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Handy List of 50 Kinky Tasks a Domme Can Give Her Sub

14 May, 2025

When you’re a Dominant Woman in control of a male submissive or slave, consensually as part of the FemDom aspect of BDSM, one of the most rewarding elements of this dynamic is setting tasks for your submissive to obediently complete. I have recently written about the methods a Dominant Woman may use to exert control over her sub, but today I want to provide a handy list of 50 kinky tasks a Domme can give her sub or slave, whether your relationship includes in-person D/s or it’s online.

The kinky tasks I set for my male submissives or slaves aren’t just orders to be ticked off a list. They are expressions of feminine power as part of our Domme/sub dynamic, rituals of service deepening our bond and tools for greater mutual respect and understanding. Whether the male submissive is serving in person or from afar, setting him the right task to obey can leave him aching with denied arousal, exhausted but content through manual work or glowing with devotion after intense worship.

Note: This article contains advice for mutually & actively consensual Dominance/submission based FemDom liaisons and relationships.
Always establish boundaries and limits before engaging in BDSM, and communicate a respected safing out method, such as the use of a safeword or the traffic lights system.

50 Kinky Task Ideas for your male submissive

This list offers 50 creatively kinky tasks spanning various categories, covering both online-only relationships and in-person FemDom liaisons. Some are creative, others are cruel, and many can be adjusted to suit your type of relationship, sadism level or protocol approach.

Daily Rituals and Habit-Based Tasks

Perfect for conditioning and long-term behaviour training.

Write a daily journal entry addressed to you — hand-written or typed — detailing how he served you or thought about you.
Morning mantra recording: Make him record himself saying “I exist to serve my Mistress” ten times upon waking.
Send a polite message every morning (e.g. “Good morning, Mistress. Thank You for allowing me to serve.”)
Set a strict bedtime with a requirement to request permission to go to sleep.
Assign a daily gratitude task: have him list three reasons he’s lucky to serve you.
Ensure he wears a discreet token of submission (a chastity cage, a collar, a ring) daily.
Mandatory kneeling for five minutes a day — no distractions — to reflect on his obedience & servitude.

Creative, Writing-Based Tasks

Great for distance control, headspace domination, and ego-erasure.

Write a fantasy involving his own degradation — and submit it to you for critique.
Create a “Why I know I’m submissive” essay.
Write a love letter to your kinky boots or erotic lingerie.
Complete a “slave CV” listing his weaknesses, humiliations, and ways he can serve.
Transcribe your spoken audio instructions word-for-word by hand as a mindfulness task.
Create a shopping list titled “Items I should be denied”.
Design a fictional advertisement for himself as a used object or product.
Research one FemDom historical figure or Goddess each week and report on them.

Service Tasks (Domestic & Practical)

Perfect for in-person slaves or those doing video proof.

Deep clean the bathroom and photograph the results for your inspection.
Iron your laundry wearing nothing but his locked chastity cage and small, protective apron.
Prepare your drinks or meals and present them kneeling with a thank-you.
Grocery shop whilst wearing his chastity device or with pink painted fingernails.
Serve as your personal footstool during your reading or screen time.
Run your bath or shower and lay out your clothes, then kneel in the corner until you are done.
Organise your wardrobe, makeup, or favourite vibrators in the manner you require.

Humiliation Tasks

Aimed at breaking ego and reinforcing their position below you.

Wear humiliating and/or uncomfortable underwear beneath their normal attire.
Make them eat a food they dislike, or drink water, from a dog bowl.
Make them practise a “slave pose” in front of a mirror and critique their form.
Write 100 lines, such as “I exist for Her. I am the property of Mistress”.
Submit a photo in a degrading position with a self-chosen, embarrassing caption.
Public but subtle humiliation: wear a butt plug while running errands.
Assign a task where they must beg for something they don’t want — and be denied.
Record themselves reading extreme & explicit erotica aloud for your amusement.

Sexual Control & Chastity Tasks

For building frustration, obedience, and dependence.

Cage inspection photo sent at a set time, daily.
Tease session over text or voice, followed by ruined orgasm or denial.
Assign a masturbation journal — he is to keep record of every time he begs, touches, or is denied.
Make him earn stroking time by completing non-sexual obedience tasks.
Assign a full edging routine — no release allowed — with full video proof.
Ban all orgasms until a specific number of tasks are fulfilled.
Require him to name his penis something degrading — then always refer to it by that name.
Lock him in chastity for a set period and have him update a countdown calendar.

Obedience Training & Protocol Tasks

Build discipline, respect, and high protocol structure.

Create a slave manual — he must memorise your rules and recite them on command.
Mandatory position training: assign postures with names and expected precision.
Use “yes Mistress / no Mistress” responses only during assigned hours.
Require that he stand or kneel when you enter a room or start a conversation.
Impose a no-speaking-unless-spoken-to rule for 24 hours.
Set a challenge: speak nothing but service-related phrases for a whole evening.
Restrict clothing: assign a uniform (or nakedness) during all time at home.

Punishment and Correction Tasks

Useful for discipline, enforcement, and ‘funishment’.

Write a 500-word apology letter, by hand, for a rule breach.
Assign corner time with a posture requirement and photograph proof.
Impose extra chores or denial for missed or messed-up tasks.
Write “I must obey my Mistress” 100 times by hand — no mistakes allowed.
Create a self-spanking ritual with video evidence and aftercare instructions.

Tailoring Your Kinky Tasks to Your FemDom Dynamic

Part of the enjoyment of setting kinky tasks in FemDom based BDSM is how flexible you can be. Practical tasks can be mixed with sadistic ones, you can choose whether the jobs he completes are genuinely useful in your everyday life or if you just want him to perform for you for sheer amusement at his humiliated expense. You can integrate discipline with arousal denial, to condition and hone his devotion to you. Tasks don’t need to be huge or elaborate to be powerful, they just need to consistently reinforce the fact that you are in charge and he is not.

In online-only dynamics, you could focus on:

Verifiable rituals (sending photos, videos, writing)
Messaging rules, daily check-ins
Masturbation control and orgasm denial

For in-person D/s, you may find it helpful to use:

Physical service and housework
Position training and protocol
Objectification, chores, and humiliation

Final Thoughts

Whether you’re training a new submissive or keeping a long-term slave focused and devoted, setting kinky tasks is one of the most rewarding and effective tools a Domme can use. From daily rituals to degrading humiliations, each order issued is another strand in the web of Dominance and consensual control you weave around him.

You don’t necessarily need to scream or strike to enforce dominance (although he may love that aspect too) – you can merely click your fingers and enjoy his immediate compliance and fruitful obedience.

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