Relationship Advice

Relationship advice for real-life love, better communication, and intimacy that actually lasts.

Welcome to my Relationship Advice hub. This is where I keep practical guidance for navigating relationships as they actually are, not as they appear in films. Real connection includes miscommunication, stress, life changes, mismatched desire, and the emotional work of staying close when things feel stuck or difficult. If you’re here because you want more understanding, more intimacy, or simply fewer arguments and more ease, you’re in the right place.

Whether you’re stuck in the same argument loop, feeling more like roommates, or struggling with mismatched desire, you’ll find practical next steps you can try here.

This category focuses on relationship help you can use in real life, including communication, boundaries, trust, emotional closeness and the sexual side of connection too. If you want broader bedroom guidance, you might prefer my main Sex Advice hub. If you want practical, everyday bedroom improvements, head to Sex Tips. For wider reflective writing about desire, identity and the emotional reality of intimacy, browse Sexuality Articles.

What You’ll Find In My Relationship Advice

This category gathers articles and guides on love, communication and connection, including:

  • Relationship communication advice that helps you talk without spiralling into tension, defensiveness, or shutdown
  • Emotional intimacy and rebuilding connection when you feel distant, disconnected, or stuck in routines
  • Boundaries and consent, including how to ask for what you want and how to hear “no” without resentment
  • Trust, insecurity, jealousy and the messy human reactions that can show up even in good relationships
  • Desire, libido changes and sexual compatibility, including the reality of mismatched sex drives
  • Practical ways to strengthen a long-term relationship and keep intimacy alive through life changes

Where To Start

Not sure which direction you need? Start with whatever matches your reality right now.

  • If communication is the problem: Start with posts about talking, listening, and repairing after conflict, then build from there
  • If you feel disconnected: Look for intimacy and reconnection posts, then explore practical ideas in Sex Tips
  • If desire feels complicated: Begin with libido and sexual compatibility topics, then explore wider context in Sexuality Articles
  • If boundaries are the sticking point: Start with consent and relationship boundaries, and keep it simple and honest
  • If you want to explore kink together: Route into consent-forward kinky sex advice and take it at your pace

My Approach

I don’t write relationship advice as if I’ve got it all figured out. I write from lived experience, emotional honesty, and the reality that love can be both beautiful and complicated. I’m not interested in shaming you for being human, or pretending there’s one correct way to do relationships. My aim is to help you feel clearer about what’s happening, what you need, and what to try next, with kindness and practical sense.

Relationships don’t exist in a vacuum. Stress, illness, disability, trauma history, parenting, ageing, hormones, and life pressure can all show up in intimacy and desire. This space makes room for all of that.

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Scroll down to explore the latest relationship advice posts, practical guides and real-life relationship insights on love, communication and intimacy.

Benefits Of A Regular Sex Life In Middle-Age

When I was younger, I thought sex was strictly reserved for the young. People in their 40s, 50s, 60s and older having sex? Talk to the hand! Time marches on for all of us though, and as I approach my mid-40s myself I have to admit that I was totally wrong. Not only do I still have a strong libido and active love life, there are various unexpected benefits to a regular sex life in middle-age as well.

Safe Sex Guide: Healthy Hook-Ups Every Time

After the severe social restrictions of the last couple of years, many people will be enjoying some tentative freedoms with regards meeting people in-person again. Dating is back! The term 'dating' is a bit vague - it could mean searching for a long-term partner or hooking up for some no-strings sex. How can you ensure healthy hook-ups and enjoy safe sex, though?
Edging In Masturbation How To Edge And Why You Should Try

What Is Edging In Masturbation? How To ‘Edge’ & Why You Should Try It

Experimenting with new bedroom techniques, positions and sensations is a great way to ensure your sex life remains healthy and varied. It's easy to discount masturbation as not really part of your 'sex life', but don't make that mistake - exploring new solo sexual ventures keeps things fresh and exciting. You're worth it!

Vaginismus: How To Ease Vaginal Tightness

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina spasm and painfully tighten during penetration. This tightening is involuntary; the person suffering with vaginismus has no control over it and is unable to make it stop.

Sexual Foreplay Guide: Hot Pre-Sex Arousal Tips & Ideas

Brilliant sexual foreplay can mean the difference between a stagnant, monotonous sex life and keeping the spice and magic of a relationship alive. Are you stuck for ideas for fantastic before sex arousal and supremely arousing foreplay? Welcome to my comprehensive guide to lovers' arousal techniques: my sexual foreplay 101.

Being Kink Compatible: How to Find BDSM Relationship Harmony

You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand,  insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong? It's time to talk about kink compatibility in BDSM relationships.

Imaginative Sexual Role Play Ideas

The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner.

Can You Be Just Friends With An Ex?

Whether the ex was a regular booty call or a long-term partner in a relationship, many of us have people we've been emotionally and physically intimate with in the past. This prior closeness engenders strong emotion, and they say love and hate are two sides of the same coin. Are you friends with any of your exes? Is it even possible? Can you ever be just friends with an ex?  

What Is Active Consent? Is It Required In A Relationship?

Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.

Change Where You Have Sex: Fucking Somewhere New

When you’ve been having sex for a while -and especially with the same sexual partner- you’ll likely find a sex position that really works for you. You’ll enjoy having sex in that particular way because it pushes your buttons. And that’s ok, until someone comes along and tells you you’ve got to ‘spice it up’ and ‘try these new positions today’. If you really want to try something new, why not consider sex locations rather than sex positions?

How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.

Age Gap Relationships

By Cara Sutra: Most people have an opinion on age gap relationships, whether they are resolutely black and white about what's an acceptable age gap in a romantic relationship or they believe age differences just don't matter. What do you think about people of different ages being in a relationship?

Sex and Religion: Exploring Erotic Religious Symbolism

Of course, it’s Easter, which is the Christian festival most associated with ‘fertility rituals’ and symbols that are not really that Christian at all – though there is still no agreement, let alone any proof, as to which specific ancient pagan feast inspired the annual celebration of eggs, bunnies, flowers and binging on chocolate. I wish you all joy and delight in the springtime, whether your bunnies are battery-powered or the sort that moan with joy when you wrap them up in rope, and if you want to mark the occasion by eating a Creme Egg off your favourite playmate’s naughty bits then go right ahead.

Hot Kissing Tips: How To Be A Fantastic Kisser

Kissing tips: Kissing is often a forgotten or at least neglected area of our love lives. Whether you’re in a relationship or a sassy single with a satisfying sex life, kissing adds a uniquely passionate element to sex and lovemaking.

Anorgasmia Explained: Why You Can’t Orgasm and What to Do

Anorgasmia is the medical term for struggling to reach orgasm, or not being able to orgasm at all. It affects people of all genders and at every stage of life. If you are wondering why you can’t orgasm, or why climax feels increasingly out of reach, you are far from alone. The experience can feel isolating, confusing and even shameful, yet there are many practical reasons behind orgasm difficulties. There are also realistic ways to explore your pleasure, rebuild confidence and discover what your body responds to.