Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Why Do Sex Shops Still Sell Gender Categorised Sex Toys?

By Cara Sutra: The majority of online sex shops still sell gender categorised sex toys. In an admittedly slow to change world where education about the existence of people outside of the gender binary is on the increase, should sex shops really still sell sex toys in this way?

Fantasy by Cara Sutra: behind the scenes of the new bondage range

...I have an interest both in sex toys - well, adult products - as well as fetish. With the recent surge in popularity in bondage (thanks Fifty Shades of Grey), it made complete sense to

Doxy Massager Add Black Doxy Die Cast To Powerful Wand Vibrator Collection

By Cara Sutra: The Doxy Massager family of award winning, powerful vibrators has expanded with the addition of the sleek new Black Doxy Die Cast.

Alternative review of the Fantasy by Cara Sutra Beginner’s Bondage Kit, by Girl on...

We all know about ropes and floggers and cuffs – they feature not just in porn but in most erotica, in sex tips and magazines and That Book. But while it might be easy to ask your partner if you can handcuff them because you've seen this one tip in Cosmo, it could be a hell of a lot harder to explain the thrill of an actual power exchange. Of you giving yourself over to them, or them to you, to be led and moulded and treated and punished and all the things I personally love about being at the collar end of that strip of leather. You might not like that kind of thing, of course. But judging by how even a couple of my vanilla friends were keen to put it on, and be playfully led from sofa to garden, back to the sofa and straight onto my lap, it's certainly intriguing to many. And not just in a giggly 'oh we've had too much wine and sex toys are funny' way, in an 'ooh, I think I could get to like this but I'm not sure I'd admit it when sober' way.

Adult Sex Ed Month: Do We Really Need Any More Sex Education?

By Cara Sutra: Adult Sex Ed Month has been created for easy and shame-free access to sex ed in adult life. June is Adult Sex Ed Month 2016 and I am very excited to be part of the campaign for more and for better sex education for adults - as well as raising awareness of its ongoing importance.

How to make sure you buy a sex toy you’ll actually use

I'm proud to introduce my first outing on the fabulous LELO blog: Don't Judge a Sex Toy by its Price Tag. As well as giving you a Jessie J earworm for the rest of the day, you'll learn what it is about some sex toys that make them a lasting part of your go-to collection, other than simply a high price on the label. Don't pay for brand names, fancy packaging or marketing spiel - pay for a sex toy which you'll actually use.

New Fantasy By Cara Sutra Bondage Kit Ends The Long Reign Of Grey

By Cara Sutra: Did you know that the Fantasy by Cara Sutra Bondage Kit is now available to buy? You can now buy your 8 piece bondage set from Amazon and the fabulously edgy online sex shop, UberKinky. Plus, a whole host of other stockists will be added over the coming weeks (darn the paperwork!).

Why Winter is The Sexiest Season

By Cara Sutra: Summer was my favourite time of year. None of that feeling frozen to the bone; just warm, sunny, dry weather over the seemingly never-ending summer holidays. As I’ve got older, my opinion has changed.

Women-Specific Lubricants: Necessary Or Just Another Marketing Ploy?

By Cara Sutra: Do women-specific lubricants really matter? When you first realise that what your sex life needs is a little more glide, you will doubtless turn to sex lubricants to transform that dry chafe into sexy friction. It’s only when you start shopping for lubricants (at a well stocked online sex shop as Lubezilla) that you begin to realise that this task isn’t as simple as you’d first imagined.

Will Britney Spears Reveal Fifty Shades of Grey Riding Crop On TV?

...visual references to kink such as collars and leashes, bull whips and mouth gags, Britney Spears has not been backwards about surging forwards into the fetish scene. She's definitely making the most of the effect from the 50 Shades books - not to mention the official 50 Shades of Grey sex toys - on the media and the commercial consequences on various industries in modern culture.

How Your Adult Business Should Respond To Unhappy Customers

By Cara Sutra: I doubt there’s any business out there that has never experienced unhappy customers at one point or another. As genuine and admirable as your company values may be, unhappy customers are part and parcel of being in business.