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Articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog cover the entire spectrum of sexuality, discussing everything pertinent to the world of intimate pleasure and romantic relationships. You’ll find a wealth of sex tips and advice to help you enjoy higher levels of stimulation and enjoyment whether you prefer to play solo or with a partner. Relationships and dating can be tricky areas to navigate successfully, so read up on real experiences here on the blog from both myself and expert guest authors who share their relationship advice.

If you’re ready for the decadently darker side of sex, peer into the world of bondage and spanking… you’ll find plenty of advice articles here for beginners all the way up to veteran kinksters. The kinky sex tips and BDSM articles are sure to help you enjoy not only breathtakingly exciting power exchange playtimes, but ensure you’re both completely safe and emotionally comfortable at all times.

From time to time I write about the sexuality themed highlights of the year, such as National Orgasm Day, International Women’s Day, Organic Intimacy Week, LGBTQ+ Pride Month, Movember and more. You’ll also find fun and helpful seasonal articles covering such themes as romantic gift guides for Valentine’s Day and Christmas, spicing up the Halloween season in a sexy way and enjoying some red hot summer loving.

My sex positive articles are entertaining as well as educational, balancing a light approachable tone with an in depth look at the heart of sex and sexuality. I hope you enjoy reading all my articles.

What I Get Out Of Locking A Man In A Chastity Cage

By Cara Sutra: What thrill could anyone get out of locking a man into a chastity cage? At a time when the spotlight is full blast on BDSM and kink it’s refreshing to see Uber Kinky coming to the fore and raising awareness about different types of alternative relationships. What I mean is, plenty of people are now aware of light bedroom bondage which has been mainly interpreted as female sub, male Dominant. Because all relationships consist of two people, hetero, cis, the whole gender binary he-she-bang. Well actually, no.

Why I Hate Vibrating Cock Rings (& What We Use Instead)

If you're a regular sex toy shopper, you'll have noticed vibrating cock rings amongst the offerings for men and couples. Vibrating cock rings are designed to offer penis-owners the pleasure of vibration, as well as the tantalising restriction which encourages a firmer, longer lasting erection.

Beginner’s Guide To Penis Chastity & Male Chastity Play

Welcome to my big beginner's guide to penis chastity and male chastity play! So, you want to try a chastity device? Or maybe your partner wants you to wear one? Perhaps you’re reading this as you want your partner to wear one for you. Whatever your reason is for being here, you’re doing the right thing!

Watching My Boyfriend Suck Another Man’s Cock

His mouth, with all its masculine bearded surround, enveloping the cock tip. My boyfriend's lips forming the O around the collar of his friend's dick, as if it were second nature. I moistened my own lips, as if in readiness. I could almost taste and feel every millimetre for myself, so familiar were the actions. I've sucked cock a thousand times and know the tricks. What I didn't know was that I'd been giving my boyfriend lessons.

Sex Toy Trends: Meet The Touch-Free Clit Suction Sex Toys

By Cara Sutra: Over the past year, the world of sex toys has been drawn in by alluring clit suction sex toys which promise touch-free orgasms. Suction devices for sexual health purposes as well as sexual stimulation have been around for some decades of course...

Beginner’s Guide To BDSM | BDSM Tips For Beginners | BDSM 101

The enduring popularity of BDSM cannot be attributed in its entirety to the relatively recent appearance of Fifty Shades Of Grey, no matter how much the media would love for that to be the case. Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism are all power exchange activities, either including sex or entirely and deliberately absent of it, which have been practiced for centuries.

His Journey To Cocksucking

By Edward Cantor: In a way, my trip could be described as crossing the ocean just to be taken. It wasn’t really that simple, but it was a rather fun way to think of it.

Keyholding Services: When DIY Chastity Gets Too Hard

By Cara Sutra: I've written various articles on the subject. What I get out of locking a guy up in a chastity cage. Female chastity. Slaves have written their experiences, and there are several chastity device reviews. This year, I'm focusing on Keyholding services.

10 Steamy Role-Play Ideas To Try With Your Partner

The world of sex advice is awash with tips in this regard, with ‘trying out role-play with your partner’ being a popular one. But what sort of role-play situation is sexy? And what type of role-play suits your sort of relationship, in particular? Today, I’d like to share with you 10 steamy role-play ideas to try with your partner. Read on and I’m sure you’ll spy a scenario which tickles your particular fancy.

Beginner’s Guide To Urethral Sounding & Penis Sounds Play

Once you're ready, lube up the sound (and the end of your penis) and slowly slide the tip in. Once in, keep hold of both the sound and your penis, then slowly allow gravity to pull the sound deeper. Once you're at the base of the penis, stop for a moment and slowly pull the sound out, ever so gently. This is approximately where the best sensations are to be found.

What is a Female Led Relationship really like?

By Giles English I'm typing this wearing a male chastity device and I don't get an orgasm until Monday. We haven’t had penetrative sex for a couple of years, but I do get regular beatings depending on how many demerits I’ve clocked up. Oh and Xena once made me go for 152 days without an orgasm… And Xena’s in charge.

Why Can’t I Keep My Butt Plug In? How Long Can I Wear An...

By Hella Rude Try to get used to wearing the plug and allow yourself to forget about it. Pop it in, stick on a movie and veg out. Just relax and do nothing at all. You want to clear your mind of any sexy thoughts and just stop thinking about it. Your body will relax around it and start to get used to it being there, just give it time to acclimatise to the sensations. Lots of people find that when they forget the plug's there, keeping it in is easy work.

Who Wants Freebies?

By Cara Sutra: We all do. Everyone loves freebies, and no matter really want it is, we all want that something for free. Why pay when you can get it for nothing?

5 Ways To Earn Money In The Adult Industry Without Having Sex

Sex sells. It always has it always will. There is just something about two people sharing an intimate moment that makes you want to stop and ogle. For most, this is as far as the interest stretches. However, there are plenty of people spending their hard earned cash to stop and ogle, though generally from behind a computer screen.

BDSM & FemDom Advice: What being a Mistress Really Means

Don't make the mistake that many do: a Mistress is very different to a Dominatrix or a session Domme. Unlike ladies who Dominate or Top for a session, a Mistress owns her property over the long term and the power exchange is not necessarily limited to the dungeon environment.

Beginner’s Guide To Anal Sex Toys & Butt Plugs

By Cara Sutra: Bums. Everyone has one, and very useful they are too. Our undervalued derrières not only house the exit which keeps our bodies functioning healthily, but offer comfortable padding when we need to take the weight off our feet. Did you realise that your bottom also has the potential to give you incredible pleasure, as well as a mere sigh of relief any time you sit down?

Is It Safe To Insert Sex Toys All The Way Into My Vagina?

By Cara Sutra: A sex question I get asked fairly regularly is, “Is it safe to insert sex toys all the way into my vagina?” Let's take a look at the facts…
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Big Guide To Lesbian Sex Toys: What Are The Best Sex Toys For Lesbians?

Our heteronormative, phallocentric society loves to promote the myth that sex begins and ends with penis-in-vagina. That the only true definition of sex is thrusting a penis into a vagina which then ejaculates at some point, which signals the End Of The Sex. I'm here to tell you that such a view is wrong on so many levels.

Chastity Release – Her Icy Response

Tilting his chin up so I could look into his embarrassed face properly, I relished the fight between humiliation, hate and the most intense arousal in his eyes. My other hand reached down and felt the weight of his chastity locked cock in my hands. He jumped as my cool hands came into contact with his hot straining balls under the metal device.

I need your cock

I need your cock so very much. I want to be made to strip bare, and crawl naked to you on dirty knees, scraped bruised legs from the abuse you’ve doled out to me, bottom red from the spankings. I want mascara streaked down my dirty face, the face I am going to beg you to fuck hard with your cock.