Cara Sutra Sex Blog

Sex advice, pleasure guides, erotic stories and intimacy insights - all in one place.

Welcome to my main blog hub on Cara Sutra. This is where my guides, personal essays, relationship reflections, sex advice, erotic fiction, kink-aware discussions and behind-the-scenes posts all live together, in date order. If you landed here from search and you are looking for real-world, sex positive writing that does not talk down to you, you are in the right place. This archive brings together decades of writing across sexuality, relationships, pleasure and personal experience, with hundreds of articles spanning sex, intimacy and real-life experience.

Sex Advice, Pleasure Guides and Real-Life Intimacy

This category gathers my non-review content across sexuality, confidence, communication and connection. Some posts are practical and straight to the point, others are personal and reflective, and some are sensual and story-led. The goal is the same: to help you explore pleasure and intimacy in a way that feels safe, informed, and actually doable in real life.

What You Can Expect From the Cara Sutra Blog

  • Practical sex advice and how-to guides you can use without needing a handbook and a spotlight
  • Pleasure education grounded in anatomy, consent and real experience, not judgement or performance
  • Intimacy and relationship insights - communication, desire shifts, libido wobbles, and everything in between
  • Kink-aware, consent-forward discussions that keep emotional safety in the frame
  • Sensual and erotic stories exploring fantasy, desire and emotional intimacy
  • Personal essays and honest life updates when the story behind the advice matters

Where To Start

Not sure what you are after yet? Here are a few simple ways to explore.

  • For practical help, look for guide-style posts with clear steps and takeaways
  • Personal essays and relationship reflections are a good place to begin when you want connection or reassurance
  • Curious about kink? Start with posts focused on consent, communication, power dynamics and emotional aftercare
  • Prefer to explore freely? Scroll and follow whatever catches your attention - there are plenty of rabbit holes here

My Approach

I write from lived experience, with warmth and straight talk, and I don't pretend sex is one-size-fits-all. Bodies vary. Histories vary. Energy, confidence, hormones, disability, stress, trauma, ageing, parenting, identity - it all shows up in intimacy, whether we want it to or not.

This blog focuses on the real version of sexuality, not the polished one.

Featured Topics

Browse sex advice, pleasure guides, erotic stories and relationship topics to jump straight to what interests you most.


Scroll down to read the latest posts from the Cara Sutra blog and discover new ideas, insights and intimate conversations.

How To Use Menstrual Cups: Why You Should Try Mooncups!

Menstrual cups (also known as Mooncups, Diva Cups & Period Cups) tend to get two contrasting reactions from the women I've spoken with. There's the vehement & judgemental: "ewww, no I just couldn't... anyway, aren't they a hippy thing?" Or the seasoned menstrual cup user: "YES! Every woman should use them, they're awesome".

Real Life Handjobs: How I Give Him A Hand Job

There’s something intensely erotic about looking directly into someone’s eyes as you’re sexually stimulating them... Making eye contact with him while you’re using your hands to pleasure his penis is sure to be an enormous thrill, while he’s struggling not to just let his eyes roll back, eyelids fluttering closed against the orgasmic stimulation as he lets out guttural groans of pleasure.

What’s the Difference Between Kink and Fetish?

With increasing awareness of and interest in BDSM, much of the related jargon and terms have made their way into common parlance. Two such words are 'kink' and 'fetish'. They're often used interchangeably, but as they are two different words it's natural to wonder what the actual meanings are.

Submission in BDSM: Why It’s Not a Sign of Weakness

How do you feel about submission in BDSM? You could be fooled into believing it's a sign of weakness, but there is actually a great deal of strength in surrender. Read on to find out how submission in consensual kinky terms is extremely empowering as well as intensely arousing. 

Is It Possible To Orgasm At The Same Time As Your Partner? Let’s Talk...

The carnal need builds in her, orgasmic tendrils taking hold from throat to clit. Her g-spot is rhythmically drummed by his mighty cock. She barely hears his ragged breaths turn to loud grunts behind her... when she's taken by an earth-shattering climax as he explodes his hot seed deep inside her ravaged pussy.

London Fuck Doll: Fucked, Denied, Satisfied

I moaned aloud as he took me by the shoulders and drove the full length of his cock deep into my achingly hungry pussy. My slippery, soft labia were spread apart as they massaged his welcome penetration. My head turned to the side, flat on the bed as he pinned it there with his heavy hand in my hair, he rammed his cock into me repeatedly, frenziedly. This wasn't love-making. This was primitive, carnal rutting.

Does Spanish Fly Work? And Other Cheap Sex Supplements

Have you ever tried the little blue pill? Viagra (aka Sildenafil Citrate) has been hailed as a 'wonder drug' following the completion of its development in 1998 by Pfizer as a cure for sexual impotence. As it's only available on prescription, many men try out the cheaper, herbal offerings which are readily available from sex shops.

London Window Display

I was on a high from the theatre; the sounds, sights and smells of the west end. A shared bottle of white in Soho definitely helped. Buzzing from a fantastic night out, and tumbling into our deluxe hotel suite, I was feeling so incredibly aroused and daring.

No Going Back

He was helpless. There was no going back.

Cuckoldry In BDSM: Want To Be A Cucked Little Cum Rag?

It’s so fucking hot to know you’re so teased, so turned on… and so completely unable to do anything about it. Forced to watch, by me, by us, by the posture collar, as you suffer on all fours. You constantly feel your aching need seep and drip between the metal bars to the floorboards beneath.

Just An Hour

It was just an hour from when I got her message to when I arrived. Just an hour. Now, looking back, it seems almost impossible that there was just an hour of intermission between my old life to my new reality.

Suit Porn: Taken By The Suits

I couldn’t say how much time had passed since the last of the suits had demonstrated their pleasure at Master & I’s X-rated performance. The chair back dug into my arms, while Master’s tie chafed my tightly bound wrists. It hadn’t taken much persuading for more ties to be donated. Legs spread, ankles bound separately to the chair legs and my mauled tits and well-fucked entrance on full, humiliating display.

Slim Vibrators For Small Vaginas

By Cara Sutra: I must admit that when I look at vibrator features, size doesn't really register. I'm one of those women who assumes that vaginal vibrators are made in, well, vagina size. If they're tiddly then they might be more of a clit stim for me.

Suit Porn: Fucking Me In His Pin-Striped Suit

New sounds entered my mind... unzipping and mumbles of approval from an audience gaining confidence from the view. Daring to open my eyes slightly I was horrified yet taken to the pinnacle of my own arousal to see that several men had released their cocks, unable to resist stroking themselves any longer. This opened the floodgates for the rest, who quickly followed suit.

The Day She Came: Fucking My Girl

The thick fabric was sopping at the join there, and my finger slid so easily between her labia. My fingertip brushed over her clitoris which was shamelessly erect - as I knew it would be. Her whole body shuddered against me and I cradled her...

Watching A Man Fuck My Boyfriend

Moans escaped his lips; louder then, as he couldn't help but throw his head back as the slow-but-certain arse fucking continued. His fingers were still curled in a death-grip around the pillow, but his back arched. Audibly ragged breaths were drawn between moans and he pushed his arse back on to that invading cock...

Chastity Keyholding Services: Finding the Right Keyholder

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

Watching My Boyfriend Suck Another Man’s Cock

His mouth, with all its masculine bearded surround, enveloping the cock tip. My boyfriend's lips forming the O around the collar of his friend's dick, as if it were second nature. I moistened my own lips, as if in readiness. I could almost taste and feel every millimetre for myself, so familiar were the actions. I've sucked cock a thousand times and know the tricks. What I didn't know was that I'd been giving my boyfriend lessons.

What Is Active Consent? Is It Required In A Relationship?

Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.

Blowjobs With Invisalign: My Kinky Teeth

Dear Daddy: When I suck your cock with my Invisalign aligners in, I get all self-conscious. I never used to be self-conscious when I was sucking your cock. But somehow, an Invisalign blowjob makes everything different.