Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

Scroll down to explore the latest sexuality articles and insights.

Hot Kissing Tips: How To Be A Fantastic Kisser

Kissing tips: Kissing is often a forgotten or at least neglected area of our love lives. Whether you’re in a relationship or a sassy single with a satisfying sex life, kissing adds a uniquely passionate element to sex and lovemaking.

Is Pubic Hair Sexy?

Why have we even got pubic hair in the first place? It’s a sign that we’ve been through puberty and reached adulthood, true; but for those who choose to remove any trace of pubic hair from their body it can be an endless source of frustration...

Penis Chastity: Beginner’s Guide to Cock Locking

Welcome to my big beginner's guide to penis chastity and male chastity play! So, you want to try a chastity device? Or maybe your partner wants you to wear one? Perhaps you’re reading this as you want your partner to wear one for you. Whatever your reason is for being here, you’re doing the right thing!
What Are Dental Dams? A Beginner's Guide & Safe Oral Sex Tips

What Are Dental Dams? Where & Why Would You Use Them?

Dental dams aren’t overly expensive and they can be bought discreetly online. In addition, they’re slightly larger than condom packets but still flat, so you could keep a couple in your wallet or handbag when you go out.
cleaning silicone sex toy in warm soapy water for hygiene

How To Clean Sex Toys Safely: A Complete Hygiene Guide

Learning how to clean sex toys properly is one of the easiest ways to protect your sexual health, prevent irritation, and make sure every beloved toy you own stays safe to use, completely fresh...

Respecting Sex Workers & Defeating Whorephobia

The common acceptance of the term ‘whore’ is such that we often hear it used in the media, from films to comedy and even documentaries. I want to take this opportunity to make the point: we should all be respecting sex workers & working towards defeating whorephobia.

Rapeplay Fantasies: Understanding Consensual Non-Consent Kink

It’s come to my attention recently that certain folks are against people having their fantasies and acting them out, consensually, with their adult partner(s). Rape fantasy, to be specific. Now, I’ve taken this a little bit personally, as rape fantasy is a very important part of my sex life - a very enjoyable part of my fantasy and real life.

Fucking Yourself With High Heels: Kink and Safety

Dear Cara, I have quite a worrying obsession with my girlfriend's shoes. She doesn't know, but every time she's out and I'm left in the house I have to fuck myself in the ass...

Can I Stop Being Kinky? Can You Ever Leave BDSM?

I honestly believe it's naive to think you can just switch off your kinkiness for all time. You may be leaving BDSM when it comes to the community, you can get rid of your implements and finish any D/s relationships, but being a kinkster is simply too much a part of a person's character. It's up to you if you decide to act on those kinky impulses in your life or not.

Anorgasmia Explained: Why You Can’t Orgasm and What to Do

Anorgasmia is the medical term for struggling to reach orgasm, or not being able to orgasm at all. It affects people of all genders and at every stage of life. If you are wondering why you can’t orgasm, or why climax feels increasingly out of reach, you are far from alone. The experience can feel isolating, confusing and even shameful, yet there are many practical reasons behind orgasm difficulties. There are also realistic ways to explore your pleasure, rebuild confidence and discover what your body responds to.