Relationship Help

Relationship Help

We all come across stormy waters in our relationships from time to time. Whether it’s the perils that befall early dating experiences, or problems which can appear in long term relationships, it’s useful to have somewhere to turn for a non-judgemental ear and relationship advice which really works. Welcome to the relationship help area at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

It isn’t always easy or appropriate to discuss relationship crises with friends, and talking to strangers about partnership struggles, such as professional marriage guidance counsellors and therapists, can seem bewildering and intimidating. Often, it’s your partner that you need to be openly and honestly communicating with, in any case – but how to broach the subject without causing more tension and friction? Hopefully these honest and down-to-earth relationship help features will give you the guidance you seek and navigate you back to a happier partnered life.

Romance vs Finance: Resolving Arguments About Money In Relationships

Relationship Help“Even people in stable, happy relationships will admit that they argue from time to time. In fact research has shown that it’s healthier to argue regularly, in terms of relationship longevity, than to avoid issues or sweep them under the carpet. And what do most couples argue about? Sex and money. There’s plenty of sex advice elsewhere on this website – but how do you resolve arguments about money in relationships?”

10 Things You Should Know Before Having A Threesome

“Threesomes are often seen as the holy grail of sex. Plenty of people of all genders fantasise about getting it on with more than one partner, and those who have experienced a threesome often regale jealous mates with saucy anecdotes to make them drool.
Having been lucky enough to be part of a few threesomes (and moresomes) in my time, I can assure you it’s not all that easy to a) arrange one and b) to make sure everyone’s happy when you finally do make it to the multiple sex partner party.”

How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

Relationship Help“How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn’t always mean they’re cheating on you or that you’ll feel betrayed.”

Can Long-Distance Relationships Ever Really Work?

Social media, dating apps and chat sites are undoubtedly effective ways to meet new people. Connecting with the person of your dreams, then discovering they lives miles away –or on the other side of the world- can bring about another set of challenges for your budding relationship, however. Can long-distance relationships ever really work?

Relationship Counseling, Relationship Coach & Marriage Therapy

Firstly, most marriage therapy or relationship counseling completely lacks the integration of sex. Sex is a big part of intimacy, connection, and pair bonding in a relationship, and yet it’s ignored by more relationship counselors. Secondly, most marriage therapy is based on the medical model, so they try to fix what is wrong and not find and enhance what is right or could be amazing.

10 Steamy Role-Play Ideas To Try With Your Partner

The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner. Read on and I’m sure you’ll spy a scenario which tickles your particular fancy.

Romance vs Finance: Resolving Arguments About Money In Relationships

Even people in stable, happy relationships will admit that they argue from time to time. In fact research has shown that it’s healthier to argue regularly, in terms of relationship longevity, than to avoid issues or sweep them under the carpet. And what do most couples argue about? Sex and money. There’s plenty of sex advice elsewhere on this website – but how do you resolve arguments about money in relationships?

Relationships And The Myth Of Unconditional Love

Recently I declined the offer of a guest article, not for the usual reasons that the writing quality wasn't great, or that it was simply meaningless, sales-motivated filler. The guest piece would have been entitled "Unconditional Love: A Key Ingredient To A Happy Relationship" - and I'm afraid I simply don't agree with that sentiment at all. In fact, I don't believe that unconditional love has a part in any romantic relationship. 

Is Flirting Cheating Or Harmless Fun?

Flirting is a common practice amongst adults of any gender, and it's not limited to those not in a relationship either. The attraction of flirting is that it's a way to gain the attention and approval from those you flirt with, and I don't believe it's always sexually motivated. Flirting can be a brilliant ego boost for both the flirter and the flirtee.  

10 Great Tips To Get Older Women To Respond To Your Online Dating Messages

Learning how to write messages to older women takes time. We can’t all expect to land on the perfect formula straight away -- nor should we assume there is one. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to making a great first impression. And every guy needs to tailor what he says to his own personal style.

Can You Ever Be Just Friends With An Ex? 

Whether the ex was a regular booty call or a long-term partner in a relationship, many of us have people we've been emotionally and physically intimate with in the past. This prior closeness engenders strong emotion, and they say love and hate are two sides of the same coin. Are you friends with any of your exes? Is it even possible? Can you ever be just friends with an ex?  

Been Friendzoned? Why You Need To Ditch The Friendzone Myth

Been Friendzoned? Why You Need To Ditch The Friendzone Myth Heard of the friendzone? Perhaps you've been friendzoned, or friendzoned someone else. I've most heard the term amongst...

What is Cybersex? How Cybering Can Improve Your Relationship

If you're in a relationship, it's unlikely that you're physically with your partner 24/7. Even if you live together, one or both of you may work outside the home, and the pace of modern life means regular temporary separations are normal and unavoidable.

7 Ways To Recapture Your Honeymoon Sex Life

Busy lives and long-term relationships have a habit of forming the perfect recipe for a stale sex life. If you've been in a relationship with your partner for a while, you might have noticed that sex isn't quite as exciting as it was when you first met. Is there any way to recapture your honeymoon sex life?

​Retroactive Jealousy – Why You’re Hung Up On Your Partner’s Sexual Past

Several years ago I used to suffer from what is known as retroactive jealousy — an irrational obsession with a partner’s sexual or romantic past. It all started with me when my new girlfriend and I were woken up at 2 am by one of her former hook-up buddies calling to see if she was “around” that night.