Cara Sutra

Whether you’re going on an exciting first date or arranging an evening out with your long-term partner, finding common ground or enough to talk about which isn't mundane or inappropriate can be a challenge.  In this feature I will provide a handy list of 25 conversation starters for your first date -which you could also use to get to know your long-term partner better if you’re already in a relationship.

There aren’t many products in the Bathmate collection that I can personally experience, but the team kindly sent me their Bathmate Bullet Vibrator free of charge in exchange for my honest review here on the Cara Sutra sex blog. I’m a big fan of bullet vibes for clitoral stimulation and use in other areas – how would this one measure up against my long-term favourites?

Sexy lingerie has long been a popular romantic gift for occasions like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays, and Christmas. But buying lingerie for someone else can feel surprisingly daunting. Will it fit properly? Will it feel comfortable as well as look good? And most importantly, will they actually enjoy wearing it?

Valentine's Day is the annual day when lovers celebrate their passion. What are your Valentine plans this year? It's traditional to gift your special someone something romantic and thoughtful, and maybe make some plans along the same lines. Couples usually buy each other a card, a gift and spend time together on the day celebrating the magic of their ongoing relationship. What should you buy them this year?

YES VM Organic Vaginal Moisturising Gel (AH! YES Organic Vaginal Moisturizing Gel in the USA) has been specifically developed to combat the loss of natural moisture in and around the vagina for whatever reason - loss of libido, life circumstances, hormonal imbalances, medication, perimenopause and menopause, or other.

I've already shared my thoughts on surprising ways the cold season can improve your sex life; today I'm sharing my recommendations for warming sex toys & other pleasure products to heat up your sex life in winter.

If you’re reading this, you’re most likely a sex-positive person. But shall we talk about Masturbation Positivity? Despite an ongoing shift in sex culture and education, the self-pleasure taboo remains. Let’s break it! 

Some people have a firm BDSM identity, others find that over time, the way they want to 'play' in D/s is fluid, just like some people have fluid sexualities. This guide comes to you from the unique perspective of a woman in midlife, a Domme. I'm now in midlife, in my mid-forties, but over the past couple of decades I have at various times identified as Dominant to most, submissive to some, a 50/50 switch, and now I am in an era of being completely Dominant; but I still enjoy my husband and I's sexual roleplay with bondage cuffs at times. 

What are your thoughts on, and experiences of, anal sex? The most common concern surrounding using anal sex toys & other anal sexual play is relieving discomfort due to this area’s renowned tightness and sensitivity. In this guide I will reveal how you can enjoy pain free anal sex -and why it’s relevant and important to ditch the anal desensitiser.

This is a sex toy brand from HiSmith, who you’ll know from our enthusiastic sex machine reviews. The Wildolo Dragon Dildo is huge, pretty, silicone and has a suction cup base, and spoiler: I love it.

You don’t hear as much about Movember as you used to, so I thought I’d research whether this project was still happening. Let’s take a look at what Movember is, why things seem to have quietened down on the Movember-activism front, and what you can do to support its original causes.

Erotic massage is a fantastic way to shake up foreplay and can be a new way to arouse each other before sex – but today I want to talk about massage for intimacy, not just as a prelude to sex.

I know how easy it is to feel apprehensive about anything involving cameras, never mind during intensely vulnerable moments of shared intimacy. In this feature I share my top tips & advice on how to give a sexy webcam show where you will seduce your partner with confidence, creativity & sensuality.

Learning how to check your breasts properly could be a lifesaving skill. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month - but checking your breasts regularly should be a priority all through the year.

Thanks so much to Lovehoney for sending me the brand-new for 2022 sex toy advent calendar for hetero couples! That’s right, it’s that time of year already… I’m always very excited to check out the newest sexy advent calendars, and the Lovehoney Sex Toy Advent Calendar 2022 lived up to my eager anticipation.

Having followed Womanizer’s new sex toys through the years since their very first W100 version back in 2015, I was very interested to give the brand-new special edition for 2022 a try. Lovehoney kindly offered to send me the Womanizer Marilyn Monroe Classic 2 Special Edition free of charge, in exchange for my fair & honest review here on the Cara Sutra sex blog -and I opted for it in black marble design.

BDSM collars are an extremely important visual symbol of submission and ownership. Although bondage collars are also worn simply as a kinky accessory in a play scene, there are plenty of kinksters for whom wearing a BDSM collar signifies a deeper commitment between Dom and sub, Owner and slave, Top and bottom. Some may even take part in collaring ceremonies, a celebratory event which publicly or privately marks the commitment between Dom and sub in a similar way to the vanilla wedding rituals of marriage.

Are you a fan of sex dolls? If you’re one of the thousands of sex doll lovers around the world, then you’ll understand just how important clothes are when it comes to styling your love companion. It can be tempting for new love owners to think it’s all about the sex – so why would the clothing matter?

Sex and related intimacy is obviously a very close quarters and usually quite frenetic activity. Even if both the bedroom and your bodies start off as cool as physically possible in the hot weather, you’ll soon become hot, sticky and sweaty once desire is allowed to run rampant and you’re both lost in carnal pleasures.

I’m very impressed at just how much this lubricant smells (and for the first few seconds, seems to taste) like birthday cake topped with icing and sugar sprinkles. The only thing missing is that you don’t get to sink your teeth into soft, sweet fondant, and you’ll have to provide your own moist sponge and creamy filling.