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How many sex toys have you got? Where do you store them? Do you just have a couple of vibrators in the bedside drawer,...

It can be easy to 'stick your head in the sand' when it comes to those 3-yearly cervical smear tests. I know, because I’ve been there and done it myself. The reminder letter arrives... I open it, groan, and shove it into a drawer and try to forget about it. Eventually I force myself to put my big girl pants on and march myself down to the doctor’s surgery, before taking them off again for the nurse.

There’s a new term in town for when a sex toy is so gorgeously girthy that it blissfully bulldozes your orgasmic orifices. I’ve been thoroughly bull-dildoed by the huge and horny Twisted Beast Bael, a wickedly monstrous pleasure cock that cows you into submission with zero red flags.

I haven't 'reached' perimenopause so much as it's hunted me down and attacked me. That’s how it feels, anyway.

What is International Women’s Day all about? Is it really still needed? In my IWD info hub I’m going to explain how this important day of commemoration and activism started, why it’s important & why you should care, and how you can do your part to mark this day and directly support vulnerable and under-privileged women and girls.

This is the small selection of sex toys that I just love so much that they’ve made it to permanent residence in my bedside drawer, rather than being rated too mediocre or for some other reason relegated to being put back in the box and into storage in the loft or garage. Today I’d like to share details of my favourite sex toys right now: what exactly is in my current bedside drawer handy grab collection?

Small Mr Limpy Review: a squishy, soft Fleshlight packer that is comfy for daily, low-profile packing. In this hands-on I cover feel, size, fit and practical care, plus harness tips.

Welcome to my Flat Gatling Chastity Cage review. This extreme tiny metal device is one of the smallest chastity cages you can buy. With its flat front, harsh fit and punishing design, it is not for beginners and suits experienced players seeking the most restrictive chastity experience.

Whether you’re going on an exciting first date or arranging an evening out with your long-term partner, finding common ground or enough to talk about which isn't mundane or inappropriate can be a challenge.  In this feature I will provide a handy list of 25 conversation starters for your first date -which you could also use to get to know your long-term partner better if you’re already in a relationship.

There aren’t many products in the Bathmate collection that I can personally experience, but the team kindly sent me their Bathmate Bullet Vibrator free of charge in exchange for my honest review here on the Cara Sutra sex blog. I’m a big fan of bullet vibes for clitoral stimulation and use in other areas – how would this one measure up against my long-term favourites?

Sexy lingerie has long been a popular romantic gift for occasions like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays, and Christmas. But buying lingerie for someone else can feel surprisingly daunting. Will it fit properly? Will it feel comfortable as well as look good? And most importantly, will they actually enjoy wearing it?

Valentine's Day is the annual day when lovers celebrate their passion. What are your Valentine plans this year? It's traditional to gift your special someone something romantic and thoughtful, and maybe make some plans along the same lines. Couples usually buy each other a card, a gift and spend time together on the day celebrating the magic of their ongoing relationship. What should you buy them this year?

YES VM Organic Vaginal Moisturising Gel (AH! YES Organic Vaginal Moisturizing Gel in the USA) has been specifically developed to combat the loss of natural moisture in and around the vagina for whatever reason - loss of libido, life circumstances, hormonal imbalances, medication, perimenopause and menopause, or other.

I've already shared my thoughts on surprising ways the cold season can improve your sex life; today I'm sharing my recommendations for warming sex toys & other pleasure products to heat up your sex life in winter.

If you’re reading this, you’re most likely a sex-positive person. But shall we talk about Masturbation Positivity? Despite an ongoing shift in sex culture and education, the self-pleasure taboo remains. Let’s break it! 

Some people have a firm BDSM identity, others find that over time, the way they want to 'play' in D/s is fluid, just like some people have fluid sexualities. This guide comes to you from the unique perspective of a woman in midlife, a Domme. I'm now in midlife, in my mid-forties, but over the past couple of decades I have at various times identified as Dominant to most, submissive to some, a 50/50 switch, and now I am in an era of being completely Dominant; but I still enjoy my husband and I's sexual roleplay with bondage cuffs at times. 

What are your thoughts on, and experiences of, anal sex? The most common concern surrounding using anal sex toys & other anal sexual play is relieving discomfort due to this area’s renowned tightness and sensitivity. In this guide I will reveal how you can enjoy pain free anal sex -and why it’s relevant and important to ditch the anal desensitiser.

This is a sex toy brand from HiSmith, who you’ll know from our enthusiastic sex machine reviews. The Wildolo Dragon Dildo is huge, pretty, silicone and has a suction cup base, and spoiler: I love it.

You don’t hear as much about Movember as you used to, so I thought I’d research whether this project was still happening. Let’s take a look at what Movember is, why things seem to have quietened down on the Movember-activism front, and what you can do to support its original causes.

Erotic massage is a fantastic way to shake up foreplay and can be a new way to arouse each other before sex – but today I want to talk about massage for intimacy, not just as a prelude to sex.