What Are SSC and RACK? BDSM Safety Principles Clearly Explained
What are SSC and RACK exactly, what are the main differences, how do they relate to general BDSM safety principles - and which one do you feel most comfortable with? Welcome to my easy understand guide to the two safety frameworks every kinkster needs to know. Don't get kinky before reading through and choosing whichever is correct for you!
Sexual Foreplay Guide: Hot Pre-Sex Arousal Tips & Ideas
Brilliant sexual foreplay can mean the difference between a stagnant, monotonous sex life and keeping the spice and magic of a relationship alive. Are you stuck for ideas for fantastic before sex arousal and supremely arousing foreplay? Welcome to my comprehensive guide to lovers' arousal techniques: my sexual foreplay 101.
Safe Words and Traffic Lights: How to Say Stop in BDSM
Due to the exciting explorations of trust and vulnerability in kink play, the words "stop" or "no" don't necessarily mean what they usually would. They can be said as part of role play, or to enhance the atmosphere of the scenario. How can someone in the middle of a kink session unequivocally communicate that they need to stop proceedings at once? Welcome to my guide to saying stop when you really mean it in BDSM.
Lesbian Sex Toys Guide
Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.
Female Chastity and Orgasm Denial: Do Women Enjoy Locking Up Their Pleasure?
Female chastity is a BDSM topic very close to my Mistress heart, and one I've been thinking and writing about for well over a decade. I've covered male chastity at length over the years, written extensively about chastity cage reviews and keyholding, and explored just about every angle of locking a partner up. But the question I keep coming back to, and one I get asked often, is this: what about us? Does female chastity really exist as a kink in its own right, and how can women genuinely enjoy orgasm denial?
International Male Chastity Day: Date, Celebration and Devices
As a proud kinkster and huge fan of the chastity fetish in particular, it gives me great pleasure to share details of an official annual celebration of this highly erotic kink. International Male Chastity Day (also known as International Chastity Day) is celebrated on the 15th February* each year.
Bondage Toys Guide: Best Gear for Kinky Play
What can you use to restrain someone (or enjoy being restrained) in bondage? That's where bondage sex toys and bondage accessories come into their own. It helps having some background knowledge of just what's available in terms of bondage equipment, and why it's important to use items specifically designed for bondage rather than any old belt, strap or rope...
Spanking Toys Guide: Implements, Tools and Techniques
Does the mere thought of a raised Dominant hand, or a spanking toy whistling through the air, stir the tendrils of arousal? You might be wondering which spanking tools are best for effective corporal punishment. Welcome to my big spanking toys guide, in which you'll also find links to all our spanking toy reviews.
Bondage Beginner’s Guide: Safe, Sexy Rope Play Tips
Despite Fifty Shades of Grey helping to spotlight the joys of BDSM in the mainstream in recent years, plenty of people have been enjoying the physical, psychological and emotional liberation that the power exchange in D/s role-play offers. Due to the recent sharp rise in mainstream interest, I wanted to share my bondage top tips and advice in this beginner's guide to bondage today. Welcome to my complete bondage 101!
BDSM Beginner’s Guide: How Curious Minds Can Explore Safe, Kinky Fun
The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.
Kinky Punishment: Spanking, Whips, Crops and Canes
I'd like to talk a little more about why we love sexy corporal punishment here today, and how it really hits our spot. Perhaps this intimate revelation will prompt more people out there to accept spanking and similar as being just as 'acceptable' as 'regular' sex antics, instead of mentally filing such habits as perverted, deviant and downright weird.
ElectraStim Sex Toys Guide: How to Use Electrosex Safely
Welcome to this ElectraStim Sex Toys Guide, brought to you by Joanne’s Reviews, an expert in electroplay and a trusted voice in the community. Whether you’re new to electrosex or curious about trying these unique toys, Joanne shares clear, practical advice regarding how to enjoy electrosex toys safely and confidently.
Being Kink Compatible: How to Find BDSM Relationship Harmony
You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand, insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong? It's time to talk about kink compatibility in BDSM relationships.
Strap-On Dildos Guide
You may remember my last 'big guide' - the Big Guide To Strap-On Sex Harnesses I published last month. Obviously you'll need a fantastic dildo to attach to your new strap-on harness, so here's the follow-up feature: my big guide to strap-on dildos!
Humiliation Kink: Why Does Erotic Shame Turn Me On?
Why does humiliation turn some people on so intensely, even when the fantasy itself feels shocking, taboo, or emotionally conflicting? I'm asking because I'm one of those people, and I've spent a long time trying to make sense of it. The idea of humiliation, in any real-world sense, repels me. I hate the thought of being genuinely shamed, looked down on, or made small. And yet my biggest, most reliably arousing fantasies are built around exactly that: being shamed, exposed, humiliated, reduced to something to be laughed at or used...
Rethinking Vaginal Orgasms
Let's tackle the myth of vaginal orgasms. The myth isn't whether or not they're possible, but rather that everyone with a vagina must be able to climax from vaginal stimulation. If you don't orgasm from vaginal penetration, please don't panic. You're not alone. I don't orgasm that way either.
How I Dominate My Slaves: A Domme’s Perspective
How people perceive my domination, and the reality of it, is something which has fascinated me for some time. You would be amazed at some of the comments directed my way over the years simply for the ways in which I choose to enjoy my natural dominance, as well as how my actively consenting submissives enjoy it, too. Some of these comments are borne from ignorance, some from jealousy, some from malice, and others simply because the person spoke without properly thinking it all through.
Summer Garden Party: Fountain of Relief
The fountain elicited a chorus of open-mouthed wails. The heat of the sun and humiliation hit my exposed clit and spread labia, slicking them with hungry need. My body kept forgetting it was in such secure bondage; each leg kept pointed upwards and outwards, unable to bend. How I wished I could arch my back completely, then curl into a ball and keep this feeling of humiliation-fuelled hot desire as my own private masturbatory tool.
Strap-On Harnesses Guide
Strap-on sex (sometimes known as pegging) is enjoyed by many adults and within various types of relationship; for example, lesbian/bisexual sex, in BDSM as part of FemDom, or to help a penis-owner pleasure their partner in different ways. There are many types of harness available to help you achieve your sexual pleasure aims – welcome to my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses.
Penis Chastity Devices Guide: How to Choose and Use a Cage
Whether you’re looking for your first chastity device, or seeking to add a chastity cage to your *ahem* growing collection, it can be baffling when you realise just how many variants are available. This is particularly the case for lock-up fans who don’t have a Keyholder/Mistress/Top to guide them, and simply wish to explore chastity fetish by themselves. Welcome to my big guide to penis chastity devices!
