Cara Sutra

Lately, there’s one question that keeps returning to my thoughts, a potential way to play that demands further investigation. Can you orgasm without touching yourself? Today I’m exploring this fascinating subject - and sharing touch-free masturbation tips for you to try out and enjoy.

Recently I’ve been exploring imaginative ways to love myself, learning how to have sex with yourself in ways that feel deeper than masturbation. I don’t mean self-care acts like bubble baths and meditation; I mean the physical act of making love to myself. Usually, solo sex means one thing: a quick wank using my favourite sex toys and technique. A finger fumble or a quick buzz from a vibe, something secretive or rushed, with the goal of self-pleasure being orgasm and done. But there’s so much more to experience.

I usually favour water-based lubes over silicone, but I recently spotted this travel-friendly silicone lube from award-winning lubricant brand überlube and just had to have it.  It’s portable, purse-friendly and pleasing to the eye - but is the lube inside the cute canister actually any good? Read on to find out what I thought of the Uberlube Good-to-Go Traveler Set, which I chose with the Chaise Longue Green canister.

Having seen the name Lubido around for years, I was curious about how their sex lube actually performed during sex & masturbation. Therefore, I picked up a jumbo 500ml pump dispenser bottle of beautifully clear Lubido Water-Based Lube when I next needed to replenish my sensual glide supplies.

Recently, I’ve been thinking about some of the best sex of my life and realising what these memories have in common. So often, it was sex with clothes on. Of course, there was also the spontaneity, the urgent breathless need… but also the fact of being at least partly dressed. Why does keeping some clothes on add so much eroticism? Isn’t the main aim of sex to get naked as quickly as possible then get fucking? Today I want to dig deeper into why sex with clothes on is so fucking hot. First of all, let’s look at what sex with clothes on actually means in practice.

The MysteryVibe Legato is a sophisticated, high-tech piece of sexual wellness kit. The combination of flexibility which enables it to be moulded to the user’s unique anatomy, with the fact it has 4 internal motors and a range of easily operated settings thanks to the MysteryVibe App, is a winning one.

For women in particular, BDSM can be an affirming space where we explore power on our own terms, breaking out of the boxes society loves to shove us into and where we reclaim our control and desire. Today’s article is the second part of my women's sexuality series, where I explore how BDSM empowers women — and anyone who enjoys feminine expressions of consensual power and submission — no matter your gender or identity in the D/s scene.

The main thing I love about Wuzz Eli, beyond the fact that it is effective at giving me clitoral orgasms, is how versatile it is for different types of people. Despite being called a clitoral vibrator, it’s effective on any erogenous zone, thanks to its flickering twisted tongue tip. Nipples, balls, penis… Wherever you might benefit from deliciously fast vibration. And because the tip of the vibrator is a slender, flattened area, it is brilliant for those new to vaginal vibrators or those who usually struggle with the size of penetrative toys.

For centuries, women’s sexuality has been silenced, shamed, mocked and dismissed as irrelevant. The Cara Sutra sex blog is my way of being loud and proud about my sexual pleasure, while sharing my experience and advice for the enjoyment of my readers. Today I am specifically focusing on celebrating women’s sexuality, exploring how women of the modern world are fighting shame with pleasure and slowly turning the tide on long-standing myths and stigma.

I went from not knowing much about the SVibe Snail Curve Dual Stimulator and assuming it’s yet another take on the traditional rabbit vibrator, to whited out vision and feeling like all my muscles were melting as I was dragged wonderfully through a gasping, overwhelmingly powerful orgasm.

The goopy, sploogy mess as the alien egg-filled dildo slips inside and back out again, almost rejected by the body which eventually concedes its cruel, inevitable invasion, adds immeasurably to the erotic experience. Sitting down hard and unashamedly on this large, textured phallus, the thick, slippery fluids could easily be mistaken for actual seminal emission. Fucking hot.

If I thought using Lovense Ferri alone was good, I had no idea what I was in for by adding Lovense Lush 4 to the intensely pleasurable mix. Just when I felt I couldn’t possibly need or want any more pleasure, along came Lush 4 to grab me by the throat, look into my eyes and growl that you are going to endure even more, whether you want it or not. With the confident assertion that you’re going to fucking love it, bitch.

Whether you’ve got a canine kink or you’re just a perverted little pup, you’re going to love the sex toy I’m sharing my thoughts on today. The Juliet Toys Pooch Knot Dildo is a fantasy dog sex toy complete with tell-tale pointed tip, sensuously ridged shaft and a glorious bulging knot, finished with a suction cup base for secure filthy fuckery throughout every rampant ride.

It’s so difficult to describe how it felt the first time I was able to take the full length of Karkinos’ crab-like contours. It feels so satisfyingly filling, it’s a genuine erotic thrill. It’s hard for me to distinguish the exact bulge, angle or nodule which feels best once the dildo is fully inside me. It all just blends into the appendage of a fantasy creature which is so otherworldly, so filthily non-human, yet so lustfully phallic, that the physical design and psychological impact take me by the throat and slam me against the door of an orgasm in no time.

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The best realistic sex dolls are also, understandably, quite expensive – so it makes sense to carefully maintain them, cleaning them thoroughly after use and making sure they’re dry inside and out before storing for next time. Without the right tools, this is easier said than done. That’s where Coeros steps in to help. Thanks to the friendly team, I’m reviewing the Coeros Sex Doll Cleaning Kit and Coeros Sex Doll Hole Dryer for you today.

We-Vibe Melt 2 is brilliant at giving me almost effortless fast and intense clitoral orgasms, whether I enjoy one during a quickie or slower-pace solo sesh or add clitoral ripples of joy to foreplay and sex with my husband. In my opinion, Melt 2 is a brilliant clit stim sex toy whose small size belies the magnitude of orgasmic tech that We-Vibe have brought together in this erotic air pulsing masterpiece.

At just under £30, the Bondara Step On Me Punisher Wooden Paddle is a solid addition to an existing BDSM punishment tools collection. The traditional, tactile material, combined with the aesthetically alluring boot print and versatile, sensual usage options make this a winner in my book.

Turned on by the thought of using discreet sex toys during your adventures outside your home, for intense intimate stimulation and perhaps the delicious forbidden fruit of public orgasms? Does the image of you struggling to remain calm and unperturbed on the outside, whilst you sexily suffer the hidden torment of being repeatedly brought to the edge of climax in a crowd of strangers get you hotter than any other sexual fantasy? You’re in the right place...

I was excited to see what lay in store with my final product in this review series: The One Open-Ended Penis Stroker. Sadly, I don’t have the required anatomy to test this product out personally, so my husband very generously stepped in to help. This penis masturbator is rechargeable, easy to operate and lightweight. Let’s dive in and explore how we got on...