Rethinking Vaginal Orgasms
Let's tackle the myth of vaginal orgasms. The myth isn't whether or not they're possible, but rather that everyone with a vagina must be able to climax from vaginal stimulation. If you don't orgasm from vaginal penetration, please don't panic. You're not alone. I don't orgasm that way either.
How I Dominate My Slaves: A Domme’s Perspective
How people perceive my domination, and the reality of it, is something which has fascinated me for some time. You would be amazed at some of the comments directed my way over the years simply for the ways in which I choose to enjoy my natural dominance, as well as how my actively consenting submissives enjoy it, too. Some of these comments are borne from ignorance, some from jealousy, some from malice, and others simply because the person spoke without properly thinking it all through.
Strap-On Harnesses Guide
Strap-on sex (sometimes known as pegging) is enjoyed by many adults and within various types of relationship; for example, lesbian/bisexual sex, in BDSM as part of FemDom, or to help a penis-owner pleasure their partner in different ways. There are many types of harness available to help you achieve your sexual pleasure aims – welcome to my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses.
Penis Chastity Devices Guide: How to Choose and Use a Cage
Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!
Forced Orgasms in BDSM: What They Are and Why People Enjoy Them
I love the freedom to touch myself whenever I want –and I make the most of that freedom, as you can see by the thousands of sex toy reviews and erotic articles here on the blog. Chastity is definitely not for me, when I'm the one locked up I mean. How about the flip side of chastity: forced orgasms? There's still the element of external control -but rather than orgasm denial, I would be (consensually, of course) forced to orgasm over and over.
Sex Machines & Fucking Machines: The Complete Buyer’s Guide
The sex machine market has shifted considerably since I first published this guide. New brands have entered, several older products have been discontinued, and the quality standard across motorised sex toys has risen. Whether you're researching a ride-on machine, a full thrusting machine, an automatic thrusting dildo, or a handheld thrusting toy that sits somewhere between a vibrator and a proper machine, this guide covers them all.
Watersports Kink: Curious About Piss Play and Golden Showers?
Does the mention of watersports conjure up innocent images of surfing and jet skis, or raise a knowing smirk? If you're here, I'm guessing it's the latter. For the non-vanilla version of watersports, "golden showers" and "piss play" are probably the more familiar terms, thanks to tabloid coverage of various celebrity and political scandals, and a healthy dose of internet porn.
ABDL: Inside the Adult Baby Diaper Lovers Fetish
Cards on the table: this is not my kink. Is it yours? As someone with an interest in another area of ageplay, I imagine that the adult baby fetish is viewed as extremely niche and is often misunderstood. Perhaps feared a little –even within the BDSM sphere.
Jiggle Balls Guide (Love Eggs, Kegel Trainers & Ben Wa Balls)
Whether you call them jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers or Ben Wa balls, it all amounts to pretty much the same thing. Rounded products you insert into the vagina for pleasure, health benefits, or both. Are you a jiggle ball fan? Have you considered buying a love egg but don’t know which one’s right for you? Welcome to my big guide to jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers & Ben Wa balls!
Bullet Vibrators Guide
I’ve written previously about why I love bullet vibrators so much. They regularly appear in my top 3 favourite sex toys, which constantly evolves due to ongoing advances in pleasure tech. There are so many bullet vibrators to choose from – how can you be sure the one you’re buying from an online sex shop is going to be orgasmically effective? Welcome to my bullet vibrators guide! I’ll also be referencing the many bullet vibrator reviews here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.
Imaginative Sexual Role Play Ideas
The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner.
Sex Toy Materials Guide: Porous v Non-Porous, Phthalates & More
How are you supposed to know which material is the best? Are there any you should specifically look for? And, more importantly, which ones should you actively avoid? My sex toy materials guide is here to help you choose a body safe sex toy you can enjoy all-encompassing pleasure from, every time.
Sensory Deprivation Kink: Complete Guide for Beginners
In this complete guide to the sensory deprivation kink, I'll explain exactly what sensory deprivation is, why so many people find it arousing, the different types of sensory play, popular BDSM equipment and techniques, essential safety considerations, and how beginners can experiment with sensory deprivation in a safe, consensual, and exciting way. This guide comes to you from the perspective of a midlife Domme; I've enjoyed engaging in consensually restricting or removing someone's senses in kinky power exchange sessions, as well as wearing bondage hoods, mouth gags and masks myself in sexual role play, for over twenty years.
Are Breasts Sexual Organs? Should Female Breasts Be Sexualised?
There was an argument put forward some time ago, by a strong voice on Twitter –someone I’d not heard of before- that breasts are not sexual. They were speaking of typically women’s breasts, and were rather stridently arguing their case –with plenty of others retweeting and replying in agreement.
Do Women Find Older Men Sexy? Why?
Younger men are really not my thing. I’ve never been in a relationship with a guy younger than me; it wasn’t a conscious choice, just the way things have worked out. There’s never been a rejection of a guy, in a sex or relationship sense, just because he’s a bit younger than me. But when I’ve come to think about it, older men hold a particular and definite allure for me.
The Most Powerful Vibrators You Can Buy
Happy National Orgasm Day 2018! It's difficult to believe it's been a year already since the last National Orgasm Day – the year has just flown. In the past I've written about the sounds of an orgasm, the importance (or not) of simultaneous orgasms, about not being able to orgasm through oral sex and about having orgasms while I'm asleep. As many of my orgasms are helped along a little bit (OK, a lot) by sex toys, today I want to discuss some of my favourites. The toys which are, for me, the best powerful vibrators for extra strong orgasms.
My Favourite Sex Positions
Are there some sex positions you find yourself 'coming' back to time after time? My partner and I definitely have our favourite sex positions, and in the past I’ve worried that we might be getting stuck in a rut. A rut that, admittedly, feels so good. But then when I went through the sex positions we enjoy on a regular basis, it turns out we enjoy more variety than I’d feared.
What Is FemDom? Exploring Female Domination in BDSM
What is FemDom? Some would say it's the Marmite of the BDSM scene. Is it the BDSM outsider? Female Domination usually elicits a response firmly on one end of the scale or the other: yes please! or ...um, no thanks.
Dacryphilia: Why Tears and Crying Can Be Sexy
As the barrier crashes down within him, crumbling to reveal his true self, tears then finally begin to form. I see the subtlest glint and can't help wetting my own lips with my tongue in anticipation –in between my incessant tirade, the code to unlock his complete submissive self.
Small Butt Plugs For Beginners & Tight Arses
I've written plenty of beginner's guides to anal toys and butt plugs in the past, and you can find plenty of sex toy advice throughout the Cara Sutra sex blog. Today, however, I wanted to present what I feel are the true top picks when it comes to easily insertable (yet still body safe) small butt plugs for tiny bums.
