Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

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How to Write a Love Letter That Captures Your True Feelings

You don’t need to be Shakespeare or Keats; you just need to set aside a little time and thought, then do your best to express yourself on the paper. No-one will be grading it or judging it – your partner is sure to be moved by your best efforts. In today’s feature, I’ll be providing my 8 tips on how to write a love letter that captures your true feelings.

Allowing Sadness Without Guilt

On reflection, I felt a lot of pressure to conform to fake happiness when I was a child - a girl child, Gen X, raised by boomer parents in a small community on a...

New Year, Still You: A Gentle Guide to Sustainable Change

Gentle New Year resolutions are inspiring and genuinely beneficial, rather than dramatic or punishing. This guide is about choosing subtle, sustainable change that supports who you already are.

Are Glass Sex Toys Safe? Self-Pleasure Safety with Glass Dildos

I still come across people who are shocked to learn that glass is a material used to make sex toys. Today I want to explore the misunderstood realm of glass adult products, dispelling myths, revealing the facts behind the specific type of glass to make these products, and the dos and don’ts of self-pleasure safety with glass dildos.

How to Jelq: Can Jelqing Enlarge Your Penis?

Got a penis? Want a bigger one? Who doesn’t, right? In my recent features showcasing the Bathmate penis pumps collection and my main penis pumps guide, I mentioned a penis enlargement technique called jelqing. Can jelqing enlarge your penis? In today’s sexual health article, I discuss the jelqing technique, covering how to jelq, if jelqing can really give you a bigger cock - and any potential side effects.

Perimenopause Update 2024: The Year I Fought Back & Changed My Life

2024 has been the year I fought back against the tricky beast of perimenopause, but the fight has taken a different form to my usual stubbornly defiant style of battle. I now understand why they call it the change; not just because of the physical changes imposed upon me, but because I have had to change how I live in the everyday, and the change has been both monumental and magnificent.

Temperature Play in the Bedroom: Blow Hot and Cold for Pleasure

As the darker nights of autumn and the frosty chill of winter sets in, staying cosy at home and enjoying the romance of candles or fairy lights is extremely appealing. Today I want to share my guide to temperature play in the bedroom, advice which will help you blow hot & cold during sex no matter what the weather is like outside your bedroom window.

How to Buy Comfortable Sexy Lingerie That Feels Sensational

With some shops offering lingerie sets in dress sizes (which may or may not resemble the actual size stated), and others opting for the vague ‘small, medium and large’ style sizing, buying lingerie that fits and flatters your body can feel like an impossible task. Welcome to my guide to buying comfortable sexy lingerie...

Nipple Play Toys Guide & Our Nipple Clamp Reviews

In today’s guide, I am exploring this intriguing area of sexuality, and the nipple play toys that can maximise your pleasure during solo or shared sexual playtimes. As well as discovering the various types of nipple stim toys (tickle, suck or pinch), you will find links to helpful nipple clamp reviews from the community and myself.

How Women Get Pleasure From Pegging and Strap-On Sex

I don’t enjoy a slave’s physical stimulation from being anally pegged, it is more about a display of my power as the Top, a physical conquest of their body as well as their mind, plus there is always a chastity requirement in place with my submissives so they are not allowed to reach or experience orgasm.

Forniphilia: The Human Furniture Fetish

As a Domme of over twenty years, I've enjoyed many sessions dressing and treating my slaves and submissives as human furniture such as footstools and door mats and tables and much more. While it might sound unusual in terms of erotic role play, forniphilia combines elements of submission, objectification, bondage, and ritual in ways that many kink enthusiasts find incredibly erotic. In this guide, I will explain what forniphilia is, why people enjoy it, common types of human furniture play, and how to explore the fetish safely and consensually.

Guide to Prostate Massagers & P-Spot Toys

Although I spoke briefly about P-spot stimulation devices in my recent blog post, today I want to offer a deep delve into prostate toys. Welcome to my guide to prostate massagers, where I’ll outline what specifically makes a toy a prostate massager and the most effective P-spot toys available.

Prostate Milking Guide: P-Spot Pleasure and Health Benefits

Would you like to experience unforgettable, full-body orgasms? Do you have a prostate? In case you didn't know, there's a powerful connection between the two, and as a Domme who's spent a lot of time exploring exactly this with submissive men over the years, I can tell you it's a connection well worth getting acquainted with.

Velvet Thruster Thrusting Dildos Prime Silicone Tops Collection

The Velvet Thruster Thrusting Dildo is ingeniously modular, meaning you can buy the base toy and choose which of the silicone attachments/toppers you’d like to use with it. There’s a wide variety of silicone tops to choose from, and the generous team sent me the whole collection to try out. Welcome to my Velvet Thruster Thrusting Dildos Prime Silicone Tops Collection showcase!

Lovehoney Sex Toy Advent Calendars 2024 (12 & 24 Day Options Available)

Are you ready for the sexiest Christmas countdown ever? Lovehoney have launched their brand-new sex toy advent calendars for 2024, and I’m excited to share all the exquisitely erotic details with you! The star of the show this year is the Lovehoney 24-Day Womanizer Sex Toy Advent Calendar 2024.

Adult Halloween Party Games: Spooky Game Ideas for Grown-Ups

For all those planning a Halloween party for their adult friends, I thought I’d ‘treat’ you to some of my favourite adult Halloween party games. These games are perfect for those who are a little older, but can be adapted for younger children to play too. Enjoy!
Sexy Halloween Ideas for Couples

How To Have A Sexy Halloween: Flirty Ideas for Couples, Solo & At Home

Sexing up seasonal events is just so much fun! Halloween is no exception thanks to the wicked fun and seductive costumes this time of year traditionally offers. Do you need some saucy Samhain inspiration? Then you’re in luck… read on to discover how to have a sexy Halloween – whether you're single or part of a couple.

Sexy Halloween Costumes Guide: Flirty & Outrageous October Outfits

Welcome to my Sexiest Halloween Costumes Guide! If you're struggling to decide between witchy, vampy or seductively feline dressing-up outfits for this spooky time of year, my saucy Halloween outfits 101 is here to help. Below you'll discover a showcase of some breathtakingly sexy Halloween costume ideas, at great prices & with discreet delivery from your favourite online adult retailers.

Halloween Sex Toys & Spooky Pleasure Guide: The Best Kinky Treats for October

Halloween sex toys are the perfect excuse for spooky pleasure. In this updated guide I round up glow-in-the-dark treats, monster dildos, app-control thrills, BDSM and e-stim ideas, plus hands-free machines for a deliciously wicked night in.

How To Write Erotic Fiction & Sexy Stories

I love to encourage people to write. It’s a wonderful creative release and there’s a great sense of achievement when you’ve got a piece of fiction in front of you that you’re proud of. It’s all the better if that story is sexy. I’m an erotica author; I’ve got to say that. Writing erotic fiction with great sex scenes is not as easy as you might think, so I’m here to give you some pointers to help you avoid the pit holes and find your way to writing something orgasmically good.