Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Can You Be Just Friends With An Ex?

Whether the ex was a regular booty call or a long-term partner in a relationship, many of us have people we've been emotionally and physically intimate with in the past. This prior closeness engenders strong emotion, and they say love and hate are two sides of the same coin. Are you friends with any of your exes? Is it even possible? Can you ever be just friends with an ex?  

The Hotness Of Gay Sex

There’s something about man loving and gay sex which gets my knickers twitching. It doesn’t even have to be all-out gay porn; just a simple act of romantic affection between guys on a TV show can catch my clit’s interest. When it does come down to the action, though, man-on-man sex scenes are so fucking hot...

Can You Make Your Own Sex Toys At Home?

When the budget's stretched thin it's sensible to cut costs by cutting out luxuries. And I'd wager that most people view sex toys as a luxury. With the popularity of crafting, plus incentives to be eco-friendly wherever possible, it could be tempting to try and make your own sex toys at home.

How To Use Menstrual Cups: Why You Should Try Mooncups!

Menstrual cups (also known as Mooncups, Diva Cups & Period Cups) tend to get two contrasting reactions from the women I've spoken with. There's the vehement & judgemental: "ewww, no I just couldn't... anyway, aren't they a hippy thing?" Or the seasoned menstrual cup user: "YES! Every woman should use them, they're awesome".

Real Life Handjobs: How I Give Him A Hand Job

There’s something intensely erotic about looking directly into someone’s eyes as you’re sexually stimulating them... Making eye contact with him while you’re using your hands to pleasure his penis is sure to be an enormous thrill, while he’s struggling not to just let his eyes roll back, eyelids fluttering closed against the orgasmic stimulation as he lets out guttural groans of pleasure.

What’s the Difference Between Kink and Fetish?

With increasing awareness of and interest in BDSM, much of the related jargon and terms have made their way into common parlance. Two such words are 'kink' and 'fetish'. They're often used interchangeably, but as they are two different words it's natural to wonder what the actual meanings are.

Submission in BDSM: Why It’s Not a Sign of Weakness

How do you feel about submission in BDSM? You could be fooled into believing it's a sign of weakness, but there is actually a great deal of strength in surrender. Read on to find out how submission in consensual kinky terms is extremely empowering as well as intensely arousing. 

Is It Possible To Orgasm At The Same Time As Your Partner? Let’s Talk...

The carnal need builds in her, orgasmic tendrils taking hold from throat to clit. Her g-spot is rhythmically drummed by his mighty cock. She barely hears his ragged breaths turn to loud grunts behind her... when she's taken by an earth-shattering climax as he explodes his hot seed deep inside her ravaged pussy.

Does Spanish Fly Work? And Other Cheap Sex Supplements

Have you ever tried the little blue pill? Viagra (aka Sildenafil Citrate) has been hailed as a 'wonder drug' following the completion of its development in 1998 by Pfizer as a cure for sexual impotence. As it's only available on prescription, many men try out the cheaper, herbal offerings which are readily available from sex shops.

Slim Vibrators For Small Vaginas

By Cara Sutra: I must admit that when I look at vibrator features, size doesn't really register. I'm one of those women who assumes that vaginal vibrators are made in, well, vagina size. If they're tiddly then they might be more of a clit stim for me.

The Day She Came: Fucking My Girl

The thick fabric was sopping at the join there, and my finger slid so easily between her labia. My fingertip brushed over her clitoris which was shamelessly erect - as I knew it would be. Her whole body shuddered against me and I cradled her...

Watching A Man Fuck My Boyfriend

Moans escaped his lips; louder then, as he couldn't help but throw his head back as the slow-but-certain arse fucking continued. His fingers were still curled in a death-grip around the pillow, but his back arched. Audibly ragged breaths were drawn between moans and he pushed his arse back on to that invading cock...

Chastity Keyholding Services: Finding the Right Keyholder

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

Watching My Boyfriend Suck Another Man’s Cock

His mouth, with all its masculine bearded surround, enveloping the cock tip. My boyfriend's lips forming the O around the collar of his friend's dick, as if it were second nature. I moistened my own lips, as if in readiness. I could almost taste and feel every millimetre for myself, so familiar were the actions. I've sucked cock a thousand times and know the tricks. What I didn't know was that I'd been giving my boyfriend lessons.

What Is Active Consent? Is It Required In A Relationship?

Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.

Blowjobs With Invisalign: My Kinky Teeth

Dear Daddy: When I suck your cock with my Invisalign aligners in, I get all self-conscious. I never used to be self-conscious when I was sucking your cock. But somehow, an Invisalign blowjob makes everything different.

Unusual Porn Searches: The Weird and Unexpected Fantasies People Look For Online

Unusual porn searches can be surprising, funny, confusing, and sometimes genuinely enlightening. This post looks at weird porn trends with a calmer, more human lens - what people search for, what it might mean, and why fantasy often makes sense once you stop judging it.

Change Where You Have Sex: Fucking Somewhere New

When you’ve been having sex for a while -and especially with the same sexual partner- you’ll likely find a sex position that really works for you. You’ll enjoy having sex in that particular way because it pushes your buttons. And that’s ok, until someone comes along and tells you you’ve got to ‘spice it up’ and ‘try these new positions today’. If you really want to try something new, why not consider sex locations rather than sex positions?

What Are Limits in BDSM? Setting Boundaries in Kink

What are BDSM limits? And, in a BDSM relationship, is pushing limits OK? Or should both partners just find out what makes them tick and keep right on doing those things without moving the goalposts?

Why An Erect Penis Is So Fucking Hot

By Cara Sutra: There’s something about a bouncing, bobbing erect penis which can be so fucking hot. But what is it about hard cock? What makes an erection sexy?