Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Unusual Porn Searches: Most Popular Guilty Pleasures and Taboo Fantasy Trends

Unusual porn searches are an intriguing topic. If you're wondering what niche, surprising, or just plain weird porn goooners, kinksters and extreme stimulation lovers are looking for online, you're in the right place. In today's post I look at gasp-inducing filthy porn trends with a sex-positive, inclusive, and non-judgemental lens. Hey, if it turns you on, chances are you're not alone.

Change Where You Have Sex: Fucking Somewhere New

When you’ve been having sex for a while -and especially with the same sexual partner- you’ll likely find a sex position that really works for you. You’ll enjoy having sex in that particular way because it pushes your buttons. And that’s ok, until someone comes along and tells you you’ve got to ‘spice it up’ and ‘try these new positions today’. If you really want to try something new, why not consider sex locations rather than sex positions?

What Are Limits in BDSM? Setting Boundaries in Kink

What are BDSM limits? And, in a BDSM relationship, is pushing limits OK? Or should both partners just find out what makes them tick and keep right on doing those things without moving the goalposts?

Why An Erect Penis Is So Fucking Hot

By Cara Sutra: There’s something about a bouncing, bobbing erect penis which can be so fucking hot. But what is it about hard cock? What makes an erection sexy?

Shower Sex Tips: Is It Worth The Hassle?

Doing it in the shower always had a novelty appeal. The hot water pounding down, the slippery lather, the fact that you can get as filthy as you want (spit, piss, whatever) and it’s washed away instantly. Back in the honeymoon period of my relationship with my partner, we had sex in the shower fairly regularly.

Scared Of Sucking Cock? You’re Not Alone

By Cara Sutra: For people who feel uncomfortable about or even scared of sucking cock, the pressure to perform in this specific way can be difficult to swallow. Do you have a fear of giving him a blow job?

How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn't always mean they're cheating on you or that you'll feel betrayed.

Chastity Release – Unlocking & Orgasm

He looked up at me from where he knelt on the kitchen floor, a solitary tear running down his defeated face. That just made my cunt even wetter in beautifully cruel empathy. Finally, he’d completed the distasteful task. His expert tongue protruded, but not out of rudeness or as a plea for pussy. On the tip was a small, very shiny key.

Chastity Release – Her Icy Response

Tilting his chin up so I could look into his embarrassed face properly, I relished the fight between humiliation, hate and the most intense arousal in his eyes. My other hand reached down and felt the weight of his chastity locked cock in my hands. He jumped as my cool hands came into contact with his hot straining balls under the metal device.

How To Get Free Sex Toys

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

Age Gap Relationships

By Cara Sutra: Most people have an opinion on age gap relationships, whether they are resolutely black and white about what's an acceptable age gap in a romantic relationship or they believe age differences just don't matter. What do you think about people of different ages being in a relationship?

Puppy Play Kink: What Is Human Pup Play and Why It Matters

I don't have a kink for pretending to be a dog. I'm not even a 'dog person'. However, the national furore surrounding people who want to be a human puppy this week really made my hackles rise. The cause of the outrage? TV shows giving an insight into the puppy play scene and/or fetish, including a Channel 4 documentary entitled The Secret Life Of The Human Pups.

Bondage Hogties Guide: How and Why to Hogtie Safely

The favourite bondage hogtie piece I have in my own collection is the Shots Media Ouch! Wrist and Legcuffs Restraints, which isn't readily available in the UK any more but you can take a look at my review here. There are definitely other, good quality bondage hogties you can purchase to give you the session you desire, however.

Cunnilingus Doesn’t Work for Me: Being A Woman Who Doesn’t Cum From Oral

Today, I want to sit in the uncomfortable truth of the matter. And I’m inviting you to sit with me, as I gather my thoughts on what it’s like to be a woman who doesn’t achieve peak sexual satisfaction from lips and tongue, no matter how skilled they may be.

Sex and Disability: Intimacy, Desire, and Pleasure When Bodies Have Limits

This piece was written by a previous version of me, one who had higher libido, non-progressive deafness, and who didn’t yet know what it was like to live with chronic illness. It was before I moved into perimenopause, before I suddenly developed M.E. What follows is my early exploration into sex and disability, motivated by kindness and curiosity and a desire to create a place which resonates with anyone affected. I now count myself among that number.

Anal Sex Toys Guide: Finding The Best Butt Plug For You

Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Sex and Religion Kink: Why Religious Taboo and Perversion Turns Us On

Plenty of kinky people, particularly those who grew up inside religious frameworks that treated their bodies as suspect, find enormous erotic charge in the symbols, roles and taboos those systems taught them to revere. Corrupt the incorruptible, defile the sacred, turn the confessional into a scene: this is well-worn territory. It's also territory that gets more attention twice a year, around Easter and Christmas, when the calendar itself pushes religious imagery into the foreground and the transgression of using it sexually feels a bit sharper than usual.
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No Limits’ Slaves in BDSM: Do Zero Limits Submissives Exist?

If you're drawn to the "no limits" fantasy in yourself, ask what specifically you're trying to get out of it. Sometimes the answer is that you want to feel deeply submissive and don't yet have the vocabulary for it, which is a solvable problem. Sometimes the answer is that you want to stop having to make decisions, which is a different problem and one no scene will fix. Sometimes it's that you want the drama of being seen as extreme, which is worth interrogating on its own before you put it in front of another person.
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Dommes and Blowjobs: Why Some Dominant Women Love To Suck Cock

If he starts thanking you profusely, or bucking his hips, or in any way behaving as though he's been handed a treat, that's your cue to stop, reframe, and possibly punish. The point Zak makes about withdrawing your lips seconds before he comes is the sharp end of this. Edging as a Dominant act works because the sub cannot request it, cannot control it, and cannot predict when the next chance arrives, if it arrives at all.

Total Power Exchange in BDSM: What TPE Really Means

In this guide to Total Power Exchange in BDSM, I explore what TPE really means beyond the fantasy image. From my own perspective as a Domme, it’s about more than scenes or sessions - it’s the reality of living in a relationship where control, obedience, and power are fully surrendered.