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Dr. J in the Erotic Author Spotlight Series 

Dr. J: or my first job in sexuality, I packed condoms for Adam and Eve. I saw in real time how research and teaching could help people feel good about their sexual selves. That spurred me on to finish my…

Do You Feel Guilty About Secret Sadistic Desires?

By Cara Sutra: “I’m a vicious sadist - and I secretly harbour cruel, sadistic desires.” It sounds like the opening line in some sort of therapy group for criminals, doesn’t it? However, there are plenty of people out there who have sadistic…

Is Shower Sex Worth The Hassle?

By Cara Sutra: I’ve had some fantastic shower sex in the past. I’ve also had some pretty naff shower sex, and some shower sex which has been, quite frankly, dangerous. I’ve been thinking about shower sex recently because we’ve just moved…

My Single Sex Life: Jealousy

By Cheryl Kaye: “Jealousy can lead you to the very places where you most need healing. It can be your guide into your own dark side and show you the way to total self-realisation.” Deborah Anapol, Love without Limits.

BDSM: When Communication Stops After Consent

By Giles English: In the ideal kinky world, everybody talks before and after doing power exchange: “Communicate, communicate, communicate.” It’s the standard expectation in the BDSM community, where refusing to talk about kink is a red flag. And yes, communicating about kink feels…

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How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

By Cara Sutra: How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector…
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I Can’t Orgasm Through Oral Sex – Am I Normal?

By Cara Sutra: I can’t orgasm through oral sex. Or at least, I don’t orgasm through oral sex. Not yet. And believe me, I’ve practiced – a lot. I have a very patient, loving partner, and several female sexual partners over…

A (Quiet) Celebration Of Silent Sex

There are 'noisy sex' jokes made on TV shows all the time. If the bed posts are knocking against the wall in the next room it's a sign there's some damn good sex going on. Throw a few 'oh my…

10 Myths About Bisexual People

Although bisexuality is slowly becoming more visible in the media landscape, and more respected as the distinct sexuality it is, so many myths about bisexual people remain prevalent.
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The Best Halloween Games For Adults To Play

For all those planning a Halloween party for their adult friends, I thought I’d ‘treat’ you to some of my favourite Halloween party games. These games are perfect for those who are a little older, but can be adapted for…

Recent Reviews


Perlesque Lyra Vibrator – Pleasure Panel Review

By pinkgilly15: I was very impressed with the smart luxury packaging when my Perlesque Lyra Vibrator arrived. The box is grey and sturdy looking with a gold symbol on the box which I think is classy. Opening the box reveals a…

Svakom Billy Vibrator – Pleasure Panel Review

By Candy Snatch: When Cara posted this month's Pleasure Panel items I was really excited to see there were some Svakom items on the list. I've seen plenty of Svakom toys around but have yet to try one so was thrilled…

Rocks Off Butt Boy Slim Intense – Pleasure Panel Review

By Meitiman: Rocks Off recently launched the Rocks Off Butt Boy Slim Intense after much planning and carefully listening to feedback from their customers on the design. The result is a powerful perineum massager/butt plug that checks off all the boxes.…

Crisco Ass Fisting Lube – Pleasure Panel Review

By Cheshire Kink: Crisco is the brand name of a type of vegetable oil that is classed as “shortening”, which means that it is solid at room temperature….that’s the science out of the way. The packaging is well urm… food…

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Welcome to the Cara Sutra Sex Blog

The Cara Sutra Sex BlogCara Sutra is a multi award winning erotic sexuality magazine & blog based in the UK. Cara Sutra writes sex toy reviews, acts as regular consultant to and journalist for the adult industry with detailed reports from sex industry events, shares help and advice in sex and relationship features and articles as well as acting as a foremost sex blogger with a personal sex blog. She is also known as Cara Houiellebecq, the renowned professional sex toys tester enjoying over 15 orgasms a week!

Cara Sutra is honoured to have received such accolades as Xcite Books’ Best Sex Blog and is the 3 time winner of ETO Magazine Awards Best Erotic Journalist Award (2013, 2014, 2015 & Finalist 2016). Cara has also been nominated for two Sexhibition Awards in 2016, Best Erotic Author and Best Sex Journalist. Cara Sutra regularly writes sex toy reviews and gives honest, unbiased feedback about bedroom & sex products such as vibrators, dildos, cock rings, fetish and BDSM items, soft bondage restraints, erotic books, sexy lingerie, high heel shoes and more. You can find the best sex toy reviews and feedback about brand new sex toys right here at Cara Sutra.

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