Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

Enjoy this complete guide to bondage sex toys: your bondage sex toys 101 class starts here!

Bondage is incredibly popular within the world of BDSM – in fact, the B stands for Bondage. For BDSMers who enjoy bondage as part of their kinky pleasures, being restrained physically often allows for mental and emotional liberation. Being consensually bound can be very therapeutic, as well as providing a fun, sensual and erotic experience.

What are the important elements of safe, consensual and fun bondage? As usual with shared adult pleasures, communication is a key component. It’s imperative that it’s clear that everyone involved is happy with every aspect of the bondage, at all times throughout the experience. Is it the type of bondage you’re into, whether you’re the one being bound, or the one doing the tying up? Is the bondage restrictive enough for your liking -or is it too restrictive? Do you have a way to ‘safe out’ if and when it all gets too much, and you need to stop proceedings immediately?

Bondage Sex Toys 101

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsWhat can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That’s where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own, and why I’ve taken the time to write this guide to bondage sex toys. It helps having some background knowledge of just what’s available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it’s important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope you happen to have around the house.

Wait, why can’t you just use anything for bondage? Well, you could in theory, but it’s not entirely safe. And safety is top priority, and especially when it comes to erotic and sexual pleasure situations where power exchange and vulnerability feature. You might think that grabbing a dressing gown belt, a silk tie, some rope from the garage, elastic bands or the garden hose (hey, I don’t know what you’ve got in your house) is genius in a moment of passion, but they don’t have the quick-release and other safety features that well-made bondage sex toys have.

Bondage cuffs have a quick trigger release and/or come with a spare key. Bondage rope is anti-chafe -and even then, you’re well advised to have a pair of scissors on hand and never use it looped round someone’s neck. Bondage gear’s buckles, connectors and clips are designed to provide a firm grip without cutting off circulation or becoming a dangerous slipknot.

Plenty Of Choice

Once you begin browsing the world of bondage sex toys, you’ll soon discover that not only is there a huge variety of bondage accessories, there’s a lot of difference in price, quality and design style even within one sub-category of bondage products. It can be confusing to know which ones are best for you and your restraint-based desires. Do you have to spend a lot, or are the lower-priced bondage toys ok? Does material matter? And what exactly are those things? I hope this guide to bondage sex toys and equipment will be invaluable to you.

My advice is to consider the following before making a bondage sex toy purchase:

  • Your budget.
  • Storage space.
  • If you’ll actually use it -and how.

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If (as for many of us) budget is an issue, then there’s no shame or safety issues in choosing a lower-priced but still well-designed bondage sex toy. Where will you keep it when you’re not busy tying each other up?

That set of dungeon stocks might look tasty but it could be a pain to hide away if you have family, visitors or maintenance people roaming the house. And will you actually use the thing that’s captured your attention on a bondage gear website? If you’re not sure whether you have a CBT penchant, perhaps purchasing a humbler is an overly brave move.

Finally: talk to your bondage partner about how you’d like to start or continue your bondage adventures together. It’s not ideal to spring your new bondage gear on your submissive (or Dominant!) during sex or a power exchange session -instead, broach the subject before you buy and outside of the bedroom or erotic scenario. Remember, everyone needs to be happy and comfortable about proceedings, and actively consent, at every stage of the bondage game.

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Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy Reviews

With the above pointers and tips in mind, let’s take a deeper look at the world of bondage gear in my big guide to bondage sex toys.

Handcuffs / Wrist Cuffs / Ankle Cuffs

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsA metal pair of handcuffs remains perhaps the most recognisable of all bondage accessories. It might surprise you to learn that far from being the most popular bondage sex toy amongst BDSMers, they’re usually rejected in favour of other types of cuffs. Metal handcuffs are seen as mainly a novelty item, best suited to being waved around but not used on hen and stag nights, and as part of sexy police role-play costumes. They’re just not comfortable to wear round the wrists and can actually cause unintended discomfort, bruises and even damage due to their unforgiving and rigid nature.

Instead, opt for wrist (and/or ankle) cuffs made from a flexible material which can still provide that reassuring grip of bondage thanks to clips, buckles and other fastening styles.

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You can find wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs made from leather, faux leather, styled bondage rope, neoprene, suede and even silicone. Some of them buckle up, some clip together, some are even lockable. They’re comfortable without risking unwanted discomfort, chafing or more, and still provide that intensely erotic bondage experience.

Some wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs feature additional D-rings to which other bondage accessories can be attached, such as the trigger clip of a leash, the straps of an under-mattress restraint set, or to form useful anchor points in rope bondage.

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I also love the Loving Joy Bound range, and there are plenty of intensely erotic options at Uber Kinky.

Bondage Hog Ties

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsHog ties are handy bondage accessories which make your wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs even more exciting to use -if you’re flexible enough for it.

A hog tie is a cross or X shape made from leather or other type of bondage restraint material. It may even be made completely from metal or chain. At the end of each of the four parts there’s a trigger clip or other form of attachment, which you can connect to each of the O-rings or D-rings on the wrist and ankle cuffs of a willing bondage fan. It can be used either while the bound person is face up, forcing them into a fairly uncomfortable ‘dead beetle’ position, or while they’re face down with wrists behind them and legs spread and raised, in the typical hog-tied position.

Related: My Big Guide To Bondage Hogties & BDSM Hog Ties 101 plus all our hog ties reviews

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Bondage Rope

Rope bondage is an intricate kinky art which results not only in reassuringly inescapable bondage, but also some gorgeous rope harnesses and suspension shapes. Shibari is a Japanese form of rope bondage with particularly artistic bindings. It can be difficult for a beginner to replicate such advanced rope-work, but by building up from easier loops and practising more simple rope restraints you’re sure to become a rope master (or mistress) in no time. Bondage rope can be used to transform a clothed or naked body into a breath-taking work of kinky art.

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsBondage rope is different to ordinary rope in that it is designed not to chafe painfully or cut into the skin. If you use ordinary rope you may suffer rope burns, deep welts or worse. If you wish to experiment with rope, there are various styles available at low prices, such as hemp rope and silk rope.

It’s advisable to always have a pair of safety scissors close at hand when practising and enjoying rope bondage, so there’s always an immediate means of freeing the one bound. You never know when they may be urgently required. Also, never place the bondage rope around someone’s neck to bind them, and always only use the knots and ties recommended in various bondage guides and manuals.

Bondage rope is available in various material types, as mentioned, as well as different lengths depending on what you’d like to use it for. Some bondage fans enjoy rope harnesses while sitting, standing or lying down. Others enjoy the suspension aspect of bondage, where rope and/or other bondage accessories are used with securely anchored features and furniture, plus kinky accessories like anal hooks and spreader bars.

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Bondage Tape

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsIf you don’t feel quite ready for bondage rope, or rope just isn’t your thing, why not try bondage tape? A roll of bondage tape is extremely affordable no matter your budget, and it’s easy to use. This cleverly designed tape is made to stick to itself, but not to skin, so it can be safely used even over your most sensitive areas. It’s available in a range of bright and funky colours, as well as traditional ‘kinky’ black.

This restrictive tape can be used to restrain your partner round their wrist, ankles and elsewhere, or you might choose to create a mouth gag with it, a secure blindfold or even fashion a highly kinky and revealing outfit. Bondage tape is such a versatile bondage toy and addition to your kinky toy box; I believe everyone should have at least one roll in their BDSM play kit.

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Spreader Bars

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsSpreader bars are made from rigid materials like metal, to provide a completely inflexible bar designed to keep wrists and/or ankles firmly apart during erotic play sessions. These slim but rigorous bars usually have D-rings or O-rings at each end, or another type of fastening area to which your bondage cuffs, rope or other type of restraint can be securely attached.

A spreader bar is usually used between the bondage fan’s ankles, knees or thighs to keep legs apart during power exchange sessions, heightening the vulnerability felt by the one bound and allowing the one in control to wield their dominance in complete freedom and in intensely exciting ways. Spreader bars can also be used in front or behind a consenting bound person, to keep their wrists/arms apart. They’re fantastic tools to keep the submissive spread, accessible and at the (consensual) mercy of their Dominant play partner.

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Under Mattress Restraints

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsMost couples have at least a double bed so a great way to start enjoying bondage is to purchase one of the under-mattress restraints sets which have ties that are easily placed underneath a double, queen or king-sized mattress. Wrist and ankle cuffs attach to tethers and bondage is then easily enjoyed before, during or after chosen usual role-play or lovemaking activities.

Bed restraint systems are also perfect for those who don’t have a headboard which can be used along with traditional cuffs, such as foam or padded styles. If you do have a headboard which has sturdy bars, then I would advise using comfortable leather or neoprene cuffs if these are your chosen method. Metal cuffs are uncomfortable and can even cause damage, as mentioned earlier in this article.

An under-bed bondage restraints set is an easy way to enjoy the bondage sensation of cuffs in the comfort & familiarity of your own bed.

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Chastity Devices

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsAs an enormous fan of chastity, I write about it a heck-of-a lot here on the Cara Sutra sex blog. I love penis chastity in particular, but have also written about female chastity. This kink involved part or full control over someone else’s sexual pleasure and orgasms. Their ability to orgasm can be removed by having them wear a chastity device.

Chastity cages, belts and devices can be worn for enhanced pleasure and power exchange role-play during a kinky play session only, or for longer term wear as part of a 24/7 D/s lifestyle. The keys to chastity devices can be retained by the one in chastity, during solo adventures, or handed over to someone in control such as a Dominant, Top or willing lover.

Chastity devices are a very niche form of bondage toy specifically created for those with the desire to have their sexual pleasure limited and controlled and/or their ability to orgasm removed for a set period of time. Chastity is a very popular kink, so why not start experimenting with orgasm control and denial and see if it’s for you?

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Also worth a look: The Loving Joy Impound chastity cages are exceptionally good value, and Uber Kinky have a great selection of chastity devices.

Humblers

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsHumblers are another type of CBT device (cock and ball torture) which render the wearer at least partly restrained due to a devilishly ingenious design. They consist of two pieces of smooth, polished wood, specially shaped to be worn around the penis and testicles. One piece is placed either side of the testicles while the submissive is in the on-all-fours position. Screws are then tightened through either side of the pieces of wood, securing it firmly in position.

While the humbler is worn, the one wearing it is unable to resume a standing position, therefore keeping them in a ‘humble’ physical position and helping to retain a submissive mindset for the duration of the role-play session.

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Bondage Kits

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsBondage kits are a fantastic purchase for those new to bondage or wanting a complete set they can enjoy immediately, ‘out of the box’. Instead of having to hunt around for bondage toys and accessories and form your own play kit, you can instead choose a bondage kit which has everything you need to get started having kinky bondage fun with your partner.

These bondage kits usually include such popular bondage sex toys as: wrist cuffs, ankle cuffs, blindfold, ball gag, mini flogger, bondage rope. Some have a more romantic focus, including such items as a feather tickler, or mini erotic massage candle.

You can read all our bondage set reviews for more information.

My own Fantasy by Cara Sutra Beginner’s Bondage Kit has the usual retail price of £69, but you can buy it direct from me for just £50. It’s available in black or red, includes 8 bondage accessories, and comes complete with a handy bondage tips and advice guide written by myself. Buy through the Paypal buttons below, or click through the shopping buttons to select from a wide range of other erotic bondage kits.

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Other Bondage Accessories

There are various bondage accessories you should know about as part of your bondage sex toys 101 and that you might find useful to add to your kinky kit bag. Clips and attachments are particularly useful; they can be used to attach the bondage cuffs and restraints in your kit to each other, or to other anchor points such as O-rings on bondage toys or furniture.

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Padlocks and plastic numbered tags are handy for locking bondage cuffs and chastity devices.

Trigger clips have a spring-loaded front, which when pulled down opens the clip area and when released allows it to close again.

Karabiner/carabiner clips can be either spring loaded which have a lever to allow a loop to be enclosed within, or a screw mechanism.

Summary

Big Guide To Bondage Sex Toys, & Our Bondage Sex Toy ReviewsI hope this guide to bondage sex toys and the links to our various bondage sex toy reviews has helped you understand the various tools available for consensual, kinky restraint.

I’ve briefly covered the main types within this guide to bondage sex toys, but you will doubtless be able to find other, more specific bondage accessories to be used as part of niche fetish activities. For example, there are arm binders, straitjackets, sleep sacks, bondage stocks, whipping posts, pillories, vacuum beds/cubes as well as the St Andrew’s cross.

For more on the subject of bondage, you can also read my beginner’s guide to bondage as well as my other BDSM advice articles here on the blog. Happy kinky adventuring!

 

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