Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

10 Ways Sex Toys Can Help Increase Relationship Intimacy

When you're in a relationship, it can be so easy to slip into set daily routines which might not include quite as much spontaneity, frivolity and affection as when you were in your first flush of love. Life has a habit of popping up with all sorts of hurdles to a care-free, explorative love-life; family and/or work responsibilities or worrying over health or financial pressures can make the warm bond of relationship intimacy feel like a long-forgotten dream.

And They Call It Bunny Love

My body surrendered to the need and I luxuriated in the sinful feeling of a lazy self-fuck, my pussy slowly swallowing every part of the gently widening rabbit shaft. My labia, slick with cunt drool and lube, snug to the sides of this invader and the feel of them submitted to allow entry. A set of shivers came over me as I slowly slid the rabbit home.

Buying Your First Sex Toy – Handy Advice Guide

When it comes to buying your first sex toy, the sheer amount of different types of sex toys available can be completely bewildering. Nobody wants to part with their hard-earned cash for something which is either unsuitable for you or of questionable quality. For those new to the pleasures of sex toys, this advice guide should help you buy a first sex toy (or selection of sexy products) which will be suitable for your needs - giving you pleasure, not disappointment.

How To Shop For Sex Toys & Write A Sex Toy Review

Buzzfeed published a piece entitled Here’s How To Shop For Sex Toys Without Being Embarrassed which was put together by Emma Cooke. This article has advice and tips on how to shop for sex toys from three experts in the world of sex toy shopping: Rose Compton from Harmony, the multi ETO award winning Renée Denyer from Sh Women’s Erotic Emporium and Eve Fifer from Ann Summers.

Hey Guys? Using Anal Sex Toys Won’t ‘Turn You Gay’

It's my answer to the legendary sex myth that somehow still gets worried about, a lot: will using anal sex toys make me gay? Obviously this question is being asked by male-identified people, who worry that inserting a butt plug, or enjoying something inserted into their rear, will mean that they're suddenly gay.

The Best Sex Toys To Use For Amazing Lesbian Sex

By Cara Sutra: If you think that all sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina, you are wrong on so many levels. And I'm talking about everyone there, but for the purposes of this article: especially women who love women, whether bisexual or lesbian. There are plenty of creative ways to tantalise and stimulate without resorting to the heteronormative, phallo-centric ideals society often loves to *ahem* thrust upon us. Yes, you can have amazing lesbian sex.

Is A Non-Porous Real-Feel Sex Toy Material Too Much To Ask?

By Cara Sutra: I'm not talking about the bed, although the subject of this post could also be a breeding ground. Real feel penetrable sex toys. Is it out of the question entirely for adult product manufacturers to make a non-porous real-feel sex toy?

Guide To Buying Your First Sex Toy (Whatever Your Sexuality Or Gender)

By Cara Sutra: Buying your first sex toy, whether alone or as part of a couple, is a very exciting experience. You’re about to embark on a new adventure in your sexual life and the chance to try something new is deliciously alluring. The chance to ignite your orgasms by a new masturbation method or discover higher levels of satisfaction with a lover comes rarely in our adult lives. Embrace this thrilling opportunity and get ready for more fulfilling sexual pleasure.
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What Are The Best G-Spot Sex Toys?

Cara Sutra: What is the G-Spot? Does stimulating it actually feel any good - and more to the point, does the G-Spot even exist? In this Q&A, I answer a reader's question about the best G-Spot sex toys.

Are Rabbit Vibrators a Good Way to Orgasm?

by Hella Rude Regardless of your anatomy, a good rabbit vibrator is able to simultaneously tickle your clit and massage your G-spot thanks to the flexible nature of rabbit ear stimulators. With plenty of power on standby (but the option to turn it down a notch to give you a good build-up) and a good set of flexible ears, you should find that rabbit vibrators give you fantastic climaxes.

Using Sex Toys While Reading Erotic Books

By Cara Sutra: Yeah, I know. You’ve already heard all the sex toy tips you’ll ever need, along with a couple of hundred that you’ll never even use. Now, a lot of advice on using sex toys while reading erotic books. Hopefully, you’ve been drawn to this article because of your interest in erotic books. Maybe you write them. Perhaps you’re an avid smut reader. Either way, you’re an erotica lover.

Busting popular myths about ceramic, metal and glass dildos

I’m here to put your fears to bed about some of the more unusual materials sex toys can be made from. It may surprise you to learn that not all vibrators and dildos are made from flexible materials such as jelly, silicone or PVC. Perhaps you’ve never seen any other type of sex toy than the ‘bendy’ sort. In reality, there’s a whole world of alternative materials to get to grips with, each with their own unique appeal and other advantages. There is a wealth of choice when it comes to dildos made from rigid materials (ie. those which don’t bend). Specialist sex toy shops might even sell wooden dildos or perhaps they’ve gone positively primitive with a (body-safe and smooth) stone dildo offering. Unlike a few decades ago, where anything other than jelly sex toys were unheard of, even mainstream sex shops are now selling rigid material sex toys. The most common materials for rigid sex toys are ceramic, metal and glass.

Women-Specific Lubricants: Necessary Or Just Another Marketing Ploy?

By Cara Sutra: Do women-specific lubricants really matter? When you first realise that what your sex life needs is a little more glide, you will doubtless turn to sex lubricants to transform that dry chafe into sexy friction. It’s only when you start shopping for lubricants (at a well stocked online sex shop as Lubezilla) that you begin to realise that this task isn’t as simple as you’d first imagined.

Are Sex Toys Needed For A Fantastic Sex Life?

By Cara Sutra: Sex toys are fun and you can find many shapes, sizes, materials and vibration power strengths to suit your anatomy and personal desires. Although I have reviewed thousands of sex toys here at Cara Sutra, I don’t want anyone to wonder are sex toys needed for a fantastic sex life? That’s why I want to make this point clear.

A Beginner’s Guide to Electrosex & Electro Sex Toys

You will need a main unit (known as the stimulator) to deliver the electric current. These are usually the basis of a starter kit, such as the ElectraStim Flick EM60-E Electro Stimulation Pack. This stimulator offers 24 intensity settings so you can increase the power in line with your desires. There is also the option to receive or deliver to a partner rhythmic stimulation in line with the movement of your hand. The ElectraStim Flick costs just £99 and comes with full instructions and electro pads so that you can get started right away. The ElectraStim SensaVox EM140 High Spec Stimulator (£299) is for those looking for a more advanced kit and experience. Not only are there an amazing 99 intensity levels, there’s also 9 pre-programmed patterns to enjoy. You can use SensaVox to create sophisticated stimulation patterns using either the included microphone or by feeding audio directly into the stimulator. The soundwaves are translated into a stimulation beat that rises and falls in sympathy with the audio, teasing and tantalising you with sensations that can be modified to match your desires.

The Sounds of Pleasure: Ruffled Sheets Guide to Urethral Sounding

By Ruffled Sheets: You want me to stick that, a long metal spike, in... where? That's what most people think when they're told about sounding. Or, to be more descriptive, urethral sounding, the act of stimulating the inside of the urethra with long, thin implements. It may 'sound' scary (sorry), but it really isn't. In fact, it's a lot of fun and immensely pleasurable.

Best Halloween Themed Sex Toys – Plus, Scary But Sexy Adult Costumes

Discover the best Halloween themed sex toys and scary but sexy adult costumes in this round-up guide: Think Halloween is just for kids and goths? Think again! Everyone can find something to enjoy at Halloween, and I don’t just mean a bucket of candies and toffee apples. Sink your teeth into something juicy and fun after bedtime… a sexy treat for yourself or shared with a lucky partner.

How can I get free sex toys & become a sex toys tester?

Once you have established which people are the leaders in the sex toy reviews and sex toy shopping fields, you may wish to send a couple of polite (not demanding) emails asking for any help and advice that the person or company can spare time for. Example questions you may ask another reviewer are, “Which companies do you recommend approaching for a newbie toy reviewer?” and “What are your top tips for writing great sex toy reviews?” Questions you may like to approach sex toy companies with, to their customer care email or similar, are “Do you have any community schemes in place for sex toy reviewers?” and “Are there any products you are seeking honest, well written reviews for at the moment?” Avoid begging for free sex toys or making demands for high priced products; this screams ‘greedy’ and ‘newbie’ and may well dissuade the company from working with you right from the start.

How to make sure you buy a sex toy you’ll actually use

I'm proud to introduce my first outing on the fabulous LELO blog: Don't Judge a Sex Toy by its Price Tag. As well as giving you a Jessie J earworm for the rest of the day, you'll learn what it is about some sex toys that make them a lasting part of your go-to collection, other than simply a high price on the label. Don't pay for brand names, fancy packaging or marketing spiel - pay for a sex toy which you'll actually use.

Alternative uses for a blow up sex doll?

3 Sickie stand in at the office. If you are technical in the slightest I am sure you could fashion some kind of remotely controlled inflation/deflation device. 4 Travel by public transport and sick of people taking the seat right next to you when there's plenty of others? Never again want to be within intimate distance of the great unwashed? No problem. Take your inflatable friend with you and you have a constant public transport companion who reeks with the delicate, arousing and attractive scent of, erm, vinyl.