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This piece was written by a previous version of me, one who had higher libido, non-progressive deafness, and who didn’t yet know what it was like to live with chronic illness. It was before I moved into perimenopause, before I suddenly developed M.E. What follows is my early exploration into sex and disability, motivated by kindness and curiosity and a desire to create a place which resonates with anyone affected. I now count myself among that number.

Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Imagine a fantasy where a lover approaches you from behind, tangles one hand in your hair, pulls your head backwards and at the same time shoves their other hand into your knickers to seek out your sopping wet cunt to toy with… as they proceed to kiss you deeply like you’ve never been kissed before. That’s what comes to mind when I try to describe the sensations the Njoy Eleven gives my G-spot.

The We-Vibe Nova Vibrator looks like a new take on the traditional rabbit vibrator - because that's exactly what it is. Rabbit vibrators are still incredibly popular with women worldwide - a certain high street sex shop chain has built an empire helped by dizzying sales of Rampant Rabbits after all.

We-Vibe. The name is synonymous with famous, best-selling c shaped couples vibrators. That's why, when I heard that We Vibe were designing and making penetrative vaginal vibrators, my curiosity (and other parts) became aroused. What would the We-Vibe Rave Vibrator and We-Vibe Nova Vibrator look like? Would they be as fabulously powerful as We-Vibe’s other foray into vulval stimulation, the We Vibe Tango bullet vibrator / clit stim?

This review covers the original We-Vibe Tango bullet vibrator. We-Vibe has since released the We-Vibe Tango X as the current model, with a redesigned grip, three-button controls, a travel lock and an updated motor. If you're choosing today, the Tango X is almost certainly the one you want. Read my We-Vibe Tango X review for the full rundown. The review below remains as a record of the original model that built the Tango name.

I was finally ready to give the F-Machine Gigolo Sex Machine a try. So exciting! I put the lights down low, had my glass of wine on the side and an array of Sliquid for comfort. Doxy and other clit vibes within reach, because I'm greedy. I didn't know if I was testing the fuck machine or seducing it.

These Liberator Red Silk Sashes (2x 7ft sashes) caught my eye at the recent Erofame show in Germany. Not literally, you understand… it’s just that the red is so vibrant (my favourite colour, too) and what a hot image on the front of the box. A sexy woman in a Shibari bondage harness. I simply had to have these restraints.

This new Liberator Valkyrie Thong Strap On Harness is the first strap on harness I've had which really is made to fit like a thong. It's also soft fabric rather than leather, so it's far less intimidating for, say, vanilla couples (hetero or lesbian) to use than leather styles which can seem to look traditionally BDSM.

We've really enjoyed the original shape We-Vibe, the power of the motors, the freedom of both movement given by the shape and the range of options through the app. The added flexibility of the velvety-silicone We-Vibe Classic Couple's Vibrator is also a huge bonus. At first it may seem to you (as it did to me) that there was no need for a We-Vibe Classic, but if the We-Vibe 4+ shape doesn't do it for you, or you found it too rigid, then I believe you'll love the We-Vibe Classic vibrator.

I am thrilled with my Liberator Tallulah Case. You can see from the photos just how much it can hold. The capacity is amazing. No internal pockets to this bag but I find them useless for me anyway, nothing fits in them or they get clogged with used batteries.

The Liberator Plush Seduction Bondage Kit really is a seductive set. Comprising of two ankle cuffs, two wrist cuffs, four extender straps with removable clips to attach to each cuff on the end, two separate connector clips so each cuff can connect to the other, and a Liberator blindfold (with padded nose bridge to keep out any light or sight), there's everything you need to at least get started with some non-intimidating and supremely comfortable bondage.

As for power – yes, the LELO NEA 2 Vibrator is powerful. Powerful enough to bring me to orgasm, which is saying something considering how battered about my clitoris is by this point. I imagine that the first version of LELO Nea would have been like the first version of Lily – not powerful enough for me – but on the top level of constant vibration the LELO NEA 2 Vibrator can bring me to a lovely clitoral orgasm with ease.

I love the Liberator Black Label Sex Wedge and it's worth every penny of it's (at first, seemingly high) price tag. We're really enjoyed putting it through its paces and it's now got a permanent place next to the bed (although room there is seriously running out fast, I can barely see any carpet now). Whether I'm reading my latest sexy read and chilling out, having some incredibly deep penetration sex or a hot spanking session, the Liberator Black Label Wedge is there to give us a silent but sensual helping hand.

The Womanizer W500 promised a sleeker, more refined experience than its predecessor – but how did it perform in practice? In this post, I’ve collated two real Womanizer W500 reviews: one from me, where it scored 8 out of 10, and another from a Cara Sutra community reviewer who gave it 9/10. If you’re considering this classic clit suction toy, our experiences might help you decide if it’s the right match for your pleasure style.

When I heard Je Joue were bringing out some new sex toys I was so happy. When I found out what the new sex toys were, I was even happier. The Pick n Mix style Ooh by Je Joue sex toys. Who doesn't love pick 'n' mix?

We much preferred the Sheets of San Francisco Fluidproof Flat Printed Fun Sheet for playing on then sleeping afterwards. The fluid still wasn't absorbed into the sheet so we needed to choose between some wetness beneath us or wrapping it up and taking it off the bed to sleep on our usual sheet underneath after we'd cleaned up and were ready to rest.

Both sheets are entirely fluidproof as you can see. Tissue paper was put beneath the sheets, on top of our bed, and the tissue was still absolutely perfectly dry after water was poured and spread around.

...the LELO Lily 2 Vibrator is a delicious little vibrator whose power and ability to give me discreet but powerful play sessions outweigh the small frustration I have with the buttons. It's curved so the vibrations are directed exactly where I want them, and I can gently rest ot over my clit or press as hard as I choose during masturbation and enjoy the power either way. I don't really use the patterns much as I'm more of a constant vibration on max kinda girl, but these will likely be warmly welcomed by pulse pattern fans. More powerful than the original, waterproof and smells gorgeous too. Love it.

If you know me at all, you know I love my Original Doxy Wand Vibrator. It's quite simply the most powerful vibrator I've ever owned. Firmly at the top of my favourite sex toys list, it was hard to imagine what Doxy would come up with next to delight the sex toy & orgasm connoisseurs of the world. Introducing the Doxy Die Cast Wand Vibrator.