Strap-On Dildos Guide
You may remember my last 'big guide' - the Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses I published last month. Obviously you'll need a fantastic dildo to attach to your new strap-on harness, so here's the follow-up feature: my big guide to strap-on dildos!
Humiliation Kink: Why Does Erotic Shame Turn Me On?
Why does humiliation turn some people on so intensely, even when the fantasy itself feels shocking, taboo, or emotionally conflicting? I'm asking because I'm one of those people, and I've spent a long time trying to make sense of it. The idea of humiliation, in any real-world sense, repels me. I hate the thought of being genuinely shamed, looked down on, or made small. And yet my biggest, most reliably arousing fantasies are built around exactly that: being shamed, exposed, humiliated, reduced to something to be laughed at or used...
Rethinking Vaginal Orgasms
Let's tackle the myth of vaginal orgasms. The myth isn't whether or not they're possible, but rather that everyone with a vagina must be able to climax from vaginal stimulation. If you don't orgasm from vaginal penetration, please don't panic. You're not alone. I don't orgasm that way either.
How I Dominate My Slaves: A Domme’s Perspective
How people perceive my domination, and the reality of it, is something which has fascinated me for some time. You would be amazed at some of the comments directed my way over the years simply for the ways in which I choose to enjoy my natural dominance, as well as how my actively consenting submissives enjoy it, too. Some of these comments are borne from ignorance, some from jealousy, some from malice, and others simply because the person spoke without properly thinking it all through.
Summer Garden Party: Fountain of Relief
The fountain elicited a chorus of open-mouthed wails. The heat of the sun and humiliation hit my exposed clit and spread labia, slicking them with hungry need. My body kept forgetting it was in such secure bondage; each leg kept pointed upwards and outwards, unable to bend. How I wished I could arch my back completely, then curl into a ball and keep this feeling of humiliation-fuelled hot desire as my own private masturbatory tool.
Strap-On Harnesses Guide
Strap-on sex (sometimes known as pegging) is enjoyed by many adults and within various types of relationship; for example, lesbian/bisexual sex, in BDSM as part of FemDom, or to help a penis-owner pleasure their partner in different ways. There are many types of harness available to help you achieve your sexual pleasure aims – welcome to my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses.
Penis Chastity Devices Guide: How to Choose and Use a Cage
Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!
Forced Orgasms in BDSM: What They Are and Why People Enjoy Them
I love the freedom to touch myself whenever I want –and I make the most of that freedom, as you can see by the thousands of sex toy reviews and erotic articles here on the blog. Chastity is definitely not for me, when I'm the one locked up I mean. How about the flip side of chastity: forced orgasms? There's still the element of external control -but rather than orgasm denial, I would be (consensually, of course) forced to orgasm over and over.
Sex Machines & Fucking Machines: The Complete Buyer’s Guide
The sex machine market has shifted considerably since I first published this guide. New brands have entered, several older products have been discontinued, and the quality standard across motorised sex toys has risen. Whether you're researching a ride-on machine, a full thrusting machine, an automatic thrusting dildo, or a handheld thrusting toy that sits somewhere between a vibrator and a proper machine, this guide covers them all.
Are There Different Types Of Orgasm?
For so long, I didn't really think about how I was orgasming – beyond whether it was with my fingers, their tongue, one of my sex toys, etc – I just... orgasmed or didn't, as the case may be. Whew, there's another orgasm out of my system, and boy did that feel great, kinda thing. It's only relatively recently that I've spent some time thinking about my different types of orgasm.
Watersports Kink: Curious About Piss Play and Golden Showers?
Does the mention of watersports conjure up innocent images of surfing and jet skis, or raise a knowing smirk? If you're here, I'm guessing it's the latter. For the non-vanilla version of watersports, "golden showers" and "piss play" are probably the more familiar terms, thanks to tabloid coverage of various celebrity and political scandals, and a healthy dose of internet porn.
ABDL: Inside the Adult Baby Diaper Lovers Fetish
Cards on the table: this is not my kink. Is it yours? As someone with an interest in another area of ageplay, I imagine that the adult baby fetish is viewed as extremely niche and is often misunderstood. Perhaps feared a little –even within the BDSM sphere.
Jiggle Balls Guide (Love Eggs, Kegel Trainers & Ben Wa Balls)
Whether you call them jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers or Ben Wa balls, it all amounts to pretty much the same thing. Rounded products you insert into the vagina for pleasure, health benefits, or both. Are you a jiggle ball fan? Have you considered buying a love egg but don’t know which one’s right for you? Welcome to my big guide to jiggle balls, love eggs, kegel trainers & Ben Wa balls!
Bullet Vibrators Guide
I’ve written previously about why I love bullet vibrators so much. They regularly appear in my top 3 favourite sex toys, which constantly evolves due to ongoing advances in pleasure tech. There are so many bullet vibrators to choose from – how can you be sure the one you’re buying from an online sex shop is going to be orgasmically effective? Welcome to my bullet vibrators guide! I’ll also be referencing the many bullet vibrator reviews here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.
Imaginative Sexual Role Play Ideas
The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner.
What Porn Taught Me
I bet you thought you couldn’t learn anything from porn, right? Wrong! Where there’s masturbation there’s education, and pornographic movies can teach you plenty about sex and relationships you never knew you didn’t want to know...
Sex Toy Materials Guide: Porous v Non-Porous, Phthalates & More
How are you supposed to know which material is the best? Are there any you should specifically look for? And, more importantly, which ones should you actively avoid? My sex toy materials guide is here to help you choose a body safe sex toy you can enjoy all-encompassing pleasure from, every time.
Sensory Deprivation Kink: Complete Guide for Beginners
In this complete guide to the sensory deprivation kink, I'll explain exactly what sensory deprivation is, why so many people find it arousing, the different types of sensory play, popular BDSM equipment and techniques, essential safety considerations, and how beginners can experiment with sensory deprivation in a safe, consensual, and exciting way. This guide comes to you from the perspective of a midlife Domme; I've enjoyed engaging in consensually restricting or removing someone's senses in kinky power exchange sessions, as well as wearing bondage hoods, mouth gags and masks myself in sexual role play, for over twenty years.
Are Breasts Sexual Organs? Should Female Breasts Be Sexualised?
There was an argument put forward some time ago, by a strong voice on Twitter –someone I’d not heard of before- that breasts are not sexual. They were speaking of typically women’s breasts, and were rather stridently arguing their case –with plenty of others retweeting and replying in agreement.
Do Women Find Older Men Sexy? Why?
Younger men are really not my thing. I’ve never been in a relationship with a guy younger than me; it wasn’t a conscious choice, just the way things have worked out. There’s never been a rejection of a guy, in a sex or relationship sense, just because he’s a bit younger than me. But when I’ve come to think about it, older men hold a particular and definite allure for me.
