We all come across stormy waters in our relationships from time to time. Whether it’s the perils that befall early dating experiences, or problems which can appear in long term relationships, it’s useful to have somewhere to turn for a non-judgemental ear and relationship advice which really works. Welcome to the relationship help area at the Cara Sutra sex blog.
It isn’t always easy or appropriate to discuss relationship crises with friends, and talking to strangers about partnership struggles, such as professional marriage guidance counsellors and therapists, can seem bewildering and intimidating. Often, it’s your partner that you need to be openly and honestly communicating with, in any case – but how to broach the subject without causing more tension and friction? Hopefully these honest and down-to-earth relationship help features will give you the guidance you seek and navigate you back to a happier partnered life.
“Even people in stable, happy relationships will admit that they argue from time to time. In fact research has shown that it’s healthier to argue regularly, in terms of relationship longevity, than to avoid issues or sweep them under the carpet. And what do most couples argue about? Sex and money. There’s plenty of sex advice elsewhere on this website – but how do you resolve arguments about money in relationships?”
“Threesomes are often seen as the holy grail of sex. Plenty of people of all genders fantasise about getting it on with more than one partner, and those who have experienced a threesome often regale jealous mates with saucy anecdotes to make them drool.
Having been lucky enough to be part of a few threesomes (and moresomes) in my time, I can assure you it’s not all that easy to a) arrange one and b) to make sure everyone’s happy when you finally do make it to the multiple sex partner party.”
“How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn’t always mean they’re cheating on you or that you’ll feel betrayed.”