Relationship Help

Relationship Help

We all come across stormy waters in our relationships from time to time. Whether it’s the perils that befall early dating experiences, or problems which can appear in long term relationships, it’s useful to have somewhere to turn for a non-judgemental ear and relationship advice which really works. Welcome to the relationship help area at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

It isn’t always easy or appropriate to discuss relationship crises with friends, and talking to strangers about partnership struggles, such as professional marriage guidance counsellors and therapists, can seem bewildering and intimidating. Often, it’s your partner that you need to be openly and honestly communicating with, in any case – but how to broach the subject without causing more tension and friction? Hopefully these honest and down-to-earth relationship help features will give you the guidance you seek and navigate you back to a happier partnered life.

Romance vs Finance: Resolving Arguments About Money In Relationships

Relationship Help“Even people in stable, happy relationships will admit that they argue from time to time. In fact research has shown that it’s healthier to argue regularly, in terms of relationship longevity, than to avoid issues or sweep them under the carpet. And what do most couples argue about? Sex and money. There’s plenty of sex advice elsewhere on this website – but how do you resolve arguments about money in relationships?”

10 Things You Should Know Before Having A Threesome

“Threesomes are often seen as the holy grail of sex. Plenty of people of all genders fantasise about getting it on with more than one partner, and those who have experienced a threesome often regale jealous mates with saucy anecdotes to make them drool.
Having been lucky enough to be part of a few threesomes (and moresomes) in my time, I can assure you it’s not all that easy to a) arrange one and b) to make sure everyone’s happy when you finally do make it to the multiple sex partner party.”

How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

Relationship Help“How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn’t always mean they’re cheating on you or that you’ll feel betrayed.”

I Took Myself On A Date -And It Was Everything I Needed

If you're feeling emotionally drained, like life is too busy, too noisy, too stressful, I'd thoroughly recommend enjoying a solo date. Before I took myself on a date last week it wasn't something that would have occurred to me to schedule in; plus, I didn't have my driving licence until late last year which made arranging time out by myself difficult if not impossible. Being away from home, away from the children and having got away on my own steam felt extremely healing for me. After the difficulties this year has posed, emotionally, mentally and with the physical/social restrictions of the coronavirus pandemic, taking myself on a date was exactly what I needed.

Sexual Foreplay 101: Your Guide To Sexy Arousal Tips & Ideas

Brilliant sexual foreplay can mean the difference between a stagnant, monotonous sex life and keeping the spice and magic of a relationship alive. Are you stuck for ideas for fantastic before sex arousal and supremely arousing foreplay? Welcome to my comprehensive guide to lovers' arousal techniques: my sexual foreplay 101.

10 Seduction Tips That Really Work

Dating can feel like wandering blindly through a minefield, trying to avoid hidden pitfalls as well as common errors. When you experience that elusive, intense connection with someone, nerves can threaten to overwhelm and could even seriously dent your chances of forging a fully-fledged relationship. Today I'd like to share with you my top 10 seduction tips that really work.

How To Find A Dominant Partner

So many of the emails I’ve received over the years have been from men looking for BDSM advice. Many men really want to find a Dominant woman to help them realise their kinky fantasies, or encourage their partner to become a Mistress –or alternatively, a female submissive. Did you know that there is an easy way to find a Dominant partner? Read on and I’ll let you in on the secret.  

How To Find Your Perfect BDSM Partner

Compatibility in BDSM relationships is important and should be taken into consideration from the outset. But just how do you go about finding that all too often elusive, but fantastic, kinky match? It can be tricky to find your perfect BDSM partner -and that's an understatement. 

Can Long-Distance Relationships Ever Really Work?

Social media, dating apps and chat sites are undoubtedly effective ways to meet new people. Connecting with the person of your dreams, then discovering they lives miles away –or on the other side of the world- can bring about another set of challenges for your budding relationship, however. Can long-distance relationships ever really work?

How To Have A Kinky Valentine’s Day

Even if your plans consist of a couple of hours together tonight, without work or the kids, possibly with a cheeky tipple, a pizza and a DVD, you may be wishing for a more exciting way to spice things up between you and your partner. There is. Read on for some practical & romantic BDSM tips which will teach you how to have a kinky Valentine's Day.

Kink Compatibility In BDSM Relationships

You crave nothing more than her largest strap-on wedged firmly up your ass. She, on the other hand,  insists you spend the day doing the dishes dressed in sissy frills and heels. However, you're not a sissy and she doesn't own any strap on harnesses. How could things have gone so wrong? It's time to talk about kink compatibility in BDSM relationships.

Relationship Counseling, Relationship Coach & Marriage Therapy

Firstly, most marriage therapy or relationship counseling completely lacks the integration of sex. Sex is a big part of intimacy, connection, and pair bonding in a relationship, and yet it’s ignored by more relationship counselors. Secondly, most marriage therapy is based on the medical model, so they try to fix what is wrong and not find and enhance what is right or could be amazing.

10 Steamy Role-Play Ideas To Try With Your Partner

The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner. Read on and I’m sure you’ll spy a scenario which tickles your particular fancy.

Romance vs Finance: Resolving Arguments About Money In Relationships

Even people in stable, happy relationships will admit that they argue from time to time. In fact research has shown that it’s healthier to argue regularly, in terms of relationship longevity, than to avoid issues or sweep them under the carpet. And what do most couples argue about? Sex and money. There’s plenty of sex advice elsewhere on this website – but how do you resolve arguments about money in relationships?

Relationships And The Myth Of Unconditional Love

Recently I declined the offer of a guest article, not for the usual reasons that the writing quality wasn't great, or that it was simply meaningless, sales-motivated filler. The guest piece would have been entitled "Unconditional Love: A Key Ingredient To A Happy Relationship" - and I'm afraid I simply don't agree with that sentiment at all. In fact, I don't believe that unconditional love has a part in any romantic relationship.