sexual advice circles.
Sex toys are not a replacement for a partner or pleasure, they are the seasoning on your sex life. A sprinkling of the right devices for you and your partner can spice up your sex life and masturbation immeasurably, leaving you fulfilled and confident in all walks of life.
Before plunging your sex toy into a sink of water or taking it in the shower with you for a rinse, check the instructions or packet to see if it’s completely waterproof. Many sex toys are not, and they will state water resistant only and to wipe the surface carefully. If the manufacturers have been a bit lax in the description department and there’s no mention of waterproof-ness, you should assume it’s not a waterproof sex toy. Believe me, if it’s waterproof, they’ll have added this on as a sales bonus point.
If you use a desensitising lubricant or gel for anal sex or using anal sex toys, you won’t be able to tell how much damage you’re causing yourself. So why do they sell anal desensitising products? Because there’s a demand for them. You can also go out and buy a willy warmer, but it won’t serve any great purpose. Unlike anal desensitisers though, a willy warmer hopefully won’t lead to risks of anal entrance tears or internal damage.
Choosing the right lubricant for you and your partner can be an absolutely mind-boggling task. There is such a vast array of lubes to choose from, you could be stumped before you get started. Why are there so many different types? It’s just lube, right? Well, not quite.
By Cara Sutra: Did you know that the Fantasy by Cara Sutra Bondage Kit is now available to buy? You can now buy your 8 piece bondage set from Amazon and the fabulously edgy online sex shop, UberKinky. Plus, a whole host of other stockists will be added over the coming weeks (darn the paperwork!).