Sexuality Articles

Sexuality articles that explore pleasure, desire, relationships, identity and real-life intimacy.

Welcome to my Sexuality Articles hub. This is where I keep the wider, deeper pieces that sit around sex advice and practical tips. Think sexuality in the big sense: pleasure, relationships, confidence, connection, self-discovery, boundaries, identity, and the emotional reality of desire. If you want writing that’s sex-positive, grounded and human, you’ll find plenty to explore here. This archive brings together years of writing on sexuality, pleasure, desire and the realities of real-life intimacy.

I use this category name on purpose, because it gives me room to talk about sexuality without stepping on the toes of my more specific hubs. So if you’re looking for targeted guidance, you might prefer my Sex Advice section, or browse Masturbation Guides and Relationship Advice. If you want broader, more reflective sexuality content, you’re in the right place.

What You’ll Find In My Sexuality Articles

This category gathers articles across many aspects of sexuality, pleasure and relationships, including:

  • Pleasure, orgasm, arousal and the messy reality of what actually feels good
  • Desire and libido changes, including why it shifts and how to work with it rather than against it
  • Sexual confidence, body comfort and feeling more at home in your own skin
  • Solo pleasure, self-discovery and exploration in my masturbation guides
  • Sex, relationships and emotional intimacy, alongside my relationship advice archive
  • Kink-aware reflections and deeper dives, with routes into kinky sex advice and BDSM advice
  • Seasonal and special-topic sexuality content via Seasonal Sex Articles

How I Write About Sexuality

I’m not interested in shame, fear-based messaging, or the idea that there’s one right way to be sexual. I write about sexuality as something lived, evolving and deeply personal, shaped by real lived experiences rather than theory alone. Sometimes you’ll find practical guidance here. Other times you’ll find perspective, reassurance, and the kind of insight that only comes from being honest about the awkward bits as well as the fun ones.

You’ll also see guest contributions in this section from time to time, because sexuality is never one voice, one body, or one story. I keep it inclusive, curious and real, without pretending that every experience is the same.

Featured Topics

Browse popular sexuality topics and relationship themes, and explore the areas that interest you most.

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Feel Me - That Time I Got Fingered in a Public Bar

Feel Me

I felt his middle finger move to slide deeper inside me, as I brought my glass up to my mouth - to gag the cry threatening to burst from me, as well as to quench my suddenly dry lips. It was all I could do to stop my hand trembling around my drink - a tremble I felt down my body through my knees down to my high-heeled, bare feet – as he worked me deeper still, finger curling to fuck my tight pussy as his thumb brushed teasingly over my electrified clit.

Sleeping in Bondage: How to Safely Kink Your Bedtime

Have you ever slept in bondage? Would you? There are some fascinating psychological aspects as to why someone would want to sleep in bondage, as well as important safety considerations to consider. Let’s take a closer look at overnight restraint – and how to safely kink up your bedtime.

Does Your Number of Sex Partners Really Matter? The Truth About Sex, Stigma &...

How many people have you had sex with? It’s a personal question, the answer to which some people ascribe weight and meaning. Today I am exploring whether how many people we’ve slept with in our lives really has any relevance or importance, whether you’re navigating life single or in a relationship. What do you think?

Planned Sex or Spontaneous Sex? The Pros & Cons of Both

Is sex something you can schedule, like any other type of appointment – or should you hope for a surprise moment of passion? What’s better, planned sex or spontaneous sex? Today I’m exploring the pros and cons of both.

Sardax FemDom Art: Exploring Erotic Dominant Women

If you love FemDom, then you’re in for a treat with Sardax FemDom Art. I have an enduring love for these imaginative, inspirational and highly kinky illustrations from globally renowned artist, Sardax. His artistic depictions skilfully combine elements of Female Dominance, sensuality, delicious cruelty and male submission like nothing I’ve found elsewhere.
Celebrating Women-Led Sex Toy Brands

Celebrating Women-Led Sex Toy Brands

The sexual wellness industry is undergoing a dynamic transformation, and women-led sex toy brands are at the forefront of this change. These trailblazing entrepreneurs are revolutionising the space with body-safe, inclusive, and innovative designs that prioritise real pleasure and empowerment.

Hottest Married Dating Sites of 2025: Where Secrets Turn Into Sparks

Married dating sites are proof that not every love story plays out as expected. Sometimes, the spark fades, curiosity grows, or life simply calls for a new kind of connection. Whether you’re chasing excitement, intimacy, or a secret escape from the ordinary, these platforms are built for those who dare to step beyond the usual boundaries. Curious where to begin?

Best Cheap Sex Toys on a Small Budget: Top Quality, Low Price Tag

Finding sex toys which are orgasmically effective and top quality for a low price is a challenge. As the cost of living continues to rise, saving cash while ensuring you get value for your...

Dolcett Erotic Art: Vore, Fantasy and Culture

Dolcett art is a subgenre of fetish artwork which is undoubtedly extreme and therefore controversial. It explores themes of vore, cannibalism and extreme BDSM. On the surface, Dolcett artwork is simply shocking, but looking a little deeper we find that the imagery taps into psychological themes of power, control and transgression. This risky and risqué art blurs the line between fascination and fear, in a way which stirs a unique blend of eroticism and excitement for its many fans.

How to Self-Test for HIV at Home: A Step-by-Step Guide (with Video)

Did you know you can easily and confidentially self-test for HIV at home? Knowing your HIV status is one of the most important steps you can take for your health. Yet, more than 1 in 7 people living with HIV worldwide are unaware they have the virus.

Is It OK To Gift My Friend A Vibrator? Or Too Weird?

I declare my love of vibrators loud and proud for all to hear here at the Cara Sutra sex blog of course, but away from the web I find myself talking about them with open-minded, sex-positive friends, too. What about giving sex toys as gifts? Would a sex toy make a bold, empowering present, or an awkward, never-spoken-of-again mistake? In today’s feature, I’m exploring whether it’s OK to gift a friend a vibrator, or if it’s just too weird.

How to Write a Love Letter That Captures Your True Feelings

You don’t need to be Shakespeare or Keats; you just need to set aside a little time and thought, then do your best to express yourself on the paper. No-one will be grading it or judging it – your partner is sure to be moved by your best efforts. In today’s feature, I’ll be providing my 8 tips on how to write a love letter that captures your true feelings.

Allowing Sadness Without Guilt

On reflection, I felt a lot of pressure to conform to fake happiness when I was a child - a girl child, Gen X, raised by boomer parents in a small community on a...

New Year, Still You: A Gentle Guide to Sustainable Change

Gentle New Year resolutions are inspiring and genuinely beneficial, rather than dramatic or punishing. This guide is about choosing subtle, sustainable change that supports who you already are.

Are Glass Sex Toys Safe? Self-Pleasure Safety with Glass Dildos

I still come across people who are shocked to learn that glass is a material used to make sex toys. Today I want to explore the misunderstood realm of glass adult products, dispelling myths, revealing the facts behind the specific type of glass to make these products, and the dos and don’ts of self-pleasure safety with glass dildos.

How to Jelq: Can Jelqing Enlarge Your Penis?

Got a penis? Want a bigger one? Who doesn’t, right? In my recent features showcasing the Bathmate penis pumps collection and my main penis pumps guide, I mentioned a penis enlargement technique called jelqing. Can jelqing enlarge your penis? In today’s sexual health article, I discuss the jelqing technique, covering how to jelq, if jelqing can really give you a bigger cock - and any potential side effects.

Perimenopause Update 2024: The Year I Fought Back & Changed My Life

2024 has been the year I fought back against the tricky beast of perimenopause, but the fight has taken a different form to my usual stubbornly defiant style of battle. I now understand why they call it the change; not just because of the physical changes imposed upon me, but because I have had to change how I live in the everyday, and the change has been both monumental and magnificent.

Temperature Play in the Bedroom: Blow Hot and Cold for Pleasure

As the darker nights of autumn and the frosty chill of winter sets in, staying cosy at home and enjoying the romance of candles or fairy lights is extremely appealing. Today I want to share my guide to temperature play in the bedroom, advice which will help you blow hot & cold during sex no matter what the weather is like outside your bedroom window.

How to Buy Comfortable Sexy Lingerie That Feels Sensational

With some shops offering lingerie sets in dress sizes (which may or may not resemble the actual size stated), and others opting for the vague ‘small, medium and large’ style sizing, buying lingerie that fits and flatters your body can feel like an impossible task. Welcome to my guide to buying comfortable sexy lingerie...

Nipple Play Toys Guide & Our Nipple Clamp Reviews

In today’s guide, I am exploring this intriguing area of sexuality, and the nipple play toys that can maximise your pleasure during solo or shared sexual playtimes. As well as discovering the various types of nipple stim toys (tickle, suck or pinch), you will find links to helpful nipple clamp reviews from the community and myself.