Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Do Women Find Older Men Sexy? Why?

Younger men are really not my thing. I’ve never been in a relationship with a guy younger than me; it wasn’t a conscious choice, just the way things have worked out. There’s never been a rejection of a guy, in a sex or relationship sense, just because he’s a bit younger than me. But when I’ve come to think about it, older men hold a particular and definite allure for me.

The Most Powerful Vibrators You Can Buy

Happy National Orgasm Day 2018! It's difficult to believe it's been a year already since the last National Orgasm Day – the year has just flown. In the past I've written about the sounds of an orgasm, the importance (or not) of simultaneous orgasms, about not being able to orgasm through oral sex and about having orgasms while I'm asleep. As many of my orgasms are helped along a little bit (OK, a lot) by sex toys, today I want to discuss some of my favourites. The toys which are, for me, the best powerful vibrators for extra strong orgasms.

Legend Of The Seeker Mord-Sith Cara Red Leather Cosplay Outfit

A mord-sith is a member of a warrior group in the Sword Of Truth series. They're all women, and are trained to become mord-sith from when they're young girls. They are captured from their family in order to go through brutal training to attain the title and role of mord-sith.

What Is FemDom? Exploring Female Domination in BDSM

What is FemDom? Some would say it's the Marmite of the BDSM scene. Is it the BDSM outsider? Female Domination usually elicits a response firmly on one end of the scale or the other: yes please! or ...um, no thanks.

Small Butt Plugs For Beginners & Tight Arses

I've written plenty of beginner's guides to anal toys and butt plugs in the past, and you can find plenty of sex toy advice throughout the Cara Sutra sex blog. Today, however, I wanted to present what I feel are the true top picks when it comes to easily insertable (yet still body safe) small butt plugs for tiny bums.

A New Flavour

"Shy" was not how I'd describe her. A mischievous gleam swirled like an undiscovered cosmos in her dark eyes, while her full red lips seemed determined to settle into a cheeky pout whenever they weren't getting her into trouble.  
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Wand Vibrators Guide

What’s the absolute best wand vibrator? Which is the most powerful wand vibrator? If you’re looking for a mighty toy which can deliver unforgettable orgasms, then sex toy connoisseurs know to head straight for the magic wand vibrators.

Can You Be Just Friends With An Ex?

Whether the ex was a regular booty call or a long-term partner in a relationship, many of us have people we've been emotionally and physically intimate with in the past. This prior closeness engenders strong emotion, and they say love and hate are two sides of the same coin. Are you friends with any of your exes? Is it even possible? Can you ever be just friends with an ex?  

The Hotness Of Gay Sex

There’s something about man loving and gay sex which gets my knickers twitching. It doesn’t even have to be all-out gay porn; just a simple act of romantic affection between guys on a TV show can catch my clit’s interest. When it does come down to the action, though, man-on-man sex scenes are so fucking hot...

Can You Make Your Own Sex Toys At Home?

When the budget's stretched thin it's sensible to cut costs by cutting out luxuries. And I'd wager that most people view sex toys as a luxury. With the popularity of crafting, plus incentives to be eco-friendly wherever possible, it could be tempting to try and make your own sex toys at home.

Real Life Handjobs: How I Give Him A Hand Job

There’s something intensely erotic about looking directly into someone’s eyes as you’re sexually stimulating them... Making eye contact with him while you’re using your hands to pleasure his penis is sure to be an enormous thrill, while he’s struggling not to just let his eyes roll back, eyelids fluttering closed against the orgasmic stimulation as he lets out guttural groans of pleasure.

What’s the Difference Between Kink and Fetish?

With increasing awareness of and interest in BDSM, much of the related jargon and terms have made their way into common parlance. Two such words are 'kink' and 'fetish'. They're often used interchangeably, but as they are two different words it's natural to wonder what the actual meanings are.

Submission in BDSM: Why It’s Not a Sign of Weakness

How do you feel about submission in BDSM? You could be fooled into believing it's a sign of weakness, but there is actually a great deal of strength in surrender. Read on to find out how submission in consensual kinky terms is extremely empowering as well as intensely arousing. 

Is It Possible To Orgasm At The Same Time As Your Partner? Let’s Talk...

The carnal need builds in her, orgasmic tendrils taking hold from throat to clit. Her g-spot is rhythmically drummed by his mighty cock. She barely hears his ragged breaths turn to loud grunts behind her... when she's taken by an earth-shattering climax as he explodes his hot seed deep inside her ravaged pussy.

Does Spanish Fly Work? And Other Cheap Sex Supplements

Have you ever tried the little blue pill? Viagra (aka Sildenafil Citrate) has been hailed as a 'wonder drug' following the completion of its development in 1998 by Pfizer as a cure for sexual impotence. As it's only available on prescription, many men try out the cheaper, herbal offerings which are readily available from sex shops.

Slim Vibrators For Small Vaginas

By Cara Sutra: I must admit that when I look at vibrator features, size doesn't really register. I'm one of those women who assumes that vaginal vibrators are made in, well, vagina size. If they're tiddly then they might be more of a clit stim for me.

The Day She Came: Fucking My Girl

The thick fabric was sopping at the join there, and my finger slid so easily between her labia. My fingertip brushed over her clitoris which was shamelessly erect - as I knew it would be. Her whole body shuddered against me and I cradled her...

Watching A Man Fuck My Boyfriend

Moans escaped his lips; louder then, as he couldn't help but throw his head back as the slow-but-certain arse fucking continued. His fingers were still curled in a death-grip around the pillow, but his back arched. Audibly ragged breaths were drawn between moans and he pushed his arse back on to that invading cock...

Chastity Keyholding Services: Finding the Right Keyholder

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

What Is Active Consent? Is It Required In A Relationship?

Consent is mandatory for any sexual, intimate or otherwise physically or psychologically invasive experience. We all know this, and if you don’t, you do now. It’s difficult to believe that there could be any confusion surrounding the issue of consent.