10 Steamy Role-Play Ideas To Try With Your Partner
The sex life within every relationship is susceptible to becoming stagnant and monotonous, with the only usual exception being those recently snagged by Cupid. Once the honeymoon period is over, maintaining the thrilling excitement that kept you both turned on at the start becomes increasingly difficult. The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner. Read on and I’m sure you’ll spy a scenario which tickles your particular fancy.
1. The Boss & The Secretary
This fantasy is sure to have crossed many a saucy mind, not least because of the famously kinky film, The Secretary. Why not let the perceived eroticism of such an illicit romance zing up your sex life?
At a very basic level, a secretary is employed to fulfil tasks the boss is too busy to consider. They ensure business continues smoothly, and take care of more menial tasks. A caricature of the situation, which is what happens during fantasy role-play, is that the boss is in control -of the business, of the secretary’s employment and income- while the secretary is subservient to the boss, and required to complete any task demanded of them. Any task.
The flip-side of this would be a secretary accessing information which can be held over the boss, to transform that relationship. Giving the secretary a hold over the boss, putting them in charge –even though just in secret. What privileges would the secretary demand after discovering information which could wreck the boss’ business, relationship or life? What special treatment?
The beauty of this role-play idea is that is can be tailored to be as lighthearted or kinky as you desire.
2. Headteacher & Naughty Pupil
Although ageplay remains on the ‘too taboo’ side of the kinky fence for many people, ‘naughty schoolgirl teasing the pervy Headmaster and who deserves a spanking’ has an enduring popularity in the adult role-play world. Schoolgirl costumes are sold in the majority of adult retail stores; I’ve seen some of the customers on nights out enjoying their hen party…
Why? Because despite the seeming conflict between school-age wear and sexy adult fun, the hotness of disguising extreme filthiness in the epitome of innocence simply can’t be denied. This is role-play, so any corruption of innocence is of course 100% make-believe. The thrilling pleasure of an adult couple playing stern and experienced Headteacher with innocent-yet-naughty schoolgirl or school boy is, however, very real.
Like the Boss & Secretary role-play idea, you can always switch things around if you prefer. Instead of the innocently brattish schoolgirl/boy getting a thorough spanking then a hard fucking, perhaps it’s the threat of the Headteacher losing their job which the schoolgirl/boy holds over them… forcing them to please the wicked pupil in any way they desire, and obey all their bratty demands.
3. Random Horny Hook-Up
So, you’re a couple, you’re in a relationship… how about if you weren’t? What if you were complete strangers? Strangers who meet in a hotel bar, and enjoy a horny hook-up?
Ok, so you’ll have to get your best acting faces on –but that’s just gonna make it hotter. Trust me. You’ve just met the alluring stranger of your dreams in the hotel bar downstairs, or at the club, and now you’re getting to know each other even better. Intimately, in fact.
Our guards are up when we meet strangers; we don’t show the absolute 100% raw truth of ourselves. It just means we hold extra allure. Would-be lovers can’t resist peeling the layers from such an enigma… metaphorically and literally.
This is a great role-play idea for couples who really want to revisit those steamy sex sessions of the honeymoon period, right back at the start of your relationship. Will you play yourselves, as you were back then when you didn’t know each other, or will you create an entirely new character for the evening?
4. Stripper & Audience Member
Following on from strangers hooking up for a night of passion, you might decide to ramp up the romp factor with this saucy scene. One partner plays the stripper –or lap-dancer- while the other is the audience member or customer. Exotic dancing and lap-dancing have an erotic reputation because although they’re sex-themed services offered in return for money, they don’t involve sexual intercourse. The tease element is strong with this one!
Will he be the stripper who caught your eye on a raucous night out with the girls? Perhaps she’s the exotic dancer you just can’t get out of your head… and you persuade her to lap-dance you privately. Will the fun escalate into all-out sex –even though you both know it’s ‘against the rules’? Perhaps you should enjoy their raunchy moves up close and personal, one more time, while you both ponder what lies ahead…
5. Sex Worker & Client
The sex worker and client role-play idea is often touched upon during dirty talk, showing that the concepts of being paid for sex and paying for sex are emotive and can be intensely arousing for many people. I’m not going to get into the deep psychological reasons why terms such as ‘whore’, ‘hooker’, ‘slut’ and ‘slag’ are insults in the streets yet often orgasmic between the sheets; suffice to say juxtaposing typically unwanted, unsafe and taboo situations into where we feel most safe, loved, happy and content can lead to the filthiest sex sessions. Look at ageplay and rapeplay, as just a couple of examples.
When I was younger, the term would have been ‘prostitute’ or ‘escort’, with ‘escort’ a term still used by websites and businesses who don’t officially acknowledge sex as being part of the services their professionals offer. Sex work is still majorly stigmatised in society, for no reason other than misogyny, misinformation, and a lack of full acceptance (and therefore safety measures/regulation) from authorities.
Correct terminology often makes for not-so-hot dirty talk and role-play. Slang labels add to the raw, gritty feel of a filthy sex session. Maybe you’ve booked your escort from a website and you’re sorting business before pleasure in a hotel room. Perhaps you’ve been picked up by a wealthy client who’s going to pay you well to give you the rough fucking you crave. This is another role-play idea which can be explored in all its taboo depths; from the labels you use, to the particular fantasy which gets you both off.
6. Stately Home Owner & Servant
Another take on the Boss & Secretary fantasy is the owner of a large stately home who quite fancies finding out what hidden talents a member of their staff has to offer. This one’s great for a bit of historical re-enactment –after all, there aren’t many country houses with complete fleets of staff still running these days. Outside of Buckingham Palace, obviously.
Earl, Lord or Baron. Or, Countess, Lady or Baroness. What would you prefer, your worship? And which lucky member of staff –who usually resides in the servant quarters, natch- has caught your eye? The stereotypical French maid costume is easy to find through adult retailers, but maybe you’d prefer something different. Scullery maid. Butler. The Governess or Nanny. A lowly footman. The head cook.
Loosen that stiff upper lip (and corset), get into the Downton Abbey mindset & lay back and think of England. Or whatever actually gets you off.
7. A Steamy Affair
Following on from the ‘Strangers Enjoy A Random Horny Hook-Up’ role-play idea is a steamy affair. Perhaps it literally follows on, during the course of your evening, or it could be a separate fantasy you enjoy revisiting from time to time.
You’re both married, but to other people. However, since you met each other you couldn’t shake the thought of this irresistible person. You knew you needed them in your life… or at the very least, in your bed. Each time you fuck it’s simply a temporary sating of that craving. Feeding your addiction. When are you going to be able to get your next fix?
Role-playing that you’re actually having an affair from other relationships adds a spicy risk element. It’s immoral to cheat on someone, but someone telling you they can’t resist your allure is undeniably flattering. Maximise the naughty, seedy feel by insisting on hushed sex sessions, muffling cries of passion with hands -or a gag. Relish anticipating your next sordid liaison by never speaking of it aloud, only arranging it via text message or email.
You’ll be amazed how hot the sex is when it’s been arranged without a word spoken aloud. Plus, those texts and emails are great fantasy fodder to keep you smiling between illicit hook-ups…
8. Performing In A Porn Movie
Perhaps you’ve watched porn together –or separately, whatever works for you- and really enjoy it. How about stepping it up a gear and role-playing performing in a porn movie together?
Regardless of whether or not you actually set up a recording device to make it that much more believable, you can still enjoy the fantasy of performing to the best of your sexual ability for the cameras. Imagine people in their own homes watching you both showing them how it’s done, masturbating to your sordid scenes, or fucking their partner while turned on by your antics.
Like I say, whether you actually set up recording equipment is entirely down to you and what you feel comfortable doing. Don’t feel pressured to have the record button switched on if you’re not 100% happy about it. A good compromise might be to set up a couple of old camcorders (oh hai, eBay) or other cameras on the side, just as props to aid your imagination without actually recording a single thing.
Then, it’s lights, camera, sexy action! Don’t forget to wear your best porn performer lingerie, to shake your sexy ass and to pout while moaning in orgasmic ecstasy.
9. Cabin Crew & Passenger
Ever thought about joining the mile-high club? Although the reality can be a little difficult to achieve, there’s nothing stopping you from enjoying a hot airborne fantasy while keeping your feet firmly on the ground.
What might be even sexier than the pair of you shuffling one, then the other, to the on-board facilities, could be a liaison with a member of cabin crew. Imagine if they were caught? They’re risking their job because they can’t resist fucking you then and there. Has it all been arranged and agreed to during a bit of heavy side-eye during the in-flight service? Or were you flirting from the off when they showed you to your seat and helped you stow your luggage?
Get ready to both finally join that elusive club… Unfasten your seatbelts, prepare for a little erotic turbulence and make sure you have a safe landing. Destination: pleasure.
10. Sex Slave Auction Winner
All a bit tame for you so far? Try this one for size. Warning: it’s about to get extra kinky!
You’ve been won for a fair price in a very busy sex slave auction. Your new owner quite liked the look of you and fought off the competition in a fierce bidding war, to win you all to themselves once the gavel came down. Now, still shackled (and possibly collared, and clamped in various places), you’re led away by your new owner to prove you’re worth your price tag.
This role-play idea is scorching hot. It’s also versatile enough to provide a little fun kink to those wishing to just dip a toe into the waters of BDSM, or you could go all-out if you share an objectification fetish.
At its mildest, the sex slave is won in an auction and proves they are indeed worth their price, via a raunchy sex session. To add a more fetishistic element, you could use actual bondage accessories like a collar and leash, wrist cuffs, nipple clamps and even labia/clit clamps to role-play the slave auction scene. You might also decide to include bondage and spanking during the incredibly hot sex which follows…
Make sure you please your new Master or Mistress, however, or they might re-sell you to another owner at the next auction!
I’ve got a particular soft spot for a couple of these role-play scenarios in particular –but what are your favourites? And are there any other role-play scenes not mentioned here which you’ve found effectively transform sex with a long term partner?
Please share your thoughts in the comments below, I’d love to hear from you!
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